Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by 5starmilitant: 11:05pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
The guy should just try to make mega money anywhere he is. As long as there's money, women will always loyal like loya milk. No matter the distance. 4 Likes |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by joshing(m): 11:06pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
layla129: It can be really frustrating and boring at a point i tell you but a distant relationship that survives only grows stronger. I'll share some of my personal tips from experience with you which has helped and is still keeping us going. 1. Visit each other; if you're lucky to be in the same country, visit each other. And if in different countries, still visit. Spend time and money on travels.
2. Video calls/ chats; being able to see each other regularly and talking about EVERYTHING develops intimacy. Send photos, take shots specifically for him.
3. Make an effort and be determined to make things work; if he's a very busy dude like mine, my sister you have to really try. U jst have to pin him down to get things sorted. The longer issues linger, the gap becomes wider.
4. Keep yourself busy; focus on your life too, develop yourself... apart from the personal benefits you gain from this, it tends to take your mind off the thoughts of him for a while. And i'm sure he'll even respect u more for that.
5. Set some rules; in my case, i made it a standard that we should never sleep over a disagreement. We must settle it before it before we both go to bed...i've gone to bed 3am on an occassion because we just had to straighten out things. We know each other's schedule for the whole day
6.talk dirty to each other and be very romantic; you know what to do ![tongue](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/tongue.png) Plus, tell him when you're angry or unhappy about anything because he is not with you physically to see your expressions.
These are the ones i remember for now, i hope they were helpful? Hang in there sis Walahi I wan date u...dt ur final point is da bomb..thumbs up 1 Like |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by rawtouch: 11:06pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
Communication is key 2 Likes |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Nwocha12(f): 11:07pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
First and foremost communication, trust and understanding are my keys to a successful relationship. How was the relationship from start, how often do u guys talk, what are the things that are making u guys fight? I know is not easy keeping a long distance relationship. U should pay him a visit, sit down have a long chat with him, u two should be able to point out those things and find a way to tackle those things before u say I do. Am in a long distance relationship and with God am proud to say my relationship is 100% better than most people's. Good luck and happy married life in advance. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Chinatownm(m): 11:09pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
layla129: It can be really frustrating and boring at a point i tell you but a distant relationship that survives only grows stronger. I'll share some of my personal tips from experience with you which has helped and is still keeping us going. 1. Visit each other; if you're lucky to be in the same country, visit each other. And if in different countries, still visit. Spend time and money on travels.
2. Video calls/ chats; being able to see each other regularly and talking about EVERYTHING develops intimacy. Send photos, take shots specifically for him.
3. Make an effort and be determined to make things work; if he's a very busy dude like mine, my sister you have to really try. U jst have to pin him down to get things sorted. The longer issues linger, the gap becomes wider.
4. Keep yourself busy; focus on your life too, develop yourself... apart from the personal benefits you gain from this, it tends to take your mind off the thoughts of him for a while. And i'm sure he'll even respect u more for that.
5. Set some rules; in my case, i made it a standard that we should never sleep over a disagreement. We must settle it before it before we both go to bed...i've gone to bed 3am on an occassion because we just had to straighten out things. We know each other's schedule for the whole day
6.talk dirty to each other and be very romantic; you know what to do ![tongue](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/tongue.png) Plus, tell him when you're angry or unhappy about anything because he is not with you physically to see your expressions.
