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Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by jaybee3(m): 4:53pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
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Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by FynBabe(f): 5:03pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
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Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by dominique(f): 5:14pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
Chikabel: No amount of contribution towards charity is too little dear. God will continue to reward, favour and elevate you amongst your peers. jaybee3: We're so grateful ma'am, God bless you. Madam EfemanaXY, I sight you. Please come to our aid. |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by jaybee3(m): 5:21pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by EfemenaXY: 5:24pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
TeHN: It's not enough to say her husband just "went away". That's convenient. Where is he? What about family from both her side and his? So when all her bills have been offset by "well meaning Nigerians", the husband would then waltz back in their lives and take his rightful position? I'm sorry, even though I do empathise with this lady's plight, she's still a lot, lot, lot better off than thousands out there. Her situation doesn't qualify as 'dire' as she's still able to afford 3 square meals for her 4 kids. Expecting people to pay out for her children's private school fees is a luxury she (quite frankly) can't afford. #My Opinion# 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by ifyalways(f): 6:45pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
Sorry guys, would transfer something now. PS: I think mrs Akinlani should enrol the kids in government schools. There are still good ones around. God bless you guys @ Tehn. |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by dominique(f): 6:46pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
EfemenaXY: I totally get your points. Do allow me to clarify, the woman never reached out to TeHN or anybody for assistance, I did (and when I did, I didn't know a thread would be created).The reason why she opened up to me about her situation was because she wants me to hire her to do my laundry and to have her in mind in case I need a caterer. I only looked within myself to see the little way i could assist. Even though her income flow is extremely low at the monent, she still manages to put a few hundred Naira away towards their welfare and her business. About her husband coming back into their lives, the possibility is extremely slim; even she doesn't want him back. For her, her children's school fees is not a luxury, she's prepared to do starve and do the dirtiest of jobs to keep paying them (she told me that much this very afternoon). And no, she's not expecting anybody to continue to shoulder her responsibilities. What I feel she needs is a little assistance to ease her through this difficult period. She is at risk of being evicted right now as it is, we don't know how long the landlady's patience will be tested. She is very hardworking and extremely prudent with cash. once she's abke to bounce back at her trade, she will be able to put money away to continue handling tgeir welfare like before (gosh! I'm starting to sound like a broken record ![]() ![]() 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by Aminat508(f): 6:54pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
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Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by EfemenaXY: 7:19pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
dominique: Dominique, thanks for the explanation. I do get where you're coming from but let's be practical and do some sums here. You mentioned earlier that this lady is at the verge of being kicked out of her home and onto the streets with her 4 kids for non-payment of her rent. ~ The outstanding school fees for her kids (probably a year's worth?) = N75K ~ Outstanding rent arrears + 1 year's full rent = N42K The amount owed for her kids private school education is over 3 years worth of rent (N72K) + an extra N3K. TeHN: Yes, we all like the finer things in life and strive to do give our kids the best. But there comes a point in time where when faced with hardship that one just has prioritize. Right now, having a roof over their heads is way more important than keeping them in a school she can't afford. Even over here, we do get people that have to make a hard choice between "heat" or "eat". (i.e. keeping warm during the bitter cold winter nights, or having something to eat). Food, clothing, and shelter are basic primary necessities that should never be compromised. Education (private education) is a secondary need for which an alternative (government schools) exist. She should pull her kids out of that / those schools, use the money to secure the roof over their heads and kick-start her failing business. As her business slowly starts to recover, she should look to either sending her kids to extra after-school-lessons, or employing the cheaper services of a young unemployed graduate to teach her kids at home. When she's firmly back in business, then and only then should she consider sending her kids back to private schools (on the basis that she'll be able to comfortably afford the fees). 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by baby124: 8:17pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
I quite agree with Mena. Though I tend to have ADD on NL because of long and grueling work days, and can't write long paragraphs in support of Efemena's opinion... I think whatever she gets should be put into her business or savings. You do have to understand Dominique that it is hard for people to contribute to a woman that does not seem to have her priorities right. Though our priorities are all so very different. Being that she is someone who is not so educated, I do understand her desperation to give her kids the best. I hope this was not why the husband ran because he clearly could not afford the best. Not pointing finger's but some women do push too hard to live above their means. A roof over the head and supplement lessons is more valuable to her right now than a private school fees. However, I am sure you can never convince her otherwise. May God help us to help her. 2 Likes |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by mysticgal(f): 8:25pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
