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HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!...(A Must Read For Everyone) by seyoops4u: 1:00pm On May 27, 2016 |
Sorry for this epistle but it worth it.....happy reading. HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is: A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled . MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM . It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY . Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". Hey! PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage,not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF . And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen.Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent. Good day! #Curbed.... 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!...(A Must Read For Everyone) by Nobody: 2:55pm On May 27, 2016 |
Great write up @op, I want to add that, although economic challenges is one of the major reason why we have HUSBAND SCARCITY today, but your points above validate why even those (GUYS ) who are relatively well to do financially finds it difficult to settle down. The poor guys complain about no money The rich ones don't know who genuinely love them and not for the money. My pastor last Sunday called for a special closed door meeting with all matured eligible single ladies in the church who their guys don't want to take the next step forward. I couldn't help myself but laugh. 2 Likes |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!...(A Must Read For Everyone) by bayonino: 8:47pm On May 27, 2016 |
I cant believe this, just one comment on one of the best Topic ever, if it all about celebrities and useless news, the mod and seun would have put this on FP. Dear OP, you made alot of sense, may God open the eyes of these ladies of nowadays to see the truth. Most times the reason for most divorce is because most ladies marry because of selffishness and not because of real love, they often want the best why they are not close to been the best. I will advise any man that want rest of mind for himself should be careful who he marry, even if she marries you, doesnt mean she wont leave you when things arent going in the right way, once again @OP thumbs up to you, for this reasonable observation. 4 Likes |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!...(A Must Read For Everyone) by nnamdibig(m): 2:15am On May 28, 2016 |
Nice one |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!...(A Must Read For Everyone) by aljharem(m): 3:53am On May 28, 2016 |
Nigerian ladies don't like this 1 Like |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!...(A Must Read For Everyone) by treasuredkids(f): 9:07am On May 28, 2016 |
Good writeup and on point. May God help our ladies to have a better enlightenment about life and not all this fantasies that clouds their sense of reasoning. As for the young men, may they be able to make wise decisions as to the right woman to settle with. One that will stand by them tro thick and thin and not one that will walk in and out at will. 2 Likes |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!...(A Must Read For Everyone) by seyoops4u: 11:12am On Jul 08, 2016 |
bayonino: Thanks man... I really appreciate ur comment |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!...(A Must Read For Everyone) by Nobody: 5:34pm On Jul 08, 2016 |
I concur |
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