garfield16:


because you respect yourself and because one day you want to have a husband who can respect you but then if I have to explain it to you you probably don't have any self respect or self esteem.

First of all, who says that a woman who sleeps with married men can't have a husband who respects her?
Secondly, you don't know me so keep your comments about my self-esteem to yourself. We are discussing the topic here, not my self-esteem.

A woman involved with a married man is worse than a street prostitute.

You are entitled to your opinion but it is just an opinion and nothing more.

How would you feel knowing your mother was sleeping with a married man? if you think that's ok then I have nothing further to add.

Her life, her choices.

Respect yourselves.

If you are sleeping with a married man for material gain you are a runs girl,

Again! I am married so it's not about me and women consciously choose to milk married men and whether you consider them this or that does not matter as long as there is some cash flow. It's the oldest profession in the world.

if you are sleeping with a married man sneaking around and going home to an empty bed while he goes home to his wife, then you have no self respect or low self esteem.

For your information, many women are happy he goes back home to his wife who has to do his laundry while they are enjoying his money. Not your business.

Married men will always try it but because something is available or on offer does not mean it is right.

Who says it is wrong?

Two things are pertinent to this situation. Firstly, in a sane society this is called assault and battery and the wife should be in jail. Next, it is only a shameless woman that would do something like this, real women don't go fighting outside because their men cheated. They rather confront the man, leave or make life miserable for him to the point that he has no time for promiscuity again. Finally, this single act of stupidity rarely solves anything, most times it gives the man confidence to cheat more as the consequences goes to the mistress not him.

we are not talking of medieval archaic barbaric societies governed by the myopic sharia law. we are talking of modern western societies.And even at that, the sharia law is gender biased when it has to with adultery and the likes. The women gets stoned to death while the men only receive lashes. This is an established fact.

pinceprinz:


This one's head is not correct oh, I mean, u dey think say na d same rule of law wey US dey use na hin dem dey use for Saudi? Abi what exactly are u trying to say when you said adultery no be crime ? Oh, go to Saudi and commit that atrocity and see if dem na go throw u boulders till you take your last breath. Ogbeni, the stoning to death thing isn't a gender biased thing , don't dare paint it to be so. You don see your zombie for here?

Amberon11:
we are not talking of medieval archaic barbaric societies governed by the myopic sharia law. we are talking of modern western societies.And even at that, the sharia law is gender biased when it has to with adultery and the likes. The women gets stoned to death while the men only receive lashes. This is an established fact.

+----------------Established fact? Can people get any dvmber?

Any woman who follows a married man lacks the fear of God and so deserves anything heathen act done to her for daring to come between what the lord has joined together. D gal never see anything next tym if she see married man she go fly.

mimzy:
Like seriously!!! What the heck!!! I just read a story on FP bout a wife (and her friends) that beat up her husband's mistress at work, used scissors to cut her hair, stripped her, poured slimy substances on her body and made her walk naked from the office to the car!!!

This is all shades of wrong!!! Whatever in the world happened to the woman beating up her husband if she really wants to prove macho If there is anyone that should be put in check, it is the husband for crying out loud, she has not freakn business with that mistress.

Yes, the wife has every right to be angry but she has absolutely no RIGHT WHATSOEVER TO TOUCH THAT LADY!!!
If you as a woman cannot put your husband/boyfriend/fiance in his place, then do not go about picking up your man's phone to curse,stalk or arrange to have their mistresses beaten!!! its b*sh!t.

There are several sides to such events. There is. Possibility of vodoo, physical seduction, or the husband is flirting naturally or the husband don't wan anything to do with the wife again.

There are ladies who purposely invade marriages too.

Taking out vegeance on concubines depends on the way it happened.

Mindfulness:


First of all, who says that a woman who sleeps with married men can't have a husband who respects her?
Secondly, you don't know me so keep your comments about my self-esteem to yourself. We are discussing the topic here, not my self-esteem.



You are entitled to your opinion but it is just an opinion and nothing more.



Her life, her choices.




Again! I am married so it's not about me and women consciously choose to milk married men and whether you consider them this or that does not matter as long as there is some cash flow. It's the oldest profession in the world.




