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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by bellville: 9:14pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
keyman0007:It's possible. I left for my masters 3 months after marriage with an 8 week pregnancy. I had our baby during the one year programme. If she really wants you, she should consider getting married first. But honestly I think she's rather too young to be serious about marriage. |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Quintee(f): 9:16pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
keyman0007:I'm beginning to think that girl will be better off without you. You seem to believe that you're doing her a favour by accepting a no-sex relationship whereas, that's the ideal thing until you both get married. Please, leave her to pursue her dreams. On the issue of sex or no sex, I'll advise you get a lady that shares the same belief with you. 3 Likes |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Nobody: 9:22pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
Walelavender: Bro i think i hv waited enough, finished uni when i was 20 did nysc 21, masters 22 and i hv worked for 5 years now, this year i will be 28. |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Nobody: 9:29pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
Jadekitana: Am nt so comfortable, but i think i earn enough to be able to live well and raise a family plus i have been working for over five years now. |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by willo4ever: 9:31pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
Did I hear u say no sex...u don't kiss n rearly hug.....oboy shine Ur eye and use Ur head...if u ask me...na mugu you be .... 1 Like |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Jadekitana(f): 9:33pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
keyman0007: Then chill, 2 or 3 years wouldn't make you fall out of love if really you guys are so much into yourselves. Obviously she ain't just ready to be caged yet! |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Nobody: 9:34pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
you are right, however masters starts in september, i can only start counting down after then which is roughly 2 years dare2differ: |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by jabojafa(m): 9:36pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
dare2differ:dont take dis personal: but wen u marry urs u can allow her travel overseas to do master n even to PhD before she come back. Why marry a woman n b living lik a bachelor again? Op if she rili wana to go do her masters abroad, allow her go and look for a lady dt is frm 25yrs n above start sometin serious. This ur 22yrs old girl is nt yet matured for marriage, becos she is still allowing her parents to control her. |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Walelavender(m): 9:39pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
keyman0007:Sincerely I empathize with you. The emotional gap could be very expressive on you. However, meeting a new lady requires getting to know her for a handful of time before hooking up on the altar. So do a comparison. She loves you. True love waits. Don't be in a hurry to settle down with the wrong lady. Desperados are everywhere. 1 Like |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by dare2differ: 9:40pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
keyman0007: How is it 2 years? What course? Which of the unis?# Either way, it is for the good of both of you. |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by dare2differ: 9:42pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
jabojafa: When you marry, lock your wife in the bedroom because you are no longer a bachelor By the way I don't argue with cave men. Swerve! |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by richiepolymer(m): 9:54pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
Why do we always like to turn a blind eye to reality? You know the answer deep down in your heart yet you want embrace the lie. Isn't it obvious to you that you are the only one in love and in haste to marry a lady that isn't ready for marriage yet? She hasn't really lived her life to the fullest and experienced life. You can't deny her of that. If you force it, you will surely cry tomorrow. However, if you are so desperate to get married, reach out to ladies that are ready in mind body and soul. When you meet ladies that are ready to settle down you will recognize them. Of course you have intuition to guide you. If you insist on the said lady, the marriage may be on her terms while you have to endure all through. Dem nor dey use money take buy wahala. Sword is enough. keyman0007: 1 Like |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by cybriz82(m): 10:00pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
She is 22 n u are 28 yet ur body dey do u gidigidi.I like d babe style sha.cus she no want mek u ruin her fun life.she still young n nt ready to b call mrs lagbaja.dude free d babe mek she go do her tin cme bk.if she is urs.den she is urs.if she aint urs she cnt never b urs.bt if ur body till dey do gidigidi to marry no p u cn go out der n catch anoda fish.ur babe aint ready n scare for her mind nw she never still see mr right. 1 Like |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by odeyinugbolahan(m): 10:12pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
Well! She is not yet ready for wedding. Yet she is caught in between 2 life time decisions. It's left to you to know what exactly you want! If you can wait then do and reason along with her! And if you can't let go. She is thinking of the prestige of studying abroad and you might not knw probably her parents has made it clear not to sponsor that after marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Blade21: 10:14pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
keyman0007:and what's wrong with her hooking you down she's doing it becuase she loves you am sure her parents are insisting she goes abroad you sound like you are in a Christian relationship so I will advice you to let her travel and pursue her dreams so she can be happy wait for her if you can if you can't let her be but don't cry later in future that you missed a good woman and besides even if she goes dere as a married woman she can still cheat and leave you so let her fly dude just keep loving and praying for her no biggy |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by jabojafa(m): 10:19pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
dare2differ:silence is golden. |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by 1kinggy(m): 10:25pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
