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Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by easymanofdpeopl(m): 9:48am On May 24, 2016 |
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! by Maryam Habu shinga HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent. 1 Like |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by UrWorstNitemare: 9:54am On May 24, 2016 |
*in sugar boi's voice* U' VE GATTO LET DEM KNO.... |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Nobody: 9:56am On May 24, 2016 |
Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream 2 Likes
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Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Laveda(f): 9:57am On May 24, 2016 |
Point noted! You should space your writing. |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by madone: 10:03am On May 24, 2016 |
wow right thinking post...big ups Op |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by easymanofdpeopl(m): 10:04am On May 24, 2016 |
Laveda:Thanks ma'am correction noted |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by easymanofdpeopl(m): 10:06am On May 24, 2016 |
Hope our mod will take it to front page to let people benefit |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Nobody: 10:09am On May 24, 2016 |
SANDOSKI: Describe your dream husband...... |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by easymanofdpeopl(m): 10:13am On May 24, 2016 |
Rocktation , farano please we need you here |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Swissheart(f): 10:17am On May 24, 2016 |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by whogoscam: 10:18am On May 24, 2016 |
Useless post. So our women should marry a short, ugly and poor man abi? It's a crime to desire a rich and tall man ba? Those so called poor men who women struggle with how many remember the woman? Most end up cheating on her or getting a second wife forgetting what they both went through so why stress our ladies? Ladies, husband no be by force. . If u like marry poverty itself in the name of husband scarcity. You are on your pwn. As a man, as long as u have two hands and two working legs and a working sound mental state you don't need a woman to hustle with you. What does d woman want to do for you sef? Help you sell gala on d street? What other than to satisfy sexual desires. I don't see anything women do with men in the name of hustling. The man still does all d work. Yeah she might do little stuff that aren't so relevant. And marriage is not permanent. Who cooked up this BS article sef? Ah ah I'm sure it's one wretched house wife have u heard the word "Divorce"? 1 Like |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Nobody: 10:20am On May 24, 2016 |
SANDOSKI:before nko do you want me to describe my dream husband as a short, ugly,wretched idiot? 1 Like |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by firstking01(m): 10:23am On May 24, 2016 |
SANDOSKI:Coming from a supposed ....anyway, you 've been one of the coolest girls on here |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by easymanofdpeopl(m): 10:31am On May 24, 2016 |
farano please we need you here |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by SapeleWater(m): 10:46am On May 24, 2016 |
The one wey dey pain me pass na those girls wey dey find God-fearing men wey be say God Himself dey fear dem. |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Smellymouth: 6:49am On May 27, 2016 |
SANDOSKI: Where are you? |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Nobody: 6:57am On May 27, 2016 |
SANDOSKI:
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Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by onstelly(f): 7:18am On May 27, 2016 |
SANDOSKI:Now you got me laughing so hard with this |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by ThreeGEEKS(m): 7:23am On May 27, 2016 |
Please it's not only husbands that are scarce, even wife material are also scarce these days. Have you seen how girls of nowadays behave It's NO longer easy to find a good woman in today's world |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Burgerlomo: 8:19am On May 27, 2016 |
easymanofdpeopl: God bless you |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by easymanofdpeopl(m): 2:25pm On Jun 01, 2016 |
Burgerlomo:Amen |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Owoplenty(m): 3:55pm On Jun 01, 2016 |
juhan:and the last time i checked your statue it was single, hope you've change ? |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Nobody: 4:22pm On Jun 01, 2016 |
Owoplenty:your point? |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Owoplenty(m): 6:59pm On Jun 01, 2016 |
juhan:your being choosy is possibly the cause of your lone life |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by jashar(f): 7:06pm On Jun 01, 2016 |
So, in a bid to be married, we should settle? Issorait ooooo........ |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Nobody: 8:18pm On Jun 01, 2016 |
Owoplenty:ha! do i sound like a lonely person? In need of a patner? go preach elsewhere |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Maxi112: 8:39pm On Jun 01, 2016 |
juhan:hello swidy, how was ur day today? |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by pbs4real(m): 8:47pm On Jun 01, 2016 |
Laveda:understanding the msg is the most imp tin and not space ur writting. . |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by pbs4real(m): 8:48pm On Jun 01, 2016 |
jashar:wah's dis one saying |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Nobody: 8:50pm On Jun 01, 2016 |
Maxi112:Hi. Goodevening. It was normal. Didnt do much today sha. You? 1 Like |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by jashar(f): 8:50pm On Jun 01, 2016 |
Re: Husband Scarcity An Advice For Our Ladies by Laveda(f): 8:52pm On Jun 01, 2016 |
pbs4real: And where did I state that I don't understand him? |
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