delishpot:
Yes. The custom of enslavement. Later you guys come here to wonder why our mothers and foremothers never left their abusive and sad marriages. This is the reason why. The custom made sure to tie a woman down to a man one way or the other.man.
If she left the child as custom wants to force her to do, it's still those same hypocrites that will say she abandoned her baby and left the marriage. If she wants to carry her baby and leave those same people will say according to custom she should leave baby with the man. How then can a woman escape an unhappy and abusive marriage?

scully95:


Where did you see how it tied them down ? So you did not learn anything from the write up ? It only says Child belongs to the Father. it did not tie anyone to anywhere. It's only sensible to try to work things out irrespective of issues. The case of Tiwa is totally different and op decided to react to the part she said about the Kid cos that is the only rope left tieing them together after tiwa removed the Business rope by sacking her manager, her husband over a small issue that could be resolved via other ways.

delishpot:


It ties her down. She said he is free to see his child but OP says child belongs to the man. So what does that do to tiwa? Should she leave the child and go?
Child belongs to both parents. This is why I advice parents to collect #1 bride price so if the man starts forming I spent my money to marry you, you just slap his face with his yeye bride price and kick his ass out.
No be force Na. She wants to move on let her be.

scully95:


Who is talking about bride price here ? The Child belonging to the Father, means it used the rope to tie the wife down to the father right ? If the wife wants to go here, she's also free to go. So what's the point ?

How did that tie the wife down to the Husband ? She can also visit but the father will have full custody of the child (especially when it's one child) and when Child grows up to 18 he or she can decide where to go.


And this is simply because of Ladies generally. Single ladies in Yoruba land are always suspected to be fcking about anyhow or some even turn prostitutes. (Even when they are married they are still fcking abt carelessely, and kids learn very fast from them especially when these kids are not with their fathers or the two living together)

So you expect the kid here to grow up and be like her mother right ? Again this is not London or Uk or even Russia where they have a different culture. This is Yoruba land and the helders must have seen a lot before coming to this conclusion.

If we are to even go by your idealism of slavery, it's catholic here that is doing that. As we speak it's almost impossible to get a divorce and marry again in Catholic church.
What is that ?

delishpot:

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It is slavery. Anyway, let's agree to disagree. Thank you for being a great sport. Some others would have cussed my head out

scully95:

You are welcome... I don't use loose words first.. I was actually waiting for you to use cussed words before I fire my own.. Infact I have prepared what to say already lol..

Take care..

onadana:
If the foundations are destroyed.....most marriages are built on faulty foundation.Most of this people don't know God or do they fear Him.No matter what we do when God is not in it anything can happen.

scully95:


Where did you see how it tied them down ? So you did not learn anything from the write up ? It only says Child belongs to the Father. it did not tie anyone to anywhere. It's only sensible to try to work things out irrespective of issues. The case of Tiwa is totally different and op decided to react to the part she said about the Kid cos that is the only rope left tieing them together after tiwa removed the Business rope by sacking her manager, her husband over a small issue that could be resolved via other ways.