She's yet to decided what her priority is. I can see some third party tossing her left and right. Be warned, this may continue into the marriage. My candid opinion, she is not ready for marriage and it won't enter her head till 26-27. Do you want to gamble the next 4 years? (Yes, it's not just the next 2 years of MBA). |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by 1kinggy(m): 10:34pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
keyman0007: You both seem to have thesame progression, she wants her Masters too ( and a little work experience). My question remain, are you ready to risk 4 years? |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by firstking01(m): 10:35pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
dunsin125:you read my post so?,,,he has already taken the right decision na by wanting to break up so the babe wnt trap him dwn, hence he wants marriage asap...and i'm assuming if the girl travels overseas for her masters and comes back and meet the dude single, they can still trade tackles, dnt you think?...cos from what i deduce here, the girl has trust issues but the guy is looking @his age instead of him to hustle for an income first, even if it's not much but @least a stable one. |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by optimism91(m): 10:55pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
oyetunji12: 22yrs is understatement. 22-2=19yrs. What it means is that they started dating @19. She may be a graduate, but her brain (from what he said) is still young for marriage. |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Taryur3(m): 11:07pm On Apr 04, 2016 |
AreaFada2:Lols...6 or 7 miles as odometer on a car is brand new bro.Well you got it right it's about chemistry and compatibility. May God have mercy on this generation.husband scarce die...woman plenty buh no wife material.since I broke up av been searching and never find my taste still they move around me buh having trust issue with dem all.tell the Op to go for the matured ones though |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by nylawal(m): 12:15am On Apr 05, 2016 |
Best advice so far... Pls Op I have been in this position before, although I was the one going for my masters, the girl I was dating for a month then told me that she can't bear the rigors of long distance relationship and we broke it off. I still had like two girls but I didn't end up with any of them. I met my present wife when she was at her final year in med school. She told me I have to wait till she finishes horsemanship... Believe me waiting for a year sounded like eternity but it was through the advice of a big brother that helped me pull through. I got myself buried with work (construction), went for lawn tennis games and others just to stay focused because deep down I knew she was the one for me. The rest is now history. If I didnt allow her to complete her studies... I would have seen the worst in her because when you are her husband you will wield a certain level of control on her which may affect her studies. Bottom line... If you really like her, allow her to go. Just don't promise her marriage... Just tell her both of you are just free to mingle. At 28, except you are the first born, you are still young, just take it easy, marriage lasts for a life time. Like in the quote.... A lot of maturity is needed in marriage. Let your girl get that exposure... There are no husbands abroad per se. Lol she will soon realize that.... Cheers Nb: Make sure she gets the MBA in the UK it just about 11 months moshino: 1 Like |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by oshaosha2014(m): 1:05am On Apr 05, 2016 |
wetin this one dey talk oyetunji12:wetin this one dey talk oyetunji12: |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by sunshine1974(m): 1:54am On Apr 05, 2016 |
Most ladies in dat age range still wanna xplore life...guy, look for someone else |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by adozie(m): 2:55am On Apr 05, 2016 |
You marry her and you still want her folks to pay for her masters abroad...what nerve. You want free ready made wife. 1 Like |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by grandstar(m): 5:02am On Apr 05, 2016 |
dachaste: You hear keyman0007 Truth is, by 25years she will be ready to settle down. 22years is quite young! And she loves you and does not wanna loose you!Aaaaaaaaw 1 Like |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by kaybee09(m): 6:44am On Apr 05, 2016 |
crismark:ofcoz n so unfortunate |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by delishpot: 7:00am On Apr 05, 2016 |
Arsenate: If the tables we're turned, would you say this? If he got a job or opportunity to study abroad and can not afford to marry her now or take her for 6years or more to be with him and she says no, I can get you a job here in naija, though it won't pay as much but our famy will be together. If he came here to cry, will you not say the woman is an enemy of progress? If she can wait till he can bring her why can't the maa wait till she returns. The way he is rushing this marriage sef as if his life depends on it. She is 22 and can afford to stay a few more years pursuing and achieving her goals before marriage. He is not ready for marriage. To marry and she can only go if her dad sponsors her? Then leave her in her dads house let him sponsor her to what ever heights she chooses to reach. It is quite sad I do not know that girl. She is probably too love blind to see the llight hence she returned to beg him. She will meet many good men in future she should move on. Marriage is not a joke. 2 Likes |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by delishpot: 7:05am On Apr 05, 2016 |
adozie: God bless you. The guy Na still small pikin for mind. That girl should leave him if you ask me. 2 Likes |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by FOR1234(f): 7:18am On Apr 05, 2016 |
I would advise u allow her go...if she is urs, nothing will stop u from being together... Let her to avoid being blamed for life |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by blesoh(f): 7:32am On Apr 05, 2016 |
@ crismark abeggie, I got married before my 20th birthday this dec would be making us 6yrs in marriage, so you think from 26yrs is the right yr to marry as a woman? Op, forget about her she's not ready for marriage she want to build a career first but if you think you can Wait for her so be it. But Wait una never Kiss better Kiss? Lol |
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by princesshadeyo(f): 7:34am On Apr 05, 2016 |
Am a lady,its really show that she is not ready 4u per say,her thought is wen she get 2 abroad she can get a better guy,while u are here with empty introduction waiting 4her.pls go n start a new relationship.God help u. 1 Like 1 Share |
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