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Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by godunia(m): 6:50am On May 11, 2016 |
The girl in your story ended a possessive relationship, the guy committed suicide, yet you went ahead and recommended breaking up, is that not contradictory? I suggest gradual withdrawal with strong excuses until the guy emotionally detaches himself from you. I m dating a girl who took poison recently cos I said it was over, she uses everything to blackmail me and when she starts I always let her know she's doing that. The gradual withdrawal method is paying off as I speak. |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by derecho(m): 6:55am On May 11, 2016 |
Open Heavens Daily Devotional Wednesday May 11th 2016 THEME : CONSISTENT CHRISTIAN? Memorise: And, behold, I come quickly; and my reward is with me, to give every man according as his work shall be. Revelation 22:12 Read: Revelation 22:11-14, 11 He that is unjust, let him be unjust still: and he which is filthy, let him be filthy still: and he that is righteous, let him be righteous still: and he that is holy, let him be holy still. 12 And, behold, I come quickly; and my reward is with me, to give every man according as his work shall be. 13 I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end, the first and the last. 14 Blessed are they that do his commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life, and may enter in through the gates into the city. Bible in one year: 2nd Kings 10:18-12:21, Proverbs 22:29-23:13 MESSAGE At the beginning of his ministry, Paul took a ride in a basket as he escaped for his life in Damascus (2nd Corinthians 11:32-33). But the God who delivered him from the garrison at Damascus, allowed him to end up in jail at Philippi (Act 16). Because God answered a particular prayer yesterday does not mean that He would repeat another in exactly the same manner. In Acts 16:25, Paul conducted a worship service in prison right in the midst of chains and bonds. He never complained. Paul learnt to praise God in whatever circumstance he found himself. Not many people can praise God when thrown into prison for the sake of the Gospel. He was prepared to undertake the worst of sufferings for the Kingdom of God (Philippians 1:20-21). He was not ashamed. Are you ashamed to suffer minor ridicule, persecutions, denials, beatings for His Name today? Paul could say we should become a living sacrifice to God because he was one. In African traditional religion, when a bird or animal is brought as a sacrifice to an idol, the giver forfeits his right to that animal; it becomes the property of the idol for the rest of its life. Whether it lives or dies or is given to someone is at the discretion of the idol. That living sacrifice may be fed so well in one moment and killed the next minute. This explains the term living sacrifice. You should be so yielded to God to the extent of delivering to Him the greatest pleasure in whatever you do. If dying for the Gospel will give Him the height of pleasure, you should be prepared to die like Stephen. The preparedness of Daniel to go into the lion’s den demonstrates that he was a living sacrifice. But in the end, instead of death, his faith compelled a decree for the whole world to fear Daniel’s God. If my death can produce a United Nations decree compelling all nations of the world to worship no other god other than my God – the true and living God, I will gladly be on my way to Heaven. Are you a living sacrifice? And to what extent? Prayer Point Father, please give me the grace to always look unto You for everything I need in life. 1 Like |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by syndrum(m): 7:00am On May 11, 2016 |
My guy is also in this state...he wants to breakup with a lady he sees no fault in her ...his parent forbids him marrying anybody from Ogun State due to their historical anti incident... we're both sure the girl is likely to commit suicide or hurt herself or my guy.....so sad 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by ikp120(m): 7:00am On May 11, 2016 |
majorbravo: My real guy, I agree with what you just said. Indeed, very very I say unto you, walking away from a girl you love and respect but who you feel doesn't deserve your love because she doesn't respect you is harder than rocket science. But we men should learn to let ladies show their true colour before marriage by giving them much freedom and liberty so as to see what they are made of. That may lead to a break up but will save us from divorce and a troubled marriage. I REST MY CASE! THANK YOU! 3 Likes |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by 9ja4show: 7:00am On May 11, 2016 |
2dugged: So you went for a bad cute guy and there is one guy who wants to leave nairaland on romance section , have you seen him? |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by schumastic(m): 7:04am On May 11, 2016 |
2dugged: this got me laughing |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by justitiaomnibus(m): 7:18am On May 11, 2016 |
This is all complicated. A guy just don't become possessive all of a sudden. And possessiveness doesn't all mean controlling or being violent, it could mean you just want the love and affection you have for your significant other should be reciprocated and it hurts when love is one sided and lopsided. Men need also need to be shown that they are loved and cared for too and that they are not just one in the number. You are in love with a lady and there's some other guy who calls A lady that deletes messages and chats with other guys, delete calls from her log. In fact, there are specific numbers that are the 1st to call her in the morning and the last to call her @ night everyday but she tells you they know you because you are the one she's into. If you complain about such calls, she says you are possessive. If sex is the only thing I want with you, I wouldn't complain even if a 100 guys are into you the same time but if I want a future with you, you don't expect me to keep mute when you are frolicking. What kind of guy calls you everyday if there's not more to it? 2 Likes |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Mopricelezz(f): 7:50am On May 11, 2016 |
Spot on Op...... Reminds me of that 2015 movie titled 'The Perfect Guy'.... Where Carter Duncan (Michael Ealy) dated Leah and when she discovered the guy was too possessive broke up with him.. He kept stalking her, told her' if I cant have you, no man will'. He even killed Dave, the guy she ought to marry.. She eventually killed him sha. |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Nobody: 7:51am On May 11, 2016 |
