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Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by lebrotin: 4:33pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
egopersonified:And is that wise and healthy? |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by SimpleWow(f): 4:34pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
All wives don't do that. When next you want to take any decision, try as much as possible to seek her own opinion. Does she have dis type of attitude before you got married to her? |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by lebrotin: 4:35pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
Evina: Thank you Evina |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by lebrotin: 4:38pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
MARKone: Appreciate much |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by Apollux(m): 4:44pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
lebrotin:Guy d truth is ur wife is taking u for granted. U have to put her in her place before dis goes out of hand. I guess you guys r not up to 2years. Trying to talk calmly with her now won't work, she will just taje it dat u r weak. U have to let her know, u r d husband, u married her and not d other way round. Pls don't beat her as dat will b counter productive, but seriously sanction her. Start by stopping being nice, start restricting d privilages u do give to her, reduce d attention u give to her. Stay out late, stop eating her meals. U can even send her to her parents to stay dere till she s ready to submit to her husband. Den lastly, as much as I hate and don't support dis suggestion, let her see dat u r preparing to get married to another woman. Hope dese will help 5 Likes |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by sheunfemix: 5:25pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
Apollux ........ isn't that too harsh?? 1. not eating her food could make her not cook for him again 2. staying out late could make her more suspicious and more aggressive 3. sending her back is humiliating her. All these can break the home. Funny the way a man shows his authority doesn't have to be in doing harsh things. He can come home early and take her out for dinner, romance her and bring out the soft side in her by telling her about what attracted u to her. but!! u are not seeing those things anymore because she is too loud and abusive. |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by byvan03: 5:36pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
OP listen to Apollux 's advise and end your marriage faster than you even began. 1 Like |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by vin4life(m): 5:53pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
Ithink you need to understand that women are like flowers they need care and tenderness. Also you need to carry your wife along in any of your decisions otherwise they would frown at it and may even disparage your thought process. |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by armyofone(m): 6:00pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
Men should know how to communicate before marriage. This is because communication is one of the most important thing in a relationship. Any plan you have in mind should be verbalize in order to give the other person room to make decisions. You should have told her before the trip started. Apologize for not telling her ahead and then let her know how you feel about her outburst in a loving way. |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by Acidosis(m): 6:32pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
You married a strange woman, a woman you barely know. If your arguments centre on YOUR relationship with your relatives, I'm sorry, there is really nothing you can do. Some women generally detest excessive relations with their brother/sister/parent - in-laws. All they want is ME & MY HUSBAND. Women with such traits are easily identified in the society. The best way to live peacefully with such women is to abandon your relatives. However, if your arguments centre on other issues, you can state for clarity. 1 Like |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by Acidosis(m): 6:35pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
byvan03: 2 Likes |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by lebrotin: 7:15pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
PresVA:Thanks much much Ma'm |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by lebrotin: 7:23pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
Acidosis:But you know it's dangerous to abandon one's family cos you have a new family. How would you feel if your wife says to you that you are daft and stupid, that when she has her money, she would live her life(inside of you, you know you are really really trying for your new family). |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by raumdeuter: 8:51pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
Op women are always testing boundaries, She is feeling you out to know how much she can get away with. Its a process when you first knew her she would be respectful, gradually she would start testing you with random accusations just to test your limit Always remind her that separation is an option and instead of you waiting for her to run you mad, or turn you into a wife beater which would land you in jail Simply learn when its time to walk out |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by raumdeuter: 8:53pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
lebrotin: then you should know she really never liked you, she just used you to get a leg up in life. And when she is settled she would walk like she said My guy nothing is going to change no amount of pampering is going to change her. Start making your exit plans right now so it doesnt catch you by surprise. believe me, she is already making her own plans |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by Evina(f): 9:27pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
lebrotin: Always welcome |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by Acidosis(m): 10:29pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
