tobaoye:
Good day Nairalanders. I urgently need your advice on how to cure myself of hot temper / anger that is negatively affecting my relationship with friends, associates, colleagues at work and even my spouse.

Good advice are most welcome

Buharism:
whenever u get angry count frm 1 to 100 silently, before u rply the person or act. it works very well.

PapiDShipCapt:

haba! 1 - 100? before he count finish he don forget he been dey vex na

Danfuster:
[b]I don't need to say much cos the posters above has given you a cue, take it and make the best of it.

If you're a guy you're most definitely going to have to deal with your woman being a smart mouth... Most women are smart mouths, they're so overprotective of their feelings their mouth goes into action before their brain kicks in. I'm not trying to paint the women folks black, just to be fair... A few men are like this too.

I remember this one time I and my gf was in a cab, we was having a convo, we had to say some sensitive things and she did the smart mouth thing. Instantly I faced her to give a response, I open my mouth looking her straight in the eyes, closed my mouth and said "never mind". I told the cab guy to pull over, at this time we were about 15blocks to getting home... I paid the cab guy (her fair inclusive); I told her "I want to walk, I'll meet you at home". I later got home and we worked it out.

I was really angry that I could have lashed out at her in the cab but I did that in a subtle way.

What I did gave her time to think and realize what she did wasn't the smartest, which she was very remorseful for. It also gave me time to calm my nerves and handle it maturely.

I've been able to apply 2 simple quotes in situations like this

1. "Raise your word and not your voice"

2. "the biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand; we listen to reply"


Op! I hope this helps. [/b]

Mindfulness:
@tob.aoye

Describe a situation that made you angry.

nubian999:
This is my thread. #Angry black woman on the loose

blah93:


You're not black... You only claim black to have an identity but the reality is; many of your people are confused mongrels who are rejected by Arabs which leaves you lost & confused.
How tragic.

blah93:


You're not black... You only claim black to have an identity but the reality is; many of your people are confused mongrels who are rejected by Arabs which leaves you lost & confused.
How tragic.

nubian999:


What's this one saying?

blah93:

Yo booty funky

nubian999:


I have my very own Fan!! Stan join the queue, take your ticket, sit the fvck down and shut the fvck up.

nubian999:


FVCK OFF YOU SIMPLETON AND TAKE YOUR DIRTY SELF AND DIE ALREADY!!! Biatch_Niqqaz Everywhere!!


you are derailing a serious topic with your insignificant opinion. Mitch you're chatting to yourself because I don't give two flying fvcks about you or your kind. Now kindly disappear. I fvckin hate all these emotional MEN? yuk.

nubian999:


FVCK OFF YOU SIMPLETON AND TAKE YOUR DIRTY SELF AND DIE ALREADY!!! Biatch_Niqqaz Everywhere!!


you are derailing a serious topic with your insignificant opinion. Mitch you're chatting to yourself because I don't give two flying fvcks about you or your kind. Now kindly disappear. I fvckin hate all these emotional MEN? yuk.

blah93:


You know.. I was kinda hoping you would forgive me and from there we could start talking through email.
I had surprises for you.. BIG surprises which are the kind I know you Somali women love.

nubian999:


shattered hopes. Story of your life.

nubian999:


Simpleton. Go, Stay, Fly, Sit; I don't care. Whatever that will help you sleep at night.

I have dissed and dismissed you 24hrs ago but you're the one following me around nl!

lol I think you want a girlfriend but this is not the way.

Bye Pickle Dyck! Don't look both ways when you cross the road.

blah93:

C'mon baby, I could eat your ass

nubian999:


Hey can i jump on board and hijack ops mention

because I become unconscious when ignorance and rudeness is displayed by other people towards me

and then i go all shades of çray cray.

I dislike injustice towards others and selfish behaviour.

I hate it most when people act or are dumb. I feel bad but my bs tolerance is soo low. After my anger goes i feel bad. Lol. Thank you in advance and...

[size=2pt]Ps I LOVE YOU [/size]

nubian999:
To Op I am sorry to derail your thread. I never sent for that B_itch shim found me.

crackhaus:

Hmmmmm

Danfuster:



could you please exhibit that lady like attributes, I know you've got it. You're harming this thread



bro... Pls stop acting a fool, you're a man for crying out loud. I know you've got balls, you're playing the wrong cards and it's at the detriment of this thread.

nubian999:


erm.... yeah... so...



Thank you Mindfullness


from this moment on my anthem shall be "I Don't care!"

@Op... Nuff luv Mate!