A very big thank you to all the mamas wey torchlight my matter. Luckily for me we stay in different states @ the moment because of my job. But he stays in the same state as my parents so the last time I travelled I stayed @ my parents place since then he's been threatening to divorce me so that I can go and stay with my parents very well. It is well. This too shall pass.

sugah:
Thank you all for the prayers. Sadly my dear mother passed on this morning.
My tear ducts are empty. I am broken.

I'm soooo sorry my dear Sis,she has gone to rest where there z no pain again ok,I knw how painful it z,bt tk heart ok.. ehugs

Yesterday I cried after the scan.. Today I smiled... My faith is stronger.. God wants to prove to me that he's God.. He'll sustain this pregnancy.. I strongly believe! He's Ar-Rahman, Ar- Raheem!

nwapastor:
A very big thank you to all the mamas wey torchlight my matter. Luckily for me we stay in different states @ the moment because of my job. But he stays in the same state as my parents so the last time I travelled I stayed @ my parents place since then he's been threatening to divorce me so that I can go and stay with my parents very well. It is well. This too shall pass.

D bolded will come to pass if u can apply d following:
1. Watch ur words. Words u speak to ur dh.

2. Respect him even wen it seems he doesn't deserve it.

3. Speak lyf 2 ur marriage always.

4. Take away d mentality of living dh as a solution because I bet u it's not. Someday one1 will tell u hw much stigma u carry.

5. Focus on urself n work on ur self. My hubby is in my palms 2day because I choose 2 walk on myself rada dan forcing him 2 change first.

6. Always tink abt giving ur baby a complete family to grow in dat child will b wat God has destined him/her 2 b.

7. Let ur gaze b on homes dat hav stayed 2geta n u will see strength coming 2 urs.

8. Choose ur friends correctly n put away some.

9. Pray 4 ur marriage often + listen to Godly msgs + go 2 church regularly n encourage him 2 do same. Wen he is around play gospel music n msgs only.

10. Learn to giv him space wen he needs one n allow him to express himself while talking.

11. Do d opposite of what he expects wen he wrongs u.

I'm nt an advocate of divorce, nt cut out 4 dat stigma at all. Dh hav slapped me once bt it was my fault (my words) up until nw we learn to b quite wen d oda partner is pressed.

I'm saying all dis 2 u nw dat u hav nt moved out to still b patient n try oda measures. God will see u through ur marriage n u will council someone 2maro. Just hold in there a little more.

joychioma19:
Am a first time mum. just wondering if every first time mum gets a cut or tear during labour. Am concerned, how is intimacy after delivery? will I still get the satisfaction? so many things de boarder me o. sabi mamas Abeg make una help.

I just had a discussion with a friend who gave birth recently. She said she attended a birth class in the UK and as a first time mum, labor and delivery was super easy. See the points and tips she shared with me and right now i can confidently say i'm no longer scared of labor:

- Download contraction timer app on your phone and dh's phone. That way you can tell when the next contraction is coming and brace yourself for it calmly.

- Make a research on relaxation exercises and start practicing them so you will be relaxed in labor

- Practice breathing through your nose and out through your mouth. Take deep breaths. It'll help you relax and manage pain

- In early labor, try standing on your feet most of the time. The gravity will help speed up the process and you wont have to be in labour for long.

- Also rotate your hips when standing, it can help you dilate faster

- Make a research on various delivery positions and find the one that is less painful for you. For her, the regular lying on your back was extremely painful so she switched to kneeling on all fours and that's how she delivered easily.

- In her birthing class, she was told that when you lie on your back you squash your pelvis and your pelvis is what needs to expand during the birth. So it gets bigger during each contraction, but lying in bed works against what your body is doing, so it hurts really bad.

- She used a hot water bottle on her back and because of that she didnt need any epidural or pain medications.

I hope this info helps other mamas like me who are scared of the labor and delivery process.

No offence @ginababy, but the stigma of divorce or seperation and someone's life, which should take priority?
I'm not an advocate for divorce at the slightest issue, and i think it should be a last resort but trying to avoid the stigma of divorce is what led to the loss of my two elder brothers. Today they are no more and my mum regrets listening to those who made her scared of leaving when she should have. Everyone and their own ideology sha but ive learnt a lot to know life should always come first.

mitchyy:
No offence @ginababy, but the stigma of divorce or seperation and someone's life, which should take priority?
I'm not an advocate for divorce at the slightest issue, and i think it should be a last resort but trying to avoid the stigma of divorce is what led to the loss of my two elder brothers. Today they are no more and my mum regrets listening to those who made her scared of leaving when she should have. Everyone and their own ideology sha but ive learnt a lot to know life should always come first.

