MizMyColi:


Hahahahahhha
I used to be that girl too, whose ultimate ambition was to serve my husband, with my blood sef if desperate times call for it.
But all that is changing now.
And my dear, impossible is nothing.

Do I still want to get married? No "still want" is Undermining...I DESIRE to get married.
Why? I want to form a lifelong partnership with someone who understands what it's like to be me. I want to build a home and kids who are replicas of their creator. I am aware that two heads are better than one. I want to be with someone whom I will share my completeness with, someone who understands that I am not lacking in any way. He helps me grow, I help him grow. I want to be the wife of someone who understands that CHRIST IN US IS OUR ONLY HOPE OF GLORY. Not woman in man or man in woman is our only hope of glory.
OR Man needing woman/Woman NEEDING MAN is our only hope of glory.

Now I believe that there is a right time for everything under the Sun.
Mine is happening now.

What about those who will not have their desires met till they are 30 going on 35?
Should they be miserable, desperados who have no iota of self anymore, other than a ring and a title?

Is it actually okay to live in the awareness that you are complete and you're not lacking in anyway even if you do not have a man to call your own?
What happened to your dreams?
Why did you jettison them?
Why lay it all down for a future you are not even sure of whem and how it will happen? Why? Why?

If it is marriage you desire, you will have it. It will come. Know the one in whom you have believed. If you do not desire marriage, forget the 1980s talk on this thread....don't force yourself to desire it. It is not compulsory. Fulfilling your inner purpose is what's compulsory.
Either ways, just be! learn to always be at a state of peace and rest.
Will there be times when you feel an aching for someone, for some intimate loving, yes.
But you cannot let that become your sole focus...you can't.
You are much more than that babe!
Carry on! Live, Please!
Feel free to walk away and disidentify from negative situations and negativity.

*Sighs* Sorry Dicefrost, most of what I typed up there isn't for you.
I can see these epistle spirits won't leave me.
lemme logout of NL first

Vickyydera:
Marriage is important, without marriage the society will look at you awkwardly and again women that discourage marriage use it to console themselves because they are not yet married. Most of the women that discourage marriage are mostly bitter,lonely and insecure.


Pinkiberry abeg leave mizmycoli alone, she may have over talked but for her to get married shows that she knows within her self that men are essential in a woman's life.

Congrats Mizmycoli, invite me to your wedding o.

I concur o o. Thank you eehh
Marriage is truly essential.

I hope you will not bring your Shell brother worker along if I invite you

MizMyColi:




I concur o o. Thank you eehh
Marriage is truly essential.

I hope you will not bring your Shell brother worker along if I invite you

Vickyydera:
my friend keep quiet, what I said its true. mizmycoli wasn't married when she was condemning marriage. have you seen any married woman condemning marriage or tell you women don't need marriage? reason before you spew trash.

if you guys want,you can condemn marriage all you want, it won't stop me from getting married and also be an independent successful woman, you can be both so don't come here and showcase your ignorance and bitterness then hide under the umbrella of feminists.

Hehehehehe
Beht Vicky
That makes the two of us naa.

Have you forgotten you created a thread with the following extracts

The general consensus among
relationship experts is that personal
independence is good for marriage.
Spending every waking moment with
your spouse and expecting them to fulfill
your every need can cause marital
problems. Therefore, in order to have a
healthy relationship, both you and your
spouse should have fulfilling lives
outside the marriage. At the very least,
you should:
Spend time alone
Alone time is one of the key ingredients
of a happy marriage. Even though you
are married, you still need time to grow
as an individual. You need time alone
with your thoughts in your own physical
space. This is why “man caves” are so
popular.
Spend time with friends
Spending time with friends is a great
excuse to take a break from married life
every once in a while. When you spend
most of your time functioning as a
couple, allowing yourselves to function
as individuals –even for a few hours –
can be very refreshing.
Spending periodic time apart also makes
the heart grow fonder. It makes the time
you spend together as a couple more
special.




Have an identity beyond being a wife or
husband
Your marriage should not be the only
source of satisfaction and contentment
in your life. In fact, being wholly reliant
on your spouse for support, assurance
and fulfillment is one of the signs of an
unhealthy relationship.
Your faith, personal interests and
hobbies, and career are some of the
things that can give you an identity and
purpose beyond being a spouse.




Remember that being married doesn’t
mean that you have to enjoy the same
interests and hobbies. It is perfectly fine
for each of you to “do your own thing”
once in a while.
Have some financial independence
A healthy relationship is one where both
parties have some financial freedom.
Both of you should have some
discretionary income that you can spend
however you wish. This way if one of
you likes expensive clothing and jewelry
and the other likes expensive gadgets,
you can both have what you want
without harming the other financially.
However, financial freedom should go
hand in hand with accountability. It is
not an excuse to hide your spending
habits from your spouse.
It is possible to be independent and
married at the same time. This doesn’t
mean that you can live separate lives
where you hardly ever see each other
and still have a healthy relationship or
healthy marriage. It means that it is
perfectly okay to spend time alone,
spend time with friends, have some
financial independence and have an
identity beyond being a spouse
source:
www.madaboutmarriage.com/blog/how-to-be-independent-and-have-a-healthy-relationship-marriage/

Source - Vickyydera thread here www.nairaland.com/3145681/how-independent-happily-married

Don't modify o I have screenshots

Now how is what I posted on this thread
any different from what you, Vicky posted above? Humor me please

I believe that such backward thinking, rather than creating strong stable marriages only leads to a weak form of it. For a marriage should be between two individuals who know themselves and are complementing each other on their personal growth and development and NOT where one person seeks value and worth in another person or institution

^^^ Aren't we communicating same thing?

