fancyupage:

Seriously? Cheating and murder are now criminal offence? To educate you, cheating is not a criminal offence in law. Murder is a criminal offence in law.

i said they are both UNACCEPTABLE, not that they were criminal acts.... but hey, since you mentionned it, yes they are, check the many countries such as Saudia Arabia, Iran, etc or anyone into sharia law (aka BH) to understand that adultery is indeed a crime to them.

Any man that think he will physically abuse his wife for cheating on him should be ready for jail. Remember no jail on earth for cheaters, but jail is there for abusers and Murderers.

and this man is ready for jail,
again, pls educate yourself, some countries have the DEATH PENALTY (stoning) for cheaters, which is worst, than jail.

A woman can stay in her marriage and endure bitterness or get out of the marriage to cheat or get of the marriage through divorce. All these three options are legal.

sadly, the woman we are all discussing chose OPTION 4: stay married and cheat on a mad man ...and paid dearly with her life

MRBrownJ:


thats the HYPOCRISY of human beings i talked about earlier....

Your take on hypocrisy both here and at the first instance is inadvertently pointing to your ignorance of the chief differences between men and women in relation to sex and the act of cheating!!!

MRBrownJ:




what difference the above make?! instead of selfishly focussing on how the cheating person feels at that moment, think of the DAMAGE it causes to their partner instead... and understand that it is the SAME. who cares anyway why people decide to cheat? its WRONG and thats just that!

Still doesn't do justice to your postulations. Go back and read bukatyn's post I quoted. She asked: " do cheating couples still desire to stay in marriage "
Something of that nature.

And my response was in answer to that. And that answer isn't the same for men as it is for women.

Do you think perchance, she saw a semblance of truth there and cc-ed you for damage control?

kaboninc:


Lol.


We could trample on each other without being violent or going that extreme, like murder.

Come to think of it also...

Supposing the wars and conflict stops in the Middle East, the drug cartels just stop smuggling drugs, men stop cheating and women stop using men as a means to their ends, poverty ends....don't you think it will be odd? Weird?

When I stay, we do have issues with NEPA. So within a period, we began to have stable power supply. Then the people began to complain that the light is tooo much!. That they are tired of the light. LOL

I'd rather we don't trample on each other.

I don't think it will be odd at all, it will only be something people will adjust to and be happier for it overtime and stop with the talk about women using men as means to their end, like women don't take care of themselves, abegi.

Your people react that way because it's something they are not used to and it's not like they mean it, they are just voicing out their surprise. Like if you ask them to pick between constant power and power outage, they'd choose the latter?

Stillfire:
Men have not evolved to solve crisis through organized speech. Women have. Men are still on the level of lower animals that is why they resort to violence to solve conflicts. Yup I said it!

and yet, intelligent and evolved women know that and still wanna cheat on these lower animals?! makes no damn sense!

Mindfulness:

Well, you said these men were fragile.
A woman who milks a man and then cheats on him does not appear to be fragile but sneaky and and sly.
She wasn't worth it, was she?

sneaky and sly until she got caught, why dont you ask her if the sex was worth her death? these "supposed" sneaky women are the one that needs their head checked... why would she even cheat on a mad man?! that in itself is MADNESS

MRBrownJ:


i said they are both UNACCEPTABLE, not that they were criminal acts.... but hey, since you mentionned it, yes they are, check the many countries such as Saudia Arabia, Iran, etc or anyone into sharia law (aka BH) to understand that adultery is indeed a crime to them.

Hey this is Nigeria where u will go to life in prison for murder and no jail for cheating on your husband.


and this man is ready for jail,
again, pls educate yourself, some countries have the DEATH PENALTY (stoning) for cheaters, which is worst, than jail.

no he is not, he has asked for death but he will not get it easily, he will suffer psychologically and physically if found guilt

sadly, the woman we are all discussing chose OPTION 4: stay married and cheat on a mad man ...and paid dearly with her life

That is one in millions of women doing it today. And she is not dead because she cheated, she is dead because someone probably killed her illegally. the law will run its course.

