chizeal:
Omowumigan, may God see u tru, iyabetajos, pls eat dos hansel water means. Hello team September ND all preggi mamas

if u ask me na who i go ask oya mitchyy cm n answer mummy chizeal

creamchiccb:
Hello!wats kuku aya??regarding love making,wen I tink of d fact it helps widen d power house I somhw find my libido oooo bcs I dread labour pain!!women are tryin joor

It's one hausa drink like that oh...
A mixture of blended coconut, dates and Tiger nuts...

They say the juice helps with libido...
But I dunno if it's safe in pregnancy...

ginababy:

Me 2 d join dh beg u. Stop rough play abeg. I hate low cut seriously.

Hehehe... I go try...

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cutie999:

Abeg no barb am oooo....just manage dear

LOL... I go try... E no easy now...

Maureen Sylvia calm down dear... just be prayerful and look for a less tensed up time to talk things over with him...let him see he has priority and family comes first not friends clubs and selfish interests getting a business is a nice idea but u hv to get things right with him first b4 that....if he Sims hardened and refuses to change u might have to involve his immediate family to counsel him some more

Maurynsilva,this is not a simple matter though it might look simple but it's not. From what I gathered from ur post,and I quote...
Extravagant spender
Extended families and friends comes first b4 d immediate family.
Night crawler
Not fully taking responsibility.

Hmm deary,actually there is nothing new under d sun. I can say this has been ur hubby's approach to life b4 h decided to settle down.
My question is:
Do u have matured responsible family friends,either from both sides,i ask this cos bringing them close can and will actually help ur husband.
Pls don't think u earning ur own money will put a stop to all this,u will end up carrying responsibilities meant for him.
2. Do u actually spend alot,do u know his earnings?cos that might help u know if u actually demand much from him.
There are men like him out there now with dat orientation of looking for respect outside d home.
3.was h like this b4 u guys got married?

Well....
This is wen prayer comes into play,cos it solves alot,pray,pray my sister. Anytime u want to speak to him on this matter pls pray and fast for favour.this might sound funny but it works.
*dont involve family or friends,it will bounce back.
*u need plenty patient and tolerance now
*tell him u want to go back to school and also need a Lil bis by d side,never take full responsibility of the home front.

This is just my own view. May God bless and Kip ur marriage and may deep love flow in ur home from now,Amen.

Oops! Finally read all the pages I missed...Glo network do me shege for here.

See plenty gist wey I miss ooo..

Teammay! How far nah, I don dey think say at least 6babies go don land. Seriously praying to see lo by weekend oo...1st Edd is 18th & 2nd is 22nd, noticed I contract often now...God will see us through oo. Amen

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wonderful mamas how d pushing ministry dey go. pls i want to ask should d constancy of our babies kick increase as we progress or should it reduce? v learnt so much from this family including d #carrot stew# pls how is our captain doing? deputy thnx for d taking the calll
team sept for supernatural delivery.

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Haleematm:
wonderful mamas how d pushing ministry dey go. pls i want to ask should d constancy of our babies kick increase as we progress or should it reduce? v learnt so much from this family including d #carrot stew# pls how is our captain doing? deputy thnx for d taking the calll
team sept for supernatural delivery.

Btw 5-7months, there is a lot of space in the womb so babies have a big play ground in the womb if you want to call it so. So most mothers feel alot of kicks and punches during that period. As the pregnancy progresses and baby becomes bigger, they consume more space, so they have little play ground but they still play no matter what if all is well. The kicks mayb slightly more painful as you are closer to due date...
From 34weeks or so (other mamas will confirm this date) if you cannot count 10kicks in 2hours, something May be wrong, so one may need to visit the hospital to rule out any problem.

@maurynsilva, Sori 2 say this but I mean no harm, did u notice this attributes while u guys were courting, did u go clubbing together then, how do you both spend then?
He might av shown traces of this then or did he just start. Does he av new friends that mite tend to be influencing him. All u av 2 do is to pray n find a way 2 equip ursef financially cos Pple only care abt the ones that gives them money so even if u report to family or friends they mite gang up against u and claim that u dnt want him giving them money. Give him a list of things you need at home and tell him to go get it if he can't give you the cash. Call on God n tell him to separate him from Al enemies of progress. All the best sis n may God give u bak ur home.

