Hi NLanders am not gonna do it the NL way...Yea it's about me and not my friend's as some peeps usually say....I am a 25years old guy in dilemma....I have always been a player all my life...I have NEVER had any serious relationship...In fact during my undergraduate years, there was a time a had 11 gal friends at the same time( I dey form coach that time i.e football team). I have done a lot of crazy things with girls.. Am not proud about my past though... Now here is my problem.. For over a year now, I decided to stop that kinda lifestyle and get into a serious relationship with a decent girl but am finding it difficult to find that decent girl cos of my past relationship with girls...I have tried everything possible to reshape my lifestyle but finding that right woman has kept eluding me...e.g I have not had sex for over a year now just to cleanse myself....I keep seeing all girls as same cos of my past experiences ...Please NLanders I need ur advice... It's about me... It's really disturbing me...

To end this problem PRESS 1

cruzita:
To end this problem PRESS 1

Lol.....am actually in need of serious advise..Thanks

cruzita:
To end this problem PRESS 1

Lol.

Hi NLanders am not gonna do it the NL way...Yea it's about me and not my friend's as some peeps usually say....I am a 25years old guy in dilemma....I have always been a player all my life...I have NEVER had any serious relationship...In fact during my undergraduate years, there was a time a had 11 gal friends at the same time( I dey form coach that time i.e football team). I have done a lot of crazy things with girls.. Am not proud about my past though... Now here is my problem.. For over a year now, I decided to stop that kinda lifestyle and get into a serious relationship with a decent girl but am finding it difficult to find that decent girl cos of my past relationship with girls...I have tried everything possible to reshape my lifestyle but finding that right woman has kept eluding me...e.g I have not had sex for over a year now just to cleanse myself....I keep seeing all girls as same cos of my past experiences ...Please NLanders I need ur advice... It's about me... It's really disturbing me... For whatever a man soweth, so shall he reap!!

IF YOU COULD LURE 11 GIRLS INTO A RELATIONSHIP THEN 1 DECENT GIRL WNT BE HARD

iceberylin:
IF YOU COULD LURE 11 GIRLS INTO A RELATIONSHIP THEN 1 DECENT GIRL WNT BE HARD

Lol...u still don't understand me...I simply bleeped them without emotions attached...

Stop being a PLAYER, una no go hear, una go dey form baddo .. AM pretty sure u can c d effect now!..





















Anyways, i will try 2 put u in my prayer's dis nyt hope that helps? , dnt thank me what are frdz 4

it's hard when a Playa wants to be serious..juz look at George clooney for example...he's doing this "monkey bars" ,jumping from one relationship to another...and finally settled down at the age of 53...

So OP, don't worry..Ur still young to be serious...

ErnieSmallzz:
Stop being a PLAYER, una no go hear, una go dey form baddo .. AM pretty sure u can c d effect now!..





















Anyways, i will try 2 put u in my prayer's dis nyt hope that helps? , dnt thank me what are frdz 4

Thanks...I will really appreciate ur prayers.... It was all just youth exuberance... Am a changed man now...

KashyBaby:
it's hard when a Playa wants to be serious..juz look at George clooney for example...he's doing this "monkey bars" ,jumping from one relationship to another...and finally settled down at the age of 53...

So OP, don't worry..Ur still young to be serious...

Cruel...

Ephetar:


Thanks...I will really appreciate ur prayers.... It was all just youth exuberance... Am a changed man now...

i said dnt Thank me, u no dey hear english? , anyways u welcome sha ...













Are u sure, u are really a changed Man now??

ErnieSmallzz:
i said dnt Thank me, u no dey hear english? , anyways u welcome sha ...













Are u sure, u are really a changed Man now??

Yea.. Have changed

Wen u dy form coach u dnt knw,anyway move closer to God

Seek God first nd every other thing will be handed to you

Hmmm..... Nawa o....This one wey everybody come dey form good Christian on top my head....Well am closer to God now than before

Dear nairalanders...it's almost a year I created this thread but am still going through same problem.... I have really worked on myself for the past two years but I keep finding it difficult to go into a relationship at 26...

after you've broken 11+ hearts, now you're looking for a decent girl. see your life

aflyingbird:
after you've broken 11+ hearts, now you're looking for a decent girl. see your life

I was just naive then...But two years is enough punishment already.....

Ephetar:


I was just naive then...But two years is enough punishment already.....

Two years, it's still too small...
When it's like 4 let us know

Have you tried going for counselling?. It must not necessarily be physical, you can search for a good one online. It will help. Nigerians don't believe in seeking professional help but it's always very necessary and worth it. You should also really repent and pray about it.

U sed u hv turned a new leaf bt I tink ur mentality is stl working against u, play boys dnt always value women, dey see women as tissue paper, use and trash dem. Go 4 counseling, ur mentality hv 2 change 4rm Wat it used 2 b wen u were a play boy, Dats d only way u cn recognize luv if u eventually see, Gud luck

TINALETC3:
U sed u hv turned a new leaf bt I tink ur mentality is stl working against u, play boys dnt always value women, dey see women as tissue paper, use and trash dem. Go 4 counseling, ur mentality hv 2 change 4rm Wat it used 2 b wen u were a play boy, Dats d only way u cn recognize luv if u eventually see, Gud luck

Thanks a lot....

Coldfeet:

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