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Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by kingz000: 5:53pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Nice! |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by Sike(m): 5:54pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
This is interesting |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by Nobody: 6:15pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Nancy2016:To every step taken, there are millions units of zeal to take more. It is just like if you dont want to rape dont watch porn. if you get married in that position they will see it as not too much to start family and the urge will be requesting for it. but if you have not married you are away to thimk it. Even if no ceremony shoukd the kids spend years in hospital? |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by Mattin(m): 6:20pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Todil: We need more of posts like this on nairaland. Thirded |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by akanbiaa(m): 6:43pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
AntiWailer:So what should be the age difference? Mind you i have witnessed marriage that the man is about 12 years older than his wife yet his wife literally controls him. |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by deebrain(m): 6:52pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by AntiWailer: 6:54pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
akanbiaa: we are talking about financial control not all those control. There is no age difference rule but what they meant is , u need a little time difference cos if she is aging , u will be forced to do the needful even without a job. |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by saasala(m): 7:42pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
AntiWailer: You are the only one whose comment I give a pass mark. Ori e wambe. |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by JuanDeDios: 7:51pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
AntiWailer:Bolded made me laugh. Red isn't true, though, and you make some wrong assumptions. |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by Jibsonified(m): 7:51pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Strahovski1: Who says being broke will/must continue till the time you'll have kids? |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by AntiWailer: 7:52pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
JuanDeDios: it is very true. Most married women caught up in adultery do so because of one need or another. and like i said it is the basis like the remote cause. |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by obiaguna(m): 7:56pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Elxandre: You have spoken my mind. If it means saving at this young age and developing to earn more, I would do it till I know for sure that I can handle family finances without batting an eye-lid. All this talk of marrying at 25 without sufficient cash is suicidal talk. 2 Likes |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by JuanDeDios: 8:07pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
AntiWailer:Most of the married women who cheat don't do it for the money. I agree there are many women who are convinced money is the reason they cheat but I assure you that if all married men suddenly became rich cheating won't reduce much. In the matter under discussion here, what is key, the point you seem to miss, is the person you're married to. Some couples are BOTH working and are comfortable with contributing to running the home - for them, being able to buy her good things to qualify as husband doesn't factor big. What people like you are holding on to is the old ideal. I have no problem with it but since we have moved on from the hunter-gatherer society when the man had to kill deer to bring the food home, to one where women now have as much opportunities to make money as men, we have to deal the reality that the large number of women working will correspond to the number of men displaced. Upholding the old ideal is, therefore, misguided. Displaced men - that is why you have too many men now roaming the streets in their 30's and 40's, unable to marry women who want a man who can buy them expensive toys. But I guess Nigerian women want to eat their cake and have it. They want the same work opportunities men have but want the husband to fund the home alone. Ok o. 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by JuanDeDios: 8:09pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Elxandre:I changed the figure. Just curious. Do you still agree? |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by afroxyz: 8:20pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Chrisjane: 13 years? What sort of child abuse is that? |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by afroxyz: 8:23pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Nancy2016: But you can 'go through formal education for so many years' to earn a paltry sum of 70k monthly abi? 2 Likes |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by Nobody: 9:59pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
ojun50:we understand, even more than the men do. |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by macaranta(m): 10:14pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Well said |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by Elxandre(m): 10:47pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
JuanDeDios:Lol... You should have just said 60 thou troublemaker. Well I expect a man to be financially sorted to a decent extent at least before 40, come on. But if things doubt go according to plans, you might have to reconsider some of your principles. Such is life! ![]() |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by Elxandre(m): 11:14pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
obiaguna:You know, things work out well for a few people, and people assume it will work for everyone. One of the foremost Pastors in Nigeria married an in-law of mine when he was totally broke. Their wedding was a joke in the village. But now they come to the village with convoys and the best SUVs around. ![]() But I also have another person I know who did it, and I'm still sorry for the after effect it has on him till this day. (After several years).
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Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by Santi222(m): 11:33pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Great post OP |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by veeboy50(m): 12:12am On Apr 10, 2016 |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by Nancy2016: 3:02am On Apr 10, 2016 |
[quote author=Kapira333 post=44555947][/quote] Please read what I wrote properly. They don't have to start procreating immediately. They can wait till they are financially viable. There are natural methods of contraception. I'm sure you are old enough to know them, if not, Google is your friend. 2 Likes |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by Nancy2016: 3:03am On Apr 10, 2016 |
afroxyz: How many hairdressers have a profit of 70k per month? 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by Nancy2016: 3:07am On Apr 10, 2016 |
ogechieku: Please learn how to proofread before posting. As an adult you make your own decisions. If you know you can't afford to have kids, wait till you can. You should never bow to pressure. People may talk, but it's your life and you are the one responsible for your kids. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by akike: 6:15am On Apr 10, 2016 |
It is not an excuse in this era. If you can have a gf, you can have a wife Don't have kids yet till you have the money but the marriage can be done at anytime 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by akike: 6:17am On Apr 10, 2016 |
Nancy2016: I wish people think the way you do ![]() |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by Nobody: 6:19am On Apr 10, 2016 |
AntiWailer:U made more sense than the OP. I WISH U A HAPPY SUNDAY. When LADIES start ageing, they always condone or over look everything. U hear them say AGE is just a NUMBER. some sign MOU with their pastors, so that VISIONS and DREAMS can be seen on their heads, to enable the Pastor hook them up with one brother in the church. NEVER marry your AGE-MATE, it is never IDEAL... except on very rare occasions. GUYS be warned....!!! The 2 commonest causes of FAILED MARRIAGES are SEX and MONEY |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by akike: 6:20am On Apr 10, 2016 |
AntiWailer:Mtchewww You do not know what you are talking about |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by akike: 6:24am On Apr 10, 2016 |
Toks2008: Sometimes you just make unreasonable statements! So most ladies are unmarried because they can't stand broke men? Hear yourself! You assume most ladies are unmarried because some da.ft ones come to you for advice ![]() |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by akike: 6:27am On Apr 10, 2016 |
Joavid:This is more like daf.t people should not get married. You have no excuse! Try again! |
Re: Getting Married Even When You Are Broke by obiaguna(m): 9:31am On Apr 10, 2016 |
Elxandre: Oh men. How is he doing now? People should actually try to meet up with most of their goals before they get married. We also have to take our time. I guess everybody is just subscribing to the whole bae and boo bandwagon. Loneliness is not a bad thing, and if well utilized, can turn into blessings for you and your future partner. It's hard, but if young people can get busy trying to better themselves with proper investments and other things, marriage would be very enjoyable. 1 Like |
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