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Re: When She's Older Than You by tottinova: 9:43am On Apr 21, 2016 |
krak101: Did my reply seem furious But think about it na 3-4 years older |
Re: When She's Older Than You by valdes00(m): 9:43am On Apr 21, 2016 |
pedrilo:I really don't knw why u r pissed over sum1 else's problem.... tojubole |
Re: When She's Older Than You by valdes00(m): 9:44am On Apr 21, 2016 |
Randy91:If u say so |
Re: When She's Older Than You by valdes00(m): 9:47am On Apr 21, 2016 |
Atlantian:Lolzz.... u knw sumtin, av been on NL for more than five years .... comments like urs don't even move me..... I av a paying job and same applies to her.... I earn more than her... don't ask me hw I got to knw.... y'all r pissed cos of the age diff abi... av dated girls who am older than n av seen the diff.... so bro, pls no kill urself untop my matter... face ur own |
Re: When She's Older Than You by krak101(m): 9:52am On Apr 21, 2016 |
tottinova:yeah. You sounded hostile. No wahala sha. Remember back then in sec school... Most of your set girls were already dating your snrs especially when you were in your younger classes. Remember? The female system is wired such that they don't have regards for their mates in most cases. Somebody said females like to be "dominated" but I don't wanna use that word. So for me worst case scenario she has to be my mate. My Snr is a no go |
Re: When She's Older Than You by Temmytea70(m): 9:56am On Apr 21, 2016 |
valdes00: Bae abi mum? ... ...wait dere until she starts comparing herself with ur elder sisters at home.... . She'll be like "me and Seun, your elder sister arnt mates |
Re: When She's Older Than You by Tedassie(m): 10:08am On Apr 21, 2016 |
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Re: When She's Older Than You by Drfinn: 10:12am On Apr 21, 2016 |
It's quite interesting reading different views on this topic. Basically, three groups of thought have emerged. Those who see dating/marrying an older lady a 'taboo', those who given the right conditions will marry, and the supposed indifferent who seemed to be swayed by the arguments of the two aforementioned. One commentator did talk about genes as a deciding factor in age. While this is true to some extent it's not absolute. Science has proven without reasonable doubt that nature(genes) and nurture(environment) determine what becomes of an individual in the long run. Previously, nature seemed to have the upper hand, but advancement in science has reversed this trend. Environment/nurture is now a more potent determinant! Thus, a woman who probably due to genetics may age early can through nurture significantly delay this process. As an example medical science tells us if you have a family history of diabetes, hypertension or some other inheritable diseases your chances of developing same is high in comparison to someone without such family history. If this person with a family history of an inheritable diseases consciously imbibe healthy lifestyle his/her chances of manifesting the said disease is greatly reduced. The validity of this argument can be verified from any health practitioner. If the above argument is valid, then it's possible that an older lady may delay the natural tendency to aging by adopting healthy lifestyles. You don't have to have much money to look younger. The most important is to be health conscious. Watch what you eat. Exercise regularly. Take fruits and lots of vegetables. Get adequate sleep especially at night. Simply put reduce stress as much as possible. Like I said in one of my posts on this subject matter, dating/marrying an older lady are for real men. Men who understand the dynamics of relationships, and not swayed by societal perceptions. Most of the arguments against been with an older lady I have read so far are based on 'what will people say'. If you keep listening to the World you will never fulfill your destiny. Life is a choice though. Those who cannot date/marry an older lady are right in there own way. Marriage is a life journey. Thus, it's expedient one go into it with eyes wide open. Only the shoe wearer knows where it hurts the most. My one cent though. 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When She's Older Than You by Gamesmart: 10:19am On Apr 21, 2016 |
krak101: I doubt your mother is that much good looking to look just 4 years older than you. Except you are saying you are very ugly or your mother was pregnant at the age of like 10. |
Re: When She's Older Than You by davibid: 10:19am On Apr 21, 2016 |
Love is all that matters |
Re: When She's Older Than You by davibid: 10:22am On Apr 21, 2016 |
The truth is that these mature girls keep you focused and stand by you to achieve your goals timeously, there's no whimsical/incessant demands like those little girls we entangle with. Trust me, every guy willing to achieve something meaningful in life needs a woman by that I mean a mature one that has "the real woman's qualities". I'm 27 and my girl will be 30 by June and with all I've seen in her, we'll get married next year because she HAS everything l was looking for in a woman. #Age na just number oooo# 1 Like |
Re: When She's Older Than You by krak101(m): 10:24am On Apr 21, 2016 |
Gamesmart:none of the above. BTW beauty is in the eyes of the beholder abi you get standard measure for am I don't want my woman older than me. SIMPLE. And if you have any atom of regard for your mother you wouldn't speak of somebodys mother like that |
Re: When She's Older Than You by tottinova: 10:25am On Apr 21, 2016 |
krak101: Ok bro My girl is a year older than me That's why I gaz do small strong head |
Re: When She's Older Than You by krak101(m): 10:29am On Apr 21, 2016 |
tottinova:it's expected. Those e favour go give thumbs up and vice versa. Cheers to you two |
Re: When She's Older Than You by valdes00(m): 10:29am On Apr 21, 2016 |
Temmytea70:kikikikikiki... you really don't knw who she is, her attitude n hw humble she is so there is no point trying to mak u see reasons.... u r free to say anytin u like, its a free world... I Sha knw say no b u dey date am |
Re: When She's Older Than You by Maximus85(m): 10:30am On Apr 21, 2016 |
