Gasout:
Yes sir and mine is negative. But, the Doctor asked me to come for another test next 3 month.
Note: we only had protected sex just once

Oga leave story and run as far as your legs can take you.

my guy hw sure are u dat if u are d 1 dat is HIV positive may be she ill marry u

If your genotype is AS and you fell in love wt a lady of same genotype, will you go ahead and marry her cos of love and damn the consequence?

Be properly guided

Why don't seek God on this issue. What is God saying about it? You can never get satisfaction from what people say about it.


Whatever God says He makes possible

histemple:
For those of you asking if he had unprotected s3x with her, he could have unprotected s3x without contracting the virus.
A man contracting the HIV from a lady is very slim except there are cracks. But a lady contracts it immediately a male carrier ejaculates in her, no matter the quantity of fluid.

Back to your concern OP. You may have to be sure that she isn't pulling your legs to watch your reaction. She may possibly be trying to gauge how you will tolerate or discriminate against disability.

if any body pull my leg with such, I will hate him or her the more.

Rushtec:
To come for Anoda test in d next 3month....Dt mean u are

Stop misleading the public.it is the tradition to do another confirmation test after the first one has been done.

Gasout:
Good evening members in the house. I purposely brought this topic to this section (family) cos I blive i'll have a mature responses and contributions.

I'll try to be brief as possible.
I met this lady 2014 but we started dating November last year. It took her a whole year for her to accept dating me.

But then, she told me that, there is something she will tell any man who desire to marry her bt, depend on the level of seriousness of the man.

Then, I took what she planned telling her hubby to be as nothing serious nt until d relationship began to wax stronger. After being in the relationship for a while, I discovered she posses virtually all d qualities I desire in a lady and wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with her.

I tried to make her tell me what she has in mind that she plan to tell her hubby to be, she refused. At this stage, our both parents re aware of our relationship and we planned to have our INTRO this June.

I proposed to her last week, she accepted and busted to tears. Initially, I thought it was a tears of joy, nt knowing it was something entirely different from my thought.

I took her home with different feelings within me since she couldn't stop crying. When we got to their house b4 she alighted, she hold my hands and told me me 'she's HIV positive'

I was startled for minutes. She said I should think about it if I still want the relationship.

I have make enquiries from Doctors if both of us can marry and He said yes Bt the am nt still convince. Please, Nairalanders, I need ur sincere advice on this issue...

For the sake of your children don't marry hwe and give your children the disease, haba girls full everywhere na

May Allah subhanahu wa Ta' ala helps you from this issue, just keep praying and be vagilant, you are covered broda.

fadjnr:


Oga what are you saying nao. The chances of a male contracting the virus during unprotected sex is equal to that of the female because there's definitely going to be exchange of body fluids

If d sex is well lubricated,there's a lot of chance the male won't contract it cos there's not gonna be that exchange of body fluids and remember,when d man ejaculates,there's gonna be that "flushing effect".But this cannot be said for d female,since the man is going to deposit his sperm in her vagina wc is a mucuos membrane while for d man,the only part of his mucous membrane wc will be affected might be d tip of d penis wc will be flushed during ejaculation and ofcos he's most likely gonna be on top during d act wc prevents fluid and secretions from going all d way up.

She kept too much, too far, and too late.
I wouldn't continue, if I were in your shoe.
Though, I understand her fears. She wouldn't just tell anybody anyhow. But such confessions should have been made a little earlier.

Gasout:
Yes, we had sex just once and it was protected

my guy do you intend to use protection with her EVERYTIME you have sex if eventually you get married? if not then know you also have an equal chance to contract HIV. are you ready to take anti retrovirals for the rest of your life? what of your children. i think she was wrong for not telling you when you guys started getting serious. some life decisions like marriage are better taken with a clear head and not emotions. my two cents.

mkoabiola:

My thouught exactly
D story seems like a fiction to me not reality.
He is seeking for attention
D story is incoherent
In d 1st story he nver said they went for a test
And even if u go for a test,u should say d result and not to make every one guessing as if d test is a quiz competition that cannot b released
He is a goood story teller to me

Seriously

BluePearls:
Was she wrong for not telling you about her HIV status? Totally.

Was she being a little deceitful? Yes

Thank God you're test came out negative. Its a difficult decision to make, and one you must think deeply about.
If you decide to go ahead with the marriage plans, it'd be difficult, cus even your professed undying love for her will be tested greatly.
You could just walk away and move on with your life, in a couple of months you'd be over the disappointment and probably meet someone new.
Tough choice OP, but I believe there's nothing love cannot conquer and there's nothing God cannot do. I'd probably get bashed for saying this, but I've heard of instances where God cured HIV carriers. Pray with her, pray for her, believe God can do it. It is well with u

Its gud u work but I pray u don't go from fry pan to fire coz u don't no d next 1 u shail me. Hmmmmm..... Think 2ce to see if u can cope or not
I choose to cope wit my gal despite dat she a negative thinker nd hot tempered.

