kiddoiLL:
so whats your story behind this post?

fancyupage:
To all Nigeria men, please get it into your skull, you do not own a woman, she is your companion. You are the head and she is the neck, the two needs to work together or go their separate ways in peace.

I do not encourage cheating but if a woman cheats in marriage or a man cheats in marriage, the best is yo separate if you cannot live with it and talk it through for improvement.

The right to associate is a fundamental right, so if your wife is cheating on you, try and talk it through and hope for better or let her go.

No justification for a woman beater. #leaveyourmanifheisabusingyou.

thorpido:
Op,na vex u take post.Have you been a victim?

mhizeva:
You are one of those people rubbishing this world.....

So many women will translate that meaning that they have authority even when they cheat... They will start giving excuses and claiming equality instead of being sorry for their actions.

Review your post it lacks any vital form of message

mhizeva:
You are one of those people rubbishing this world.....

So many women will translate that meaning that they have authority even when they cheat... They will start giving excuses and claiming equality instead of being sorry for their actions.

Review your post it lacks any vital form of message

mhizeva:
You are one of those people rubbishing this world.....

So many women will translate that meaning that they have authority even when they cheat... They will start giving excuses and claiming equality instead of being sorry for their actions.

Review your post it lacks any vital form of message

fancyupage:
A woman always have authority, so does the man. If a man can cheat and flaunt it, why can't the woman?

my message is simple, if you cant cope because your spouse cheated, move on, don't beat her up.

crackhaus:

Hard to admit, but all this talk about who has a right to cheat in marriage will be better laid to rest of women collectively try to abolish this thing called marriage rites (bride price) being paid on their heads.

The truth is that some men (even if they don't say or act like it) have this innate belief that a woman who milked them with expenses such as bride list, bride price, paying for almost everything in the wedding including her wedding dress, and basically giving her the big Cinderella wedding she always dreamed of...has no right to cheat on him - it is what it is.

Women should help themselves and help everyone. Whether you're a working wife or not, some men still feel a woman has no right to cheat on them with the way Nigerian marriage rites are structured.

What you should be trying to deal with is the foundation, which poses the question
"Why exactly do a lot of Nigerian men feel that their wives have no right to cheat on them?" - don't rush, think about it deeply and tell me what you come up with.

fancyupage:


Some Nigerian men need to attend marriage building classes. Any man that thinks the bride price give him the right to treat his wife like a "thing" is a fooooollll. The bride price is more of a tradition than anything.

In the UK men can buy expensive wedding rings to propose, more expensive than the bride price but such men don't treat their women like a thing. Being a woman abuser is a mental health issue and not a bride price issue in my opinion.

fancyupage:

To all Nigerian men, please get it into your skull, you do not own a woman, she is your companion..

fancyupage:


No to disappoint you, I am writing based on Ronke's death and the fact that some men seek to be justifying his anger.

MRBrownJ:
@fancyupage
shouldnt you have just said:" WOMEN, instead of cheating i suggest you divorce, as your husband could kill you for it.... since they dont react to cheating as we women do"

as much as his act is wrong, she has a part to take, if indeed she cheated. you cant expect any RIGHT outcome from doing something that is wrong.

bukatyne:


Are you honestly implying that it is 'OK' to kill a cheating wife/spouse?

bukatyne:


What has adultery got to do with 'authority' or 'equality'?

A wife has the right to cheat; the husband has the right to divorce her.

The OP is very clear.

crackhaus:

I understand you're upset, but I'm sure you can see I didn't talk about just the 'bride price', but on the whole the way Nigerian marriages are structured.

We not talking about the UK here, but even then I don't think western men take too kindly to their wives cheating on them too.
I've seen cases where these men also feel it's their right to cheat, it's a universal thing for men to think they have more right to cheat so don't even bother with the comparison - it isn't a uniquely Nigerian thing, we just take ours to a whole 'nother level.

This is why I wanted you to answer that question which you didn't, perhaps due to your emotional state at the moment.
But I'll ask again...

