Parent and the you can't marry him/ her syndrome do get me puzzled atimes, When u personally feel God has answered your prayers and you have gotten to your last Bus stop , especially When you guys had dated for long( probably 5yr) been there for each other and had gone thru the bad and the good together, above all the love you have for Each other strong kakaraka and your mum or dad now Said u can't marry him/her and u were like why now and the reply was u just can't marry him/her.... What will u do? .... will u sacrifice your love... As in I mean genuine LOVE or you will go ahead in marrying the person knowing fully well that you are going against your parent...[b]

I will pray to God

Gods answer is final

halfricanadian:
I will pray to God

Gods answer is final

Hmmmmm... I hope u will av d strength to rightly channel ur pray

I no get advice for nw, we go cross d bridge when we get there

spiritsam:
Hmmmmm... I hope u will av d strength to rightly channel ur pray

Amen

My father was never in support of my marriage. He said I would become her slave. My mother said It was an abomination.

Today, my wife is my mum's best friend and my dad on the other hand is still querying her for another grandson

My point is follow your heart. You are an adult. Your parents job is done the moment you became an adult. They cannot control your future. They have to come to like it however you choose.

ivyT:
I no get advice for nw, we go cross d bridge when we get there

. Lol... like ur style jare

halfricanadian:
I will pray to God

Gods answer is final

baby m sorry nah ehn..forgive me.. the key to my heart

finalboss1:
baby m sorry nah ehn..forgive me.. the key to my heart

U followed me down here?

go nd meet ur gf ok

halfricanadian:

U followed me down here?
go nd meet ur gf ok

pls ....ahw die here o

finalboss1:
pls ....ahw die here o

Kuku die

U broke my hrt for real bye bye

halfricanadian:


Kuku die

U broke my hrt for real bye bye

haa..

so you hv another boyfriend ...yo looking for small mistake to chase me away ..its unfair o

finalboss1:
haa..

so you hv another boyfriend ...yo looking for small mistake to chase me away ..its unfair o

U dat lie nd cheat

Im breaking up nd divorcing u to b single

halfricanadian:


U dat lie nd cheat

Im breaking up nd divorcing u to b single

ok wait lemme ask you...ah last question

finalboss1:
ok wait lemme ask you...ah last question

Wats dat

halfricanadian:

Wats dat

nothing but... do you still love me

finalboss1:
nothing but... do you still love me

Nooooooooooo

halfricanadian:
Nooooooooooo

ok uv hurt me enough...bye.. ( crying) i love you

finalboss1:
ok uv hurt me enough...bye.. ( crying) i love you

Awwwww

I forgive u i love u too

halfricanadian:

Awwwww
I forgive u i love u too

.. baby cm kiss me .... promise nt to ever hurt u again

finalboss1:
..
baby cm kiss me .... promise nt to ever hurt u again

why u not sleeping

halfricanadian:




why u not sleeping

dere's cold here...cnt sleep with it..
will bleed meanwhile If only I could explain,
how much love I have for you.
Then maybe, just maybe
you'd feel it too.

finalboss1:
dere's cold here...cnt sleep with it..
will bleed

Close ur eyes

Im right by ur side

Giving u warm hugs to melt ur cold body

U will only bleed with passion of love

finalboss1:
dere's cold here...cnt sleep with it..
will bleed meanwhile If only I could explain,
how much love I have for you.
Then maybe, just maybe
you'd feel it too.

awwwwww i feel special

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

Once upon a time a meaningful thread was derailed by kids

emperorchedda:
Once upon a time a meaningful thread was derailed by kids

kids will always act As one ....

halfricanadian:


awwwwww i feel special

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

How old are you? You just derailed a potential front page thread. How are we sure u aint even the second moniker just trolling.

Be matured.

Well firstly, it's an awkward situation . That said, I believe you should know your parents; for you to have dated for 5 years, you probably aren't less than 25yrs, to have spent 25 SOLID years with your folks, you should know what they like and dislike. Why bother toasting a girl you know your parents will disprove of, I don't get it....

rose54321:
Well firstly, it's an awkward situation . That said, I believe you should know your parents; for you to have dated for 5 years, you probably aren't less than 25yrs, to have spent 25 SOLID years with your folks, you should know what they like and dislike. Why bother toasting a girl you know your parents will disprove of, I don't get it....

