delishpot:
We planned our kids to be a boy and a girl and we got exactly what we wanted. For people who desire boys or girls, this is how we did it
When tbe month you guys want to get pregnant comes, start having sex exactly 2 weeks after her period for those whose menstrual cycle are like clockwork. Ie if her period stopped on the 9th of April you start having sex from 23rd April. For those whose cycle are not regular, monitor your ovulation do it as soon as you see the sign of ovulation(egg white) your hubby too should hold body for at least 1 week before the planned day
But best is to follow your ovulation. The chances of making a boy is greater when the egg is just released. Cos, boy sperms travel faster but die earlier than girl,sperms. So if the egg is not yet released during the time of intercourse, the boy sperms may die off while the girl sperm survives to fertilize the egg as soon as it is released. Na so science explain am o

Creamish:


Exactly. She needs to read the Billings Method. I hope she understands her body well. Getting female kids is not solely her fault so she needs to cheer up.

Curiouscity:


I agree that Billing method will help them increase the chances of having a male child. But getting a male or female child is solely a man's fault. He carries the X chromosomes.

When we tried to conceived, I never left anything to chances, I made sure my wife followed the Billing's method to the letter. But why did I care? Because of our silly culture of placing male children above female. I believe both should be given equality especially during inheritance procedures.

I think both male and female should have right of inheritance to the parents properties. If this is done, less pressure to get male children.

Cutehector:
I think the lady concerned should just get pregnant again..

Pidggin:
Chai nawao while some are just praying for a child or two. She should kill herself na, she's a dummy.

Siena:


It's not wise to tempt, or call the bluff of one who is suicidal. Very wrong.

Pidggin:


I hope she's reading this, she's not better than women who do not have kids yet they endure, if she wants she can commit suicide asap.

Siena:


Again, I will say this is not wise.

Suicide is not easy to understand. We shouldn't even attempt to justify or work out why anyone would wish to take their own lives. Such people need counselling, and possibly sessions with a psychiatrist. What may affect the mental health of one may be okay with another.

Don't goad a troubled person into taking his, or her own life.

Twinkie8:
I am a mum of two girls too and my hubby says no more kids. I've been feeling very sad since I had my second daughter and any one I tell that I have two girls keeps punching it into my face how much I need a boy, etc. I am ready to try again but I'm really scared that if it is a girl again, my husband may then go
haywire. I have even heard of women like me who decided to try again and got twin girls. My husband's family wants more kids but I indeed know it is because they want a boy. And indeed, I can't take care of more than three kids should anything happen to my marriage tomorrow.

I'm really so sad and confused and have been this way for almost a year now. I do not know if these feelings will indeed leave me some day and let me live a normal life again. So it's not just Igbo people that have this problem; I think it is general. Most men and families in Nigeria prefer to have all boys (or atleast one boy) than all girls. My sister has three boys and her kids are often better celebrated than mine. She also carries herself with pride and so does her husband.

I even feel suicidal some days but if I die, who will take care of my kids? It has affected my faith as well because I stopped going to church shortly before I gave birth and even now my baby is almost six months old and I have refused to resume church. What can I do to lift my spirits?

Source: http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2016/04/will-this-male-child-feeling-ever-leave.html

bigfrancis21:


Male children are determined by the Y-bearing chromosome of the father. Mothers have no influence whatsoever in determining the sex of a baby as the ovum is by default, an X-chromosome. Sex determination of a foetus is determined by the father's sperm. It is not your fault at all if you can't bear male children.

Now, there are doctors that can assist in sex selection of fetuses. I strongly recommend that you seek the services of a doctor who specializes in sex selection of fetuses to ensure that your next baby is a male child.

byvan03:
Suicide for what reason? Let me tell you one thing you don't know, people get an earful for not having female children too. There is no trash that I have not heard, a woman with two daughters out rightly told me that you have no kid if you don't have a female. When she had her 3rd daughter, she nearly ruined her health over it, BP skyrocketing and all. I was amazed on the complexity of human nature, few months earlier you yab*bed another woman for having all boys, why aren't you giving a testimony when God blessed you with a third daughter?


My point is this, every one gets a jab in this crazy world . You have all girls, it's a problem, all boys? They will still mock you! A boy and a girl? They complain that it's just one boy and an only daughter, 2 boys and a girl? They will complain that your daughter has no sister. You have no life if you keep worrying about this crazy society and their idiosyncrasies. I personally don't give a damn if both the dead and the living rolls over on top my matter. Raise the wonderful kids God has given you, if you feel up to it, try what Delishpot mentioned and be prepared for either outcome.


Some pray for just one, just one my dear, yet nothing. Be more than grateful, thank God everyday of your life that you can conceive and birth successfully. You want to die because of what people say? Lol, they will still laugh at you for dying, may be you will kill yourself again when that happens . My MIL told me stories of how she was mocked by other women for not having daughters, the fact that she cried for these women's jabs was funny to me. People will always see something to mock at, you don't live to please them.

damiso:


Very well said. People say that ish a lot to people who have only boys i.e. . Boys don't care of you and people still then go ahead to mock those who have only girls. The mind boggles.

At OP I know nothing we might say might make you feel better but as I know someone who lost a child last week, Just be grateful and thankful for the ones you already have. Treasure them. be grateful they are alive, well and healthy.

byvan03:



One woman told me " I feel sorry for you ", I laughed her to scorn. I wanted boys only and had them, why then should someone feel sorry that I have what I wanted? I only wish God gives as we ask to reduce the problem some women are facing because of such issues. I know a neighbour with 3 sons, she had to go for number 4 because husband threatened her with a second wife for not having a female yet.

Surprisingly the male child issue isn't just an African thing even though it's more prevalent in Africa . I watched a real life story on IDX about a Caucasian woman that murdered her female kids at infancy and raised the boys only. I know how much an Asian friend of mine wants a male child because of the birth restrictions. I really wish people can be more grateful for whatever gender God blessed them with. One useful child irrespective of gender is better than 7 useless sons or daughters.

Curiouscity:


I agree that Billing method will help them increase the chances of having a male child. But getting a male or female child is solely a man's fault. He carries the X chromosomes.

When we tried to conceived, I never left anything to chances, I made sure my wife followed the Billing's method to the letter. But why did I care? Because of our silly culture of placing male children above female. I believe both should be given equality especially during inheritance procedures.

I think both male and female should have right of inheritance to the parents properties. If this is done, less pressure to get male children.

Them still dey share property for village in this jet age? What happened to wills and acquiring properties in the name of your kids. I never see that person wey go collect property I suffer get with my husband, except the person use juju like Chinwetalu Agu .

I agree with the Billing's method , in the long run_ the man holds the aces. I wonder why some people don't just understand that!
One can't please world people, have only girls_problem, only boys_problem, 1 boy kwanu_ still problem.