maureensylvia:
Dear mothers PLS DO NOT QUOTE WILL DELETE SOON

pls all mamas bikonu

One thing I don realise for marriage be say, sometimes we need to learn to apply sense with our DH so as to avoid some confrontations. I was in a somewhat similar situation tho slightly different. I wilk tell you what i did but first of all, try and sit him down and dialogue. Nothing beats being able to get to an understanding through open communication! Explain to him how costly food stuffs are now. Write out things in paper for him to see if need be. While talking, you can cry sef (if he is the type that your emotions move him) .
Here was my case: I asked for money to be given to me for food in the house at the month begining so I don't have to ask for food money everytime I need to cook. DH gave me an amount that didn't take us for 3weeks and then turned around to blame me that I was outrageous in the spending, that was why the money finished. .. this thing pained me erh. So I realised that method will not work for me at least for now. So I decided to be writing list of food stuffs and provisions that we need at the end or beginning of the month and give him to buy by himself. I wrote quantity that will take us for 1month. Things like rice( half bag), beans(25cups depending on how often you eat it) ,carton of indomie, packet of assorted maggi and salt etc. He does the buying himself. ...sometimes he will complain of how much money he spent to buy those things, I will act like I have not heard him. Then each time I want to cook soup, I have to ask for money. I first of all do the costing of the soup items on my own. I write out the list of all I will need and their real prices. I then write a second list of those items with an inflated prices . For e.g, i may know that 2kilos of meat will be enough for the food, but in the inflated list, I write 3kilos. So I will have the extra money on top for myself. By the time I add, Small small amounts lik that all round, I will have a little money to save and buy personal things. I then ask for the money in the second list. I keep that list handy ooo so that in case he asks to know what and what I want to buy, I will show him that list . That method is working for me now.
For the clothes issue, I deliberately stay away from some functions he would have really loved me to attend with him(church, weddings) When he ask will you be coming, I will say no ooo that I don't have what to wear, that I have outgrown my clothes . If he doubts, i will wear those clothes for him to see. . I will really put my mind and prepare him on time so he can go on time. When I do this ( especially for church ) he will feel guilty.

P.s Try to find out his monthly earnings. Is he a salary earner or a business man?? It can be difficult to know for a business man except he comes out plain to tell you. For a salary earner, credit alerts will help you. Try to request for YOUR Personal money for monthly upkeep of yourself. ... so you can be saving that one and buy yourself clothes...
Even if you start business or your are working, don't make that mistake of wanting to takeup all the bills in your house ooo especially when he still has something doing o ooo. He will just abandon everything to you. One-day, you go tire. You should only support. ...like he brings 70percent and you add 30percent, or 60-40 percent or even 80-20percent. Use your head well a. If he can spend outside, he should spend inside too .
My epistle long sha....just find your way around him.
May God be with your marriage! !

cutienik:

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Malizzy:

@britneystacy hope are gud,abeg show face o we miss u like kilode.
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@ maureensylvia, sorry you are going through all these. From what you have said, it seems he has been like this even before you got married. If that's the case, then it's an habit and you can only win with wisdom and prayers.
Itemise the basic things you need on a monthly basis in the home and give him the list. Communicate with him and let him know how much on the average you need for the upkeep of the home. If he feels you can't handle the money then he can buy it in bulk or you both go for the monthly shopping.
Let the list be well detailed, like stating clearly foodstuff, baby needs, your needs, toiletries etc. don't let it be vague otherwise he may not be interested
Also let him understand how expensive certain foodstuff is in the market at the moment

If you are sure you aren't extravagant in your spending there's no crime letting him know you need some upkeep money for yourself, hairdo, a few clothes etc
Even if he decides to start a business for you, he is still obligated to provide the home with basic needs and you as the wife will support.
He will come around. Habits are a bit difficult to break but as a wise woman you have to tread cautiously. You need to let him see the home as his first priority and if you put him in prayers I believe you will get a solution

Stay strong

Maureensylvia, I can't really say much abt dis. Bt 2 tinz can n may help u out.

Firstly, na baba God get d final say on dis so tak it up to him n rest. Wen I say rest I mean 4get abt his wrongs n shortcomings completely.

Secondly, u must learn to work on urself n start courting him all ova again. U hav 2 bring out dat small boy in him n let d boss in him disappear so u can hav a space in his lyf to help him take decision. 4get abt all d complains n complement him on little tinz he does right. Applause him wen he takes right decision, stop expecting him 2 change immediately, speak positive words to him always n make him knw dat does little tinz makes u happy. Dnt 4get to show appreciation even ova tinz u tink d r his responsibilities still find a way around to show him dat u appreciate him. Wt dat he will want to do more n will gradually open up 4 u 2 b a part of his decision making. Stop seeing him in his past n start seeing a new him. Wat u see is wat u get.

Ur baby n dh r nw d 2 children u hav in ur lyf to grow so grow both of dem together wt love.

LOVE SUPERSEDES ALL THINGS
LOVE CAN MAKE A MAN DO ANYTHING
LOVE NEVER FAILS
LOVE COVERS ALL WRONGS

mama BritneyStacy haas cum oooo..welcum sis..see smart brain nd tricks...so u too dey inflate prices ...i b expert for dat o
@maureensylvia...all d mamas dat contributed were on point..pick dose pointsbthey Av mentioned nd apply dem...may d Lord b wt u nd ur luvly family.
@all mamas Gud morning nd a luvly wk to u all...One luv alwz!!
#teamjulyforsmoothdelivery

@maureensylvia it's well dear.my lil advice is dialogue n prayers.
dnt make mistake of taking ova some responsibilities.truth is dt wen some men know u r working dey xpect u to b on ur own financially no matter hw much u earn.
lyk moi i cannot ask for hair money n clothes ohh na dt tym i go hear story of my lyf.as soon as i started working,allowances stopped.i talk tire i no kukuma ask.again.
i've been on bedrest for abt 4months nw n dts d only reason dis man is taking up my bills.i dnt get y dey do dis at tyms bt God will c us tru.


oya Ginababy cm n take plenty plenty libido i haff bt am nt using.my libido has always been on d highside ohh dunno y.bt since cerclage no kpekus for me...its well dear i admire u for wanting to work on it u will surely get a solution lol....

iomoge2:

It increases libido.
In men and women.

