I swear I have the money for the marriage ceremony, but experience has taught me that planning is very essential, so I will even over manage in the wedding and trad, or I might do one and wait later for one,

I totally concur..... Am 28 an NCE holder who formerly had dis moderate paying but great job but left it to get a BSc, where am in my finals... I have dis great and beautiful fiancé who has been my best friend for more than 12years now but we only started dating last year.....but with dis write up and all the points I have taken I believe our marriage is probably doable let's say worst case scenario 2years time....like the op said 1st find the right 1 then get a job dat can help you carter for the other your....the best case scenario is wen the both of u contribute in all ways both financially and other wise to make the union work...

By the time I'll get married I'll be rich so this doesn't apply to me but

For those of you who need it please come and learn

ify84:


I am about a year old in marriage, truly, tinx are a bit rough, financially, she schooling, she is THE RIGHT person, we just had a baby...

But, with stories like urs, we do have hope, we will soon enjoy financial liberty

Amen. It will come. I'm very happy you speak highly of your woman. Not all men do that.

@op nice one
I would advise guys to go for a hardworking girl so DAT both can grow together. for d Ladies learn a trade such as fashion design,hair making since der are no job by so doing u are increasing ur market value in d eyes of a potential spouse

First love shouldn't be about money...It's by the time I get married not I'll

MrsPhyno:
By the time I'll get married I'll be rich so this doesn't apply to me but

For those of you who need it please come and learn

Malakh:
first love shouldn't be money...It's by the time I get married not I'll

Love isn't money but I love money

Strahovski1:
Nonsense. .broke nigga.
It's not just about your wife and you. Ypur kids.

Young man its about what

Marriage is not everything!

My personal principle is that it's better to marry at 35 financially comfortable, than to marry at 25 broke.

I hate relationships getting strained over fickle things like money. Very disgusting it is.
I can still remember what happened to someone I know after he married broke. Not something you pray for.

Edit..

I also believe it's very selfish to marry broke, because you don't know what your financial situation would be in the short term.
How then do you cater for your kids if things do not improve before they come around.
Except of course you postpone child bearing.

Look for a lady much younger than you are so you will have breathing space to have an income to sustain a family. (When people with wisdom say don't marry your age mate, it is because of the breathing space you need to set your foot right but as usual we know so much and scream AGE IS JUST a number)





Much younger? Like 13 years younger

AntiWailer:
I won't advise anybody to marry broke.

When the lady is ageing and counting down age wise, she will encourage you to marry even without a job.

After marriage, her eyes will clear and frustration will set in.

Forget about 'LOVE', As a man, you should be able to take care of your family. Provide the basic necessities.

I have researched some families, 90% of the turbulence Marriage face, the underlining reason is MONEY.

- SHe is wasteful, he is wasteful, he is givving his family and not mine bla bla bla (MONEY)

Look for a lady much younger than you are so you will have breathing space to have an income to sustain a family. (When people with wisdom say don't marry your age mate, it is because of the breathing space you need to set your foot right but as usual we know so much and scream AGE IS JUST a number)

If you can not clothe, shelter, feed, protect her without anybody's help, you are not qualified to be called HUSBAND.

Difficult word, but truth does not have to be palatable.

Much younger? Like 13 years younger?

halfricanadian:
cool story
The lucky ones sha

and you??

mamawin:
and you??

No im not lucky

Interesting 1 for me I don't think it's right to marry without something doing

No correlation to what I said tho but I guess when you are like me money wouldn't matter to you,you know there are people who have wealth and don't know what to do with it,these are people who are not worldly

MrsPhyno:

Love isn't money but I love money

Dis days ppl no longa plan dia wedding any more they end up planning their wedding without planning marriage. Wedding is a day event while marriage is 4 life

I have written many times on this but our ladies seldom listen...abeg talk another thing...most ladies usually wait till they are overage before they start reasoning logically.

Strahovski1:
Nonsense. .broke nigga.
It's not just about your wife and you. Ypur kids.

Easy man... the OP gave a solution for the kids as well. He/ She said if u can't afford having kids right away u can wait with ur partner till when you are ready. Rome wasn't built in a day so u do expect every couple to have their first issue exactly 9 months from the date of the wedding.#justbeingrational

great topic , worth readin but 90% of our peeps can tell d diff between marriage and wedding am i rit?

Getting married while broke = suicide. Be wise..

AntiWailer:
I won't advise anybody to marry broke.

When the lady is ageing and counting down age wise, she will encourage you to marry even without a job.