I quite concur with the last two posters above me. |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by Shadeolad(f): 9:13pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
It's not easy to just enroll kids in govt school as u all think. Lots of man no man couple with bribery and corruption. And there are certain classes they take. And they always prefer kids to start from scratch with them. They have laid down rules as per admission. Mrs Falana's 1st child is in Jss2. No gvt school will take him now,except when he's going to ss1. The 2nd is in basic 5, no Govt schl will accept such transfer until jss 1. 3rd is basic 3,(may be 1st term they may accept her). U all can see dat such transfer cannot be immediate, and lots of palms to grease in d process. Pls let us help her get out of the immediate predicament, so she can stand on her feet again.te author=EfemenaXY post=45161400] Dominique, thanks for the explanation. I do get where you're coming from but let's be practical and do some sums here. You mentioned earlier that this lady is at the verge of being kicked out of her home and onto the streets with her 4 kids for non-payment of her rent. ~ The outstanding school fees for her kids (probably a year's worth?) = N75K ~ Outstanding rent arrears + 1 year's full rent = N42K The amount owed for her kids private school education is over 3 years worth of rent (N72K) + an extra N3K extra. Yes, we all like the finer things in life and strive to do give our kids the best. But there comes a point in time where when faced with hardship that one just has prioritize. Right now, having a roof over their heads is way more important than keeping them in a school she can't afford. Even over here, we do get people that have to make a hard choice between "heat" or "eat". (i.e. keeping warm during the bitter cold winter nights, or having something to eat). Food, clothing, and shelter are basic primary necessities that should never be compromised. Education (private education) is a secondary need for which an alternative (government schools) exist. She should pull her kids out of that / those schools, use the money to secure the roof over their heads and kick-start her failing business. As her business slowly starts to recover, she should look to either sending her kids to extra after-school-lessons, or employing the cheaper services of a young unemployed graduate to teach her kids at home. When she's firmly back in business, then and only then should she consider sending her kids back to private schools (on the basis that she'll be able to comfortably afford the fees).[/quote] |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by Shadeolad(f): 9:14pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
It's not easy to just enroll kids in govt school as u all think. Lots of man no man couple with bribery and corruption. And there are certain classes they take. And they always prefer kids to start from scratch with them. They have laid down rules as per admission. Mrs Falana's 1st child is in Jss2. No gvt school will take him now,except when he's going to ss1. The 2nd is in basic 5, no Govt schl will accept such transfer until jss 1. 3rd is basic 3,(may be 1st term they may accept her). U all can see dat such transfer cannot be immediate, and lots of palms to grease in d process. Pls let us help her get out of the immediate predicament, so she can stand on her feet again[color=#990000][/color].te author=EfemenaXY post=45161400] Dominique, thanks for the explanation. I do get where you're coming from but let's be practical and do some sums here. You mentioned earlier that this lady is at the verge of being kicked out of her home and onto the streets with her 4 kids for non-payment of her rent. ~ The outstanding school fees for her kids (probably a year's worth?) = N75K ~ Outstanding rent arrears + 1 year's full rent = N42K The amount owed for her kids private school education is over 3 years worth of rent (N72K) + an extra N3K extra. Yes, we all like the finer things in life and strive to do give our kids the best. But there comes a point in time where when faced with hardship that one just has prioritize. Right now, having a roof over their heads is way more important than keeping them in a school she can't afford. Even over here, we do get people that have to make a hard choice between "heat" or "eat". (i.e. keeping warm during the bitter cold winter nights, or having something to eat). Food, clothing, and shelter are basic primary necessities that should never be compromised. Education (private education) is a secondary need for which an alternative (government schools) exist. She should pull her kids out of that / those schools, use the money to secure the roof over their heads and kick-start her failing business. As her business slowly starts to recover, she should look to either sending her kids to extra after-school-lessons, or employing the cheaper services of a young unemployed graduate to teach her kids at home. When she's firmly back in business, then and only then should she consider sending her kids back to private schools (on the basis that she'll be able to comfortably afford the fees).[/quote] |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by baby124: 9:15pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
Shadeolad:Not true at all. A little girl living with my retired mother was enrolled with no problem. As long as you pay tax. And she did not start from JSS1 3 Likes |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by dominique(f): 9:41pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
I don't know the moralities involved in registering children in public schools but those schools in that neighborhood are way below par. A school where the primary six pupils can't speak clear English. I see some of them on a daily basis, yelling and cursing at one other in native language, there's no way you would want your children to be a part of that if you want a bright future for them. There are cheaper private schools she can enrol them in but by the time she pays for the registration and buy new uniforms, it all amounts to the current fees she's paying if not more. @Baby124, I want to correct impression that she may have chased her husband away with school fees expenses. She handled the children's fees all by herself for FOUR solid years, coupled with other household expenses. What he usually contribute to was rent and feeding and shortly before he took off he had not been providing any, that was why the expired rent ran on for months. Her major source of income is her shop which is basically dried up now. If she's able to bring it back to its former state but unable to continue with the children's fees, then I expect her to make necessary adjustments. |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by Shadeolad(f): 10:53pm On Apr 29, 2016 |