"Why exactly do a lot of [size=20]Nigerian men[/size] feel their wives have no right to cheat on them?"

fem29:


Bukatyne see me see wahala oo. I was going to reply her but I could not even construct the words. Like really? A woman should be beaten or killed because she cheated?. Lord have mercy

MRBrownJ:


again, i am simply saying that cheating (which is WRONG) makes many men OR women kill their partner as revenge (which is also WRONG).... therefore anyone cheating should be aware that death could be the outcome, at the hand of their deranged partner.

nobody should expect their partner to be "ok" when they learn about any wrong act, and instead they should accept whatever that deranged person would do as CONSEQUENCES of that wrong action.

MRBrownJ:


again, i am simply saying that cheating (which is WRONG) makes many men OR women kill their partner as revenge (which is also WRONG).... therefore anyone cheating should be aware that death could be the outcome, at the hand of their deranged partner.

nobody should expect their partner to be "ok" when they learn about any wrong act, and instead they should accept whatever that deranged person would do as CONSEQUENCES of that wrong action.

bukatyne:


Na real mercy my sister.

If a woman cheats and you can't take it, send her or yourself packing.

Na by force?

fem29:


To be honest as far as I am concerned a wife really should never ever ever conceive of cheating due to the fact that she may end up giving someone else's baby to her hubby. Very wrong. I honestly believe it is worse for a wife to cheat and I would support any man who divorces his wife due to cheating and this is whether he has cheated or not.

BUT never ever ever in his life should violence be used. If you caught her cheating call her mother and father immediately and inform them of what happened. Divorce her immediately!. DO NOT HIT HER. DO NOT KILL HER. If you do, you are a beast and you deserve to spend the rest of your life in jail or killed by firing squad!

MRBrownJ:


again, i am simply saying that cheating (which is WRONG) makes many men OR women kill their partner as revenge (which is also WRONG).... therefore anyone cheating should be aware that death could be the outcome, at the hand of their deranged partner.

nobody should expect their partner to be "ok" when they learn about any wrong act, and instead they should accept whatever that deranged person would do as CONSEQUENCES of that wrong action.

bukatyne:


What is the difference BTW a husband and wife cheating (apart from the child stuff)?

fem29:


It's just the child thing really. I'm sure we humans evolved to see the female cheating as more of a taboo. Due to the fact that she is the one that gets pregnant and may pass off another persons child as her partners

fem29:
Ridiculous! Consequences of doing something wrong is death!disgusting train of thought

Mindfulness:

People do wrong things all the time, yet I see no reason why we should resort to any sort of jungle justice or even start justifying such for that matter - on the contrary - we must always seek to understand and resolve such conflicts in a graceful way or else we will end up slaughtering each other.

If I find out that my partner is cheating, I can resort to violence, which will give me a fleeting feeling of relief but create more trouble or I can take this experience and use it to my advantage.

The faster people learn to own their emotions the better. Anything else is bondage.

bukatyne:
Nobody has the right to revenge via death.
There are consequences of cheating & death (through the spouse) is not one of them.

MRBrownJ:


yes, you are probably right, but sadly jungle justice is a REAL part of Nigeria that is here to stay.... and people will keep on taking the law into their own hands. is it right? probably not, but thats Nigeria for you where many things aint RIGHT. who are we trying to kid here? go out and see how thieves are killed with a tyres over their heads; how thieving women are humiliated and almost raped; how wives gladly and openly beat up and disgrace the mistress of their husbands etc
THIS IS NIGERIA, stop pretending you dont know how things work, just because it happened to a woman!

fancyupage:
In the UK, women cheats similarly to how men cheats. Cheating by UK men is so subtle compare to how we make noise of it. Cheating in UK us more secretive.

And to answer your question, I said it is because they are foooollll. An ignorant man is a foolllll. They need classes to give them knowledge.

Just to clarify I m not going through any emotional challenge with reference to the issue. In fact I can never be beaten twice in a marriage. First beating I am out for good.