It's your life not your parents.. it's your desire and wants not theirs

Greene66:


It's your life not your parents.. it's your desire and wants not theirs

I STRONGLY DISAGREE, this is the wrong misconception most 'new generation' peeps have.
Let me educate you, there is no you without them, they brought you into this world. So you owe them a moral obligation to make them happy.

Now just like any rule, law or norm there will be exceptionally cases that bend the rule, however if you know your parents don't like a particular trait in a lady, avoid ladies with such traits. There are many fishes in the sea, you don't meet a girl and fall in love overnight, love takes times and so for you to be in love with some, you consciously took the time nurturing the relationship.

If from day one, you controlled yourself and didn't approach her, today you wouldn't be in love with her.

rose54321:


I STRONGLY DISAGREE, this is the wrong misconception most 'new generation' peeps have.
Let me educate you, there is no you without them, they brought you into this world. So you owe them a moral obligation to make them happy.

Now just like any rule, law or norm there will be exceptionally cases that bend the rule, however if you know your parents don't like a particular trait in a lady, avoid ladies with such traits. There are many fishes in the sea, you don't meet a girl and fall in love overnight, love takes times and so for you to be in love with some, you consciously took the time nurturing the relationship.

If from day one, you controlled yourself and didn't approach her, today you wouldn't be in love with her.

WRONG!

I do not owe them anything to make them happy because I didn't ask them to give me life. That's the scam most parents feed to their children. No one asked to be born. We were born because they wanted it not because we wanted it as their children. So it was for them. It wasn't a favor. So no one owes nobody

Besides, making them happy and making yourself sad? Which you choose? When they die you would be left alone in this world to reek in your regrets and sadness. If the woman you truly love is not 'their type' would you throw her out the window because some old folks don't want it? Lol

Take my advice, YOU DON'T OWE ANYBODY ANYTHING! NOT EVEN YOUR PARENTS! THEY MARRIED AND BIRTH YOU BECAUSE THEY WANTED TO. IT DOES NOT MEAN THEY WOULD RULE AND LORD OVER YOUR ENTIRE LIFE!

You are responsible for your actions as an adult. Your parents cannot choose your future.

Greene66:


WRONG!

I do not owe them anything to make them happy because I didn't ask them to give me life. That's the scam most parents feed to their children. No one asked to be born. We were born because they wanted it not because we wanted it as their children. So it was for them. It wasn't a favor. So no one owes nobody

Besides, making them happy and making yourself sad? Which you choose? When they die you would be left alone in this world to reek in your regrets and sadness. If the woman you truly love is not 'their type' would you throw her out the window because some old folks don't want it? Lol

Take my advice, YOU DON'T OWE ANYBODY ANYTHING! NOT EVEN YOUR PARENTS! THEY MARRIED AND BIRTH YOU BECAUSE THEY WANTED TO. IT DOES NOT MEAN THEY WOULD RULE AND LORD OVER YOUR ENTIRE LIFE!

You are responsible for your actions as an adult. Your parents cannot choose your future.

I guess we cannot agree as we both have different views. There's absolutely nothing wrong though in having different views, while I don't agree with you AT ALL, I respect your view as I believe humans are rational and have rationality behind their thought processes.

Having said that, I never in my previous message(s) inferred that you should let your parents lord over your life, nobody should lord over your life. What I did say is that you should endeavour to make them happy.
Yes they gave birth to you because they wanted a child, or used a detective birth control, but it's LOVE THAT MADE THEM RAISE YOU.
If you know the rate of children been flushed out, dropped at orphanages or being left to die, you would understand that raising you was Love and nothing more.

There will always be exceptions to every law, there are situations where parents might give absurd requirement of the person you will marry, requirements you might not agree with, then it's your place to make them understand.

However, I believe that some situations can be avoided like falling in love with someone from another religion. Love I repeat doesn't start overnight, this ain't a movie. It's real life. It takes time to love, so why start a relationship you know has no future.

The plain truth is that most people stupidly start dating someone with the notion 'we are just dating, not planning to marry'; they aren't keen on wife criterias and focus on criteria for now, girl friend material. So when love sets it , it becomes a problem.

That said I would never advise anyone to marry someone based on their parents, Hell NO, you can suspend marrying someone they don't like and spend time looking for another you like, but don't drop yours and pick theirs .