Thank you

Who Stigma Epp?

*Stigma* what was killed my cousin 2003.
What would people say and all that.

One's life is more important than stigma or what the society thinks about you. Choose wisely!

ginababy u r ryt wt ur points especially for newly married couple..we do push our men to react badly BUT nwapastor case is more dan dat...i av my home nd will neva wish any bad tin on anoda woman bt if my hubby bcums a routine boxer tmrw...i will run oo..attyms we tend to b too religious nd forget reality...if i tell u hw i provoke my dh on a daily basis...he has neva raised his hands on me nd we r almost 4yrs in d union...he will rada leAv d space for me...it works in both ways...to me if u r nt reAdy to handle a woman,dnt make a home..marriage is more dan d wedding day o..beating beating...iru nonsense woo niyen..let him go nd try his skills wt oshodi boys now.

maureensylvia pls dat girl nids to leave dat house asap...delay can b dangerous...let her kip enjoyin d hansum. senxy hubby sumwia else..oro yamayama!!

omowunmigan:
Zaynie, I got doc Alemo50's contact from his page, called him and he said I should proceed to ikeja even if he's there or not.. I'll leave right now! If traffic builds, I'll just tell dh to park and take BRT nii.
Thanks alot.. Sis.. I'll be back to give you feedback.

Dear God,ancient of days,as old as u r u changeth not,u r d same yesterday today n forever. Ur word z true, U said in ur world dat hv I said a tin n it shall nt come to pass,U also said that U r nt lyk man dat U shld lie n neither r U d son of man dat U shld repent. U also said affliction shall nt rise a 2nd tym.

Father,pls fulfil ur word in Ur daughter's lyf,cause ha heart to sing,U gv life n U gv it mur abundantly,U formed dat which is in her womb,Almighty God,we gv dat to U,tk care of it in Jesus name,Amen.

mitchyy:
No offence @ginababy, but the stigma of divorce or seperation and someone's life, which should take priority?
I'm not an advocate for divorce at the slightest issue, and i think it should be a last resort but trying to avoid the stigma of divorce is what led to the loss of my two elder brothers. Today they are no more and my mum regrets listening to those who made her scared of leaving when she should have. Everyone and their own ideology sha but ive learnt a lot to know life should always come first.

My dear, I can't take offence at all. I'm only telling her to try n see if it will work. Trying God is no harm. At all.

I'm frm a broken home too. Mum left dad because of domestic violence. Yet death still took her lyf n it makes no much difference 2day.

Dis whole tin is a two way tin n u choose 4 urself where 2 belong. I'm nt going bak 2 my fades house. Can't stand d loneliness of nt being wt hubby.

D last tin my mum told me b4 her demise was to stay married n marry d marriage she cudnt marry bak den (tears). I hav sign my death warrant in dis marriage base on mums advice n God's will 4 marriage (4beta 4worst till DEATH Do us path)

Dis is just me n odas view abt marriage n divorce I still respect dem. Bt I can only say wat I believe in.

omowunmigan:
Yesterday I cried after the scan.. Today I smiled... My faith is stronger.. God wants to prove to me that he's God.. He'll sustain this pregnancy.. I strongly believe! He's Ar-Rahman, Ar- Raheem!

I'm so happy that you're no longer depressed dear. Our fingers are crossed for you. We know you too will share your unique pregnancy and delivery story. Don't stop having faith.
Mum zaynie, rofemiguwa and other mamas who gave practical solutions to her, your reward is going to be far above your expectations. Thank you so much

omowunmigan:
Yesterday I cried after the scan.. Today I smiled... My faith is stronger.. God wants to prove to me that he's God.. He'll sustain this pregnancy.. I strongly believe! He's Ar-Rahman, Ar- Raheem!

It is well with you sis, u're always in my prayers. The same God who did it for me, Chinwedym, Udoka and other mamas whom science has given up on ll surely perfect ur miracle, by the end of this year the world ll rejoice with ur family. I like the positive spirit you have put on now.

