Seriously I think that lady never loved you. I mean she even let you do her even when she was fully aware of her status. Open your eyes brother. It's obvious this is NEVER going to work out and if you do marry her, it'd be out of pity. Let her go. Oga you might have gotten the virus too o. Go and get tested.

Gasout:
She's positive while mine is negative

Alright, at this point I can only advise that you stop thinking of marriage with her, at least till a cure is found. What was she thinking to lead you on for this long? Anyways, hold off on the marriage till further notice. However, be good to her, support and treat like you would a sister. If you were my brother, I would blow the whistle on you sharp sharp with the family ni, she handling sharp objects around. Whew, it is well...sheet does happen to good people.

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eyinjuege:


Pls do not misinform people.

The HIV clinic is filled with both men and women, young and old. Boys n girls that are 18years, 20s inclusive, men and women in their 60s are also not left out.

He is very correct, men don't easily get infected through unprotected sex as with women. Except direct blood contact is present, which might be reason you have most of those you listed. There have been cases of couples with an infected wife and negative husband and they have lived for several years together. Please find out more.

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Oga what are you saying nao. The chances of a male contracting the virus during unprotected sex is equal to that of the female because there's definitely going to be exchange of body fluids [/quote
actually, u are absolutely wrong about that one..studies have shown that females are at risk, compared with males

histemple:
For those of you asking if he had unprotected s3x with her, he could have unprotected s3x without contracting the virus.
A man contracting the HIV from a lady is very slim except there are cracks. But a lady contracts it immediately a male carrier ejaculates in her, no matter the quantity of fluid.

Back to your concern OP. You may have to be sure that she isn't pulling your legs to watch your reaction. She may possibly be trying to gauge how you will tolerate or discriminate against disability.

I see why HIV is prevalent in this part of the world. You have over 300 likes for a post I see unnecessary. Yes, he can have unprotected and not contract but that's not to say he cannot. Pls, stop all these stories of the man contracting is very low bla bla. Always advocate a condom use. PLEASE ALWAYS USE A CONDOM or stick to one partner.

Who suggested d hospital both of u went to conduct d test? If she is d one, she might be pulling ur legs. Take her to a different hospital without notifying her. If d result remains d same, seek for medical advice, if ur mind tells u to carry on, go ahead and never disclose it to anyone. If ur mind says No, pls follow ur mind.

eyinjuege:


Pls do not misinform people.

The HIV clinic is filled with both men and women, young and old. Boys n girls that are 18years, 20s inclusive, men and women in their 60s are also not left out.

Thank you. I wonder why the Mods have not taken down that post.

Vickyydera:
Do you think she is worth ruining your life for?
!

Babe this was too raw.

Wisdom is defined as insight into a reality.

histemple:


I didn't say they can't contract the virus through s3x, what I said was that chances for female to male transmission is SLIMMER than male to female. In s3x, the female is the receptor while the male is the depositor.
The virus is infectious and not contagious. It can't be transmitted via physical contact. It is mostly via blood.

Besides, s3x is just one of the many possibilities of contracting the virus, and that explains why we have a lot of virgin carriers of the dreaded virus.

are you a doctor? If yes, your license has to be withdrawn. There is no slimmer chance or any depositor. What via blood? Do you bleed when you have sex ? Please, sex is the main possibility other chances are slimmer. Where do you have lots o virgin carriers. How did you come up with this rubbish info?

Mskrisx:
Chaiiiii



Hmmmm what can I say oooo

But op are u sure?
Have u been sleeping with her? Unprotected?

Hmmm

***Modified ***
My dear,love conquers all it hides multitude of sin.
What of if she didn't tell you? and insisted you penetration raw? What would u have done if u became positive too?

Bros, it's one thing to meet a woman, it another difficult I mean very difficult thing to meet one who's ready to tell you all.
I ain't a doctor, but I know there is a way u both could go about it.
Also never you forget... The Balm of Gilead, he whose spoken words, turns captivity to joy. My dear op, take that case to him. Cuz I know and I tell u when every efforts his own can never, will never fail.

Goodluck to u and ur woman... May God Keep you both together. Amen

you said it all,I date my woman for five years,after five yrs we agree to setlle but then,we have to go thru living faith church screaning first whaich is gynoype,preg,hepertitis,blood test,in the end we were both AS,nairalanders entertained me with fear yet I got something from them,which was 75percent of not having an ss child,now my sweet baby girl is nine month strong,I have not rushed her to hospital for any reason.
Indeed love conquer all things.

You have seen a port hole in front you.

Wow!!! My countrymen and women,SMH.


For someone to become an HIV carrier judging by the responses here would be a life stigma even after death.

Perhaps its true from heartbroken carrier when she made this statement "Had i known i wouldnt have tell but keep using my medications".

People, you need up-to-date education on HIV.

BluePearls:
Was she wrong for not telling you about her HIV status? Totally.

Was she being a little deceitful? Yes

Thank God you're test came out negative. Its a difficult decision to make, and one you must think deeply about.
If you decide to go ahead with the marriage plans, it'd be difficult, cus even your professed undying love for her will be tested greatly.
You could just walk away and move on with your life, in a couple of months you'd be over the disappointment and probably meet someone new.
Tough choice OP, but I believe there's nothing love cannot conquer and there's nothing God cannot do. I'd probably get bashed for saying this, but I've heard of instances where God cured HIV carriers. Pray with her, pray for her, believe God can do it. It is well with u

well true what you said but thats gross.why wait till now to actually say it.shes wants to test love,sorry i ll just walk away.What if its the other way round?will she wait?and still confess the undying love.Dont go ahead bro even if shes lying,because she could hide something bigger in future.Dont close your eyes going into marriage,eyes open bro.