Gasout:
She's positive while mine is negative

Bros flee!!! Don't endanger your life cos of love... You'll find another great partner to make your wife

That your woman is highly manipulative,run for your life,she worked on your emotions and decided to tell you when you have invested so much on the relationship so it would be difficult for you to back out,she even allowed you to have sex with her without telling you she is positive,what if a mistake happened during the sex and you got infected? Well,take her for a confirmatory test,postpone the introduction,confirm your status too,then the ball is in your court,know exactly what you are going into brother,talk with your parents about this for advice,left to me do not continue with the relationship,she is an emotional fraud,HIV+ people say it firsthand in a relationship,it is better she finds someone equally HIV positive,that would be a fair deal.

What advice do you still want here!
When doctor has adviced that you can go aheah with her!

OP, I AV A FEELING THIS IS A TEST

fadjnr:


Oga what are you saying nao. The chances of a male contracting the virus during unprotected sex is equal to that of the female because there's definitely going to be exchange of body fluids

bros ehy na ...font say wat u dont know.. d guy us actually right ppl like u needs to be informed.... pls go nd read abt it

Unless this whole drama is a TEST, dem no dey take shame chop poison ooo!!
A moment of heartbreak is FAR BETTER than a lifetime of hurts

Vickyydera:
Do you think she is worth ruining your life for?
I can't marry a HIV positive person,even if you like be an angel.
capisce!

Thank God U were specific, don't make him feel guilty for falling in love with her, by d way u aren't dead yet, so u don't know d accident dat may occur tomorrow though am not wishing u dat...but d truth offer good advice n let him decide.....no vex o...

Ur experience can be disheartening haven planned 2 marry her. Still show her some love & test ur self for HIV. If u are ow Positive & u are very sure u were infected by her, then sue her for deliberate man slaughter, because she is suppose 2 inform u from onset. Its more advisable for HIV infected lady to b married to an infected male partner. But if u are love blind, be ready to only sleep with her with protection throughout ur marital life. When u want to have children, consult ur me (GYNAECOLOGIST-OBSTETRICIAN), for artificial insemination. There is possibility of discordancy, in which u can remain negative & ur wife positive even with unprotected intercourse, but dont take d risk.

Gasout:
Good evening members in the house. I purposely brought this topic to this section (family) cos I blive i'll have a mature responses and contributions.

I'll try to be brief as possible.
I met this lady 2014 but we started dating November last year. It took her a whole year for her to accept dating me.

But then, she told me that, there is something she will tell any man who desire to marry her bt, depend on the level of seriousness of the man.

Then, I took what she planned telling her hubby to be as nothing serious nt until d relationship began to wax stronger. After being in the relationship for a while, I discovered she posses virtually all d qualities I desire in a lady and wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with her.

I tried to make her tell me what she has in mind that she plan to tell her hubby to be, she refused. At this stage, our both parents re aware of our relationship and we planned to have our INTRO this June.

I proposed to her last week, she accepted and busted to tears. Initially, I thought it was a tears of joy, nt knowing it was something entirely different from my thought.

I took her home with different feelings within me since she couldn't stop crying. When we got to their house b4 she alighted, she hold my hands and told me me 'she's HIV positive'

I was startled for minutes. She said I should think about it if I still want the relationship.

I have make enquiries from Doctors if both of us can marry and He said yes Bt the am nt still convince. Please, Nairalanders, I need ur sincere advice on this issue...

is she an idoma girl? Well if ur willing to take the risk, fine....but mehn e go hard o. It only means dat u guys hav not had sexx yet....or iss she tryin to test you Na wa o. So many thoughts going tru my mind. Do her parents know her status?

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tearoses:
Its up to you (Your life at the end of the day) but if you are going ahead make sure you get as much information on what to expect as possible. Go in fully armed with info so you are fully prepared.

Next time when someone is telling you they wont tell you something until you are committed tell them to say it now or get lost

Something as serious and as life changing as this should have been mentioned much earlier on before emotions are involved. To me this reeks of deception. She knew what she was doing.

The truth is that HIV is not child's play and things like this should be disclosed much earlier on & not wait until long into the relationship.

bro,if he ain't interested any more,he can pull out,he hasn't tied d nuts!

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this is complicated

if you love her die,you just have to visit the doctor to tell you the PRos and cons.as for me you guys can still create a healthy family,but you just have to be extremely careful now.

Please consult 2 other doctors and if the replies are positive, go ahead and marry her.
She may also not be HIV positive , but trying how sincere you are or you be to her in future.

phineboy1pimple:
Bro!!! The simple advise I'll give you is this.... know that ANY RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT TRUST OR BUILT ON DECEPTION will never last and Can't stand the Test of Time.....


Regardless of her Status.... The Fact that she kept it a Secret from you the Moment things got serious is a debilitating and Irrational move by her....

YOU CAN NEVER WHOLLY TRUST HER again...

Gbam!

Omo see gobe... ...but love conqueres all i rep http://jambsolution.

Like someone says ensure that she is nt pulling u, if possible u both should go for test.And if proven based on d test result that she is positive while u r negative, i think d d decision to continue or quit d relationship lies on u.but honestly speaking she made a wrong choice 2 dis issue from d point of starting dis relationship by nt letting u know initially n also allowed u to HV sex with her.I think if truly she is positive, she played u into her trap just 2 marry u .sir, ur decision depend on d authentication of her claim, test conducted on d both of u n finally ur personal decision on the whole thing.