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All these sil will not go and marry and face their family. They'll be causing wahala upandan even the married ones self. Nawa. The Lord is your strength

Maureenslyvia,gwa nwa ahu ka o si na be uno puo!(let the gal leave una house). The deliverance should have started earlier,i think it is late now.

ginababy:


My dear, I can't take offence at all. I'm only telling her to try n see if it will work. Trying God is no harm. At all.

I'm frm a broken home too. Mum left dad because of domestic violence. Yet death still took her lyf n it makes no much difference 2day.

Dis whole tin is a two way tin n u choose 4 urself where 2 belong. I'm nt going bak 2 my fades house. Can't stand d loneliness of nt being wt hubby.

D last tin my mum told me b4 her demise was to stay married n marry d marriage she cudnt marry bak den (tears). I hav sign my death warrant in dis marriage base on mums advice n God's will 4 marriage (4beta 4worst till DEATH Do us path)

Dis is just me n odas view abt marriage n divorce I still respect dem. Bt I can only say wat I believe in.

I never said she shouldn't try God dear. That is not the point i countered. No marriage can survive without God. What i'm on about is, in this era of news of women being beaten to death by their husbands, i can never support putting my life or the life of my baby at risk all in the name of marriage. Neither will i encourage my fellow woman to stay in a violent marriage because one yeye stigma. Its entirely left for them to decide.
Life is precious and nothing(no matter how sharp the woman's mouth is) gives a man the right to raise his hands on his wife he was given by God to protect and care for. And women shouldn't be made to feel they are always at fault for a man's violence.
When my mum finally left my dad, she didn't relent in prayers or her service to God. My dad even married another woman and yes people talked and yabbed my mum. But after a year, he regained his senses and today they are back together and the beating has stopped totally. Every mallam and e kettle sha because i understand we all grew up and learnt differently

Iyabetajos:

dis got me ROTFL pulse kwa ........dis morning na so my leg hook ohh women r trying.

I'm even thinking mamas should be writing diaries on their pregnancy experience. Our kids would love to read it when they grow up. We can even read and laugh at ourselves later

@ginababy, I pray your hubby remains the way he is but please never advice someone to stay married to a violent man bacause on stigmatization. no one cares about you even the society that will stigmatize you dont care. My sister almost went blind last year due to DV and that was when her brain went to factory setting now she is doing fine and horseband is now begging her to come back but that was after he received 2 thunderous slap from my father because he insulted my mom. Divorce is something I dont wish for my enemy but i will choose it over and over again to staying with a violent man.

@Nwapastor, please seek professional help from a certified counselor and not religious authority. it is well with your household.

@omowunmigan Allah is Arrazaq he will provide for you what you need, want and wish for in multi fold.

congratulations to all May mamas wey don born. may they be a source of joy and pride.

Hello mamas,e get as e be ooo.
I have begged twice for the supernatural birth book to be sent to my mail,but no show ooo.I didnt cc anyone cos i dont know the particular mamas that have it.
Well,it is all good. The feeling of not being answered is what i dont wish anyone.
Lovely evening all.

Sometyms when u run 4rm a fyt,u live to fyt another day.. I knw if some1 dat ran away wen beating became too much 4 ha,ha hubby felt she wouldn't stay out 4 long bt she did,over a yr,all d while praying 4him n dia son n 2day dia marriage z as thick as thief,Im nt an advocate of divorce, bt I hv told my hubby,d day u hit me I run oooo,so nytym I sharp mouth(God help me ),he wil tel me u r just looking 4a way to go visiting ur parents,u c dat ur parents house,u no dey go am,n we wil laf...

zimunachimdi:
Hello mamas,e get as e be ooo.
I have begged twice for the supernatural birth book to be sent to my mail,but no show ooo.I didnt cc anyone cos i dont know the particular mamas that have it.
Well,it is all good. The feeling of not being answered is what i dont wish anyone.
Lovely evening all.

Ahnahnnnn,oya no vex again u hear,u want d supernatural birth book?? Oya sabi mamas wit d book,sama her lyk 20 copies mk ha body cool down,dnt worry dear,mayb dey didn't get d msg as u didn't Cc. N u knw ds thread get special legs 4running,dey wil ans u soon...
Cc: all sabi mamas biko my una ans her,Im now ha personal town crier

zimunachimdi:
Hello mamas,e get as e be ooo.
I have begged twice for the supernatural birth book to be sent to my mail,but no show ooo.I didnt cc anyone cos i dont know the particular mamas that have it.
Well,it is all good. The feeling of not being answered is what i dont wish anyone.
Lovely evening all.