These are the ones i remember for now, i hope they were helpful? Hang in there sis ur head is owambe, sorry ur head is dia 3 Likes |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Rooneyboy(m): 11:11pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
Oricha62:
The Virtue of Patience and Prayer Allah says; you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salah (the prayer). Truly, Allah is with As-Sabirin (the patient). After Allah commanded that He be appreciated, He ordained patience and prayer. It is a fact that the servant is either enjoying a bounty that he should be thankful for, or suffering a calamity that he should meet with patience. A Hadith states: Amazing is the believer, for whatever Allah decrees for him, it is better for him! • If he is tested with a bounty, he is grateful for it and this is better for him; • and if he is afflicted with a hardship, he is patient with it and this is better for him. Allah has stated that the best tools to help ease the effects of the afflictions are patience and prayer. Earlier we mentioned Allah's statement: And seek help in patience and As-Salah (the prayer) and truly, it is extremely heavy and hard except for Al-Khashi`in (i.e., the true believers in Allah). (2:45) There are several types of Sabr ـ patience: -one for avoiding the prohibitions and sins, - one for acts of worship and obedience. -There is a third type of patience required in the face of the afflictions and hardships, which is mandatory, like repentance. Abdur-Rahman bin Zayd bin Aslam said, "Sabr (patient)has two parts: -patience for the sake of Allah concerning what He is pleased with (i.e., acts of worship and obedience), even if it is hard on the heart and the body, and patience when avoiding what He (Allah) dislikes, even if it is desired. Those who acquire these qualities will be among the patient persons whom Allah shall greet (when they meet Him in the Hereafter; refer to Surah Al-Ahzab (33:44), ![](/faces/huh.png) 8 Likes |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by MrHackmed1(m): 11:13pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
hmmmm, not always easy but seriously, first thing is trust yourself, then money is needed to sustain it because only best way is constant communication. And meaningful talks not boring talks oh! Let me share my experience; back in 2013 September Just a month after she accepted to be my girlfriend, I travelled to Abuja in search of greener pasture, at first she started doubting game by not wanting to believe me simply because we were still new and I travelled without us spending much time together physically, and thank God for his blessings, I started here on NL by giving people tweaks to browse free and get paid with airtime , So it was with this airtime I was able to establish everlasting cordial relation with my bae, we do talk for as long as we could (30mins to 1hr), and that was it, from tweak to IT Solutions provider coupled with Data bundle reselling. Calling her anytime either via skype or phone wasn't an issue because rate of customers I attend to on daily basis is more or less like a call centre agents (I love that though ), after 8 months, I went back home and made sure I performed my duties, after then, I configured her laptop with simple server settings and she was the type that watches Korea movie, I just showed her how to do so on youtube and that was how I kept her busy because getting bored leads to wanting to wanna go out to catch fun and you know what can happen from there ![wink](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/wink.png)
If she is not in class, we are either on phone talking OR she's on youtube watching movies, so these routines actually aided in propelling the flame of love between us. She graduated last year, now serving and We got married last week Saturday and settled in Abuja ![cool](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cool.png) 30 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Stanleywaxy(m): 11:14pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
Don't really know the type of person you are exactly ... Do you have trust issues ? ...Won't involve myself in such again . Distance relationships ? No , never again ... Get close to him , tell him you miss him , let him hear those words you think will make him turn on and most of all .... keep the communication 100% ... God bless your marriage tho 2 Likes |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by pweetychyka(f): 11:18pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
layla129: It can be really frustrating and boring at a point i tell you but a distant relationship that survives only grows stronger. I'll share some of my personal tips from experience with you which has helped and is still keeping us going. 1. Visit each other; if you're lucky to be in the same country, visit each other. And if in different countries, still visit. Spend time and money on travels.
2. Video calls/ chats; being able to see each other regularly and talking about EVERYTHING develops intimacy. Send photos, take shots specifically for him.
3. Make an effort and be determined to make things work; if he's a very busy dude like mine, my sister you have to really try. U jst have to pin him down to get things sorted. The longer issues linger, the gap becomes wider.
4. Keep yourself busy; focus on your life too, develop yourself... apart from the personal benefits you gain from this, it tends to take your mind off the thoughts of him for a while. And i'm sure he'll even respect u more for that.
5. Set some rules; in my case, i made it a standard that we should never sleep over a disagreement. We must settle it before it before we both go to bed...i've gone to bed 3am on an occassion because we just had to straighten out things. We know each other's schedule for the whole day
6.talk dirty to each other and be very romantic; you know what to do ![tongue](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/tongue.png) Plus, tell him when you're angry or unhappy about anything because he is not with you physically to see your expressions.
