avicky:


Imagine? The relationship was even built on DECEIT. And op is asking for advice when reality is staring you at the face. You even had protected sex just once. That girl can kill. Just walk away and never look back. In three months time, go for another test and if the test is negative, go do thanksgiving.

Beremx:
You know the secrecy of being an HIV person. I will beg you not to tell anyone else even if you don't end up marrying her.

Just follow your heart and pray about it. The ball is in your court.

Gasout:
Yes, we had sex just once and it was protected

avicky:


Imagine? The relationship was even built on DECEIT. And op is asking for advice when reality is staring you at the face. You even had protected sex just once. That girl can kill. Just walk away and never look back. In three months time, go for another test and if the test is negative, go do thanksgiving.

SUPOL:

My tot darl. How can u allow a guy have sex with u without letting him know ur status. I suspect she's from one state like dat... I no go mention d state but dey use to warn guys from marrying from dat state. And dia people are seen to be more poisonous dan snake.

SUPOL:

My tot darl. How can u allow a guy have sex with u without letting him know ur status. I suspect she's from one state like dat... I no go mention d state but dey use to warn guys from marrying from dat state. And dia people are seen to be more poisonous dan snake.

perryy:


What are u even saying? Do you know your status? I know girls like you have unprotected sex every time. Mtcheeeeew.

carmag:
You don't tell a child to remove hand from fire, Do you?

..ok op you can go ahead with the marriage remember you loves her so much, and love conqueret everything

and again love is blind.. yes we all agree

ok ...again ....don't brake her heart u know she also loves u as wells

you'll be happily married as long as you use condom to enjoy the rest of the marriage...
no problem you'll be safe

but if eventually you have unprotected sex with her..

"""hehehe don't come here again to open another thread

fadjnr:


Oga what are you saying nao. The chances of a male contracting the virus during unprotected sex is equal to that of the female because there's definitely going to be exchange of body fluids

SUPOL:

My guy is playing table tennis with HIV. E be like say dat disease no get power again. E no dey kill again?

eyinjuege:


I hope you know that you can have gonorrhea, or syphillis from one encounter. HIV too is also sexually transmitted.

There are some parts of the world where sexual health is taken seriously. People actively go to the hospital regularly for check ups and certain diseases are picked up on time. They get on treatment on time, and are generally responsible about their health. They read about diseases, and educate themselves not waiting for someone else who has no stakes on them to educate them.
They also disclose their HIV status as that's a crime if you don't and go sleep with someone else willingly.

Have you ever wondered why HIV is more prevalent in developing countries/continents like Africa/Asia? The population size and Poor sexual health practices are contributory, where no one wants to be responsible. Some still don't believe HIV exists btw, and are still as careless as ever refusing to take responsibility.

Airoflaw:

u mean Edo or calabar.lol

avicky:

It has become malaria. If the girl truly loves him, she should have told him from the beginning. If he wants you, he will stay irrespective of ur status. Deception is evil.
And one perilous perryy is quoting me. All these small boys on Nl sef.

eyinjuege:


There aren't a lot of virgin carriers.
The ones you see are usually infected at birth by their mums and have grown up all their lives with the disease, coming regularly for treatment at the clinics or through blood transfusion.
Sex is the major way it's transmitted in Naija, and not just gay sex but sex between man and woman. Women too do have vaginal secretions, and can deposit. Men also catch other STIs from women like gonorrhea, syphillis, chlamydia and you'd agree with me those are quite common despite the men being the "depositors", and not the "receptors".
I understand the chances of a woman getting it from a sexual encounter is higher than a man's but I honestly don't think the difference is so much to be ignored.
We funny enough do have serodiscordant couples where one is positive and the other is negative despite being married or coupled up for years. Those ones seem to have some form of immunity against the virus.
Anyways, everyone should be responsible for their sexual health, and should always wear a condom. Partners should equally get test ed and stay faithful to one another.

SUPOL:

Lolz, imagine d konkonbility(in olamides voice)

sweetcocoa:
I don't understand how a person can type this post and be comfortable with it.

So because people die everyday, it's cool to go seek death then? How can you just say there's nothing to be afraid of, like we are talking about taking a walk in a park?

Plus not to mention the fact that, this lady is a heartless bish, who gives no feck about the OP.

Na wa o.

Gasout:
Good evening members in the house. I purposely brought this topic to this section (family) cos I blive i'll have a mature responses and contributions.

I'll try to be brief as possible.
I met this lady 2014 but we started dating November last year. It took her a whole year for her to accept dating me.

But then, she told me that, there is something she will tell any man who desire to marry her bt, depend on the level of seriousness of the man.

Then, I took what she planned telling her hubby to be as nothing serious nt until d relationship began to wax stronger. After being in the relationship for a while, I discovered she posses virtually all d qualities I desire in a lady and wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with her.

I tried to make her tell me what she has in mind that she plan to tell her hubby to be, she refused. At this stage, our both parents re aware of our relationship and we planned to have our INTRO this June.

I proposed to her last week, she accepted and busted to tears. Initially, I thought it was a tears of joy, nt knowing it was something entirely different from my thought.

I took her home with different feelings within me since she couldn't stop crying. When we got to their house b4 she alighted, she hold my hands and told me me 'she's HIV positive'

I was startled for minutes. She said I should think about it if I still want the relationship.

I have make enquiries from Doctors if both of us can marry and He said yes Bt the am nt still convince. Please, Nairalanders, I need ur sincere advice on this issue...



Have you ever had anything with her?
If yes, go for medical test.
If no, what was her response whenever you try to do so.
Are you sure she would have been telling you the truth? She could be her own way to prove seriousness in a man..

If you are a christian, do pray about it and if you are not, give your life to Christ.

SUPOL:

Lolz, imagine d konkonbility(in olamides voice)


Bur swiddy, wetin be "ferme ta boucha"?
Are u from Sierra leon?

avicky:

Nah. That's French meaning shut your mouth.

afroditte:
na una dey carry around and cause all the stigma attached to HIV carrying people.

They are people like you and me, they live longer than even healthy people. Ask Magic Johnson.

It can be managed, they go on to have families. Pls educate yourself. HIV is not a death sentence.