I remember wanting to scold my sister one hot Sunday afternoon for not preparing our lunch. In those brief seconds before I could utter a word, I had a flash back. Not so long ago, I was in my apartment in school and my girlfriend came visiting. There was no food in the house and as expected I asked her to fix something so we could eat but she bluntly refused, insisting that she was tired and didn’t know how to cook. Those words angered me and I rebuked her. She is a woman and ought to know how to cook I said. I had bragged so much to my friends that I could never be with a lady who didn’t know how to cook. To me it was a sign of bad home training. So, the fact that my girlfriend could not cook was a slap on my face and I wasn’t going to let it slide. Well, I would like to inform you that I cooked and I did the dishes that day.

Women are very important. The very first person you would ever come in contact with in your life is a woman. From conception to the nurturing stage down to adulthood, women play crucial roles. You can’t help but admire these beautiful and wonderful people who have this immense ability to give–most times a little too much of themselves. And they do this for the betterment of people in their lives.

Unfortunately for women, life hasn’t been so kind to them. They’ve always been seen as second-class citizens; their voices have been silenced. Though things are a little bit different now, there is still this undertone as regards male and female rating.

‘It is a man’s world’ you would often hear. Everything and anything revolves round the fingertips of a man. And when the idea of gender equality is raised, many men scoff at it and tag it unorthodox. A colleague of mine, a guy once said that he felt ashamed when a lady surpassed him in class. While some might accept these ideas of gender equality explicitly, their attitude towards women still remain unchanged. I must confess, a few of these ideas still sound foreign and need conscious effort to see them through. The reason being that, you can accept an idea but still not implement it because of your previous knowledge and upbringing. For example, I’ve always supported gender equality but on few occasions, I find myself agitated when I have to receive instructions from a female colleague. That’s the issue, many men feel that way in such situations. But what we fail to realize is that the female is in that position to instruct because of her abilities and not her gender and that, we need to respect. Differentiation and segregation is one of the world’s leading problems today and we should continue to fight against it irrespective of which form it chooses to present itself.

Lastly, it’s not all about you (men)—and this is on a personal level. Most times when I’m having a conversation with my sane friends—talking about the future—we find ourselves tilted towards the relationship angle. We want good industrious women who would support our dreams and make us happy—chastising the ones who seem dreamless. But thinking about it now, those are selfish goals. I’ve seen many women live their lives through the eyes of their husbands and children—like they are just spectators. They are constantly making sacrifices. Most times they are not accorded the luxury to pursue significant goals because the men in their lives see it as a threat and they end up taking the back seats. I’ve even heard about cases where husbands pay their wives salary for staying at home and attending to domestic work or if he is kind enough, he would open a boutique or super market for her. I find that laughable because these women are graduates and can offer more than just wallowing in something they have no passion or desire for.

I was watching a TV programme last week and the presenter asked this question: If you and your wife were working in the same organisation and she earned more than you. A situation arises that entails one of you quitting your jobs, would you step down for your wife? Some men that were interviewed said they wouldn’t quit. It seems to me that, a few men are afraid of their women being independent. Though I attributed such choices to infantile education, but I still see some educated men handling with such ideas. It is repulsive—this excessive need to control by a few men. This fear is as a result of the belief that when a woman is out of your control, she would immediately lose respect for you but that’s not always the case. Moreover, a woman is not an animal that needs to be tamed. Before I got into the university, I worked for a particular lady. It was obvious that she was earning more than her husband but her respect for her husband was impeccable. I’ve met a lot of women but that lady stands out. And never for once was her husband’s ego threatened by her accomplishment.

Let’s support our women. I know of a woman who moved from the level of an uneducated housewife to a career woman. Mind you, her husband did not have a degree but he never saw that as a reason to distort his wife’s dream. When a woman wants to explore her potentials, rather than just use her sexuality to subdue her position, I believe she should get the necessary support to achieve her goal.


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Rubbish. You can as well say we should become the wives and allow them be the husbands. Our roles in the family and society are different, it's all about role play and not being equal, if you quit ur job for ur wife, what does that make you? A house husband, maybe you should also get the impregnated in her stead when it's time to make babies.

you this poster what the heck are trynna say?..ok




Stay with a woman that earns higher and maybe even foots bills more than u do and see the way she loses respect for you.



