Hi nairalanders,

Please my friend is in a serious mess right now, a 20 year girl needs help and is so frustrated that she feels like dying....recently her dad has throw her out of the of house, this problem has been going on since we were kids till the frustration led her to run away from home. Now she's back home and still dey keep frustrating her life. since childhood till now....marks on her skin cn testify the level of maltreatment...the dad is frustrated because he wanted to have a male child but instead gav birth to my frnd and since birth she has been going through series of pain...her mum tho not in support of this have asked her to live the house before the aggression takes her to her grave, she have adviced her to sort for where to stay....nairaland pls....any lady staying in surulere or its environ that can accommodate this gurl jst for a few time till she can gather up an tak care of her accommodatn, pls I beg in goes name, I don't want her wandering abt the street the second time....i have some cash abt 20k and dat is because I am selling my fone to get this 20k for her if she needs to pay dis money for the period of time for her so u cn assist her please...she needs a jobs and a place to sleep....i beg u guys....i dont want dis gurl on the street again before she join sex workers and jeopardize her life completely...please...any evidence needed I will provide...if u need to see the mum...or sth...jst how u cn help...tank u God bless....

Eya. Please concerned Nigerians, kindly assist the op if you'v got a spare room for her friend.

But I still don't get it? Why will both parents wish to send their only daughter away from home? There is more to this that u ain't telling u op..

donbenedict:
But I still don't get it? Why will both parents wish to send their only daughter away from home? There is more to this that u ain't telling u op..

She's not the only child, dey already had 2 girls @ her birth d expected a boy...he did everythn but she came out as a girl....since den d anger has existed

Nairalanders plssssss

My email ladycara24@yahoomail.com

softcara:


She's not the only child, dey already had 2 girls @ her birth d expected a boy...he did everythn but she came out as a girl....since den d anger has existed

so why didn't he send both girls away! why her?? I'm still not getting things clearly.. and why would a mother accept to send her child who she took a lot of pains to carry for nine months??


These are the questions people will ask and unless you convince them, I don't think anyone will help.

donbenedict:
so why didn't he send both girls away! why her?? I'm still not getting things clearly.. and why would a mother accept to send her child who she took a lot of pains to carry for nine months??


These are the questions people will ask and unless you convince them, I don't think anyone will help.

The other 2 are grown ups and hav left to sort out tinz for demselves....she is 20...years still young....her mum cnt do anythng....she cnt leave her husband and she advise she lives because it's killing the lady...she has attempted poison on several occassions....I would have love her to explain in details...but her fone cnt browse...but from all I know since we were young...dis girl has been suffering....u could meet her physically and see tinz yesterday

donbenedict:
Eya. Please concerned Nigerians, kindly assist the op if you'v got a spare room for her friend.

Do u think lalasticlala will want to move this fp?

softcara:


The other 2 are grown ups and hav left to sort out tinz for demselves....she is 20...years still young....her mum cnt do anythng....she cnt leave her husband and she advise she lives because it's killing the lady...she has attempted poison on several occassions....I would have love her to explain in details...but her fone cnt browse...but from all I know since we were young...dis girl has been suffering....u could meet her physically and see tinz yesterday

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softcara:
My email ladycara24@gmail.com

I don't think this mail is functioning. Pm me

donbenedict:
I don't think this mail is functioning. Pm me

Sooorry...its ladycara24@yahoo.com...pm u already

Nairaland abeg mk una , me put mouth nah

Nairaland abeg mk una help me put mouth nah

Lalasticlala can u help....

1) are the parent christian or musloms ? Has any plan been made to contact their church or mosque concerning the matter and to raise help for the girl

2) is the girl schooling ,,,,

3) are the two older siblings aware of this situation. If yes, are they working and how av they been able to intervene in the issue...

softcara:


The other 2 are grown ups and hav left to sort out tinz for demselves....she is 20...years still young....her mum cnt do anythng....she cnt leave her husband and she advise she lives because it's killing the lady...she has attempted poison on several occassions....I would have love her to explain in details...but her fone cnt browse...but from all I know since we were young...dis girl has been suffering....u could meet her physically and see tinz yesterday

so the father wants her out, the mother too... and even her own 2 sisters dont want to help her with a place to stay?!

these are the people that should be met before taking on this gal, so that all the facts are on the table.

MRBrownJ:


so the father wants her out, the mother too... and even her own 2 sisters dont want to help her with a place to stay?!

these are the people that should be met before taking on this gal, so that all the facts are on the table.

