catlova2:
Op dont let all these overaged single ladies confuse you.

skarlett:



We wish to but if a suitable husband is not forthcoming, we won't break our neck. I'm going to ignore the insult but kindly respect yourself.

Thank you

onstelly:

Oga nawa oh, I didn't mean to sound rude but are you indirectly telling us you are cheating on your wife my runs girl,
And again is not about providing a good home but a happy one

KingAdeOluomo1:
@ ilovemylife see this is the truth about the matter arising here


But I will say you let him know by showing your evidences n just pretend to be really mad n watch his reactions if you feel his sorry about it then let it go it all part of life ....

AreaFada2:
Dude, we're advising a lady whose fiance cheats. Nobody has said some ladies don't cheat.

Remember that in a conservative society like 9ja, women cheating is mostly linked to poverty. And an educated woman is more likely to have a better job and earn more money than the uneducsted. The educated lady is also more likely to marry a better earner too.

On the average I mean, female unfidelity is for some pecuniary benefit: employment/promotion, money, grades, gifts, all paid trips, etc.

emeraldknytt:
It is no new thing that to-be marriages are put on hold temporarily or permanently, and yours is no strange case either. First and foremost, You should be thankful for coming across a truth that might hurt so bad yet transform your would-be moments of agony into pure tranquility and sheer bliss. That 'sly fox' took you for a 'dumb bunny', which evidently you aren't (based on the next course of action you're going to take), he toyed with you, took. you for granted and wishes to put a ring of doom in your finger. What nonsense! If you dont want to look silly, confront him like you'd if you caught them in the act. Let him know literally, there are millions of elligible suitors out there. Technically, such a weirdo has nothing really concrete and palpable to offer speaking of nuptial happiness. Unless you want to get wedded to Bill Cosby Jr, dont rethink and walk down the aisle........... of regret.

ilovemylife:
I met a guy of 31 through my elder sister, last year February. He started asking me out but because I just came out of a bad relationship, I told him that I am not yet ready to go into a relationship now but he hanged on until August, by then we had become good friends and we started dating.

But three months into the relationship I noticed that my boyfriend has a thing with a lady that stays in the same street with me, a lady I have known all my life cos we grew up together, I confronted him and he told me that it was just a Fling and nothing more, so I told him to please stop whatever he is doing with the girl because we know each other and he promised too. I trusted him to because I can't be going around checking up on a man old enough to take care of himself. So during his birthday this year, he told me the girl called him to wish him happy birthday and asked him hope she will be getting an invite for the party, so he asked me if he should invite her, I told him he can that I don't have a problem with that. So he invited her for the birthday party and she came for the party and my boyfriend introduced me to her as his girlfriend, in that same party my boyfriend gave me the surprise of my life when he asked me to marry him and I accepted.

We are now planning for our traditional wedding which is coming up July but I was shocked to find out that my husband to be is still sleeping with that same girl because I stumble on their whatsapp chat. I feel like my world is crashing before my very eyes, I am so confused, what should I do. I haven't confronted him yet and I am not ready to because I don't want another series of lies and deceit. This is man that has taken very good care of my financial but what of emotional and again it's not all about money for me because I am not going to be a poor wife. Should I walk out of this relationship and cancel the wedding plans? I am so confused now, because if he truly loves me as he claims, he should be able to respect me, another question I wanted to ask him is this, why that lady.

Please nairalanders, what should I do, confront him or what, I have even discussed this with any of my family member. And since this incident I have been very down, so many thought have been crossing my mind.

NB: will be 27 by August

skarlett:



No kidding, whoever shows their love by cheating on a prospective partner

olac21:


Cmon not that she's not happy with the man she's just hurt!you guys should encourage her a bit to give the guy one more chance and preparations are at top-notch,so she should calm down and engage the guy in a one-on-one talk!that's it dear!

JustOzito:
do you love him?

skarlett:



We wish to but if a suitable husband is not forthcoming, we won't break our neck. I'm going to ignore the insult but kindly respect yourself.

