Godmother:
I noticed that a lot of men change after the wedding is concluded and marriage begins. They become a little withdrawn, very authoritative, and sometimes slightly selfish. Only what they want will happen in the home.

There's very little time to show affection to their woman as they claim they now have other pressing needs like putting food on the table.

Its well. I stand to be corrected if I'm wrong though.

Dyt:
Some are just that way
Some been that way but the lady might decide to ignore
And some are just some

Its both ways sha
The men will say I have you now, you can't do nothing
The women will say I am your wife already so



Btw Mr Godmother changed?

tranxo:


Hmmmm. Personal experience?

Adesiji77:

Godmother:


Lolz, he hasn't changed o. A friend came over to visit today and was complaining bitterly of her hubby. have also had some other friends drop the same complaint.

crackhaus:

Na so...

It's your friend's hubby that changed, as well as some other friends of yours who complained the same way.
Your own husband that did not change in/after marriage is not enough to tell you that not all men change abi, you still had to ask the question.

Oya clap for yourself...

Godmother:


Nope

tranxo:


Hmmmm. So how exactly did you 'notice' this?

crackhaus:

Na so...

It's your friend's hubby that changed, as well as some other friends of yours who complained the same way.
Your own husband that did not change in/after marriage is not enough to tell you that not all men change abi, you still had to ask the question.

Oya clap for yourself...

Nosu:
yes, Men change after wedding as well as the women, that is the reality.

You can't tell me that you are still the same person you were when you were in secondary school/university, some things must have certainly changed.

The truth remains that people don't like change and they resist it because they don't want to face reality.

After wedding the man and the woman suddenly take up different roles and more responsibilities than they were before the wedding.

After wedding, the man;


1. He becomes more logical( calculative): He is now more logical, He will not buy at impulse like he used to do before wedding. He now asked why(most of the time) before he attends to your requests.

2. The man becomes more quiet : as a result of number 1 and also because the wife can not manage or handle some information

3. He is more authoritative (controlling): You can't blame him, he is the head and if things go wrong due to his negligence even his wife will call him a fool

4. The calls reduces and the attention might also reduces: they are more concern about providing for the physical need of the family etc

someone should please help me with a list for the women folks. however, I know that the change for women is more obvious when they are pregnant.

Kimoni:


Crackhaus ijogbon

OP, even if you say your husband has changed and it's for reasons like pressure of putting food on the table as you highlighted, nothing to be ashamed of in that pls.
It's expected that some dynamics will change as a man's family increases and expenses grow, it's also expected that some things will change about the woman as her body goes through the rigors of multiple pregnancies and childbirths. Moods will change, bodies will change. Many women will swear their children have taught them to be more patient. These are just examples and there are many more...these changes are expected and every family will experience it in some way. It's how both parties handle it that makes the difference.