MRBrownJ:


and yet, intelligent and evolved women know that and still wanna cheat on these lower animals?! makes no damn sense!



sneaky and sly until she got caught, why dont you ask her if the sex was worth her death? these "supposed" sneaky women are the one that needs their head checked... why would she even cheat on a mad man?! that in itself is MADNESS

it is the madmen that should see a doctor for mental health therapy. Ronke did not die because she cheated, she died because she was alleged to have been murdered in cold blood by an abusive and jealous husband.

sweetcocoa:
I'd rather we don't trample on each other.

I don't think it will be odd at all, it will only be something people will adjust to and be happier for it overtime and stop with the talk about women using men as means to their end, like women don't take care of themselves, abegi.

Your people react that way because it's something they are not used to and it's not like they mean it, they are just voicing out their surprise. Like if you ask them to pick between constant power and power outage, they'd choose the latter?

We won't...but we will. Someday Am just being open.


But its the truth. Fine, some men also use women as a means to their ends. But its most common with women. Well, personally, I'll look forward to that day that these hostilities will stop. However, from experience, it has kept the world going.

They'll definitely choose the latter. But trust human nature. You're right though.

Ever cheater on someone?

lezz:
Your take on hypocrisy both here and at the first instance is inadvertently pointing to your ignorance of the chief differences between men and women in relation to sex and the act of cheating!!!

it is all in your head, and the fact that you believe that we should consider the cheater's state of mind, as a worthy reason to cheat, is sad. i guess the idea of BEING FAITHFUL is unimportant

Still doesn't do justice to your postulations. Go back and read bukatyn's post I quoted. She asked: " do cheating couples still desire to stay in marriage "Something of that nature. And my response was in answer to that. And that answer isn't the same for men as it is for women

men and women cheat for the exact same reason... because they are WEAK (whether men or women)

Do you think perchance, she saw a semblance of truth there and cc-ed you for damage control?

this is my view on the subject of cheating, she asked for it and i laid it down.

Stillfire:


Men have not evolved to solve crisis through organized speech. Women have. Men are still on the level of lower animals that is why they resort to violence to solve conflicts. Yup I said it!

Still werey

How far? How market?

fancyupage:


That is one in millions of women doing it today. And she is not dead because she cheated, she is dead because someone probably killed her illegally. the law will run its course.

She is dead not just because she cheated but because she was caught!

All the husband had were suspicions, never factual proofs.

MRBrownJ:


sneaky and sly until she got caught, why dont you ask her if the sex was worth her death? these "supposed" sneaky women are the one that needs their head checked... why would she even cheat on a mad man?! that in itself is MADNESS

Well, I am not supporting any of them - the man or the woman.
I think the whole drama is absolutely unnecessary.

People are taking relationships too seriously for my liking. I prefer to enjoy relationships as long as they are sweet and last. If anything changes or ends, so be it. Everything shall come to pass and I am at peace with it.

fancyupage:
That is one in millions of women doing it today. And she is not dead because she cheated, she is dead because someone probably killed her illegally. the law will run its course.

then as the man claimed he didnt do it, why dont you let that same law run its course... innocent until proven guilty, right?

fancyupage:
it is the madmen that should see a doctor for mental health therapy. Ronke allegedly did not die because she cheated, she died because she was alleged to have been murdered in cold blood by an allegedly abusive and jealous husband.

FIXED

I can excuse anything, Not cold blooded murder

lezz:
Your take on hypocrisy both here and at the first instance is inadvertently pointing to your ignorance of the chief differences between men and women in relation to sex and the act of cheating!!!
Still doesn't do justice to your postulations. Go back and read bukatyn's post I quoted. She asked: " do cheating couples still desire to stay in marriage "
Something of that nature.
And my response was in answer to that. And that answer isn't the same for men as it is for women.
Do you think perchance, she saw a semblance of truth there and cc-ed you for damage control?

MRBrownJ:


it is all in your head, and the fact that you believe that we should consider the cheater's state of mind, as a worthy reason to cheat, is sad. i guess the idea of BEING FAITHFUL is unimportant



men and women cheat for the exact same reason... because they are WEAK (whether men or women)



this is my view on the subject of cheating, she asked for it and i laid it down.

@bold

Do you really think that it is all in his head?
I think - but I am not sure - that, generally speaking, there are differences between men and women when it comes to se.xuality.

We are fertile once in a month, you are fertile every day. Don't you think that males - generally speaking - have a higher se.xual drive?