The dad is frustrating her, her mum wants her to get a place to stay...her sisters are also squating with other pple...everybody sort themselves out. Do u understand

ClassCaptain:
1) are the parent christian or musloms ? Has any plan been made to contact their church or mosque concerning the matter and to raise help for the girl

2) is the girl schooling ,,,,

3) are the two older siblings aware of this situation. If yes, are they working and how av they been able to intervene in the issue...

1)Christians....not church fanatics...

2)no done with secondary school

3)ye but dey cn help, dey are also hustling for demselves...Its a "to each his own" tin

softcara:
The dad is frustrating her, her mum wants her to get a place to stay...her sisters are also squating with other pple...everybody sort themselves out. Do u understand

pls stop beating around the bushes and speak concretely about the issues...
- what are these "frustrations" you are talking about?
- if these frustrations were "that" bad, to the point that she decided to leave, then why did she go back there?
- or better yet, why did this "supposedly" evil dad accepted her back?
- since this lady is broke, how will she feed herself, transport or care for her daily needs while squatting?
- what are her life plans apart from squatting at other people's place?
- all the other GROWN UP children of the family are squatting with other people!?!?!?!?!?

MRBrownJ:


pls stop beating around the bushes and speak concretely about the issues...
- what are these "frustrations" you are talking about?
- if these frustrations were "that" bad, to the point that she decided to leave, then why did she go back there?
- or better yet, why did this "supposedly" evil dad accepted her back?
- since this lady is broke, how will she feed herself, transport or care for her daily needs while squatting?
- what are her life plans apart from squatting at other people's place?
- all the other GROWN UP children of the family are squatting with other people!?!?!?!?!?

Easy now. I think only the victim alone can answer all these questions you're asking

layla129:
Easy now. I think only the victim alone can answer all these questions you're asking

the victim is the OP's friend "since they were young" yet doesnt know the details?! he/she is even willing to put up money for her, therefore he should know and give people all the important details, or ask her these questions since she has no access to NL.

the whole story makes no damn sense. is the father violent or they just want her to leave? and why only in Surulere, couldnt Ijebu Ode be a safe place for her too?! who asks for help but dictate where that help should come from?

MRBrownJ:


the victim is the OP's friend "since they were young" yet doesnt know the details?! he/she is even willing to put up money for her, therefore he should know and give people all the important details, or ask her these questions since she has no access to NL.

the whole story makes no damn sense. is the father violent or they just want her to leave? and why only in Surulere, couldnt Ijebu Ode be a safe place for her too?! who asks for help but dictate where that help should come from?

The Op can't answer you the way her friend will. So, i feel you should contact the Op to get to her if you want to help.
Plus, they are young. Probably they want an area they are familiar with...but in this case, their choice doesn't matter. They have to make the available desirable

What happened to the mother's family,don't they have extended family?? Why put up with a totally stranger.there's more to this jawe

Op your story get k leg... Why can't you accommodate her? What about extended families of the girl in question? Her papa no get family? Her mama nko?

there must b something behind it because her parents can't just abandon her like dat

layla129:


The Op can't answer you the way her friend will. So, i feel you should contact the Op to get to her if you want to help.
Plus, they are young. Probably they want an area they are familiar with...but in this case, their choice doesn't matter. They have to make the available desirable

God bless u...I dont even know Wat to say again....i feel dey cn contact the lady and ask all dis questns cos I don't knw wat else to type..honestly....am jst trying to help so she doesn't end up in d street again. Pple who contact could tell the weight of wat is go on....i cant ans all nairalands questns....

smileysmiley:
Op your story get k leg... Why can't you accommodate her? What about extended families of the girl in question? Her papa no get family? Her mama nko?

Abt accommodate her....am still under my parent....if I cn this post won't exist in first place.. Her extended family have never met any. The little I know are all in the village. Her mum cnt do anythng to help. She has under her husband

Sunkyphil:
there must b something behind it because her parents can't just abandon her like dat

U think so?

Sunkyphil:
there must b something behind it because her parents can't just abandon her like dat

U think so?....pls read the post again

There is more to ds issue on ground. How are u sure d father is d real biological father of d girl? Did d father treated d other siblings ds way? Evn d mother couldt do anything. Dis tin is common among d igbos. Cus dey belv, d female children hav no inheritance in d family, dat s y they prefer male children. Why wil parents nt want to see thei kids again?

softcara:


U think so?....pls read the post again

yes cos even if her parents rejects her wat of oda family members