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Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by halfricanadian(f): 1:17pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
4C2215131: Better i dont change my mind easily wen im hurt I am ready to b loyal to mysef i av been loyal to humans Now its time to b loyal to myself |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by 4C2215131: 1:23pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
halfricanadian: Maybe that's where you erred. There has to be a balance of sort. While losing yourself in the whole love experience thingy, you must also consider yourself also. It puts things in focus. Anyway I can't say much more as I don't know the nature of the bee in your bonnet. Until I find out what really went down through the years to turn you to a hag of sorts, I wouldn't know how to tailor my comments. |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by momoftheyear16: 1:27pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
You must have really been hurt, I understand but you need to love yourself again. That way u can see beauty all around u again and who knows...find love again. The bitterness will only hurt u more...no friends, bad health etc. Try and pick up a skill if u're not working or enrole in a department in church (if Christian). Give it a try, pls. halfricanadian: |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by halfricanadian(f): 1:30pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
4C2215131: I have been burned hurt bruised mocked laughed act destroyed i have been made to feel dirty all because i am a woman i paid d price for anoda woman's sins i was forced to love who caused my bad sight to get worsen i av been destroyed disrespect all because i am a woman and i was assumed to be weak Cos im nt rich they thought i was suffering yet wat i had put a smile on my face They allowed my peers to mock me they brought me little to existence any body can attack me They gave dominion to people to hurt me yet for a man who is evil every one applauded him supported him But he never knew God is greater dan wat he is nd will ever b God has made me stronger nd to survive i traded my love to gain strength by the help of the blessed HOLY SPIRIT AND HOLY GHOST I will never till rapture nd eternity love any one Even mysef i dont love I will only help human if i will gain from it |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by halfricanadian(f): 1:35pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
momoftheyear16: Tank u i will find something to do I appreciate dont tink i will love nor care except i will gain from it If i giv d hopeless it will b cos i want something from God I am done till eternity with selfless love I am happy without love I av d natural ability now to survive without love |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by momoftheyear16: 1:38pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
It will be well. halfricanadian: |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by mija: 1:45pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Thanks @momoftheyear16 momoftheyear16: |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by Nobody: 2:34pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
iGazelle: Your marriage is about to end, right ? And you dont want to bring family into it because you dont want it to be a routine ? Doesnt make sense if the marriage is about to end, there will be no routine if it does. Marriage is a box and sometimes we need third-parties to help us see outside the box. Except you want out, marriage is where you deploy arsenals meant for war, to fight a battle. 2 Likes |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by cityAdventures: 3:11pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Ok..following |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by smileeey(f): 3:23pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Hello everyone, I am not married yet but planning to do my introduction/engagement this year, I have been courting my fiancee for 3years now but the issue is he works in the north and rarely comes home to South west. He is so much inlove with his work to the extent that he doesn't talk about anything else on phone except work and been busy all day. It's getting boring with him and I am worried wat will happen if we get married. Pls kindly advice |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by Fiwasayo(f): 4:23pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
iGazelle: Just sent you a pm dear. |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by halfricanadian(f): 4:26pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
momoftheyear16: It works for me too |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by Fiwasayo(f): 4:30pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
smileeey: Have you guys always had a long distance relationship or was he transferred? Can you deal with the fact that after marriage you may not see him for weeks/months due to demands of his job? Do you know what his job entails and maybe how it really takes it's toll on him? Have you talked to him about how you feel as well? If he talks about his work excitedly often,it's because he loves that job and will always talk about it...if you try to stop him from doing so,he may also see you as not being on the same page with him...you need to know how to bring up the issue in a way that won't make you come out as being selfish. |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by Fiwasayo(f): 4:37pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