After marriage, her eyes will clear and frustration will set in.

Forget about 'LOVE', As a man, you should be able to take care of your family. Provide the basic necessities.

I have researched some families, 90% of the turbulence Marriage face, the underlining reason is MONEY.

- SHe is wasteful, he is wasteful, he is givving his family and not mine bla bla bla (MONEY)

Look for a lady much younger than you are so you will have breathing space to have an income to sustain a family. (When people with wisdom say don't marry your age mate, it is because of the breathing space you need to set your foot right but as usual we know so much and scream AGE IS JUST a number)

If you can not clothe, shelter, feed, protect her without anybody's help, you are not qualified to be called HUSBAND.

Difficult word, but truth does not have to be palatable.

u said it all....never marry a man without a stable job....it a ganble. If it take too long for him to get a job, u are not sure u can manage d frustration dat is eminant. Am speaking from experince......

mrjojo:
Getting married while broke = suicide. Be wise..

LOL.....u forking correct.....it is as risky as drinking a cup full of snipper

ogechieku:
That is what they told a man some around my area, he got married after presure here and there. His wife delievered triplet last week. Tue this week is naming ceremony he has not been able to rase money to discharge his family from hospital,he has been runing around here and there nobody to help him. They advised him to go to office of the first lady when he got there they told him since b.o.k.ohari became president offices of first lady have been closed down in many states in nigeria...last time i saw him i was seeing eyes of a man who wanted to run away. YOU BETTER STAY SINGLE IF YOU CANT AFFORD BASIC NEEDS OF LIFE.

He is the cause of his problems. Why didn't he wait till they had enough money before impregnating his wife? Must he do a naming ceremony? Also the article is saying you don't have to wait till you have made it before you get married. It isn't encouraging people to have kids when they can't afford to. There's no law that says that you must have kids immediately you get married. Some sensible people wait at least two years so that the couple can get to know each other well before starting a family.

6fit:

LOL.....u forking correct.....it is as risky as drinking a cup full of snipper

yes oo.. Just stay single if you are broke abeg, you can down your Garri n groundnut alone, but doing same with ur wife and maybe kids is just nt fair.

Meetmeat:
@op nice one
I would advise guys to go for a hardworking girl so DAT both can grow together. for d Ladies learn a trade such as fashion design,hair making since der are no job by so doing u are increasing ur market value in d eyes of a potential spouse

Why would a woman go through formal education for so many years and then consider becoming a hair dresser?

senseful, truthful, and helpful

Nancy2016:


Why would a woman go through formal education for so many years and then consider becoming a hair dresser?

since their are no jobs after graduation learn a trade or business instead of sitting idle.if u stay idle d man will assume u are lazy which is common with some ladies.education is meant for u to think outside d box

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He is the cause of his problems. Why didn't he wait till they had enough money before impregnating his wife? Must he do a naming ceremony? Also the article is saying you don't have to wait till you have made it before you get married. It isn't encouraging people to have kids when they can't afford to. There's no law that says that you must have kids immediately you get married. Some sensible people wait at least two years so that the couple can get to know each other well before starting a family. [/quote Y won't they have kids? Procreation is one of d basic reasons for marriage. I don't even get u, u mean as a newly married couple, they should be using contraceptives abi abortion? Please any one dat is not capable of taking the family's Basic needs shouldn't enter into marriage. Although nobody knows tomorrow but atleast have a small steady income dat can sustain u guys for d moment

Elxandre:
Marriage is not everything!

My personal principle is that it's better to marry at 35 financially comfortable, than to marry at 25 broke.

I hate relationships getting strained over fickle things like money. Very disgusting it is.
I can still remember what happened to someone I know after he married broke. Not something you pray for.

Edit..

I also believe it's very selfish to marry broke, because you don't know what your financial situation would be in the short term.
How then do you cater for your kids if things do not improve before they come around.
Except of course you postpone child bearing.

You just echoed my mind. Forget the propaganda, I can never marry broke. God forbid!

Nice post but many nigerian ladies want to get married to a rich man.They want a man with a fat bank account ,with fleet of cars and a huge estate in banana island.This modern naija babes wey we get now no wan struggle with a man.

[quote author=Nancy2016 post=44554351]

Y won't they have kids? Procreation is one of d basic reasons for marriage. I don't even get u, u mean as a newly married couple, they should be using contraceptives abi abortion? Please any one dat is not capable of taking the family's Basic needs shouldn't enter into marriage. Although nobody knows tomorrow but atleast have a small steady income dat can sustain u guys for d moment