people commenting here are just been unfair, making it seem as though men are the only ones who are been possessive. women too are so damn possessive too. I would not want to give any story here so I won't sound like some babes here who has never had any boyfriend claiming they got free from a possessive relationship, when they were the ones been dumped. we have all read stories everywhere even here on Nairaland where girls commits suicide or promise the guy hell on earth or even inflict serious injuries on their bf/husband, is that not possessiveness? let me ask you ladies here just one question, how many of u self righteous ladies will allow a guy break up with u easily without any drama or emotionally blackmailing him or cursing him that his life will be miserable if he ever leaves u? if you know u can't, then you have not earned the right to talk. |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by kwyllancy: 7:59am On May 11, 2016 |
sweetcocoa:[quote][/quote] Are u telling us d article is not paragraphed ? |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by jayrager(m): 8:01am On May 11, 2016 |
Very True.. Knowledge breeds Wisdom NifemiOlu: 1 Like |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by AsanwaKC(f): 8:15am On May 11, 2016 |
This situation aways occur when you decide to date someone below your class. The guy or lady will have low self-esteem..thereby resulting to possessiveness. 1 Like |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Sunglow: 8:15am On May 11, 2016 |
TonyeBarcanista:bla bla bla bla bla.....love ko love ni that ain't love. |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by daniska3yaro(m): 8:50am On May 11, 2016 |
Flickzvill:you just said my mind 1 Like |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by monalsian(f): 8:53am On May 11, 2016 |
A Lot Of Guys Are Like That.Though There Are Ladies Too Who Are So Possesive In Relationship,but Whatever Be The Case Pls Run Away From Such,it Kills |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Nobody: 8:53am On May 11, 2016 |
schumastic:my brother, It was like a flash of light that sent me falling to the ground like a pack of cards,no man had ever hit me before, I wonder how some women bear kicks and punch from men,ordinary slap I saw darkness for 5 seconds, hopefully that was the first and last,I can't bear o |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Nobody: 8:57am On May 11, 2016 |
9ja4show:nope,not interested, was naive then,know better now after all nor be fine boy person go chop |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by agrovick(m): 9:08am On May 11, 2016 |
mysticgal:Because u are contesting for Miss Nl, everyone is now swirry? Kwontinu |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by LePrezident(m): 9:14am On May 11, 2016 |
Flickzvill: Errm, all I can say to your post is when you are young you act like a youngie and when you grow up you act grown. You don't have to be possessive to show love oga. Moreover this love thing can be created, transferred or destroyed. It's just a state of mind, don't go and be exhausting a lot of energy on another person's daughter when you should instead use the energy to better yourself. |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by BuddhaPalm(m): 9:52am On May 11, 2016 |
sweetcocoa: What are you even saying Have you priced a paragraph lately? 1 Like |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by chronique(m): 9:54am On May 11, 2016 |
The part of your post that I do not agree with,is the "never trust a lady" part. If you go on with that mentality,you'll end up being a bad person to yourself and when you eventually get married,you still won't trust your wife. Currently,I'm in love with someone far from me,and I've decided to trust her fully despite the fact that I know a lot of guys are asking her out. It's now her responsibility to ensure she stays loyal,and makes sure she doesn't make me regret trusting her. I do not stalk her to find out how she lives her life. People have spoken to me about what young girls in universities do these days but I've decided not to use that as a yardstick in assessing her. I've made it a point of duty not to cheat on her either. If she ever cheats,I'm walking away without looking back. My point is this,I won't allow myself to be turned into a psycho cos I'm dating someone and do not want to lose her. I also won't allow myself not to trust people. If I give you gold and you decide to turn it to dross,that's your headache. I'd simply move on with my life. henryhemon: |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Dunexxx(m): 10:17am On May 11, 2016 |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Teespice(f): 10:31am On May 11, 2016 |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by schumastic(m): 10:43am On May 11, 2016 |
2dugged: you self am sure you looked for his trouble or tried to test his patience |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by schumastic(m): 10:44am On May 11, 2016 |
Dunexxx: that's my mail which i used in replying your pm's |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Dunexxx(m): 10:51am On May 11, 2016 |
schumastic: I changed my mail, so I didn't get ur reply. mail me with davidaaah@gmail.com |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by adesharp2(m): 10:53am On May 11, 2016 |
D lady in qustn sholud face tria because a lot has happen in d cos of dis reltnsp whc me nd u don't knw.#just speaking my mind# |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by Nobody: 11:22am On May 11, 2016 |
I really suffered alot in that unproductive relationship... but I thank God it is all over, actually the storm is over lolz. I feel free to live nw, I feel free to be who I want to be without someone constantly reminding me that I am a nobody. for his mind nw he is a smart boy, but he actually took away all my pain and ill lucks when he stole from me and carried my gen. gush I hate that pig |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by dare2differ: 11:24am On May 11, 2016 |
It is not love. They are sick. They need proper mental health care and support. And if they refused, they should be locked up till eternity Flickzvill: |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by dare2differ: 11:30am On May 11, 2016 |
Being possessive means being controlling If she is wayward, move on. However possessiveness in this context means men who are paranoid. A man can genuinely believe that his woman does not show him enough love her or is having an affair or the love is one-sided whereas it is all in his head. Good luck trying to deduce facts from paranoia LANICKY FOR MISS NAIRALAND 2016 justitiaomnibus: 1 Like |
Re: How To Safely Breakup With A Possessive/controlling Boyfriend by uzolexis(f): 11:45am On May 11, 2016 |
majorbravo: Potential abuser spotted, ladies beware. |
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