ireneony:
op what do you want me to do now, since I relate more with males than females

Agu87:
do u bleep all of dem?

enieme:
My question to people who practise this is - whom are u closer to -ur spouse or opposite gender bestie? is it your bestie u discuss with issues u can't discuss with your spouse? . When ur having problems in ur home, do u report that to ur bestie?
Cos ko ye emi O.

ireneony:
nope!

PinkBarbie:
So? What am I supposed to do? Stop talking to my male bestie like you called it who we prolly met before we started dating? Why should I when you might even dump my ass tomorrow?

Only when I'm married will I reduce communication with any male friend who's not my husband. Or when the relationship is very close to the altar.

Agu87:
how many do u bleep?

naijaboiy:

Asin ehn!

ireneony:
none

Agu87:
ok...u rmbr me?

TheSonOfMark:



Change your Facebook privacy settings . Not everyone should be able to view your posts/details except friends or friends of friends.

naijaboiy:

[b]Don't forget your boyfriend would also have had series of female friends before you guys met, but how will you feel if he decides not to confide in you but rather tells his old friends things that he's meant to tell you?

There are many other reasons why he's your boyfriend not just to spend money on you and take you out. If your bestie is doing the work of companionship which your boyfriend is naturally supposed to do then it's better you date your bestie.

Having a male Bestie while still in a supposed serious relationship just cannot work. No matter the angle you look at it from, you'd still get the same result.[/b]

ireneony:
hmmm ok!

naijaboiy:

Don't forget your boyfriend would also have had series of female friends before you guys met, but how will you feel if he decides not to confide in you but rather tells his old friends things that he's meant to tell you?

There are many other reasons why he's your boyfriend not just to spend money on you and take you out. If your bestie is doing the work of companionship which your boyfriend is naturally supposed to do then it's better you date your bestie.

Besides, a guy who is in a relationship will not have the time to be a bestie to anothe female who is in a relationship. The both of you will clearly have different lives. Only single guys suck up to girls and claim besties.

Having a male Bestie while still in a supposed serious relationship just cannot work. No matter the angle you look at it from, you'd still get the same result.

Wahalaboy:
Why Most girls today have a male best friend they call "bestie". And these besties serve as the chief custodians of the girl's emotional garbage. Because of how generally open minded, straightforward, interesting and mature guys are, girls have grown to prefer having them closer to their hearts as friends instead of having regular female best friends.

However, because of some factors I'm going to highlight now, having a male bestie while at the same time having a boyfriend is toxic to your relationship.

1. Girls find it easier to be "just friends" with guys than vice-versa. In 7/10 of cases, the male bestie usually has hidden feelings for the female bestie. When a guy has feelings for a girl and she got problems with her relationship and she asks that guy for some advice, man, out of jealousy, he is most likely to give the girl an advice toxic to the girl's relationship like- "forget it, he's not meant for you" :v

2. There are lots of Emotions transferred through problem sharing:

See, when you find yourself really comfortable sharing your problems with someone, it heightens the emotional connection between the both of you. When you share your personal problems with a guy it increases the intimacy between you two. So when you have a boyfriend but you feel more comfortable talking to another guy about your problems and he's giving a listening ear, you both start developing some kind of intimacy you wouldn't believe. And if care isn't taken, that intimacy might develop into feelings.

3. A shoulder to cry on is a dick to ride on:

This is self explanatory. A girl is most vulnerable when she's all emotional crying to meet a male buddy of hers telling him about her heartache. Bae, if the guy wants to take advantage of you at that moment, even Karashika can't help you. When a girl is hurt she's most likely to cry to a close male friend of hers especially when the boyfriend caused the hurt. At that point she is weak as shit and she needs succor. In many cases I've seen, the guy let's her cry on his shoulder and the lips just gets locked and....

4. In most cases, the bestie is the funnier one-

Girls are automatically more attracted to a guy when he's funny. And believe me, girls prefer to spend more time with a funny person than a boring boyfriend. So in most cases the girl spends time texting or talking with her funny-as-shit bestie rather than her always uptight super-busy boyfriend. Aside the intimacy that grows from talking to constantly with a particular person, funny guys will make a girl laugh so much the girl don't even realize when she pulls her panties.

5. It creates an unnecessary competition between your boyfriend and your bestie:

It gets to a point when your bestie becomes jealous of your boyfriend and your boyfriend becomes insecure about your bestie. Infact at one point both parties would accuse you of choosing the other one over him.

6. It's easier to cheat with your male bestie than with anyone else:

You both get playing and one thing leads to the other and you both kiss. Nothing attached... "just kiss". Doesn't seem harmless though but then you realize that no matter how casual the kiss was, you cheated already. And when you do this habitually it develops from a harmless kiss into something deeper and before you know it, you become something like "friends with benefits".

7. You are most likely to develop feelings for your bestie because you only see the good side of him.

He's like everything your boyfriend isn't. He has time to listen to your problems, he generally pays more attention to you, he's usually funnier. So you might get carried away by his charms because you only see that good part of him he shows you. When you fall for him and maybe you had to end your relationship because of him, you realize that he wasn't much better than your boyfriend.

0ubenji:

Young man...if ur sole aim for makin thoughtul posts on NL is to hit frontpage..
Hmm u aint ready to impart ppl wit wah u claim to compose mehn..
Is it some YBNL kinda popularity u want or originality?

Wahalaboy:


Firstly , I triple dare you to post any link of any work I allegedly plagarized. Secondly, I only made a point. Don't relate this to publishers and sales figures. The sole intention of posts being pushed to the front page is based on the quality of the post. I know the quality of what I write and yes I feel most of them deserve to be on the front page. I merely stated a complaint in the most polite way possible and you are making an issue out of it. I don't get paid for whatever I write online and the only encouragement I get is readership.

Wahalaboy:


Here's the link to my own post... on 23rd of September, the person who plagiarized mine posted on 24th.

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=872632006119523&id=100001181960187&refid=17&_ft_=top_level_post_id.872632006119523%3Atl_objid.872632006119523%3Athid.100001181960187%3A306061129499414%3A2%3A1420099200%3A1451635199%3A4602917117226916723

Oliviaarims:


Vindicated.

naijaboiy:
Oliviaarims I think you should see this.

Wahalaboy:


Thank you very much jor.

Ifakiland:

very false my bro, wen a gal starts calling a guy bestie, it means she sees him as a non-sexual organism. Unless d guy rapes her, notin sexual can happen btw dem.