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Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Holluwatarhyor(m): 3:51am On May 11, 2016 |
What about a guy that's not possessive but a lecturer is disturbing his girlfriend in School. |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Nobody: 4:11am On May 11, 2016 |
Flickzvill: I think jealousy is allowed to a good degree. It's just unhealthy when it's become a thing that happens too often, Even with people who your spouse has no significant relationship with. Why dictate what to wear to her? Best is to advise, with reason, it's her choice And you don't ask people not to talk to their friends because you think they are bad influence. You could talk to them if you notice any thing you don't like about their friends. 3 Likes |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by ikp120(m): 4:18am On May 11, 2016 |
majorbravo: To control the life of another human being because you buy her "biscuits and chewing gum" is 21st century WITCHCRAFT! Even God hates it! Earn her respect and love or let her be. She is not your property. Advice her, let her choose and respect her choice. If you can't do that, then, leave the relationship because respect is not by force but by choice. #SayNoToYouMustLoveMeByFireByForce I REST MY CASE! THANK YOU! 15 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by sindan: 4:21am On May 11, 2016 |
Buhari is so useless!!! |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Nobody: 4:23am On May 11, 2016 |
I have heard of a very similar experience. The possessive husband made her quit her job, then insisted she wears the hijab. He monitored her calls so well that, if she calls her mother more than ones in a week he will go all furious and he monitors the duration. Even female friends were not allowed to call her, she usually end the call with "incase my husband calls you tell him you are a distant cousin " (which he usually call to confirm) He won't let her step out of the house to buy anything, even to the neighborhood. She ones wanted to grind bean at the absence of her husband, she knew better than to go out without his consent. Rather than letting her go out to grind the food, he called a bother of his who lived very far to go take the food to the engine. She ended the marriage after a while. 3 Likes |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by majorbravo: 4:23am On May 11, 2016 |
ikp120: And end up like Tee-Billz abi? Keep developing all the girls you picked from scratch for other guys. Girls also need to earn their respect. if they want their man's respect, the b*tch-type girls should stop hopping from bed to bed. 2 Likes |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by 989900: 4:52am On May 11, 2016 |
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Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by henryhemon(m): 5:01am On May 11, 2016 |
majorbravo: Thumbs up. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by ikp120(m): 5:17am On May 11, 2016 |
majorbravo: I understand what you're saying. But from the little I know, there's no wrong in developing a girl from the scratch and then another guy marries her. She has a will of her own. That's her choice. At least she won't regret marrying a guy she never wanted to spend the rest of her life with, neither will I regret marrying the wrong person. At least also, I will see her tomorrow rejoicing that I added value to that girl's life. As am doing that, if she is not mine, then my own is also being developed by another man [maybe her father, mother, friends or whoever]. I also know as much as you do that in every pre-marital relationship one is free to walk away if there's no mutual respect from either or both party(ies). Therefore, if you think or feel that she doesn't deserve your respect, then why not take the exit door and let the poor lady be. It's a win-win end, since you will look for the girl who respects you and who deserves your respect, while she also wait for the next guy knowing fully well that she is not in any relationship. As for those jumping from bed to bed, they don't deserve any serious guy's time. Once a guy spots such attribute in a girl, he should kind take a walk. Life is so simple, but men make it look like rocket science. I REST MY CASE! THANK YOU! 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by henryhemon(m): 5:19am On May 11, 2016 |
We ve to be sincere .....It's wrong to be extremely possessive.....it breeds violence. But the truth about possessive boyfriends is they didn't develop such attitudes all of a sudden,women are manipulative and full of lies, These ladies will cheat and expect their men to be quiet about it and they come here to say he's possessive..........if you re not willing to stay with one man or play by the rules just dont make him feel hes the only one in your Life,that way he will get the message clear,its ladies insincerity that drives them wild,you know the relationship wont lead you guys to anywhere but you still go on and rip him off.....women famous lines is they 're just friends when they 're all b...ing her. To guys rule no 1 never trust a woman until she has shown she could be trusted even at that no woman is worth all the stress only your wife who is loyal and truely loves you deserves all the attention. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by LordIsaac(m): 5:20am On May 11, 2016 |
We are in a generation that does not understand the words: commitment and fidelity. No one gets possessive of a disciplined and truthful spouse. However, that is not to say there are no exceptions. I'll recommend we stay single until we are prepared for marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Shakur86(m): 5:21am On May 11, 2016 |
when I was young, we call this kind of story Fabble. lols |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by MADrator: 5:26am On May 11, 2016 |
