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Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Wahalaboy(m): 7:08am On Apr 28, 2016 |
Why Most girls today have a male best friend they call "bestie". And these besties serve as the chief custodians of the girl's emotional garbage. Because of how generally open minded, straightforward, interesting and mature guys are, girls have grown to prefer having them closer to their hearts as friends instead of having regular female best friends. https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=872632006119523&id=100001181960187&refid=17&_ft_=top_level_post_id.872632006119523%3Atl_objid.872632006119523%3Athid.100001181960187%3A306061129499414%3A2%3A1420099200%3A1451635199%3A4602917117226916723 113 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by akinz4u(m): 7:14am On Apr 28, 2016 |
OP nice write up... True front page material. |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by SuperSkata: 7:15am On Apr 28, 2016 |
If your girl tells you she has a male bestie.......DUMP HER ASAP!!! That is the first sign of Ashawo 76 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by faithugo64(f): 7:21am On Apr 28, 2016 |
very true op how about female besties ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Laveda(f): 7:23am On Apr 28, 2016 |
SuperSkata: I agree with some points the Op stated up there. But this your mentality is totally out of this world.. ![]() Jeeez ![]() 31 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Wahalaboy(m): 7:26am On Apr 28, 2016 |
I'm sorry I'm a bit new here and I don't know how things are done here. But why is everyone talking about OP, I wrote this post and posted it na. 1 Like 4 Shares |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by ireneony(f): 7:28am On Apr 28, 2016 |
op what do you want me to do now, since I relate more with males than females ![]() 7 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Wahalaboy(m): 7:28am On Apr 28, 2016 |
Secondly I don't know who's responsible for moving posts to the front page but they've been really unfair to me. You can click my profile to read most of my write ups that never got pushed. And I assure you, I never copy from anyone else. Everything I post here was written by myself. f 6 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Dojupyo(f): 7:32am On Apr 28, 2016 |
I love keeping guys as friends cos they are reliable, and your secrets can be kept with them (dem mature and responsible ones o), but having a male as my bestie, when I'm dating someone isn't right... Your boyfriend or husband/ girlfriend or wife should be your bestie to avoid stories that touches the heart 43 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Nobody: 7:37am On Apr 28, 2016 |
True in some cases not all, some male friends are better than female so most ladies can't help having one or two |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by lilmax(m): 7:37am On Apr 28, 2016 |
You cannot only be friends with a girl except shes extremely ugly or shes beautiful and you on the other hand have a very beautiful girlfriend 6 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by akinz4u(m): 7:41am On Apr 28, 2016 |
Wahalaboy:means original poster 'op' 7 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Hexzyz(m): 7:44am On Apr 28, 2016 |
I refuse to be any girls bestie or whatever they call it. Once I know it is what you are planning towards, making me your emotional back drop, I severe communication. 30 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Wahalaboy(m): 7:48am On Apr 28, 2016 |
akinz4u: Oh thanks. I appreciate. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by 0ubenji(m): 7:49am On Apr 28, 2016 |
Wahalaboy:Young man...if ur sole aim for makin thoughtul posts on NL is to hit frontpage.. Hmm u aint ready to impart ppl wit wah u claim to compose mehn.. Is it some YBNL kinda popularity u want or originality? 3 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by 4C2215131: 7:51am On Apr 28, 2016 |
Wahalaboy:. 'Bestie' as you term it is simply a means for a lady to 'eat her cake and have it'. Most women are emotionally greedy beings. She wants a 360 degree relationship which she knows is unavailable. She solves this dilemma by having that favourite male friend whom she wouldn't mind dating as he has everything she desires in a man except the fact that he's maybe broke for example! So she dates a well off chap [as for my most women, financial prowess ranks no.1 in their hierarchy of needs, their reason for going into a relationship] who may not be her ideal candidate while keeping the broke chap to provide her emotional succour when she needs it [and this is usually on a regular basis as she is a specie that cannot survive without affection. They need it to thrive never minding the source of said affection]. This is the reason they easily cheat with the so called friend. Fellas know this; save you fulfill this friend role in your relationship and/or your lady is trustworthy, she's probably cheating on you courtesy of her so called friend. Sad I know but, it's the fact of life. 33 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by mercenary: 7:52am On Apr 28, 2016 |
I just hope the GFs will read this Bestie dis bestie dat... He's just my bestie, we've been friends b4 I met u (story for the gods). And b4 u know it bestie is now ur bae's new bae I always advice people, ur bae's bestie is ur worst opponent on the sideline, hoping and praying u screw up so he can quickly jump in and take over. 9 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Wahalaboy(m): 7:53am On Apr 28, 2016 |