Vex not sis, I dont have I would av sent to u,however I know two mamas dat av it I ll cc them for u now.
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Stigma of being divorced? I read on front page yesterday how a man beat his wife to death because of a stewwwpid girlfriend. If he loves her so much he should have divorced his wife and gone with his evil babe. Who will now breastfeed the baby she was nursing? Those that really believe in "for better for worst till death do us part" should actually have it in mind that that death may be MURDER.
I CAN'T STAY MARRIED TO A MAN THAT MAY BEAT ME TO DEATH and MARRY ANOTHER WOMAN TO TRAIN MY CHILDREN.

mitchyy:


I just had a discussion with a friend who gave birth recently. She said she attended a birth class in the UK and as a first time mum, labor and delivery was super easy. See the points and tips she shared with me and right now i can confidently say i'm no longer scared of labor:

- Download contraction timer app on your phone and dh's phone. That way you can tell when the next contraction is coming and brace yourself for it calmly.

- Make a research on relaxation exercises and start practicing them so you will be relaxed in labor

- Practice breathing through your nose and out through your mouth. Take deep breaths. It'll help you relax and manage pain

- In early labor, try standing on your feet most of the time. The gravity will help speed up the process and you wont have to be in labour for long.

- Also rotate your hips when standing, it can help you dilate faster

- Make a research on various delivery positions and find the one that is less painful for you. For her, the regular lying on your back was extremely painful so she switched to kneeling on all fours and that's how she delivered easily.

- In her birthing class, she was told that when you lie on your back you squash your pelvis and your pelvis is what needs to expand during the birth. So it gets bigger during each contraction, but lying in bed works against what your body is doing, so it hurts really bad.

- She used a hot water bottle on her back and because of that she didnt need any epidural or pain medications.

I hope this info helps other mamas like me who are scared of the labor and delivery process.

Thanks mam . God bless

zimunachimdi:
Hello mamas,e get as e be ooo.
I have begged twice for the supernatural birth book to be sent to my mail,but no show ooo.I didnt cc anyone cos i dont know the particular mamas that have it.
Well,it is all good. The feeling of not being answered is what i dont wish anyone.
Lovely evening all.

The book was sent to you dear. Someone sent it to me, though i dont know who she is else i would have thanked her. From the email thread i could see your email address that it was fowarded to you first before it was even sent to me. Check your mail properly biko. I can send you a screenshot if you wish

Please mamas, doctors and nurses help me answer this: I was asked to do a scan a week after my miscarriage which I did on Wed but could not see a doctor because of strike. I went to a private hospital & was told that the miscarriage was complete but my IUCD is still in place in the uterus & was referred back to the teaching hospital for removal. Now the bleeding which stopped on Tuesday has started yesterday what should I do. Thanks

mitchyy:


The book was sent to you dear. Someone with the email chinnydeji sent it to me, though i dont know who she is else i would have thanked her. From the email thread i could see your email address that it was fowarded to you first before it was even sent to me. Check your mail properly biko. I can send you a screenshot if you wish

I just checked now,there is no message in my inbox. You now send to me o nne

Blessedmum and beyedew,thanks sisters. I didnt vex,was just emotional and starting crying. Dont know why I am like that sha.

Thanks to the sister that sent it before though i didnt get it cos my box is empty

tobiaboG:
Please mamas, doctors and nurses help me answer this: I was asked to do a scan a week after my miscarriage which I did on Wed but could not see a doctor because of strike. I went to a private hospital & was told that the miscarriage was complete but my IUCD is still in place in the uterus & was referred back to the teaching hospital for removal. Now the bleeding which stopped on Tuesday has started yesterday what should I do. Thanks

cc:zaynie,tchiwinnie,mitchyy,soonest,blessedmum and other sabi mamas.

Tanks for ur care my able captain @mitchyy, ok oh,always peeping , n always lazy to type plus dis 3rd trimester is so tiring bt it will surely end in praise, congrat to those that v birthed their los,may God be wit dem all and to all preggers it will surely end in praise.

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