Vickyydera:
Now am beginning to think pinkiberry was right in what she said. why tell us you dont need men/marriage cos you are miss independent and end up walking down the alter, it doesn't make sense. Nairaland feminist I hail una o. hahaha.

I guess we won't be hearing from the op again now that she is married. That's how their feminist dream die. Why are single ladies mostly feminists?

Why won't Vickyydera/vickydera and pinkiberry think the same thing when it is one individual operating both accounts and thinking from one shallow brain?

MizMyColi:


Why won't Vickyydera/vickydera and pinkiberry think the same thing when it is one individual operating both accounts and thinking from one shallow brain?

pinkiberry:
I just dug up this post because I saw a thread on Nairaland where mizmycoli said something about her husband,then I was really shocked cos this woman carry feminism for head,she getting married this year was surprising and she did it secretly,telling her friend her husband is a private fellow,he won't like to see his pictures online.
Am not saying mizmycoli shouldn't be a feminist o but her own is too much.

johnson232:

@bold na for only NL o.... she is a very submissive and understanding wife to her hubby, probably the one doing everything possible to sustain the union...

she is just propagating this message to deceive 'em gullible ladies, debasing marriage, when she pray's secretly everyday to God to preserve her marriage...

Do I still want to get married? No "still want" is Undermining...I DESIRE to get married.

If it is marriage you desire, you will have it. It will come. Know the one in whom you have believed. If you do not desire marriage, forget the 1980s talk on this thread....don't force yourself to desire it. It is not compulsory. Fulfilling your inner purpose is what's compulsory.

[b]Why? I want to form a lifelong partnership with someone who understands what it's like to be me. I want to build a home and kids who are replicas of their creator. I am aware that two heads are better than one. I want to be with someone whom I will share my completeness with, someone who understands that I am not lacking in any way. He helps me grow, I help him grow. I want to be the wife of someone who understands that CHRIST IN US IS OUR ONLY HOPE OF GLORY. Not woman in man or man in woman is our only hope of glory.
OR Man needing woman/Woman NEEDING MAN is our only hope of glory.

Now I believe that there is a right time for everything under the Sun.
Mine is happening now.

What about those who will not have their desires met till they are 30 going on 35?
Should they be miserable, desperados who have no iota of self anymore, other than a ring and a title?

Is it actually okay to live in the awareness that you are complete and you're not lacking in anyway even if you do not have a man to call your own?
What happened to your dreams?
Why did you jettison them?
Why lay it all down for a future you are not even sure of whem and how it will happen? Why? Why?[/b]

Vickyydera:
@doveda I guess this is why pibkiberry and Arsenate called her a hypocrite. She said she dont want to marry and got married so is this not contradiction? anti marriage feminists try and practice what you preach. bye.

Vickyydera:
doveda read this too.

Vickyydera:
doveda read this, if I tell you women that say marriage is unimportant are women that are getting old single n bitter

johnson232:

just leave doveda alone.... doveda is a lonely frustrasted witch! what do u expect...

allow her to wallow and swim in a life full of bitterness... which sane man will take a frustrated witch for a wife? let her keep consoling herself in delusion...

@MizMyColi i am convinced this antichrist u propagating will soon consume u... i just sorry for u... keep on deceiving 'em ladies...

Vickyydera:
ok doveda since you refuse to read, check out this guy post where he said Anti-marriage feminists.

Vickyydera:
she goes round talking about how she dont need marriage. hahahahaha.@doveda

doveda:
You need to learn to comprehend

Do you know what desperation mean? It is negative. A desperate person will do anything to achieve something even if it is harmful to their being including marrying an abusive man and a serial cheat. I know all about that. I grew up on in Nigeria


Basically, she is saying that one needs to open eyes like frog and not just jump into marriage because they are desperate. People who are desperate will make bad decision and will end up wallowing in regrets. They shouldn't be desperate to marry because of what mo.rons would say. There are times without number on Nairaland where men claim to be doing women a favour by marrying them. I don't flow with that logic at all. I would also stay unmarried than get married to a man who thinks he is doing me a favour because I believe marriage is a two way thing. We would be dong OURSELVES a favour.

Vickyydera:
if I quite instances she said she don't need marriage,she is better as a single lady , my MB go finish . let's just forget her talk.

doveda:
In your mind now you done so but I have managed to refute them all. She has never said she doesn't need marriage so you need to get your facts right. You have serious issues.

MizMyColi:
Hehehehehe
More Evidence



It's no coincidence that Pinkiberry and Vickyydera are studying one and the same course in the same institute.

Using two accounts to act like a confused attack dog on the same thread.

Nne, Do you have Multiple Personality Disorder?

Vickyydera:
in all mizmycoli posts all I can see is a frustrated single lady trying so hard to form boss lady but at the end she still landed under a man's roof. let's see if she won't be humble n good since she is miss independent.

Vickyydera:
doveda am not jealous, I dont like people doing the opposite of what they preach. this is what a married woman told her in one of her lamentation thread.

doveda:
Don't quote me again. You are a broken record, I am tired of you

Mindfulness:

MizMyColi:




Soul Sis.
Good morning from Nigeria.


Thank you, Doveda.
You have said it all.

johnson232:

@bold na for only NL o.... she is a very submissive and understanding wife to her hubby, probably the one doing everything possible to sustain the union...

she is just propagating this message to deceive 'em gullible ladies, debasing marriage, when she pray's secretly everyday to God to preserve her marriage...