Acidosis:

Hmmn, truly, the attitude of some men is distastefully shameful.

I hope your neighbor is not cohabiting?

They've been married for 26 years. The man no be here

kaboninc:


We won't...but we will. Someday Am just being open.


But its the truth. Fine, some men also use women as a means to their ends. But its most common with women. Well, personally, I'll look forward to that day that these hostilities will stop. However, from experience, it has kept the world going.

They'll definitely choose the latter. But trust human nature. You're right though.

Ever cheater on someone?

It's not what's kept the world going, the world would keep going without all those.

If you mean sleep with someone else while in a relationship, then no I've not but if we are talking flirting then yes I have.

You?

MRBrownJ:


then as the man claimed he didnt do it, why dont you let that same law run its course... innocent until proven guilty, right?



FIXED

That Lekan is abusive is an established fact. it is no longer an allegation. Lekan is suffering from anger management and cultural idiocy.

raumdeuter:
I can excuse anything, Not cold blooded murder

Thank you!

If the husband decided to sleep with all her family/ swindled her of her worldly goods/ sent her packing/ blackmailed etc.... na to face front but kill?

I can't wrap my head around it.

Mindfulness:


Well, I am not supporting any of them - the man or the woman.
I think the whole drama is absolutely unnecessary.

People are taking relationships too seriously for my liking. I prefer to enjoy relationships as long as they are sweet and last. If anything changes or ends, so be it. Everything shall come to pass and I am at peace with it.

how i wish many more women AND men thought in such a way, helas!

Mindfulness:

@bold
Do you really think that it is all in his head?
I think - but I am not sure - that, generally speaking, there are differences between men and women when it comes to se.xuality.
We are fertile once in a month, you are fertile every day. Don't you think that males - generally speaking - have a higher se.xual drive?

men AND women cheat because they are weak....but hey, if you have any other reason why they do, then pls enlighten me.
a weak man will fall into temptation yes, but this has absolutely nothing to do with his sexual drive, and all to do with his weak self. many can successfully walk away from temptation due to the RESPECT they have for their partner, just because the weak men cant control themselves doesnt make the issue a gender one... as it is the same reason why women do cheat.

sweetcocoa:
It's not what's kept the world going, the world would keep going without all those.

If you mean sleep with someone else while in a relationship, then no I've not but if we are talking flirting then yes I have.

You?

Most of the men trying to blame Ronke o allegation of cheating cannot vouch they have never cheated. That said the issue here is an allegation of murder which Lekan need to answer to.

May African women be liberated from the claws of men who thinks there are mini god and the woman is just a thing.

MRBrownJ:


how i wish many more women AND men thought in such a way, helas!



men AND women cheat because they are weak....but hey, if you have any other reason why they do, then pls enlighten me.
a weak man will fall into temptation yes, but this has absolutely nothing to do with his sexual drive, and all to do with his weak self. many can successfully walk away from temptation due to the RESPECT they have for their partner, just because the weak men cant control themselves doesnt make the issue a gender one... as it is the same reason why women do cheat.

And I wish more men would think like you.

I didn't use the (for now supposedly) higher se.xual drive as an excuse for cheating.
I just want to know if this is true because frankly speaking I think it may be.

MRBrownJ:


it is all in your head, and the fact that you believe that we should consider the cheater's state of mind, as a worthy reason to cheat, is sad. i guess the idea of BEING FAITHFUL is unimportant

You're a misconstruer!!! I have given no reason to cheat yet. I simply stated a man may cheat and still have unflinching love for his wife and I submitted it isn't so for (the average) woman. Lolz, you've got to keep within the thin rails of logic here.

MRBrownJ:



men and women cheat for the exact same reason... because they are WEAK (whether men or women)

Ignorantly simplistic. Infact borderline naivety!!! There are instances where the dearth of love and affection can spur men and women to cheat. And there are other instances particular to men with cheating: Just for the fücking fun of it.
How can "weakness" be why everyone cheats?

MRBrownJ:



this is my view on the subject of cheating, she asked for it and i laid it down.

She didn't ask for your view on why people cheat, she asked for your take on my submissions.

And you went off on the sanctimonious train without pulling the stops!!!

@lezz:

A man can cheat and still have unflinching love for his wife?

