carinmom:
Jazakallah khayran @Op for this reminder.

All muslim guys and ladies should take note particularly my two brothers Lexiconkabir and Demmzy15.

Demmzy15:
My dear Ukti, I'm working on it!

carinmom:

Masha'Allah may Allah make it easy for you and may He give you spouse who is pious and God fearing.

Ameen, you're welcome to come for the ceremony!

carinmom:
Jazakallah khayran @Op for this reminder.

All muslim guys and ladies should take note particularly my two brothers Lexiconkabir and Demmzy15.

lexiconkabir:


JazakAllah khairan.. will be married next year insha Allah....before i go for service.

Demmzy15 when exactly..."working on it" is still undefined

Newnas:


ma shaa Allah make it easy.

as for brother "working on it " may Allah ease your task.

lexiconkabir:


JazakAllah khairan.. will be married next year insha Allah....before i go for service.

Masha'Allaah, hope I'm invited?!

Demmzy15 when exactly..."working on it" is still undefined

Demmzy15:


Masha'Allaah, hope I'm invited?!

Demmzy15 when exactly..."working on it" is still undefined

I really want to wallahi, but I want to marry before I graduate in school. Something they call misyar marriage, but I don't know how credible it is. Especially when I heard it's an insult to some sisters, I thought maybe after I graduate I could now elaborate the marriage ceremony after misyar!

Cc Newnas

lexiconkabir:


Misyar marriage aint advisable... I personally dont like it, though its permissible if all the conditions of nikkah are met....but why thinking of misyar?

lexiconkabir:


JazakAllah khairan.. will be married next year insha Allah....before i go for service.

Demmzy15 when exactly..."working on it" is still undefined

carinmom:


Alhamdulillah brother i'm happy for you, i hope i will be invited when the time comes

I wish you all the best and Allah's guidance.

Demmzy15:


Masha'Allaah, hope I'm invited?!



I really want to wallahi, but I want to marry before I graduate in school. Something they call misyar marriage, but I don't know how credible it is. Especially when I heard it's an insult to some sisters, I thought maybe after I graduate I could now elaborate the marriage ceremony after misyar!

Cc Newnas

carinmom:


Hmmm what is misyar marriage again? Hope its not like mut'ah oo.

Demmzy15:


Masha'Allaah, hope I'm invited?!

Demmzy15 when exactly..."working on it" is still undefined

I really want to wallahi, but I want to marry before I graduate in school. Something they call misyar marriage, but I don't know how credible it is. Especially when I heard it's an insult to some sisters, I thought maybe after I graduate I could now elaborate the marriage ceremony after misyar!

Cc Newnas

lexiconkabir:


Lol....i might do it at Kaduna sef....cuz I'm thinking of applying for kaduna for service.

Newnas:


Misyar: as they call it is a valid Sharia marriage.

The fact that it was given a name doesn't nullify it's validity.

The scholars have a principle:
العبرة بحقيقة المسمى لا بالتسمية
Cognisance is given only to the true nature of matters not the name given to it.

If a person makes alcohol and names it holy water, does that affect it's impermissibility in any way?

Misyar is a completely valid Sharia marriage that has all the pillars and obligations of nikkah, the only thing special about it is that one or both of the spouses gives away some of his rights that he has been given by the Sharia.

Eg: The husband might give away his right of being cooked for etc, the woman might leave her right of being spent on by the man.

The truth is no one had a problem with this type of marriage until a name was given to it.

Except that consent on sin is not valid eg consent to anal intercourse which is prohibited is not right. But other matters which are neither obligatory nor prohibited then it is right to wave your right.

lexiconkabir:
Demmzy15....nikkah can be done easily without walima...but that doesn't mean misyar....misyar is quite different from what you are thinking (if i understand what you are saying)

Newnas:


Misyar: as they call it is a valid Sharia marriage.

The fact that it was given a name doesn't nullify it's validity.

The scholars have a principle:
العبرة بحقيقة المسمى لا بالتسمية
Cognisance is given only to the true nature of matters not the name given to it.

If a person makes alcohol and names it holy water, does that affect it's impermissibility in any way?

Misyar is a completely valid Sharia marriage that has all the pillars and obligations of nikkah, the only thing special about it is that one or both of the spouses gives away some of his rights that he has been given by the Sharia.

Eg: The husband might give away his right of being cooked for etc, the woman might leave her right of being spent on by the man.

The truth is no one had a problem with this type of marriage until a name was given to it.

Except that consent on sin is not valid eg consent to anal intercourse which is prohibited is not right. But other matters which are neither obligatory nor prohibited then it is right to wave your right.

carinmom:


I pray for you to be posted to KD, and who knows you may eventually get a good job here.

lexiconkabir:


Misyar marriage aint advisable... I personally dont like it, though its permissible if all the conditions of nikkah are met....but why thinking of misyar?

Newnas:


Pray for me too, I love to stay at Kaduna during my service too.

Memorize the Quran there.

I can't wait, Kaydee here I come....

Demmzy15:
No problem with Wolima, that could be done later. The problem is she can't leave with me and studies might hinder some things. In ABUAD, we're not allowed to stay off campus so that's another hindrance!

carinmom:


But why is it uncommon in Nigeria since its a valid sharia marriage?

carinmom:


I pray for you to be posted to KD, and who knows you may eventually get a good job here.

lexiconkabir:


Ok...so from what i can get...the only right she will have to waive is the right of staying with you...if thats the case.... Its still cool(she should understand)...proceed with the marriage pls if you can.

kazlaw2000:

To be able to get married nowadays sunnatically is tough. Sisters and their Waliyys are not helping matters.
Its obvious he is a student. Perhaps his Parents would hear nothing of that. Which Waliyy is large hearted, wise and fearful of Allaah nowadays that will give his daughter out for marriage to a student who's probably not working. Also, which sister assents to that? Well there maybe few and unless he meets people like that, i'm afraid Misyar is an option still very much on the table. Frankly speaking, its a mess out there. Really tough not to engage in Zina. Thats the language the world understands.

IdisuleOurOwn:
And nobody even care to invite me .

Newnas:
STOP DELAYING MARRIAGE!

Gathered by: Abu Mardiy Kewdirôrun At-thaqoofiy

Praise be to Allaah and blessings of Allaah be upon His Messenger and Chosen Prophet.

You should stop delaying marriage, because delaying marriage is harmful for you.
What is required is to hasten to get married, and no young man or young woman should delay marriage for the sake of studies, because marriage does not prevent any such thing.

It is possible for a young man to get married in order to protect his religious commitment and morals, and enable him to lower his gaze.

Marriage serves many purposes, especially in this day and age.

Because delaying it is harmful for both young women and young men.
Every young man and every young woman should hasten to get married.
If there is a man who is compatible with the woman, and if a man can find the right woman.

Now let me ask you!
How about if you realize that marriage will protect half of your religion?
How about if you realize that by getting married, you will have followed the advice of the Messenger of Allaah?

How about if you realize that by producing a righteous child you will have ongoing charity (sadaqatu jaariyah)?

If you raise the child with good morals and faith, and you will be rewarded for your marriage if you seek reward with Allaah for that.
My fellow Muslims!

Marriage is a source of tranquillity and peace, and it is the best of the pleasures of this world.

May Almighty Allaah make marriage easy for unmarried men and women.