Thank you

mimzy:


U quoted me wrong...

i said "Cheating is not enough to cancel the plans if you truly love him and vice versa".

i did not say the guy is showing her love by cheating on her... i said cheating is not enough an excuse to cancel the wedding plans

i also went further to say that "Aint saying she shouldn't express her hurts ..." and this simply means i am not in support of what the guy did and she has a right to air her grievance .

Capisce?

EgunMogaji:


1) you can be rude, it's your right, but you'll meet me at home

2) my private life is none of your damn bizwhacks. When I post my private life on Nairaland then you'll get to sink your fangs into matter.

It's about providing a good home. Don't worry, your seem young and that's the thing about age, it's a great educator.

joseph1832:
You think? I believe if she hates it when her husband to be, cheats on her, then she should cancel, better save herself the headache of complaining all over social media.

bigerboy200:
U are wearing the shoes..so only u can tell where it hurts...The choice to stay or leave is fully yours.. If we say u shuld walk out of the fully matured relationship, who then will u marry as soon as possible,since u r obviously scared of your age..if we say u should stay and bear the brunt,we also won't b dere when u are crying over an eventual randy and cheating husband.... mind u tho..A man who isn't cheating today might be a Fela 2moro,Likewise, sum1 who is cheating today might as well be a future faithful husband..... I hav had a few relationships( youthful exuberance driven) whereby my main chicks knew I was cheating on a regular..In fact, I tell dem straight away that I am not the faithful type,but I make dem feel like d special one while I had my other flings,some were cool with it, others weren't.... but with time I changed to b a very responsible guy.A..He could change tomorrow and he could get worse....just talk to him in love and ask him if he ever hav plans of being responsible and faithful,also explain to him how is randy act is affecting n hurting ur emotions.....mind u...Tiwa Savage matter still dey fresh as hot bread oh..

queenoflafia:
Don't cancel your wedding plans pls.there is no perfect man and neither is there a perfect woman.just talk to him and let him know how what he is doing is affecting u.
The other day I said it was in their DNA,they called for my head

rheether:
You see husband and you're complaining. Babe go ahead and marry him jhoor. He will still cheat on you anyway so it's a no win situation.

D2diff:
So Another human being should become a back up and a second fiddle? How would it feel if another human turned you to an emergency solution?

mimzy:


U quoted me wrong...

i said "Cheating is not enough to cancel the plans if you truly love him and vice versa".

i did not say the guy is showing her love by cheating on her... i said cheating is not enough an excuse to cancel the wedding plans
i also went further to say that "Aint saying she shouldn't express her hurts ..." and this simply means i am not in support of what the guy did and she has a right to air her grievance

Capisce?

jeje123:
I support dis advice jaweee honestly life is all about up and down throw the ball on the floor and let see what would happen

Mologi:
Eni lori o ni fila... ..

Dnt marry him because u will see another man that doesnt sleep around.. ..

Because Na only u be the woman God created with punna...



Mo n wa iyawo ooo

ilovemylife:

Thanks for the advice
I am going to confront him and it's going to be today

onstelly:

Am not as young as you think , so forget the looks but what am saying in essence is this, in as much as I wouldn't advice her to cancel her marriage plans. You sounded as if what the guy did was right and she doesn't have any right to be hurt, let's all try to be truth all the time and condemn what is wrong.

Guys if it's a girl that cheated now, all hell will be let loose, anyways that my 2cent. Do have wonderful day

Taiwo20:



The other lady is just warning his bed....that doesn't mean he doesn't love his girl or won't marry her....give him time,he would change

mimzy:
tbh joseph...

How many men nowadays don't cheat??

At the end... you have a point..if she can't cope, she should cancel her plans to marry him.

D2diff:
1) if he is a Christian, he is committing a sin
2) If he isn't, he is a hypocrite if he finds it hard to allow another person warms her bed.

joseph1832:
I hope you wouldn't call me a woman wrapper if I tell you this is the logic I subscribe to? I'm even thinking of having a baby mama.

Baby daddy Joe, abeg do make I come chop baby dedication rice