ify84:
Yes, she can.... By sitting round a table, ask him his does and don't.... Then, (carrying ur cross) u the woman live according to how he wants it....

Even wen u don't like his law, u close eyes, adjust

delishpot:


Abi, since she wants to die on top his matter. She should sidon there and live like a slave without her own desires. She was born a woman to live like a mans dog.
So.e women deserve double beating. Why on earth should a normal person want to work things out with someone who physically abuses her? Once a beater always a beater. Na only God fit turn a beater around.

byvan03:
Depends on if the abuse is a one time thing or habitual. There is hope when is a one time thing, otherwise they are both safer apart.

bukatyne:


Can't one time become habitual?

I think the first time is the deal breaker and needs to be handled well to prevent reoccurrence.

@OP: Is it physical abuse or fighting?

Two different things.

byvan03:




My sister some women are plain terrible. What do you expect a man being locked by the collar to do? If I am a man, I won't promise not knocking out a teeth or two. Even as a woman,i will try to see what I can do. You know once a woman is hit, most will claim abuse and not fighting. Yes ,how one time is handled will go a long way to decide what happens next.

I won't preach divorce or separation on a one time thing but I will advise it is appropriately handled to avoid re occurrence.

ify84:


We are looking at scenario where sacrifices must be made to keep d marriage

cococandy:
OP Why use Will smith as example? Did he tell you he used to beat his wife?
Rocky marriage or relationship doesn't mean it involved abuse.
No long term couple can say there haven't been rocky patches in their journey. That's life.

Abuse is a different kettle of fish altogether.

ify84:


We are looking at scenario where sacrifices must be made to keep d marriage

Blade21:
so so true. Coco how are you?? been a while I saw your post
.

cococandy:
I'm fine thank you

Blade21:
how baby

eyinjuege:


Some sacrifices are too great to make. At the end, its usually not worth it.

People seem to be fixated about this marriage issues though. I think any toxic relationship should be made away with and this isn't just about physical abuse. It cuts across both genders btw.

ify84:


For us who choose to live by Bible standard, we try to make it work by all means... (but for extreme cases, separation may become inevitable)

ify84:


We are looking at scenario where sacrifices must be made to keep d marriage

yeah, she sacrifices her life but hey Jackpot, she was married till her end.

ify84:


For us who choose to live by Bible standard, we try to make it work by all means... (but for extreme cases, separation may become inevitable)

eyinjuege:


The worst sin in the world is not divorce.

I doubt very much if the Bible standard supports adultery, fornication, and even beating your wife.

A man who does any of that has no moral high ground to speak against divorce in my own opinion.

KingEbukasBlog:
I saw this and that was what came to my mind first

Ishilove:

Instead of throwing it away, they fix it. Unfortunately we're in a 'throw it away' generation.

People marrying for the wrong reasons, people not willing to work it out, people emotionally and psychologically unprepared for marriage, people too undisciplined to be faithful etc. So many reasons why marriages these days are crashing left right and centre.

I do not advocate people remaining in abusive, destiny wasting marriages. If you can fix it, try. Don't leave any stone unturned in trying to make it work, but if at the end there's still no light at the end of the tunnel, then, by all means, 'throw it away'.