Men especially. Very good o.

Wow! Good to read this. I know the combo but thought its for women, good to know it works on men more. Dh is in for it

Iyabetajos:
@maureensylvia it's well dear.my lil advice is dialogue n prayers.
dnt make mistake of taking ova some responsibilities.truth is dt wen some men know u r working dey xpect u to b on ur own financially no matter hw much u earn.
lyk moi i cannot ask for hair money n clothes ohh na dt tym i go hear story of my lyf.as soon as i started working,allowances stopped.i talk tire i no kukuma ask.again.
i've been on bedrest for abt 4months nw n dts d only reason dis man is taking up my bills.i dnt get y dey do dis at tyms bt God will c us tru.


oya Ginababy cm n take plenty plenty libido i haff bt am nt using.my libido has always been on d highside ohh dunno y.bt since cerclage no kpekus for me...its well dear i admire u for wanting to work on it u will surely get a solution lol....

Amen! Tnx a lot 4 sharing I knw I'm in ur prayers too.

creamchiccb:
Hello!wats kuku aya??regarding love making,wen I tink of d fact it helps widen d power house I somhw find my libido oooo bcs I dread labour pain!!women are tryin joor

Is kunu aya. Aya(hausa) is tiger nuts. Kunu is the normal kunu you know but mixed with tiger nut milk, dates and ginger. Never knew it increases libido. Drank it wella during my service year in plateau state

Maureensylvia my sister it is well. please keep talking to dh calmly especially when both of you are together and he's in a good mood.
1.Make him understand that the friends flocking around him just want his money because if he's in need non of them will show up(state instances)..

2. suggest to him to open an account for your kid. state the importance. if he is adamant (sweet talk him)...

3. tell him that all the unnecessary expenses if put together can achieve ...(state a project )

4. tell him to stop clubbing o! coz he doesn't know what those friends have in mind especially when they see him dishing out money ( apply wisdom)

5. make sure you start up your own business. if you have a business idea tell him and write down the amount needed. because you need to have your own savings.( no matter how little have your own savings)

6. call one person you know he is close to, to advice him

7. Pray, Pray Pray! pray for him. do you both do devotion together? please be strong.


# i can only imagine what Delilah did for Samson to tell her where is strength lies. It's not easy to convince a man that's why we should always pray for grace. to be 'wife' is really not easy. be strong dear'#

lawvlypearl:
Oops! Finally read all the pages I missed...Glo network do me shege for here.

See plenty gist wey I miss ooo..

Teammay! How far nah, I don dey think say at least 6babies go don land. Seriously praying to see lo by weekend oo...1st Edd is 18th & 2nd is 22nd, noticed I contract often now...God will see us through oo. Amen

My EDD is tomorrow, ion even know if am contracting again. I'm just so tired, feel like crying. I'll just give baby this week

Mamas that took their time to answer my post about exercising @ 15 weeks, thanks a million. May God bless you all.

Maureensylvia I will be a lil realistic with you.
Please you need to be empowered an be independent if you want a good life for you and your kids. A man cant change unless if he is willing to change. My only solution for you is get a salary paying job, you can beg him to hlp you start small business and try and further your education so you can get a high paying job. This is the time to be a superwoman for yourself. Also give him lists to buy for you instead of collecting cash and when you want to buy your baby things inflate the prices so you can get lil cash for your hair and petty things. My two cents ma'am but you can also keep praying. It is well

Maureen mamas touchlight your matter well the Lord will help you

Ginababy and enkaydewdrop I have CS apptmt on tues but NO I dont need the knife again lol else una go see me for threadcuties,as my lo is in cephalic and 2.6kg weight am praying for a VBAC and it will be done unto me Amen


Cheerychy will give the house feedback on the carrot experiment


Gaily04 how is our prince charming this morning

#teammay lo's pls coperate with mummy and show face this week you hear #teammay walk walk walk do matchpast it will help

#teamjune #teamnopant #teamnolibido #teamnodeliveryhair I troway breast for una,how is the ministry vjay pain nko #itwillendinpraise #oneleginmayonejune kikikikikikiki

Una good morning

Maureensylvia Try and get a job or a business to do ASAP

Hope you'v started applying, don't wait till omugwo is over because no job is chillin there waiting for you, it takes time

I'm never in support of a woman being 100 percent dependent on anybody

For your own self esteem it's not even good