Common 20k my ex gave to me(borrowed) we no hear word again. That was the worst intinidation ive ever experienced and since then i cant see reasons with u.......




Fvck GENDER EQUALITY iTS NEVER GON HAPPEN!

Gender equality means different thing to different people expecially here in Nigeria. Now, let me point out that, the HOME and work place are Two different entity entirely.people mix these two things up when ever they hear "gender equality" and this is one of the problems.
I don't support gender equality(a man being equal to a woman in the home setting) no I don't, I'm not a man, and I can never be one. A Queen has her duties, and place in the kingdom. And in that Kingdom, the role of a king and a queen are not the same, even though the common interest is to make the kingdom progress. So in the HOME setting, it's a big NO for gender equality.

Now, the WORK environment; I think the right words to use here should be "equal opportunity" irrespective of the gender.
When in the working environment, everyone should be Objective and not subjective. Man is the head of HIS HOME not someone's WORKING ENVIRONMENT. whoever is qualified for a job shoild be given. Look at it like this, a man and a woman are both aiming to be a professor, the woman has her Bcs, Msc and a PHd, while the man has just Bcs. Should I now consider the man's application because he is a MAN? NO! It doesn't work that way. There are protocols to be followed, the work environment is not like the home which has alrdy been programmed.
In the work environment, you are not made the head simply because you are a man. No, go and head your Home and spare the working environment. If you feel you are too big to be under a woman's supervision then simply resign, and work on improving your CV to be higher than the female boss. And if she happens to be the owner of the establishment, then resign and open yours if it's easy.
The thing is the family as one of the social institutions we have to me is the strongest. Because the family has a way of molding the minds of its members. You can't grow up in a house where we have the mother totally depending on her husband for every little thing and think the children won't follow suit. It takes a whole lot of personal decision to break out of whatever family induction a child receives.

What I'm saying is this, you don't get things handed over to you because of your gender. the blending of nature with gender is what we call EQUITY! And if there is anything for the female gender to even fight for it should be "equity" and there is a law that protects that, so really I don't think we have any struggle as regards "gender equality" because most of the flag flyers don't even know what it entails.
If you can't handle the success of a woman then please, don't call yourself a MAN, the word MAN is a strong hold, don't rubbish it because of your insecurities and low self esteem.

wasak:
Rubbish. You can as well say we should become the wives and allow them be the husbands. Our roles in the family and society are different, it's all about role play and not being equal, if you quit ur job for ur wife, what does that make you? A house husband, maybe you should also get the impregnated in her stead when it's time to make babies.

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PREACH!!!!

wasak:
Rubbish. You can as well say we should become the wives and allow them be the husbands. Our roles in the family and society are different, it's all about role play and not being equal, if you quit ur job for ur wife, what does that make you? A house husband, maybe you should also get the impregnated in her stead when it's time to make babies.

firstly equity has nothing to do with roles. When the blacks in europe and america struggled for equity and freedom, the basic concept behind that was to have equal opportunities as the whites and also that they are treated with mutual respect and not judged by the color of their skin. Segregation occurs in different forms in our society, as in this case, men are deemed better than women basically because of their physiology and that doesn't really count as key factor in this present times. I put it to you that if men were as capable as you claim we are then the world won't be in such a deteriorating state. Would you disrespect your boss in the office because she is a women, no, you will lose your job for that. Isn't someone you call a Boss lord over you (to a certain degree)? So why would it irk a man to put his women in a position above his for the welfare of his family? the fact that she earns more than him means she is of more value to the firm then he is and now they are giving him the chance to choose, do you think it's sane to forgo his wife's better chances for his ego? Back to the example i gave, the women has leverage over the man as she earns more. And now one has to quit for some reason, is it logical for a lady who earns more than her husband to step down because she wants to protect her husband's frail ego? when the extra change can foot other bills. It is another thing if she willing wants to step them in their position.I put it to you that any man who does such is a weak man and has no idea of manhood. He lacks the will and wisdom to protect the interest of the home. look at the clintons'--Bill's wife is running for president, and does that make him less of a man? No, he has occupied that position and now its in their best interest that she run, given his scandals. That's a man who respects his women and understands the dynamics of a relationship.

amokeme:
Gender equality means different thing to different people expecially here in Nigeria. Now, let me point out that, the HOME and work place are Two different entity entirely.people mix these two things up when ever they hear "gender equality" and this is one of the problems.
I don't support gender equality(a man being equal to a woman in the home setting) no I don't, I'm not a man, and I can never be one. A Queen has her duties, and place in the kingdom. And in that Kingdom, the role of a king and a queen are not the same, even though the common interest is to make the kingdom progress. So in the HOME setting, it's a big NO for gender equality.

