chocolateme:
She is my long time friend and has a very calm nature. She got married last two years, she lives at Owerri working while her husband stays in Lagos tho she will soon join him.
Now 2 of her husband's sisters are with him in Lagos, whenever she comes on visit, I will go meet her up but it amazes me to see how she behaves timidly towards them. She will be complaining heaven and earth to me and basically turn to house girl. In the morning, one will leave for work, the other will be on bed browsing and chatting. She will ask that one to help clean the house and she will ignore her. My friend will end up washing all the dishes, sweep, clean and put everything in order. ( meanwhile that house is so dirty and untidy. They don't even help their brother wash his clothes.
I asked her what her husband thinks about it, she said that his sisters are not in his house as house girls. So she decided to stay like that but she always cries and complain.
Imagine every time she comes, she will take days to wash and keep the house in order. Wash curtains, stove cookers, the back of her pots and everything. Then two weeks later, she will travel back to east and they will start their mess all over again nawa oo. What kind of nonsense is that?
Well I told her that as she makes her bed, so shall she lie on it. She has no boldness and courage and strong will, that's why she can't call them to order ( she is older than one and the other is 2 years older than her) so she has to manage until they get married and leave her house for her. Husband not even helping matters.

Beremx:
When she eventually gets married to the man, his sisters will leave. She should just endure. na wetin we dey see for in-laws hand.

itstpia8:
wife is in Owerri, husband is in Lagos.

This matter is difficult to interfere with nah?

The sisters should move out and a housemaid move in pending the wife's relocation?

if the wife doesnt want to do housework during her visits then she shouldnt.

pickabeau1:

What about if they don't leave?

Kachisbarbie:

Haba, my auntYyy!

austine4real:
Wetin u wan make we do?

itstpia8:

good question.
gossip I guess.

eyinjuege:
She really cannot force grown ups who want to be dirty to be clean.
The only person that can solve the issue is her husband.
She should always complain to him anytime she comes over and ask him why he's so comfortable living in dirt!
If he can't ask his sisters to clean the house, he could at least try cleaning it himself na.

To be honest, the man is also dirty, since it seems OK for him to live in filth despite having 2 other grown up ladies living with him

Beremx:
they will leave that's certain.

taryour:



this shouldn't be a big deal at all na. since the ladies enjoy living in such filth then knave them to have a fill of it. When they begin to fall sick their brains will reset.
whenever she is home with her hubby they should eat out, she should wash only her hubby clothe and leave the rest. leave the kitchen as she meet it. If she does that for them twice or 4 times her husband will know she means real business and correct his sisters.

There is no point telling the sisters what to do anymore hence they label her rude and ordering her sister in law about. neglect them like they don't exist, leave the house in a filth as you meet it, you are married to their brother and not to become their maid.

its difficult but you have to endure till you see changes. If you can't stand the mess, while your hubby is away at work, stay out all day till, he returns from work. and please make It clear to your hubby that when you moving finally to Lagos, it's you and your husband alone a beg. no point having a relative leaving with you if they can't help with house chores and run little errands.