These are the ones i remember for now, i hope they were helpful? Hang in there sis Very informative tips! It really will go a long way! But then wat if d guy in question doesn't key into d video call or chat thing? 1 Like |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Stanleywaxy(m): 11:19pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
layla129: It can be really frustrating and boring at a point i tell you but a distant relationship that survives only grows stronger. I'll share some of my personal tips from experience with you which has helped and is still keeping us going. 1. Visit each other; if you're lucky to be in the same country, visit each other. And if in different countries, still visit. Spend time and money on travels.
2. Video calls/ chats; being able to see each other regularly and talking about EVERYTHING develops intimacy. Send photos, take shots specifically for him.
3. Make an effort and be determined to make things work; if he's a very busy dude like mine, my sister you have to really try. U jst have to pin him down to get things sorted. The longer issues linger, the gap becomes wider.
4. Keep yourself busy; focus on your life too, develop yourself... apart from the personal benefits you gain from this, it tends to take your mind off the thoughts of him for a while. And i'm sure he'll even respect u more for that.
5. Set some rules; in my case, i made it a standard that we should never sleep over a disagreement. We must settle it before it before we both go to bed...i've gone to bed 3am on an occassion because we just had to straighten out things. We know each other's schedule for the whole day
6.talk dirty to each other and be very romantic; you know what to do ![tongue](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/tongue.png) Plus, tell him when you're angry or unhappy about anything because he is not with you physically to see your expressions.
These are the ones i remember for now, i hope they were helpful? Hang in there sis Big thumbs up Layla ... This is just 100% key .... Should I fall in love ever again ... You'll be my tutor ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) 1 Like |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Nobody: 11:20pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
fulanigirl: I need some help on how to keep my long distance relationship alive. We've been together for almost 2 years, the first year we were in the same city but he moved away almost a year ago. We've been fighting so much and with our wedding next July it's worrying. I was hoping I can get some ideas on keeping the romance in our relationship. . My dear, it's like that.We fight like everyday, on phone, on air and in the sea.But man wey one marry you go marry you, just keep calling, send lovely message and once in a while intentionally make him angry, that shakes him up a little. Like me, I can just wake up in the morning, and start like this,"so baby last you didn't bother to call me because you went to club, that ya penis wey no reach wetin dem fit add for 50 naira indomie as protein. ....."Fight don start be that. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by ehixestgratias: 11:22pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
Nwocha12: First and foremost communication, trust and understanding are my keys to a successful relationship. How was the relationship from start, how often do u guys talk, what are the things that are making u guys fight? I know is not easy keeping a long distance relationship. U should pay him a visit, sit down have a long chat with him, u two should be able to point out those things and find a way to tackle those things before u say I do. Am in a long distance relationship and with God am proud to say my relationship is 100% better than most people's. Good luck and happy married life in advance. i hv catch you today, giving free advice! u shuld open a counseling firm ![cool](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cool.png) |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Nobody: 11:24pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
fulanigirl: I need some help on how to keep my long distance relationship alive. We've been together for almost 2 years, the first year we were in the same city but he moved away almost a year ago. We've been fighting so much and with our wedding next July it's worrying. I was hoping I can get some ideas on keeping the romance in our relationship. Move on sweety |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by nonjebose(m): 11:25pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
EggovinMma: .
My dear, it's like that.We fight like everyday, on phone, on air and in the sea.But man wey one marry you go marry you, just keep calling, send lovely message and once in a while intentionally make him angry, that shakes him up a little.