What is love?

sweetcocoa:
It's not what's kept the world going, the world would keep going without all those.

If you mean sleep with someone else while in a relationship, then no I've not but if we are talking flirting then yes I have.

You?

Today we look at fossil fuel and the technology behind it. But the craze around it has lead nations to become enemies with each other. There have always been diseases but the innovations around developing medicines have led to growing resistance by these organisms. That brings out opportunities for profit. Like the vaccine scam in Northern Nigeria. The Internet was actually developed for the US military but in reality, it was to project their superior force to the world. Computers were actually designed to make life easier. But today, the idea behind it has turned some parts of the world into deadly weapons. Supposing there were no innovation, what would have been the fate of mankind?


I don't know how you define flirting but for me, once am not into any one, then I flirt. I could be in a relationship but if the relationship no get leg, then I flirt.

lezz:


You're a misconstruer!!! I have given no reason to cheat yet. I simply stated a man may cheat and still have unflinching love for his wife and I submitted it isn't so for (the average) woman. Lolz, you've got to keep within the thin rails of logic here.

Ignorantly simplistic. Infact borderline naivety!!! There are instances where the dearth of love and affection can spur men and women to cheat. And there are other instances particular to men with cheating: Just for the fücking fun of it.
How can "weakness" be why everyone cheats?



She didn't ask for your view on why people cheat, she asked for your take on my submissions.

And you went off on the sanctimonious train without pulling the stops!!!

I quoted them because they did not see anything 'wrong' in a cheated husband killing his adulterous wife.

Wanted their take on if a cheating husband deserved death.

bukatyne:
@le.zz:

A man can cheat and still have unflinching love for his wife?

What is love?

Has anyone been able to define that in a generally acceptable term?

fancyupage:


That Lekan is abusive is an established fact. it is no longer an allegation. Lekan is suffering from anger management and cultural idiocy.

Says who? You?

fancyupage:


Most of the men trying to blame Ronke o allegation of cheating cannot vouch they have never cheated. That said the issue here is an allegation of murder which Lekan need to answer to.

Many African women be liberated from the claws of men who thinks there are mini god and the woman is just a thing.

Vouch ke? They will tell you its not same for men and women, to them, it's their natural right to cheat, I'm sure if checked well on this thread, you'll see a confirmation of what I'm saying.

I think these women need to want to liberate themselves and do so, they are not babies for crying out loud, I know indoctrination played a major role in the African woman's life but it's the year 2016, the rest of the world is moved on, do something for yourself, stop waiting to be rescued when you can rescue yourself, I actually blame these women more than I do the men.

fancyupage:


That Lekan is allegedly abusive. it is no longer an allegation. Lekan is allegedly suffering from anger management and cultural idiocy.

FIXED AGAIN.... dont just listen to the one sided people quick to talk about what they dont know.

Mindfulness:


And I wish more men would think like you.

I didn't use the (for now supposedly) higher se.xual drive as an excuse for cheating.
I just want to know if this is true because frankly speaking I think it may be.

yes it is true that men generally have a higher sex drive than women but that doesnt mean they should disrespect their partner and cheat. its the men that cant control themselves who cheat (aka the weak ones). you see, any man can get into a situation and find himself with a beautiful nekkid woman and a hard on, the important point is that it is his BRAIN/MIND that would make him approach that woman and eat the forbidden fruit. cheating is a CHOICE that men who cant control themselves consciously make, because they are weak.

bukatyne:


I quoted them because they did not see anything 'wrong' in a cheated husband killing his adulterous wife.

Wanted their take on if a cheating husband deserved death.

[b] ***modified***

I see everything wrong in the emboldened!!!

Mindfulness:

Are you saying I am a good girl?

I'm saying you're already taken.

sweetcocoa:
Vouch ke? They will tell you its not same for men and women, to them, it's their natural right to cheat, I'm sure if checked well on this thread, you'll see a confirmation of what I'm saying.

I think these women need to want to liberate themselves and do so, they are not babies for crying out loud, I know indoctrination played a major role in the African woman's life but it's the year 2016, the rest of the world is moved on, do something for yourself, stop waiting to be rescued when you can rescue yourself, I actually blame these women more than I do the men.

How do you suggest they liberate themselves from men?