Now, the WORK environment; I think the right words to use here should be "equal opportunity" irrespective of the gender.
When in the working environment, everyone should be Objective and not subjective. Man is the head of HIS HOME not someone's WORKING ENVIRONMENT. whoever is qualified for a job shoild be given. Look at it like this, a man and a woman are both aiming to be a professor, the woman has her Bcs, Msc and a PHd, while the man has just Bcs. Should I now consider the man's application because he is a MAN? NO! It doesn't work that way. There are protocols to be followed, the work environment is not like the home which has alrdy been programmed.
In the work environment, you are not made the head simply because you are a man. No, go and head your Home and spare the working environment. If you feel you are too big to be under a woman's supervision then simply resign, and work on improving your CV to be higher than the female boss. And if she happens to be the owner of the establishment, then resign and open yours if it's easy.
The thing is the family as one of the social institutions we have to me is the strongest. Because the family has a way of molding the minds of its members. You can't grow up in a house where we have the mother totally depending on her husband for every little thing and think the children won't follow suit. It takes a whole lot of personal decision to break out of whatever family induction a child receives.

What I'm saying is this, you don't get things handed over to you because of your gender. the blending of nature with gender is what we call EQUITY! And if there is anything for the female gender to even fight for it should be "equity" and there is a law that protects that, so really I don't think we have any struggle as regards "gender equality" because most of the flag flyers don't even know what it entails.
If you can't handle the success of a woman then please, don't call yourself a MAN, the word MAN is a strong hold, don't rubbish it because of your insecurities and low self esteem.

well said. Another thing i would like to point out here is that the man stepping down for his wife--which is the right thing to do (in my opinion) Doesn't mean he is at her mercy and would depend on her for his family sustenance. He can peruse his career elsewhere. Let me emphasize here that he only gave her an opportunity he wouldn't have utilized as she would.
i want us men to come out of this dark mentality which has plagued most relationship, that a woman should be lesser than the man in the home. If you go by the Bible, it says WOMEN SUBMIT. She is submitting something worthwhile and not inferior. Thus being threaten by a woman's achievement or potentials is sheepish and childish and not what a REAL MAN WOULD DO.
lately this post has little or nothing to do with role. The focal point of this post is INPUT IN THE HOME. Both parties--man and wife-- should be able to contribute equally to the welfare of the home . And were one can contribute even more, i believe they should be given the chance , irrespective of their gender

A woman can never be equal to a man. God clearly specified the roles to the first man and woman.

He made the woman a helpmate, and not a sole provider.

Adaobi12:
A woman can never be equal to a man. God clearly specified the roles to the first man and woman.

He made the woman a helpmate, and not a sole provider.

Please i would advise that you don't take things out out context
And if you read your Bible properly it was stated in Genesis that a woman's will would be subjected to that of her husband...That was the only direct statement made by God on that issue that i know of. It never said women are subjected to all men, no, it said to her husband ONLY. And i can argue that the curse--because it was a curse placed on eve after they sinned against God--doesn't hold any ground since Jesus came to atone for the sins of adam (going biblical). It was a curse not a role assigned to women by God (please read the creation story). Even adam when he first saw eve called her THE BONE OF HIS BONES and THE FLESH OF HIS FLESH, meaning she was like him, in other words EQUAL to him.I strongly don't support arguing about the bible by the way.
Secondly, i never mentioned anything here about the woman being the sole provider, so where you got that idea from beats me.
and lately the same Bible you talk about says in the new testament how we are all equal in the sight of God. If you feel you cannot be equal to a man, be it on to you dear.