lwanibeauty: How can she "collect years from me"? 2 Likes |
Re: When She's Older Than You by Gamesmart: 10:37am On Apr 21, 2016 |
krak101: You are free not to want any woman older than you but do not demean other women with such fantasy comparison. The statements I made about your mother are actually most likely factual, no matter what beholder you are. 1) She is very unlikely to be good looking to the point she looks 4 years older than you. 2) She is very unlikely to have had you at an age that will allow her to look just 4 years older than you. Those two fundamental statements I made to you are so factual, it also applies to my mother and the mothers of 99.9% of people on this forum. So what offense are you taking? People should be more offended by your own attempt to belittle some section of womanhood. Next time just say "No, I don't want any woman older than me". Your point is then complete and sensible. 1 Like |
Re: When She's Older Than You by Temmytea70(m): 10:40am On Apr 21, 2016 |
valdes00: Buh invite me for una wedding o |
Re: When She's Older Than You by Nobody: 10:41am On Apr 21, 2016 |
Opoki: first comment to crack me up this morning I only date older guys anyway. Younger men are a no-no when it comes to serious relationships for me |
Re: When She's Older Than You by krak101(m): 10:47am On Apr 21, 2016 |
Gamesmart:just shut up if you can't read up my previous comments on the matter. I specifically said again and again it's a personal thing. I don't remember insulting anybody because of their choice or in any way belittling their choice. Watch your mouth cause I never said anything demeaning about womanhood |
Re: When She's Older Than You by Gamesmart: 10:53am On Apr 21, 2016 |
krak101: Your statement about a woman 4 years older than you looking like your mother is senseless. Your mother can not be that good looking that she looks 4 years older than you. Next time, make sense. It is 2016! 1 Like |
Re: When She's Older Than You by krak101(m): 10:58am On Apr 21, 2016 |
[quote author=Gamesmart post=44903421] Your statement about a woman 4 years older than you looking like your mother is senseless. Your mother can not be that good looking that she looks 4 years older than you. Next time, make sense. It is 2016![/quote ] You lack a sense of humour my bro. And why are you particular about my mum |
Re: When She's Older Than You by kay29000(m): 11:00am On Apr 21, 2016 |
I once dated a girl that was 5 years older than me, so I think I can marry a woman older than me. Actually, in my case, it was during NYSC, and she had reduced her age so she could go for service, cos she was already above 30. I got to find out about her real age when I had fallen in love with her. The only issue I had with her was that she usually defend me too much. I mean, she could even fight a man for me. lol! She was doing that out of love, but it kind of affected my relationship with her. A man will always want to be in charge. 1 Like |
Re: When She's Older Than You by Nobody: 11:02am On Apr 21, 2016 |
valdes00: Pls don't mind anyone discouraging you. As long as you and Yur partner understands each other and there's love.. my dear, build dreams and castles with her.. Typical majority of Nigerians will always want to discourage or make you feel doubts about whom your dating.. it's their Logo simply follow your mind and heart.. it pays at the end...if some people think it's easy to date someone for 2years without having problems but only good things to say about each other... well, .I wish them luck with the type of relationship they have. Some women can marry and respect a younger man while some can't. Everyone is not the same. And if your jewel loves and respect u, mehn go for her with full throttle. Simple. Best of luck 1 Like |
Re: When She's Older Than You by Nobody: 11:05am On Apr 21, 2016 |
Maximus85: Lol..... no mind the Op, as if anyone can collect person years and add to his or her own...they be wizard or winch? |
Re: When She's Older Than You by dayosweetness(m): 11:06am On Apr 21, 2016 |
FreeBSD:ah! has it gotten to that..easy bro!!! |
Re: When She's Older Than You by Olivebranches(m): 11:11am On Apr 21, 2016 |
Pls o help your fellow brother oooo. My girl is still communicating via phone with her ex- the guy that disvirgined her. The guy still beg her to come back according to her. I told her to stop communicating with him. I told her to call and tell him not to call her again. She did in my front (using loud speaker). But two days later the guy called her and she picked. They talked for 9 minutes. I talked to her condemned her action. Though she later appologised. I made her promise me never to communicate with him again. For hours now she's been unhappy and moody. Pls someone should tell me o, what's really going on?. |
Re: When She's Older Than You by WORLDPEACE(m): 11:14am On Apr 21, 2016 |
lwanibeauty:if its not something everyone knows and if she is not visibly older at the time we are dating. You would be surprised to find out it is quite common. People just don't broadcast it. |
Re: When She's Older Than You by valdes00(m): 11:19am On Apr 21, 2016 |
Amelian:Thank u sis.... I knw all this ppl on NL... so I can't b moved by their comments.... The kind of respect she gives me in this relationship is unbelievable... I didn't even gt such from my ex even wit d fact dat am older Dan her with 2yrs.... She's jus so exceptional.... 2yrs+ now n she has Neva given me any reason to back out... 1 Like |
Re: When She's Older Than You by valdes00(m): 11:21am On Apr 21, 2016 |
Temmytea70:I will try not to forget u. |
Re: When She's Older Than You by Opoki(m): 11:21am On Apr 21, 2016 |
BaconSandwich:it's normal to date older guys. Older men are meant to understand your emotions inside out but dating older women is a no no for me but I still ave to respect the guys opinion. Whatever rocks his boat. |
Re: When She's Older Than You by possibilita(m): 11:22am On Apr 21, 2016 |
Why not? P square mr p did it and he looks happy,Brock Lesnar's wife is 10yrs older than him n they are happy,who I be wey I go see better babe dey form? |
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