Like me, I can just wake up in the morning, and start like this,"so baby last you didn't bother to call me because you went to club, that ya penis wey no reach wetin dem fit add for 50 naira indomie as protein. ....."Fight don start be that. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) wicked! Lol |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Nobody: 11:25pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
Or when I noticed he hasn't called me for hours like he use to,I will just naked,,place my phone on the floor and set the timer . Of course spread my legs apart, and send it to his whatsapp. Believe me, the pings afterwards is legendary! ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) "Baby I'm harrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrd he would say. ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) 3 Likes |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by wellmax(m): 11:29pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
Cutehector:
Phew. Am so tired of all dem how are u, have u eatn talks. Bores me to death 1000 likes. This is the one reason my bea's call doesn't interest me again. One minute into MY call, na so so 'have you eaten?, what did you eat?" Do you miss me? Don't know why, but this question annoys me so much. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Ekakamba: 11:30pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
Blatant lie
drnairalov:
last i checked it doesnt work...only 5 % chance it does |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Cutehector(m): 11:30pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
wellmax:
1000 likes. This is the one reason my bea's call doesn't interest me again. One minute into MY call, na so so 'have you eaten?, what did you eat?" Do you miss me? Don't know why, but this question annoys me so much. u guys need to have physical communication more often sha |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Nobody: 11:30pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
Long distance relationship is the best for me oo. Love it! It takes only plenty of communication and understanding. 4 Likes |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by unity2016: 11:30pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
nuggarito: Leave if you still can, once your very present self is not there, its nothing , just a waste of time and energy. I've being there. It works for some people. just because yours didn't work out doesn't mean that hers wouldn't. Relationship needs time and energy to make it work so if u see it as waste then... |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Ekakamba: 11:32pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
Seriously?
EggovinMma: Or when I noticed he hasn't called me for hours like he use to,I will just naked,,place my phone on the floor and set the timer . Of course spread my legs apart, and send it to his whatsapp.
Believe me, the pings afterwards is legendary! ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) "Baby I'm harrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrd he would say. ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by MzThormi(f): 11:33pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
layla129: It can be really frustrating and boring at a point i tell you but a distant relationship that survives only grows stronger. I'll share some of my personal tips from experience with you which has helped and is still keeping us going. 1. Visit each other; if you're lucky to be in the same country, visit each other. And if in different countries, still visit. Spend time and money on travels.
2. Video calls/ chats; being able to see each other regularly and talking about EVERYTHING develops intimacy. Send photos, take shots specifically for him.
3. Make an effort and be determined to make things work; if he's a very busy dude like mine, my sister you have to really try. U jst have to pin him down to get things sorted. The longer issues linger, the gap becomes wider.
4. Keep yourself busy; focus on your life too, develop yourself... apart from the personal benefits you gain from this, it tends to take your mind off the thoughts of him for a while. And i'm sure he'll even respect u more for that.
5. Set some rules; in my case, i made it a standard that we should never sleep over a disagreement. We must settle it before it before we both go to bed...i've gone to bed 3am on an occassion because we just had to straighten out things. We know each other's schedule for the whole day
6.talk dirty to each other and be very romantic; you know what to do ![tongue](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/tongue.png) Plus, tell him when you're angry or unhappy about anything because he is not with you physically to see your expressions.