For your information, many women are happy he goes back home to his wife who has to do his laundry while they are enjoying his money. Not your business.




Who says it is wrong?

let me say this to you, we all sin, we lie, we steal, we do bad things but the difference between a good person and a bad person, a morally upright person and an immoral person is that a good person, a person with good morals knows right from wrong even when they are doing something bad. You my dear are clearly an immoral person and I feel sorry for your husband who married a woman with low morals, because for sure you will cheat on him. Furthermore I feel sorry for your kids and the kind of values you will instill in them.

daretodiffer:
She has every right to kill her. She became her business the moment she knowingly slept with another man's husband.

Islamically and Biblically, both have sinned. Morally, they have acted unconsciously. The concubine and the husband have acted together to break the husband's vows and trust to his wife

The way some people think sef?

Usually I agree with u but on this? Nah. Go after the one you signed the dotted lines with
How many women will one fight? The concubine owes no obligation to the wife.

olrotimi:

Did he approach her with a gun to her head? What happened to her moral decency to turn him down, knowing fully well that he was married. Na yam wey another woman don suffer to cook na im she balance chop well.
I can bet the life of me that she would have turned down many single guys before the man approached her, perhaps she broke off from her bf just to date this man. Those of us arguing that she didn't do wrong should Pls consider and put urselves in the position of this man's wife.Do you know how painful and heart wrenching it is for your husband to be taken away from you by another woman, perhaps after laboring together, setting the home, polishing and grooming the man and perhaps making him what he is today. Do you also consider her children? How would they feel?
Violence is wrong, very wrong but hey ladies, prevention is always better than cure. When a married man approaches you, run! Cos whatever comes after that, na ur headache

What happened to his own moral decency to not have an affair at all? Did they put a gun to his dick? So he knows that another woman cooks yam for him and he decides to go and share it with another woman se? Do you know how painful it is for your husband to disregard the vows he made to you because of outside punanii? perhaps after laboring together, setting the home, polishing and grooming the man and perhaps making him what he is today. Do you also consider her children? How would they feel?
Violence is wrong, very wrong but hey gentlemen, prevention is always better than cure. When a you're a married man stay faithful to your vows! Cos whatever comes after that, na ur headache

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The mistress is a mumu sha, that's the only reason this woman and her goons will go scot free.

garfield16:


let me say this to you, we all sin, we lie, we steal, we do bad things but the difference between a good person and a bad person, a morally upright person and an immoral person is that a gppd person, a person with good morals knows right from wrong even when they are doing something bad.

Then the "good person" who knows right from wrong should burn in hell fire as they know what is right and what is wrong and STILL go and do it whereas the "bad people" don't even know. Forgive them for they know not what they do.

You my dear are clearly an immoral person and I feel sorry for your husband who married a woman with low morals, f furthermore I feel sorry for your kids and the kind of values you will instill in them.

Bla, bla, bla ... do you really think that I care what people here think about me, especially someone who can't answer a simple question without attacking my persona?

Let me give you another chance: Why should single people respect the institution of marriage?

garfield16:


let me say this to you, we all sin, we lie, we steal, we do bad things but the difference between a good person and a bad person, a morally upright person and an immoral person is that a good person, a person with good morals knows right from wrong even when they are doing something bad. You my dear are clearly an immoral person and I feel sorry for your husband who married a woman with low morals, f furthermore I feel sorry for your kids and the kind of values you will instill in them.

..You sound really terrible.Just read what you just typed to a stranger just because she is of the view that in an adulterous relationship,the concubine should not be blamed alone!...And you think you are morally up-right??...i think your wife deserves more pity cos she married or will marry a man who believes in adultery for men

daretodiffer:
+----------------Established fact? Can people get any dvmber?

With all due respect, you are the extremely dumb one here.

If the assaulted happened to be a relative of mine, walai that woman and her gang would have been regretting the day they were born by now.

Silumi:
Any woman who follows a married man lacks the fear of God and so deserves anything heathen act done to her for daring to come between what the lord has joined together. D gal never see anything next tym if she see married man she go fly.