STFUareyouGod: Are you same person under the moniker "STFUand4kmehard"? |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by henryhemon(m): 5:27am On May 11, 2016 |
LordIsaac: Very much so. They always want to eat their cake and have it. 1 Like |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by HaneefahRN(f): 5:30am On May 11, 2016 |
Flickzvill: It's not about love, they are usually insecure people. Everything should be with moderation, when it's excessive it becomes toxic. They are the one's that would beat their gfs or wives up for merely greeting a guy or even cos they feel she stared at him for too long. Everything the lady does is being monitored and scrutinized by him, a step out of what he wants is trouble. Being possessive and controlling of another person's life is NEVER love 1 Like |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by LordIsaac(m): 5:36am On May 11, 2016 |
I've tried being there for a lady, until she started seeing it as possessiveness. I ended the so-called relationship to her own amazement and many others. Right now, if I as much as ''date'' a lady, she would be thankful if I as much as remember her full name when next we meet. I don't like the person I've become really, but ''I won't cast my pearl before swine; lest they trample upon it and turn around to rend me....'' 7 Likes |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by greatbrian(m): 5:52am On May 11, 2016 |
Too long to read. In my own word. How to break up with a possessive boyfriend or so. DATE A SOLDIER. and thank me later |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by eyinjuege: 5:54am On May 11, 2016 |
LordIsaac: Which is quite right. When you meet someone else that you both suit one another, you will let your guards down. If a relationship becomes too stressful, or anyone thinks they should control the life of another, it's better to just leave. If you can't stand the heat, then get out of the kitchen. What I've failed to grasp is why some people think relationships are by force. 2 Likes |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by OgeneUkwenu(f): 6:15am On May 11, 2016 |
Hmm. |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by ucnwafor(m): 6:17am On May 11, 2016 |
NifemiOlu:op oya modify and paragraph sharperly......who wanna read diz long episode?? Smh |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by majorbravo: 6:19am On May 11, 2016 |
ikp120: I agree with the bolded, the classic b*tch type girls fall in this category. Prevention is better than cure, true. But you and I know taking a walk is easier said than done. Most men that become protective don't take a walk immediately things start to go sour because they hope they can correct the situation, these are men who made the ultimate sacrifice for love they thought was real, and wont quit at the slightest sense of provocation. Still no serious man enters into a relationship with the intention of walking off to the sunset if she turns out to be a b*tch-type. He tries to work it out because he has planned a future with her, that's what a real man would do, but b*tch type girls never get it, they wanna play all day and still expect him to stick around. You are right to walk away, but how many men in love find that easy to do in the twinkle of an eye? Its easier from the outside than from inside, i.e before commitment. 4 Likes |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Nobody: 6:20am On May 11, 2016 |
possessive guys have the tendency to become physically and verbally abusive like my ex,na so the guy land me slap one time,I see stars,i nor remember the last time wey my mama beat me,na from that day I begin dey withdraw till I finally see chance pull slippers from my leg whisk like usain bolt,I nor get body wey man go panel beat o 3 Likes |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by xynerise: 6:24am On May 11, 2016 |
Women can be possessive too |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by anselm791(m): 6:24am On May 11, 2016 |
Why would a girl even live in the same house as her bf, cook for him, sleep with him and still thinks he doesn't own her? Sister please stop deceiving yourself. 1 Like |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by majorbravo: 6:25am On May 11, 2016 |
LordIsaac: henryhemon: You took the words right out of my mouth (mind) thumbs up* 2 Likes |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Nobody: 6:26am On May 11, 2016 |
MADrator:NO sir! |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by 9ja4show: 6:34am On May 11, 2016 |
Good stuff 0p , but you girls should not use this excuse to be doing whatever you like cos he's not asking where you went to or who called you .. We will always ask or stay single. Say no to abusive relationship / both boys and girls. |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by 9ja4show: 6:37am On May 11, 2016 |
2dugged:. Sorry but you girls re @fault mostimes, You leave all the nice guys for a bad boy cos he got some few notes |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by kaziblake(f): 6:37am On May 11, 2016 |
mysticgal:Thanks God for your life... 1 Like |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by godfrey01(m): 6:39am On May 11, 2016 |
Its only a jobless man/boy that will say he wants to kill himself over a girl.... Am i mad.... Who girl epp.. |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Nobody: 6:42am On May 11, 2016 |
9ja4show:this one didn't have much notes,just cute |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by kaziblake(f): 6:43am On May 11, 2016 |
Hmmm A possessive boyfriend But is nigerian possessive boyfriends different from their foreign counterpart? I read romance novels a lot so I get to read about possessive and jealous boyfriends and from what I can deduce I think they are hot and sexy...But it's depends sha |
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