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Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by deleoluomo: 8:34am On Jun 20, 2016 |
simple bro, she might want to test ur love......., can u do me a favour, take her out of that vicinity, go to another place, approach a doctor to carry out another test , make sure u monitor her she doesnt ave any contact wif the hospital or lab to be used, then let see the result, bt if truely she hsa dat, I pray God to lead u, .....good moning... |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by micxwell(m): 8:40am On Jun 20, 2016 |
DeeTus:For the record, the guy is right. |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Obiwannn: 8:46am On Jun 20, 2016 |
ellacute45:Hmmm |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Nobody: 8:48am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Obiwannn:ogaa |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Mcowubaba: 8:48am On Jun 20, 2016 |
xtzBestie: It's not a must to comment..... Proverbs 17:28 A fool is assumed to be wise if he keeps QUIET and thought Intelligent if he holds his tongue..... You just typed thrash |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by jabojafa(m): 8:50am On Jun 20, 2016 |
chiwetel:do u thing it is easy to tell someone you dnt trust abt ur status? If she tells every wooer on their first date then be rest assured she is indirectly publicizing her status. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Obiwannn: 8:51am On Jun 20, 2016 |
ellacute45:But I'm also thinking critically about it. Can I marry a hiv + person? |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by sweetcocoa(f): 8:52am On Jun 20, 2016 |
afroditte:Oh! Please take several seats back, telling me to educate myself bla bla bla. Between you and I who seems like they need an education? We are talking about someone who carefully led the OP on for two years and you are talking about stigmatisation, my friend get your head out your a$$ and reason like someone with a brain. |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Nobody: 8:52am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Obiwannn:why would you?? Can't even try it no matter the circumstances |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Obiwannn: 8:58am On Jun 20, 2016 |
ellacute45:Well there are certainly more to it than meets the eye. The OP's story just brought me back down to earth.. Really Really feel for him. |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Mcowubaba: 9:00am On Jun 20, 2016 |
6fit:Hahahahahaha... Which 1 be mobile HIV carrier Una no go kill person for here... My dearie, HIV no be death sentence oooo, Infact there are dozens of infection and diseases that are worse than it.... The issue about HIV is just the negative mentality about it, the stigmatization..... Not actually the disease.... The management of HIV is cheaper than the management of High blood pressure, diabetes, cancer, kidney problems, heart disease, I hope you knw abacavir + zidovudine + lamivudine, tenofovir are Anti retrovial therapy and the are HIGHLY subsidized, Ps....I'm not advising anybody to start engaging in risky behaviors that may lead to HIV ooo..... No be me send u oooo..... HIV is an infection and Infections are BAD are the body QED |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by ussy09(m): 9:02am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Yes, mit a doctor make enquiries is possible your immunity is resistant to d virus is nt all human HIV can infect. |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by sanyajava: 9:02am On Jun 20, 2016 |
you better waka |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Nobody: 9:07am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Obiwannn:OK then ... Didn't feel any sorry for him!!! |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by micxwell(m): 9:07am On Jun 20, 2016 |
UjSizzle: Good one |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by sweetcocoa(f): 9:08am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Gasout:See you better leave that woman alone as she doesn't love you, she only wants someone who can accept her with her status, therefore she led you on this far, told you at a point she knows is hard to turn back and then shed crocodile tears as icing on the cake. HIV stigma or not, you don't keep that info from your partner, someone you are sexually involved with(its a crime in sane countries) plus someone who loves you, would care about your health and this lady obviously doesn't. I can bet that all those said qualities you talked about, is her pretending to get you to propose, you better use your head and stop being stupid, thinking it's love. |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Nobody: 9:08am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Mskrisx:as e be say na woman get de virus tel me why love no go conquer it all? |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Mykelpato(m): 9:13am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Bro just save your soul and quit the relationship now, unless u are ready to be the Romeo of this generation.. Thank D girl also |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Obiwannn: 9:20am On Jun 20, 2016 |