These are the ones i remember for now, i hope they were helpful? Hang in there sis This is just my bf and I. It will surely work. 3 Likes |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Evanescent: 11:34pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
The situation is now even worse within naija after MTN stopped free midnight calls |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by bamite(m): 11:38pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
Oricha62:
The Virtue of Patience and Prayer Allah says; you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salah (the prayer). Truly, Allah is with As-Sabirin (the patient). After Allah commanded that He be appreciated, He ordained patience and prayer. It is a fact that the servant is either enjoying a bounty that he should be thankful for, or suffering a calamity that he should meet with patience. A Hadith states: Amazing is the believer, for whatever Allah decrees for him, it is better for him! • If he is tested with a bounty, he is grateful for it and this is better for him; • and if he is afflicted with a hardship, he is patient with it and this is better for him. Allah has stated that the best tools to help ease the effects of the afflictions are patience and prayer. Earlier we mentioned Allah's statement: And seek help in patience and As-Salah (the prayer) and truly, it is extremely heavy and hard except for Al-Khashi`in (i.e., the true believers in Allah). (2:45) There are several types of Sabr ـ patience: -one for avoiding the prohibitions and sins, - one for acts of worship and obedience. -There is a third type of patience required in the face of the afflictions and hardships, which is mandatory, like repentance. Abdur-Rahman bin Zayd bin Aslam said, "Sabr (patient)has two parts: -patience for the sake of Allah concerning what He is pleased with (i.e., acts of worship and obedience), even if it is hard on the heart and the body, and patience when avoiding what He (Allah) dislikes, even if it is desired. Those who acquire these qualities will be among the patient persons whom Allah shall greet (when they meet Him in the Hereafter; refer to Surah Al-Ahzab (33:44), Chai dude!! She asked for an advice not an islamic sermon ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) 6 Likes |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by sundayslim(m): 11:40pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
fulanigirl: I need some help on how to keep my long distance relationship alive. We've been together for almost 2 years, the first year we were in the same city but he moved away almost a year ago. We've been fighting so much and with our wedding next July it's worrying. I was hoping I can get some ideas on keeping the romance in our relationship. Is he a Fulani herdsman? ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) 3 Likes |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by vicstar(m): 11:41pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
• • • • • How long is the distance? ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png)
Don't answer that |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Nobody: 11:42pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
Ekakamba:
Seriously?
Why not? ! Not to see my man for 2 months without giving him a hint about my body missing him atleast? Lol, we have to discuss about that and find a quick solution to it ![wink](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/wink.png) . I'm almost 10 hours drive away from him, so you don't expect me not to show how how bad I miss him you know! So whenever I do those crazy things, he knows immidiately that I'm pissed off! I bet he drops immidiately whatever he is doing and give me some needed attention. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Chommieblaq(f): 11:43pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
layla129: It can be really frustrating and boring at a point i tell you but a distant relationship that survives only grows stronger. I'll share some of my personal tips from experience with you which has helped and is still keeping us going. 1. Visit each other; if you're lucky to be in the same country, visit each other. And if in different countries, still visit. Spend time and money on travels.
2. Video calls/ chats; being able to see each other regularly and talking about EVERYTHING develops intimacy. Send photos, take shots specifically for him.
3. Make an effort and be determined to make things work; if he's a very busy dude like mine, my sister you have to really try. U jst have to pin him down to get things sorted. The longer issues linger, the gap becomes wider.
4. Keep yourself busy; focus on your life too, develop yourself... apart from the personal benefits you gain from this, it tends to take your mind off the thoughts of him for a while. And i'm sure he'll even respect u more for that.
5. Set some rules; in my case, i made it a standard that we should never sleep over a disagreement. We must settle it before it before we both go to bed...i've gone to bed 3am on an occassion because we just had to straighten out things. We know each other's schedule for the whole day
6.talk dirty to each other and be very romantic; you know what to do ![tongue](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/tongue.png) Plus, tell him when you're angry or unhappy about anything because he is not with you physically to see your expressions.
These are the ones i remember for now, i hope they were helpful? Hang in there sis Exactly ma dear. I don't even feel the distance, we talk like we are together, play same way, talk naughty, no matter how much we fight, we always find a balance, and finally transparency is utmost important, trust is one of the things that kills long distance relationship, so try and be transparent to him. Best of luck. 6 Likes |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Bhella5(m): 11:43pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
Cutehector: Urm night calls, be kinky, dnt be too holier Dan thou..
Tell him u miss him, u want him so badly. Etc.
Phew. Am so tired of all dem how are u, have u eatn talks. Bores me to death Aswear! |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Bhella5(m): 11:47pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
Evanescent: The situation is now even worse within naija after MTN stopped free midnight calls MTN don stop free nightcall? |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Evanescent: 11:51pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
Bhella5: MTN don stop free nightcall? sad news ![embarassed](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/embarassed.png) |
Re: Keeping A Long Distance Relationship Alive by Bhella5(m): 11:52pm On Apr 02, 2016 |
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