First of all, not every human being shares your religious beliefs.
Secondly, if God is so angry with the person who crosses his plans, why not leave the punishment to him?

Mindfulness:


Then the "ggod person" who knows right from wrong should burn in hell fire as they know what is right and what is wrong and STILL go and do it whereas the "bad people" don't even know.






Bla, bla, bla ... do you really think that I care what people here think about me, especially someone who can't answer a simple question without attacking my persona?

Let me give you another chance: Why should single people respect the institution of marriage?

That's the problem with our society, we do not care about other people



as far as your question, read my previous posts, I already answered from the start: because married people are out of bounds and there are many single people. So the only reason to be involved with a married person is for material gain or if one does not have self respect or has low self esteem.

freecocoa:
The mistress is a mumu sha, that's the only reason this woman and her goons will go scot free.

....i dey tell you

freecocoa:
zenith all due respect, you are the extremely dumb one here.

If the assaulted happened to be a relative of mine, walai that woman and her gang would have been regretting the day they were born by now.

With al due respect, you are a bigger dumbo

Read the post I quoted,let it sink in. Then read mine.

Ngokafor:






..You sound really terrible.Just read what you just typed to a stranger just because she is of the view that in an adulterous relationship,the concubine should not be blamed alone!...And you think you are morally up-right??...i think your wife deserves more pity cos she married or will marry a man who believes in adultery for men

Please follow the discussion not what you want to discuss or think was said.
that is not what she said and I did not say only the concubine should be blamed, please show me a post where I said so, in fact I specifically said in my 1st comment in this thread that the husband is equally at fault. I said single people should respect marraiges and stay off married people because there are plenty single people out there and she responded by saying "why should single people respect marriages". that last comment is what started it all



my discussion with her is not about whether the husband is to blame or not it is about single people respecting themselves and staying away from married people.

Ngokafor:



..You sound really terrible.Just read what you just typed to a stranger just because she is of the view that in an adulterous relationship,the concubine should not be blamed alone!...And you think you are morally up-right??...i think your wife deserves more pity cos she married or will marry a man who believes in adultery for men

Thank you.

The problem is that people think that everyone shares their views on marriage and that everyone shares their religious beliefs when in fact not everyone considers marriage a holy institution. Moreover, some people believe in polygamy and so see nothing wrong with a person having multiple partners. What is so difficult in accepting that everyone has a different set of beliefs?

doveda:


With al due respect, you are a bigger dumbo

Read the post I quoted,let it sink in. Then read mine.

I guess you are the same person as daretodiffer, I read both posts and walai, you dumb gan.

you just might be the smartest male on NL. I'm surprised a lot of folks sanction this babaric inhumane act of wickedness.

This goes to show our level of moral bankruptcy.

joseph1832:
My dear, being realistic means being reasonable. The mistress is guilty? What about the husband? Did it occur to you that may be the man might have been the one who started the whole affair? Funny you blame the mistress and accuse her of being guilty and you totally ignored the husband.

If my wife decides to cheat on me just to keep her job, I trust she would see the need to tell me that her boss is sexually assaulting her, from there, I'll handle it.

This is why I make damn sure that I'll get married to a woman who respect reason and logic, not one who is a slave to her emotion and her religion.

garfield16:



That's the problem with our society, we do not care about other people

I care about many people but what some strangers online think about me is none of my business. You can judge me as much as you want, I love myself and that's all that matters.

as far as your question, read my previous posts, I already answered from the start: because married people are out of bounds and there are many single people. So the only reason to be involved with a married person is for material gain or if one does not have self respect or has low self esteem.

No, these are not the only reasons. It happens that people fall in love with people who are already married. That's life. And there are also people who believe in polygamy. Some people get involved with married people because some married folks lie about their marital status. Other people do not respect the institution called marriage because they do not share your religious beliefs (I guess your views on marriage are based on your religion).

Mindfulness:


Thank you.

