ilovemylife:

Thanks you, tears rolled down my eyes as I read this price, do you know the only person am really considering is my mum, how is she gonna take this if I tell her am not going to go ahead with this, we have gone deep into the preparation and so many things has been bought and paid for. I have never been this hurt my whole life

rheether:


Poverty? No. Low self esteem? Hell No. If only you know what the pressure is like.

D2diff:
I agree that the consequences are the reasons some women are deterred and that applies to some women irrespective of location and colour. However it does not negate the fact that women cheat.

I am not really concerned about the causes so I am sorry I won't be arguing with you on that. I am more interested in the reality which affirms that women cheat and this include those women manrried to richer and sometimes young men.

queenoflafia:
Don't cancel your wedding plans pls.there is no perfect man and neither is there a perfect woman.just talk to him and let him know how what he is doing is affecting u.
The other day I said it was in their DNA,they called for my head

ilovemylife:

I am not looking for a perfect man my dear
Just a man that will respect me
Sleeping with her shows he doesn't have a single respect for me. Many many factors is what am really considering and my mum is num one of them

ilovemylife:
I met a guy of 31 through my elder sister, last year February. He started asking me out but because I just came out of a bad relationship, I told him that I am not yet ready to go into a relationship now but he hanged on until August, by then we had become good friends and we started dating.

But three months into the relationship I noticed that my boyfriend has a thing with a lady that stays in the same street with me, a lady I have known all my life cos we grew up together, I confronted him and he told me that it was just a Fling and nothing more, so I told him to please stop whatever he is doing with the girl because we know each other and he promised too. I trusted him to because I can't be going around checking up on a man old enough to take care of himself. So during his birthday this year, he told me the girl called him to wish him happy birthday and asked him hope she will be getting an invite for the party, so he asked me if he should invite her, I told him he can that I don't have a problem with that. So he invited her for the birthday party and she came for the party and my boyfriend introduced me to her as his girlfriend, in that same party my boyfriend gave me the surprise of my life when he asked me to marry him and I accepted.

We are now planning for our traditional wedding which is coming up July but I was shocked to find out that my husband to be is still sleeping with that same girl because I stumble on their whatsapp chat. I feel like my world is crashing before my very eyes, I am so confused, what should I do. I haven't confronted him yet and I am not ready to because I don't want another series of lies and deceit. This is man that has taken very good care of my financial but what of emotional and again it's not all about money for me because I am not going to be a poor wife. Should I walk out of this relationship and cancel the wedding plans? I am so confused now, because if he truly loves me as he claims, he should be able to respect me, another question I wanted to ask him is this, why that lady.

Please nairalanders, what should I do, confront him or what, I have even discussed this with any of my family member. And since this incident I have been very down, so many thought have been crossing my mind.

NB: will be 27 by August

AreaFada2:
let me make a medical analogy. Anybody, including kids ( retinoblastoma, leukaemia) can have cancer. But still, cancer is a disease of old age. Lay people will of course dispute this but it is a fact. Research figures and experience clearly show that. People do die of thunder strike, but the chances if dying from a road accident if far higher.

Anything can happen anywhere, but we are talking of prevalence, consistency and reproducibility.
The thread was about a cheating fiance, if you start a thread on a cheating fiancee, we can then dissect that.

ilovemylife:

Is not like he cheated my dear, he did it with someone I have know all my life, someone he promised not to contact again, someone who was there when he asked me to married him, someone I haven't talked to all my life till she came for his birthday party February this year.
I am hurting and I feel so ashamed that my husband to be can stoop this low.
But all the same thanks for you advice

ilovemylife:

Is not like he cheated my dear, he did it with someone I have know all my life, someone he promised not to contact again, someone who was there when he asked me to married him, someone I haven't talked to all my life till she came for his birthday party February this year.
I am hurting and I feel so ashamed that my husband to be can stoop this low.
But all the same thanks for you advice

Mologi:
Eni lori o ni fila... ..

Dnt marry him because u will see another man that doesnt sleep around.. ..

Because Na only u be the woman God created with punna...



Mo n wa iyawo ooo

permsec:
You can consult Dyt. She has a great level of idea about issues as pertains to this. But aS for me,I think some part of u is in love with the dude because of his pocket.




Thank me later.

xtervaganza:
you this guy no de taya



I go deal with you one day




O le RI iyawo SE

ilovemylife:
I met a guy of 31 through my elder sister, last year February. He started asking me out but because I just came out of a bad relationship, I told him that I am not yet ready to go into a relationship now but he hanged on until August, by then we had become good friends and we started dating.

But three months into the relationship I noticed that my boyfriend has a thing with a lady that stays in the same street with me, a lady I have known all my life cos we grew up together, I confronted him and he told me that it was just a Fling and nothing more, so I told him to please stop whatever he is doing with the girl because we know each other and he promised too. I trusted him to because I can't be going around checking up on a man old enough to take care of himself. So during his birthday this year, he told me the girl called him to wish him happy birthday and asked him hope she will be getting an invite for the party, so he asked me if he should invite her, I told him he can that I don't have a problem with that. So he invited her for the birthday party and she came for the party and my boyfriend introduced me to her as his girlfriend, in that same party my boyfriend gave me the surprise of my life when he asked me to marry him and I accepted.

We are now planning for our traditional wedding which is coming up July but I was shocked to find out that my husband to be is still sleeping with that same girl because I stumble on their whatsapp chat. I feel like my world is crashing before my very eyes, I am so confused, what should I do. I haven't confronted him yet and I am not ready to because I don't want another series of lies and deceit. This is man that has taken very good care of my financial but what of emotional and again it's not all about money for me because I am not going to be a poor wife. Should I walk out of this relationship and cancel the wedding plans? I am so confused now, because if he truly loves me as he claims, he should be able to respect me, another question I wanted to ask him is this, why that lady.

Please nairalanders, what should I do, confront him or what, I have even discussed this with any of my family member. And since this incident I have been very down, so many thought have been crossing my mind.

NB: will be 27 by August

D2diff:
I am still going to disagree. I have heard of how nurses fvck around with doctors in Nigerian hospitals and I have seen how my married teachers frolic with each other and I have heard how my neighbour who sells something have sex with another married man.

Sorry I am still going to disagree because if poverty is a reason for infidelity, then financial security is a definitely a reason to cheat.

Dammiesugar:
Even if you show him the evidence, he might confess and apologise but be prepared for the worst in the marriage. Look else my dear, there are still alot of responsible men out there moreover work on yourself cos you seem dependant. Get a good job

Dammiesugar:
Even if you show him the evidence, he might confess and apologise but be prepared for the worst in the marriage. Look else my dear, there are still alot of responsible men out there moreover work on yourself cos you seem dependant. Get a good job

Dammiesugar:
Even if you show him the evidence, he might confess and apologise but be prepared for the worst in the marriage. Look else my dear, there are still alot of responsible men out there moreover work on yourself cos you seem dependant. Get a good job

HaneefahRN:



Doveda, don't bring nurses and Drs into this
Most of what you heard are exaggerations and lies plus imaginations born out of Nollywood films.


But I'm not disputing what you are trying say though. A married female friend ( a well off woman) of my aunt was telling her how she and some friends enjoy their lives (cheat), I just open mouth. My aunt just put her at arm's length .These are women you would never think are involved in such, and their husbands will also be feeling smart while cheating on them. Marriage is loosing it's meaning.