[color=#006600][/color] baby124:. Thank God u mentioned tax. That will be one of d numerous requirements which am sure she does not have. Besides in Nigeria here, students are in their 3rd term, no Govt school admits at this term except thru d backdoor and where's she going to get d money to grease palms from? 2 Likes |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by EfemenaXY: 9:34am On Apr 30, 2016 |
dominique: A brilliant child is a brilliant child and will thrive irrespective of which school he / she attends. dominique: Re: the bolded, if that is the case, then she shouldn't have any school fees arrears, if as you say, she's been footing the bills comfortably. Her rent arrears, based on your explanation is understandable. She's in so much debt right now, it doesn't make sense to build it up any further based on sentimental reasons. There is only so long you can test the patience of creditors and right now, her keeping those kids in a private school she can't afford is simply widening the hole she's already in. Her expenses far outweigh her income so it make perfect sense to pull them out and stop her debts from accumulating. At one point, she might have to consider relocating back to the village if that would be more affordable, as she's barely sustaining the roof over their heads. She also needs to reach out to both sides of the family to help track down her run away husband, settle their differences, and work together for the betterment of their family. It's a two man job and quite frankly, she isn't coping on her own. Not if she's resorting to begging from strangers. 2 Likes |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by EfemenaXY: 9:40am On Apr 30, 2016 |
Shadeolad: You just don't get it, do you? She can't continue to live above her means. It's not sustainable and sooner or later, it will all come crashing down before her. Things like these are capable of inducing high blood pressure. Just reading about it in itself is enough... 2 Likes |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by jaybee3(m): 9:53am On Apr 30, 2016 |
N10K received from Mrs Anonymous Thanks ever so much for your support 1 Like |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by Onegai(f): 10:16am On Apr 30, 2016 |
I agree with Efemena. Sorry guys. Try and help her restructure her lifestyle to fit her current situation (i don't know how long she can sustain herself on donations from strangers). But I'll put her in prayers. 3 Likes |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by dominique(f): 12:19pm On May 01, 2016 |
I typed a lenghty reply last night, where on earth did it go? ![]() jaybee3: God bless you ma'am. May we never lack the basics of life. |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by dominique(f): 12:56pm On May 01, 2016 |
EfemenaXY: The reason she had arrears on the fees was because she was also offsetting a loan she took on behalf of herself and her husband (I thought I mentioned this before ![]() I'm afraid your suggestions are just not feasible, and can not be actualized at this moment. First, like shadeloaded said, no public schools admit pupils during the third term, even to transfer will require a lot of connections. Secondly, to pack up and relocate to a village may even require even more funds than what she needs at the moments. Renting a new place, paying agent's fees, agreement, commission, damages then hiring a moving truck to move their things and settling down with four kids. Setting up a business in a place you're known to no one could be a bit slow and frustrating, not what I'd recommend to someone who is low on cash. Regarding reaching out to family, her own family is not so buoyant and are mostly out of state. Her husband's family had initially promised to handle half of the rent at the wake of his disappearance. Till now she's yet to hear from them. Some of her friends she initially intimate about her situation have started avoiding her. It took her almost a month before she told me, not because she wanted me to organize a fund raising gala, but she wanted me to hire her to do my laundry. I would never have approached TeHN if I didn't see someone truely in need and capable of turning her situation around if can get a little boost. If you feel she doesn't deserve any, fine. Your suggestions and opinion are extremely valuable even if they cannot be acted upon at this point in time. I will still relay them to her when next I see her so she can act on them in good time. Thanks ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by Mediapace: 7:16pm On May 02, 2016 |
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Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by Mediapace: 7:24pm On May 02, 2016 |
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Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by myfantasies(f): 8:21pm On May 02, 2016 |
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Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by Mediapace: 8:42pm On May 02, 2016 |
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Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by Aminat508(f): 9:09pm On May 02, 2016 |
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Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by myfantasies(f): 9:25pm On May 02, 2016 |
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Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by Mediapace: 7:21am On May 03, 2016 |
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Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by Julietcutie(f): 7:41am On May 03, 2016 |
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Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by dominique(f): 9:51am On May 03, 2016 |
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Re: Re: Clarion Call To Help Intervene In Mrs Akinlana And Her Children’s Lives by Julietcutie(f): 10:08am On May 03, 2016 |
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