My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

Still xpecting more from you

So sorry for your lost, every disappointment is a blessing but my brother in case of next time never beg for a relationship because u will end up been a slave to that union, dont pray for next but if a gal is meant to b yours she will always stay and fight for her place

acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

Plenty lessons for me.

Dis hoe's ain't loyal

I was feeling your pain abnitio until you started dishing out your unsought for advice.The fact that someone dies in his sleep doesn't mean sleep is harmful to the body.Same way you've gotten your share of heart break doesn't mean other men has not been responsible for ladies heart break.Just move on as she has said and stop misleading the already misled sane minds.

Eleyi gidigan o. Chai! I can feel your pain like co-joined twins connected by brain


Like a man, pick yourself up, dust yourself and move on


All is well sha
Wish you all the best

some people dont know the value of what they have until they lose it





But having a side chic won't solve the problem, its just like advising a Lady to have a side boyfriend incase of anything .

Florblu:
I was feeling your pain abnitio until you started dishing out your unsought for advice.The fact that someone dies in his sleep doesn't mean sleep is harmful to the body.Same way you've gotten your share of heart break doesn't mean other men has not been responsible for ladies heart break.Just move on as she has said and stop misleading the already misled sane minds.

you can't blame him. He's only being emotional

If Snake don bite you before, if you see rope, you go run

Maybe she went to c a pastor or someone and they said something odawise about u guys relatnshp.
Am sorry

Florblu:
I was feeling your pain abnitio until you started dishing out your unsought for advice.The fact that someone dies in his sleep doesn't mean sleep is harmful to the body.Same way you've gotten your share of heart break doesn't mean other men has not been responsible for ladies heart break.Just move on as she has said and stop misleading the already misled sane minds.

He's saying the truth tho

Moving on is the painful part, but no matter how much it's hurts that d only way we grow.... Pick urself up, LeaRn your lessons and keep moving...

Mehn! this is serious. Why are ladies like this that's how they'll be coming up with mood swings. abeg, I'm tired!! Moving on is hard, but you just have to, bruv! she wasn't meant for you.

OP; shιt happens; can fυcking tell you've fυcking moved on and still fυcking standing strong; you're fυcking blessed; and a big fυcking thanks for sharing this;

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity

OP; again; you're fυcking blessed for this comment; from fυcking experience; without a fυcking side chick; it's fυcking terrible;

guys fυcking wise up; most ladies fυcking know this rule and are fυcking good at it; most ladies do not restrict their pυssy to only one diςk

When we Tell men not to fall in love..... They won't hear

When will Tell men "if you must fall in love then fall with your head and not your heart"..... They won't hear

When we Tell men" Be the boss of your relationship and call the shots"... They won't hear

When we Tell men that it is in our DNA to mate with multiple partners..... They won't hear, They will be forming Real, Gentleman, Nice guys to win women approval

When we Tell men our stories and ask them to learn from it..... They won't hear until they become victims

When we Tell men to stop spending on Girlfriends.... They won't hear, They will be forming Mr Responsible

................................................................................................................................................

Anyways,.. Welcome to the club of the big boiz... Drink away your sins 'cos you have towed the path of self recovery and a player is born.

PUAs please join me and let's give a heartily welcome to our newest member!

Never make a mistake of convincing a girl that want to leave you to stay.

be happy the fault wasn't from u... take solace in that... but I am so sure of 1 thing... KARMA is always awake and would knock on her door soon... it's painful and hurts deeply. ..but u av got to move on!!!! e go so sweet ur body.. when she comes begging... leave her 2 her conscience.

I did not want to say something that would hurt you because of the fact that you sound hurt already... Back to the matter, what happened when she came to spend some weeks in your place? Returned home and started acting funny? Tell me, why did you say you are less of a man?

Okay, you work in a hospital and practice privately but is money everything that a Lady wants?

About the side chick, how did you feel when you discovered she left you for the side dude who was a far "better man" than you?

I will drop my pen here. Nobody knows about the bravery of the dead lion, only the living hunter who has tales to tell.

I remain Foxy and I Flow...