I have been married for 6 years now,and I can't say I've not had the worst of it,but i can say I have learnt so much from being married and living with my husband,i have learnt to be more respectful,tolerant,patient, i decided about two years into my marriage that my marriage is for better and for worse, and i have worked hard,I learnt how important communication is,how important friendship is between spouses, i have also taught my husband to respect me,it is important to respect each other,it is important to know that huge fights and misunderstanding will occur,but when you are prepared for it,when you know that it's a stage that will pass,you become stronger....i have got so many stories to share .... 2 Likes |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by halfricanadian(f): 4:44pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Fiwasayo: In simply words u are lucky nd you have bern blessed with marital favour So dont indulge people to b in a toxic marriage just cos heaven stood by u Many are dead from toxic marriages |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by babs50g: 5:07pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Marriage is simply management. No one knows it all. Whoever treats a woman as a piece of rag is not human . Women are to be respected and adored. Women makes the world spin round . Virtuous women loves unconditionally and they should be loved beautifully in return .women are indeed awesome. |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by tommysparks: 5:14pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
My friend has a fiance whom they are planning to get married later this year, him and his woman work in different States, the problem now is she hardly calls or pings and she was a little better at it when they started dating but somewhere along the line she became worse. If she is asked she either says she doesn't have credit and she could stay for almost a week and won't bother calling or pinging and would only reply when she is messaged. But yet she says she still loves him dearly even though she hardly initiates communication. My friend is really confused whether he should proceed with the marriage because his desire for love and affection through communication is being dashed by his fiancee |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by halfricanadian(f): 5:16pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
babs50g: Tank u God bless u A man like wat u av just written is every woman's dream man and always will be |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by halfricanadian(f): 5:20pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
tommysparks: If she aint cheating It all depends on how he is treating her wen a woman stops her former ways u might av hurt her A broken woman cant breed happiness Wen a woman is happy nd feel loved she wud go to extremes to communicate nd make ur frnd d happiest man ever No body can eat their cake and still have it Your frnd must av hurt het if d lady is nt cheating All dis love stress sef feel for her nt den love is an illusion 2 Likes |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by iGazelle: 5:47pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Hello @Fiwasayo. Replied your pm. I admire your marriage values. In my case, he can't handle pressure. If we have an issue, he avoids talking about it which becomes frustrating. I'm trying to be patient but he simply is just being unreasonable. It's demoralizing. How can I teach him to respect me and our marriage if we manage to scale through this? Fiwasayo: 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by Fiwasayo(f): 6:38pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
halfricanadian: Where did I write that anyone should indulge in a toxic marriage you're quite bitter,you've made it obvious enough,but don't take it out on me....cheers. 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by momoftheyear16: 6:40pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
It sounds like she is losing interest already or not yet decisive or there may be another competition. He needs to bring his feelings to her notice and discuss about it so they can ascertain if the marriage would go on so as to avoid heartaches in future. tommysparks: 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by Fiwasayo(f): 7:02pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
iGazelle: Bless you dear,not seen your reply,I will really like to talk to you.... |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by iGazelle: 7:17pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
I sent another pm. Fiwasayo: |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by Fiwasayo(f): 8:10pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
iGazelle: Yes,seen,network is crazy tonight. Thank you. |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by byvan03: 8:52pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
smileeey: You will end up ogling boys on NL because you will not only be bored, you will be frustrated. If you aren't coping well with the distance now, you can't cope with it later. You will fight and nag until there is nothing left in you to fight with. I won't advise my enemy to marry an absentee head of house hold. I don't need to tell you that you will regret if you do because you know that already. 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by Walesadeyemi(m): 10:28pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
100Cents:Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by 4C2215131: 12:21am On Apr 10, 2016 |
halfricanadian: No disrespect, but I'm trying really hard here to make sense of your post what with your abbreviations, writing style and whatnot. You keep speaking in circles and riddles. Well, you're definitely not under any obligation to disclose what went down in public. Hit me up privately and we we could talk about it maybe? You do not love yourself? Quite a nihilistic view of life you've. Can't say more til I know what went down. Keep ya head up. 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by halfricanadian(f): 12:22am On Apr 10, 2016 |
4C2215131: Tank u |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by tommysparks: 12:22am On Apr 10, 2016 |
momoftheyear16:tnx I will pass the info. Though I suspected cheating, but I will pass the loss of interest or indecision thing to him. Marriage just has too many. Angles to look at mehn.... |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by 4C2215131: 12:25am On Apr 10, 2016 |
halfricanadian: You're welcome. |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Falling Apart. (MARRIAGE ISSUES) by tommysparks: 12:26am On Apr 10, 2016 |
halfricanadian:just say u are not going into any romantic relationships anymore but u cant shut out love, that's the greatest gift of God. |
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