slyIsaac:
So you want me to read all tat epistle because you no wan marry?







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obiorathesubtle:
Didn't read.. Don't care!

lrguru:
if u know u can't get married, please stay away from d1cks 4ever

rose54321:
You name "beast of no nation", that movie was wow.

ivyy:
Marriage is not for everyone.
I would suggest you do whatever suits you.
If you thinks it wouldn't work for you then so be it.

Who knows, someday you might also find a man who sweeps you off your feet.

BeastOfNoNation:


So why did you comment?

Itchy fingers my Dear..


I see you've seen the movie beast of no nation.. Interesting movie.. Wanna talk about it??

obiorathesubtle:
Itchy fingers my Dear..


I see you've seen the movie beast of no nation.. Interesting movie.. Wanna talk about it??

IamLEGEND1:
I honestly couldn't care less.
Next möron pls.

BeastOfNoNation:


I would be happy to talk about it in another thread

aahh.. I won't derail your thread..

Somewhere else then.. Although, if you don't want to get married, that's fine.. If you change your mind, I'm single and straight

ThreeGEEKS:
1. The Bible never said every woman must marry.
2. You said you didn't want problem, then clearly marriage is not for you. Marriage is for those who can see a problem and rough it out together. People get into the university hopefull never to have any "problem", but that is not always the case. And that never stopped others for going into the university because "they don't want problem"
3. In Marriage, you have to learn to compromise. If you see someone who meets 75% of your expectations, that's a gold find. Take it or leave it. You can never get all you are looking for from one person. Even God is still" Three persons in one"

BeastOfNoNation:
Hello Nairalanders!!

Recently, I realized that the idea of marriage doesn't excite me AT ALL. This realization came about when I was talking to my older cousin who's sister just recently got engaged. I was very happy to hear the news and we were all celebrating for her and wishing her good things. So while I was hugging her, she looked at me and said "Ejirooo! Very soon we'll be celebrating your own engagement ooo!" So we started laughing and she went to talk to the other cousins and aunties. It now occured to me that she was right. One day I will kuku marry. And the thought of that seriously scares me.

You see, I've had relationships before and I've met some of the nicest Naija guys on the face of the planet BUT I've never imagined myself being married to any of them. I've never even experienced real attraction to any of them

Ironically, I've imagined myself being a mother (I'm very nurturing and maternal by nature) and I think it's part of the problem. I would like to adopt children in the future and I haven't met any Nigerian guy who is okay with that idea. Please let me clarify, I WANT TO HAVE MY OWN CHILDREN but I also want to adopt some so that I can give them a better life. I know that being a single mother carries a stigma in Nigerian society but I like the idea of it personally. Lots of fathers are not even directly involved in the rearing of their child anyway.

My second issue with marriage is the multiple problems that can arise. Domestic abuse, Infidelity, Divorce, etc. It seems like everyday one person is having issues with their marriage and it's making me believe that this marriage thing isn't worth the pain. I don't like wahala in my life. I'm also afraid of those guys that control their women's lives and dominate in every aspect. I understand a male being masculine but I don't want to be regarded as a lesser human being to him. It seems like some guys can't differentiate between a wife and a slave

My third issue is that I just don't really understand the need for marriage. I'm pretty self dependent and I can't imagine living with a man let alone marrying one and taking care of him for the rest of my life. While dating, me and my ex just did our own thing. We both had jobs so I didn't need money (plus I have a father if I really need anything ). Marriage title won't add any benefit to my life so what is the use? When I used to go to my last church, the Pastor will be shaking and shouting and praying that the women in church will find husband. The women will now be jumping and fainting and rolling on the ground. I used to stand there and just look at them because I didn't understand. Is It because of Mrs. title or diamond wedding ring? Monogamous marriage doesn't even seem to work in Africa from what I've seen

I'm definitely going to marry just so that my mother will not shout but it will have to be somebody that does his own thing and isn't looking for the conventional wife. It just seems very inconvenient though.

So my questions are:

1) What is the actual use of Marriage?

2) Do any other females feel this way? (I specifically ask females because I have met males who feel this way but if you are male you can answer too )

3) Is marriage for everybody?

Please respond! thank you!

obiorathesubtle:
aahh.. I won't derail your thread..

Somewhere else then.. Although, if you don't want to get married, that's fine.. If you change your mind, I'm single and straight

BeastOfNoNation:


Lol I will write down your name and get back to you

Ayomide93:
whao, this is awesome. The idea of cohabiting or just having a baby is all I ever wished for not some senseless marriage and some fantasies of love.

maoweidong:
Talking about insecurities in an insecure world that's why we turn to God for help. If you've never had any reason to be sad since you were born then marriage isn't for you k (just saying)

BeastOfNoNation:


You said Marriage is for those who see a problem and rough it out together. Why would I readily give myself a problem? What is the reward for solving the problem? Please I hope I don't sound harsh. I'm just curious

obiorathesubtle:
Lol, I wonder how many names you've written down..

BeastOfNoNation:


That's my secret