The problem is that people think that everyone shares their views on marriage and that everyone shares their religious beliefs when in fact not everyone considers marriage a holy institution. Moreover, some people believe in polygamy and so see nothing wrong with a person having multiple partners. What is so difficult in accepting that everyone has a different set of beliefs?

fine have your own views about marriage but if you go and interfere in the marriage of a woman who holds a monogamist and "holy" view on her marriage, then you be prepared for the consequences.

garfield16:


fine have your own views about marriage but if you go and interfere in the marriage of a woman who holds a monogamist and "holy" view on her marriage, then you be prepared for the consequences.

Don't worry about me.

AyeeIdris:


Usually I agree with u but on this? Nah. Go after the one you signed the dotted lines with
How many women will one fight? The concubine owes no obligation to the wife.

I used to tow that line but when you read about women who purposely set on making married couples break their vows, you would realise that it is better to blame both parties for working together to break the marriage. The man owes an obligation to his wife. He set out to break it. The mistress knew but could care less. He didn't cheat with himself. He had to do it with someone else. But then, mindfulness's perspective is quite convincing. Why indeed should single women respect the institution of marriage? Outside moral(which is subjective) or religious reason, I am afraid I can't see other reason why mistresses should be held accountable.


I am not saying that she should have attacked the woman. She might just end up with jail for what she has done.



@Mindfulness, I like your point of view. Why should single people

Mindfulness:


I care about many people but what some strangers online think about me is none of my business. You can judge me as much as you want, I love myself and that's all that matters.




No, these are not the only reasons. It happens that people fall in love with people who are already married. That's life. And there are also people who believe in polygamy. Some people get involved with married people because some married folks lie about their marital status. Other people do not respect the institution called marriage because they do not share your religious beliefs (I guess your views on marriage are based on your religion).

That's a stupid argument, you cannot fall in love with someone before you meet someone, if you meet someone and you know they are married a right hinking woman will walk away so don't put yourself in a position to fall in love. What you call "fall in love", I call having no self respect or low self esteem because a good woman would not put herself in a position to even fall in love with a married man.

garfield16:


Please follow the discussion not what you want to discuss or think was said.
that is not what she said and I did not say only the concubine should be blamed, please show me a post where I said so, in fact I specifically said the husband is equally at fault. I said singlt people should resoect marraiges and stay off married people because there are plenty single people out there and she responded by saying "why should single people respect marriages". that last comment is what started it all



my discussion with her is not about whether the husband is to blame or not it is about single people respecting themselves and staying away from married people.

....With all due respect,you are still wrong...instead of mouthing of that single people should respect the sanctity of marriage,saying that folks(both married and single,male or female) should respect the sanctity of marriage makes more sense....

.More for married folks cos they are the ones that took a vow before God and man.I would say the same if the roles were reversed and it is between a married woman and a single guy..good-bye.

Ngokafor:






....i dey tell you

just imagine the nonsense. I don't get how anyone thinks it's okay to treat someone like this because they supposedly slept with your husband. He's your husband and so? How is that my business? What if I only like sleeping with married men? Just where is that a crime in the constitution?

garfield16:


That's a stupid argument, you cannot fall in love with someone before you meet someone, if you meet someone and you know they are married a right hinking woman will walk away so don't put yourself in a position to fall in love. What you call "fall in love", I call having no self respect or low self esteem because a good woman would not put herself in a position to even fall in love with a married man.

You can meet someone at work and fall in love with them. Some people fall in love at first sight.

And again, some people see nothing wrong with falling in love with married people because they believe in polygamy or do not see marriage the way you see it.

freecocoa:
I guess you are the same person as daretodiffer, I read both posts and walai, you dumb gan.

Mo sin yin je ma

Ngokafor:





....With all due respect,you are still wrong...instead of mouthing of that single people should respect the sanctity of marriage,saying that folks(both married and single,male or female) should respect the sanctity of marriage makes more sense....

.More for married folks cos they are the ones that took a vow before God and man.I would say the same if the roles were reversed and it is between a married woman and a single guy..good-bye.

dont be a ret ard, ofcourse married people should respect their own marraiges but you responded to my comment about single people. If a married man wants to disrespect himself and his wife and his marriage by having an affair it does not mean a single person should join him/her.