With the current economic hardship, he goes to work on sundays, after church. But his wife wants him to stop working on sunday, because she feels lonely at home and thinks that it's not right as a christian. But he had to take care of the accumulating bills, especially now that she's pregnant. Pls is he being insensitive to her feeling or is she just being foolish as she's not working herself.

He should skip church, stay at home with his wife and then go to work later in the day

The woman est very insensitive... he should stay at home... who will pay dem bills...?

silvoice:
With the current economic hardship, he goes to work on sundays, after church. But his wife wants him to stop working on sunday, because she feels lonely at home and thinks that it's not right as a christian. But he had to take care of the accumulating bills, especially now that she's pregnant. Pls is he being insensitive to her feeling or is she just being foolish as she's not working herself.

How much money is it you make on Sundays that you can't dedicate it to God/staying with your family?
Is staying with your family ONCE a week too much to ask? You have to find a balance between work and family life; really have to create time for your family...You wouldn't enjoy whatever money you make if your family isn't at peace...
You're lucky you have a wife that wants you around her....

Bottomline: I don't think your wife is "foolish" for asking you to stay with her just ONCE a week....
All d best...

1kjobs:
He should skip church, stay at home with his wife and then go to work later in the day

she would not lik that option, cos it's a christian home. Though goin to church is not affecting him. 9a.m church is over, he goes to work at about 11a.m

silvoice:
With the current economic hardship, he goes to work on sundays, after church. But his wife wants him to stop working on sunday, because she feels lonely at home and thinks that it's not right as a christian. But he had to take care of the accumulating bills, especially now that she's pregnant. Pls is he being insensitive to her feeling or is she just being foolish as she's not working herself.

What kind of work demands his commitment even on sundays, every sunday?

PresVA:
How much money is it you make on Sundays that you can't dedicate it to God/staying with your family?
Is staying with your family ONCE a week too much to ask? You have to find a balance between work and family life; really have to create time for your family...You wouldn't enjoy whatever money you make if your family isn't at peace...
You're lucky you have a wife that wants you around her....

Bottomline: I don't think your wife is "foolish" for asking you to stay with her just ONCE a week....
All d best...

u are right. But i guess nobody lov work more than relaxation. As a low income earner, assuming he listens to her. What wil she do when landlord comes knocking, and d money is not their. Like she'll say 'God'll provide' abi?

I refuse to believe that the family won't survive if he doesn't work for a few hours on sundays...what if he is being treated in an hospital.?..is he gonna leave d bed to go to work?,..d reason ain't genuine.

silvoice:
u are right. But i guess nobody lov work more than relaxation. As a low income earner, assuming he listens to her. What wil she do when landlord comes knocking, and d money is not their. Like she'll say 'God'll provide' abi?

So he makes money for rent only on Sundays Smh...

Oga, you have to find a balance. .. Make out time for your family, simple...

EOD abeg...

crackhaus:

What kind of work demands his commitment even on sundays, every sunday?

this is a good guestion, U know that some business gives more money weekends, including sundays, than working days. His nature of business is also a factor

silvoice:
this is a good guestion, U know that some business gives more money weekends, including sundays, than working days. His nature of business is also a factor

I'm still interested, what is the nature of this business?

I see nothing wrong with what he's doing.Wife is pregnant and not working,bills to be paid.
How many hours does he spend working on sunday?A few hours and he's back home before 5pm is not bad.He's not being insensitive but being realistic.
The rest of the week,how much time does he spend outside of the house?

PresVA:
So he makes money for rent only on Sundays Smh...

Oga, you have to find a balance. .. Make out time for your family, simple...

EOD abeg...

thanks for the advise. He likes it when people talk of balancing work and family. That is what he has been trying to do for sometimes now but the need to increase income to ofset accumulating expenses is makin him sad.

silvoice:
With the current economic hardship, he goes to work on sundays, after church. But his wife wants him to stop working on sunday, because she feels lonely at home and thinks that it's not right as a christian. But he had to take care of the accumulating bills, especially now that she's pregnant. Pls is he being insensitive to her feeling or is she just being foolish as she's not working herself.

She's being a woman, that's all.
She misses his company and her emotions are going haywire now that she's pregnant.
He should reassure her and spend some extra time with her whenever he has the chance, but he doesn't have to stop working on Sunday.

5minsmadness:

She's being a woman, that's all.
She misses his company and her emotions are going haywire now that she's pregnant.
He should reassure her and spend some extra time with her whenever he has the chance, but he doesn't have to stop working on Sunday.

you've really spoken like a real man. Thanks

Sunday is a holy day so she is right to an extent.

Is he self-employed? What's the nature of the job?

Project400:
Is he self-employed? What's the nature of the job?

he is self employed. But d issue is nt wheda it's good 2 work or not, or about nature of work. It's about saving the family from financial crises

God wll help u.
Try n find a balance btwn ur family n work

Make she follow you dey go work. Problem solved.

D word "foolish" u used is very bad,u could ve used "insensitive". Back to ur question,working on Sunday is nt good,and again u ve a pregnant wife can't u just spare dt day and stay with her.

silvoice:
With the current economic hardship, he goes to work on sundays, after church. But his wife wants him to stop working on sunday, because she feels lonely at home and thinks that it's not right as a christian. But he had to take care of the accumulating bills, especially now that she's pregnant. Pls is he being insensitive to her feeling or is she just being foolish as she's not working herself.

silvoice:
he is self employed. But d issue is nt wheda it's good 2 work or not, or about nature of work. It's about saving the family from financial crises

Is there a way he can work from home on Sundays?

This money we run after so much will not follow us to our graves. Learn to cherish your loved ones while you still can. Take her to work or work half day, be reasonable!! Being a true man can never be measured by how much absent you have been in the name of making money. Not working once a week won't stop you from paying your bills if you are being honest to yourself.

Bro, if your market sells more on Sundays - pls, don't stop going just because you want to satisfy your wife. Times are hard and you need all the money you can get.

I can only implore you to try and balance it somehow - create time for your pregnant wife, she needs you now more than ever.

@all, thanks. He really appreciates ur candid advice.

If his job demands he works on Sunday and he hasn't gotten another, he will work. If Sunday job is optional and he needs the pay to support what he earns to meet bills' demand, he should be praised. The woman should be understanding and also get busy. On the other hand, agreement and understanding should be reached between them.

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Here is the solution, my people.
Since the Sunday work is optional plus wife wants husband to massage her belly on Sundays, the man should skip every other Sunday.

Also, he should cut down on or totally eliminate some expenses to make up for lost income.
They should go for cheaper brands and reduce usage/rations until things improve.
I believe this is a fair compromise.

He can create a balance. If he must work on Sunday which according to you is more lucrative then he should sacrifice another day in the week to spend time with wifey and look around his home. Working on Sunday can be done for a time being if it's absolutely necessary but don't make it a habit. Apart from the Christian values,he needs to rest. I've worked every day including on Sundays before and I tell you,if you break down,you will spend all the money you saved treating yourself.