Beremx:
You know the secrecy of being an HIV person. I will beg you not to tell anyone else even if you don't end up marrying her.

Just follow your heart and pray about it. The ball is in your court.

There is no secrecy anywhere - just that we are quick to stigmatise people with this virus.

Mskrisx:
Chaiiiii



Hmmmm what can I say oooo

But op are u sure?
Have u been sleeping with her? Unprotected?

Hmmm

***Modified ***
My dear,love conquers all it hides multitude of sin.
What of if she didn't tell you? and insisted you penetration raw? What would u have done if u became positive too?

Bros, it's one thing to meet a woman, it another difficult I mean very difficult thing to meet one who's ready to tell you all.
I ain't a doctor, but I know there is a way u both could go about it.
Also never you forget... The Balm of Gilead, he whose spoken words, turns captivity to joy. My dear op, take that case to him. Cuz I know and I tell u when every efforts his own can never, will never fail.

Goodluck to u and ur woman... May God Keep you both together. Amen

see yourself. Would you marry an HIV positive person.

Man know thyself.

4reala:
ok. I think she has led u on too far, and also lied to u, all in trying to gain ur Love. I am of the opinion of had it been she had told u earlier on(not on d first date though). U wld hav been in a very good position to mak a clear cut decision. But now she has already won ur Love and u are now in a confuse state. If u knw u won't be living with the fear of contracting d disease even after every precautionary measure has been taken, u can go ahead. But if u knw u will still be having dat fear, then its better to let her go

she never lied. She is not just a straightforward person.

danduchi:

It is easier to contract HIV from sex with a male than from
sex with a female.www.healthline.com/health/hiv-aids/chances-contracting

would you take a chance to die if given. Come on man. Forget about this chances thing and always protect yourself.

The OP is not telling the truth about what really conspired. How, when, where question of how the lady contracted the disease is omitted, looks fiction to me and if true he most have contracted the disease that's why he wants to go ahead with the relationship. A reasonable man/woman wont go ahead with such relationship but will assist whichever he/she can.

deavicky:
see yourself. Would you marry an HIV positive person.

Good morning Bro, u'd be late for work before u know it OK? Have a smooth day.
Bye!

doughziay:
Have u cared to know how she contracted the disease?
Sexual contact or unsterilized objects

Is this really relevant?? Will it change the fact that she is +

Some pple just knw how to ruin a good thing,so u waited till now? If he pulls out you would claim he doesnt love u bla bla bla,HIV isnt a test of love and wont prove anytin,have you thought abt your kids? I doubt that,women u never cease to amaze me.

Subom1:
Firstly in this day and age one does not need to be ignorant.

When you get into a relationship its best that you both go for an HIV test and Sti test to ensure that both are free from any sexual transmitted diseases and use a condom at all times.

You ad your partner can decide how often you can do test whether it be twice a year etc.


I also believe that once a couple feels that they want to get serious then they can do other tests such as fertilityand genotype that way you will know earlier than latter when feelings have become stronger making it more complicated.

This will save a lot of people stories that touch.
In this day and age you can't tell who is HIV positive by appearances and there are some people who are out there sorey to infect as many people as possible.

Your girlfriend was extremely selfish and should have told you at least before the relationship started getting serious.

Thumbs up.

eyinjuege:


Wrong to say HIV clinic is filled with both men and women? Young and old?
Our discussion wasn't on the various ways HIV is transmitted but rather on the erroneous belief that men can hardly catch it from unprotected sexual intercourse.

how come we have plenty of m carrying it. Oga HIV is not not respecte of gender.

Bro I think my candid advise is for you to carry on with your plans of marrying her, she might be testing the love you have for her. Probably there is something more interesting you will know about her when you eventually marry her,trust me, she is your woman .

Gasout:
Yes, we had sex just once and it was protected

Praise the Lord!
Praise Jehovah!!
Praise the Livinq JESUS!!!

HALLELLUYAH!!!!!!!

loadux:
speaking from a medical point of view I don't think HIV is the worse disease one can get, it's dreadful yes, we all agree but really it's not that big of a deal.

there are lots of discordant couples who get married and give birth to normal children w/o an increase risk to the HIV negative partner, but there are factors to consider and steps to follow

@op bottom line is do not let HIV be the determining factor in ur relationship, there cld be worse disease which cld happen later in ur marriage by then there will be no excuse

so the question is, do I love this girl enough to look beyond the dx and see only the positive attributes she posses, if yes, then go ahead
but if this HIV thing in going to be standing btw u for the rest of ur lives then its better to part ways now.

@ bolded - if it it later one would understand. HIV status of very important important chosing a partner. Would you buy a car with a scratch saying you never can tell if it would have have accident tomorrow?

eigmaticme:
Omo see gobe...
...but love conqueres all

yeah it does except diseases.

sanitelag:
Gasout, takia of yourself for yourself!

you can live with her only if she got HIV while you are married.

but the difficulties and sacrifice of living with her at this junction is much that one is not advised to accept.

just let her look for her +ve partner.

Thank you.