Florblu:
I was feeling your pain abnitio until you started dishing out your unsought for advice.The fact that someone dies in his sleep doesn't mean sleep is harmful to the body.Same way you've gotten your share of heart break doesn't mean other men has not been responsible for ladies heart break.Just move on as she has said and stop misleading the already misled sane minds.

Thanks for this, you said my mind.
In addition, @OP you have been bitten and you are definitely hurt, learn to stand straight and tall when things like this happen. Try to see the better part of things, you are a perfect man for a lady out there but not this particular one.

FoxyFlow:
I did not want to say something that would hurt you because of the fact that you sound hurt already... Back to the matter, what happened when she came to spend some weeks in your place? Returned home and started acting funny? Tell me, why did you say you are less of a man?

Okay, you work in a hospital and practice privately but is money everything that a Lady wants?

About the side chick, how did you feel when you discovered she left you for the side dude who was a far "better man" than you?

I will drop my pen here. Nobody knows about the bravery of the dead lion, only the living hunter who has tales to tell.

I remain Foxy and I Flow...

I was having same tort after reading about his ordeal though painful but we shouldn't judge from one side

sowi bro,beta days ahead

Bros the lady is not meant for you. Just move on with your life,you are a big boy.To get loyal women these days for marriage,na by luck and divine guidance.

cruzita:
some people dont know the value of what they have until they lose it





But having a side chic won't solve the problem, its just like advising a Lady to have a side boyfriend incase of anything .

Hia,this it adage get comma.do u know what really transpired between them to know who is really losing here.

OP thanks. Indeed a lot of lessons learnt. I also have learnt from my experience with ladies. The first is never compromise your hustle or future for her.

But i disagree on the part of side chick. If you love someone truly, then stay faithful no matter the outcome. Why do you want to become a cheat because someone cheated on you. Why will you wanna use people because others used you. Just stay focused and true to yourself and your dreams. You will still meet a lady thay will love you and complete you as a man.

Sorry about your experience. I feel your pain

acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

am always proud of my siggy when ever I read stories like this..I keep saying it, guy is not compulsory to have a side chick but is very important n necessary to have one to aviod stories that touch..is like going on a far journey without a spare tyre..
2.guys focus more on your hustle n don't compromise your dream for any girl because NO LADY WANTS A BROKE GUY NEITHER WILL THEY SETTLE FOR LESS.

ilobasama:
OP thanks. Indeed a lot of lessons learnt. I also have learnt from my experience with ladies. The first is never compromise your hustle or future for her.

But i disagree on the part of side chick. If you love someone truly, then stay faithful no matter the outcome. Why do you want to become a cheat because someone cheated on you. Why will you wanna use people because others used you. Just stay focused and true to yourself and your dreams. You will still meet a lady thay will love you and complete you as a man.

Sorry about your experience. I feel your pain

SORRY

garnet2:
When we Tell men not to fall in love..... They won't hear

When will Tell men "if you must fall in love then fall with your head and not your heart"..... They won't hear

When we Tell men" Be the boss of your relationship and call the shots"... They won't hear

When we Tell men that it is in our DNA to mate with multiple partners..... They won't hear, They will be forming Real, Gentleman, Nice guys to win women approval

When we Tell men our stories and ask them to learn from it..... They won't hear until they become victims

When we Tell men to stop spending on Girlfriends.... They won't hear, They will be forming Mr Responsible

................................................................................................................................................

Anyways,.. Welcome to the club of the big boiz... Drink away your sins 'cos you have towed the path of self recovery and a player is born.

PUAs please join me and let's give a heartily welcome to our newest member!

YOU DESERVE A VACATION TO ANY PLACE YOU WANT...

BAR MAN MY BROTHER FROM ANOTHER MOTHER IS HERE PLS EMPTY THE WINE HOUSE AND BRING THEM HERE.

Sorry dear

Shiit happens, lesson learnt, but I don't support the "side chick" part though.
sorry.

lalasticlala spread the lessons.

eeeyah sorry,dats life for u.

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No one will break your heart

When u give your heart a break

Always use your head