lebrotin:No one can make me abandon my family, so I had to look closely before I choose my partner to avoid clashes & surprises. About the insult, I personally won't take that. As regards those encouraging you to pamper her to avoid insults, they're only trying to be romantically theoretical. Do not accept such advice. A man or a woman with good manners, raised either from a bad or a good home, would never use such heavy words on her partner. I don't know what to tell you since I have never dated such. However, you know your woman more than anyone here, so I think you need to do what's best for you. Some women are psychologically allergic to romance and all the fairy novel tales on this thread. For a woman who feels total disgust and disrespect for her man, no amount of swimming, tennis, cinema, or shopping can permanently cure her. She needs to be threatened, or returned to her father's house to learn Basic Home Training. And Yes, that's what I will do if I were in your shoes. In your own case, threats won't work as she's ready to move on without you, so adopt a more decisive measure. At what age did she settle down with you? Are you younger? What's the age gap? 1 Like |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by Evina(f): 10:57pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
raumdeuter: That's not a correct analysis. I know this because I'm quite sure the OP is not yet in the circle of the Danjumas. She is blackmailing her husband emotionally. Woman like that will use words without a thought to the consequences to manipulate the man into ALWAYS having their way. OP needs to firm up. 1 Like |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by raumdeuter: 11:06pm On Apr 08, 2016 |
Evina: You dont need to be a Danjuma to be used as a leg up in life, You only needto be better than the other party at that point. no be today women would date a guy for what he is currently until they are at a position of advantage and show their real color Those girls who date Ibo boys at Alaba until she graduates gets a job and remembers he isnt educated. its not like those men are Danjumas either. A housegirl can use a mechanic to get a leg up in life. OP wise up. Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh, She don yarn wetin dey the depth of her heart You better wake up 1 Like |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by lebrotin: 5:16am On Apr 09, 2016 |
Acidosis:Am older...She was 26 while I was 31 when we got married...I guess it is true that buying all the goods things of life will not permanently cure a rude woman. Is it also a general truth that most girls that do not have/ lack fatherly upbringing tend not to appreciate or respect manhood? 1 Like |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by Acidosis(m): 7:25am On Apr 09, 2016 |
lebrotin: Gradually we're getting there.. On your last assertion (question), I'd say Yes & No. A woman who doesn't know fatherhood, has no clue how to treat a man. Remember I said "KNOW". For a lady who lost her father to illness, or old age at some point in her life, already got the experience of fatherhood, so the above doesn't apply. However, the void left from being born & raised without a father figure is unimaginable. This can only happen when a woman sleeps around, and finds it difficult to identify the actual father of her baby, or a woman who took in for a riffraff, abandoned completely, and denounced. Ladies who also lost their fathers to death at a tender age, or lived with an aggressive boxer fall in this category. However, for those who lost their fathers to illness at adolescent or adult-hood, the man of their dreams are always hard to come by, and hence, they hold on to their men firmly when they meet them, so as not to lose another "father figure". Their short father/daughter bond serve as a motivational factor to avoid failures in the future. These kind of women, instead of allowing their marriages grow organically, they spend their life avoiding failures. Since your wife's actions lean towards the opposite of the above, I presume she never really had a father figure. Is that right? If she did had the father-daughter bond, she ought to naturally appreciate you better. 2 Likes |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by Jorussia(m): 8:47am On Apr 09, 2016 |
OP i believe that you sincerely love your wife.If u can't tame your wife and take charge of your home, i am a afraid that you are not a real man. |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by Apollux(m): 11:19am On Apr 09, 2016 |
sheunfemix:I'm having a feeling u still don't know how serious d matter is? Have d wife shown dat she has a soft side? If she does, why bringing out d hard side? Y does shr have to quarrel with her husband because he wants to pick her brother in law? Damn! What r u even saying? Take her to dinner, be gentle with her? Oh d husband should reward her unruly act with goodworks? I don't think u r seeing d reality of whaat s on ground. 1 Like |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by lebrotin: 3:36pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Acidosis:You hit it on the head...Father passed on when she was 3 months old |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by lebrotin: 3:41pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Evina:Firming up is the word I guess...am not in the league of the Danjumas as I only earn a meagre sum of 350k per month..and I dey try my best regarding basic things for house o |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by lebrotin: 3:48pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Jorussia:Am kuku trying my best to take charge bro, you know you get decorum in the house for some time because you don't want wahala, so you ignore her when she annoys you, then after a long while, you have disagreement and the harsh insults start coming (how best can you now take charge) |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by tayo60(f): 3:53pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Send her packing |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by Acidosis(m): 5:45pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
lebrotin:May God help you bro, you have a lot to do... By the way, I envy your 'meagre' salary |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by EfemenaXY: 6:15pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
lebrotin: Based on your assertions, she sounds like an evil-tempered shrew. Send her back home to her people to cool down - and while she's at it, let her acquire some much needed communication skills. Manners 101. |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by Evina(f): 7:22pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
lebrotin: LOL. It will get better, I believe. And 350k is NOT meagre, show gratitude Bros. Although it's quite sad that we live in times where a man's material worth determines his worth as a person. All the best Bros. |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by lebrotin: 6:45am On Apr 10, 2016 |
Evina:LOL just kidding, I know it's not meagre Evina |
Re: Do Wives Do This Or I Just Have A Bad One? by lebrotin: 6:58am On Apr 10, 2016 |
Acidosis:Lol....thanks all the way bro...we shall get there...send me your pin or whatsapp..we fit dey relate once in a while |
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