0ubenji: First, I don't want nairaland popularity, but the joy of everyone who actually writes his posts is for people, a large number of people to get to read it. I write thoughtful posts and yes I'll be glad if the views are much. So quit being hypocritical, every writer writes to be read by as many people as possible. What joy is there in composing a post only to be read by a very few people when crap posts are getting thousands of views? 59 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by 0ubenji(m): 7:56am On Apr 28, 2016 |
mercenary:Ur bae's bestie weda male or female is ur strong opponent.. Ideally..u shud be ur bae's bestie or probz cud arise... Its actually more toxic to u wen ur bae has lots of female pals or besties...only a matured nd experienced guy wit relationships wud undastand dis 5 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by 0ubenji(m): 8:02am On Apr 28, 2016 |
Wahalaboy:Let d post fight for itself..it'll be evident from d readers voices Great writers don't harrass publishers to get skyrocketin sales figures...don't misbehave.. U callin me hypocritical..hmmm...if u push ur luck too hard..I'll paste d link of the work u plagiarized nd burst ur bubble... U actin too desperate which is not a trait of originality I knw more than one place whr dis ur post came from ..I juz chose not to say anytin..coz my maturity doesn't revel in ppl's downfall..nd d next tin is take jibes at me? Hmmm.. These kids juz come on here finkin u can spew gibberish nd get a medal for it..#nonsense 4 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by 4C2215131: 8:04am On Apr 28, 2016 |
faithugo64: It's more difficult for the chap to cheat on his woman courtesy of a female friend. Why? female best friend without a hidden agenda wants to send a message to the chap that just because they are best of friends doesn't mean he can have her. Moreso, she may be in a vibrant relationship of her own and wouldn't want her man to assume the stuff I delineated in my other post. Again, their motherly instincts quickly come to play here. They see him as a child that needs guidance and good mothers don't sleep with their sons! Also, she may forever deny him any chance of being Cosy with her as payback for not choosing her in the first place thus, they religiously chant the "we are just good friends" mantra to anyone who cares to listen. There are other reasons but I'm tired of typing. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Wahalaboy(m): 8:09am On Apr 28, 2016 |
0ubenji: Firstly , I triple dare you to post any link of any work I allegedly plagarized. Secondly, I only made a point. Don't relate this to publishers and sales figures. The sole intention of posts being pushed to the front page is based on the quality of the post. I know the quality of what I write and yes I feel most of them deserve to be on the front page. I merely stated a complaint in the most polite way possible and you are making an issue out of it. I don't get paid for whatever I write online and the only encouragement I get is readership. 26 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by wilybebsy(m): 8:14am On Apr 28, 2016 |
I concur ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by 0ubenji(m): 8:18am On Apr 28, 2016 |
Wahalaboy: https://m.facebook.com/permalink.php?id=1415377562092632&story_fbid=1500237250273329 September 24th..2015 Let evry1 see it..simply copy nd paste..hardly any alteration.. Anytin else? OP 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by adaksbullet: 8:19am On Apr 28, 2016 |
While we mine gf as besty wen am hear do lovin u for her ![]() ![]() |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Wahalaboy(m): 8:22am On Apr 28, 2016 |
0ubenji: I wrote that post first on my Facebook account. I'll share the link now. Give me 5 mins. Thank you. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Wahalaboy(m): 8:26am On Apr 28, 2016 |
0ubenji: Here's the link to my own post... on 23rd of September, the person who plagiarized mine posted on 24th. https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=872632006119523&id=100001181960187&refid=17&_ft_=top_level_post_id.872632006119523%3Atl_objid.872632006119523%3Athid.100001181960187%3A306061129499414%3A2%3A1420099200%3A1451635199%3A4602917117226916723 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Wahalaboy(m): 8:33am On Apr 28, 2016 |
And Oubenji, just in case ure doubting if I'm Victor Daniel, you can check my nairaland profile for my details. Thank you. |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by 0ubenji(m): 8:36am On Apr 28, 2016 |
Wahalaboy:Don't bother dude..I was avoidin dis ..lolz I hate comin across to ppl as an antagonist.. U forced me into meddling in such morally unprofitable affairs dude.. As ur monicker implies..lolz...WAhaLAboY JUST LET IT GO 1 Like |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Wahalaboy(m): 8:38am On Apr 28, 2016 |
0ubenji: Ehn have you sha followed the link I posted ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by 0ubenji(m): 8:45am On Apr 28, 2016 |
Wahalaboy:Ofcuz I've viewed it....stil proves nothin to me..cox dat wasn't wah I was ur afta "ur downfall" I was actuali comin across u to u as a broda wit d advice tin b4 u threw stones.. Let's not go wit d originality of the post again..I dnt wanna stress u dis mornin OP..I can be incredulous if I wanna be.. We wud argue nd argue til thy kingdom come nd I stil no go bulge..nd it wud greatly derail dis thread of urs.. Do av a nice day mahn 2 Likes |
Re: Why Having Male Besties Will Affect Your Relationship Negatively by Nobody: 9:18am On Apr 28, 2016 |
Wahalaboy:You really don't have to keep replying that guy. You're only wasting your time. By the way, you're derailing your thread. 14 Likes |
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