ellacute45:haba y na |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Nobody: 9:24am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Obiwannn:I don't know either the story get as e be |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Nobody: 9:25am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Chai! Well, I believe the comments here are enough for the op to make his decision. ojialo:Meehn it's now HIV test result or no London gate cleaning |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by SAEJO: 9:29am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Gasout:Chai !!! Chaii !!! Bros I feel for you,chaiiiiiii !!!!! But the did is already done, so just go on and marry her if you love her but oh! I doubt if you'll ever be able to forget even after you've forgiven her, its hard, very hard but you have no choice dear, go on and marry and pls do everything you can to stay happy with her, wish you good luck, cheers. |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by micxwell(m): 9:29am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Subom1:Lwkmd |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by micxwell(m): 9:37am On Jun 20, 2016 |
femzysticks: The question here should be, "does the lady believe in Jesus?" Cos if she does, she would have told the truth long before now, and she won't even have sex with the guy protected or unprotected. Wait, people think Jesus is a magician eh; I tire o |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by NICOGRAVITY: 9:38am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Olabestonic001: She hasn't in anyway manipulated the situation. What if she told him after wedding? Do you know what it takes for someone to confess that they have Hiv? She is a very selfless person. Just because she has Hiv, doesn't mean she can't have friends and live a normal life. You are only stigmatizing her for her Hiv status. Would you do same to someone with cancer? Be very sensitive and think deep. At the beginning of the relationship, she technically informed him that she will at a stage reveal an important information. She has to first know how serious the young man is before giving out the information which is very personal. You are judging her on the simple ground that anyone with Hiv must have been infected through sexual contact, sometimes it's not. |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by SAEJO: 9:45am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Adikam:my brother no mind women, when them shit for man head them go say "LOVE CAN CONQUER ALL" but if na a man make small mistake na that time you hear everybody go de call for him head, woman go use man clean yansh in the name of love when them no even believe in, them wan rule man by all cost, say gender equality abi institutionalized female chauvinism. |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by memyselfandI: 9:47am On Jun 20, 2016 |
@Gasout, is this the same girl you talked about in one of your threads about needing a relationship coach to advise you? If she is the one, the signs were there, you were carried away by love(not your fault though). Remember she didnt give you a concrete reason for breaking up with her ex and she hinted you about "something" she will tell anyone she is "serious" with. You should have pressed her further to find out that "something". |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by 3moses: 9:48am On Jun 20, 2016 |
histemple:U are correct...I had similar experience in June 2015...she is a colleague and friend...though, I'm married but she's a single lady...we worked at the same section in d office and she used to always be around me at a gathering after daily work...we were so close to some levels...there was a time that she fell sick for like a week and regained her strength...while she accused me of not checking on her...that day SOMETHING led to SOMETHING...she came to meet at a bar in an hotel which is our usual place...as we were about leaving d bar, there was a heavy down pour...she was seriously cold that attracts d attention of everyone...everyone now advised that I should get her a room in d hotel as d outside was cold, to relax for a while before d rain stops...I took her in, and she was freezing as if she needs a warmer...I covered her wt d heavy blanket, yet she was gnashing teeth...she asked me to come and stop her from shaking...I entered there wt her trying to hug and keep her calm, but didn't help d matter...I then try to do body contact by removing my top in order to warm her...immediately, she asked me to remove all her clothes...I was then I removed my trousers..we clawed for like 15min..I couldn't resist it anymore as I made a move, which she was unable to resist vehemently...but showing kind of reluctancy at d same time having d urge...finally, we did d DEE-DON-DEE...but was very fast and snappy because she's wet already... six months after, I mean Dec 2015, she was confirmed HIV...she called me to go for the test, that her boyfriend whom they had unprotected sex together for good four(4) months, has been tested negative...I then went for d test Feb 2016, thank God that I'm NEGATIVE...I did d test again this month. glory be to God...she has been tested and confirmed positive at different government hospitals. I pity d poor gal. |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by femzysticks(m): 9:48am On Jun 20, 2016 |
micxwell: yeah.... James 5:15, and the prayer of the righteous shall heal the sick tho they had pre-marital sex but we serve a God who dosnt see our yesterday but our heart if only they believe and trust in him and live right they could get their answer I love your view 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by icankel: 9:51am On Jun 20, 2016 |
If this ur Fiancee should love u that much as u claim she shouldnt have allowed u had unprotected sex with her because she fully knw the danger over such an act. Is entirely ur decision to make. My only advice for u is this..''Start searching for a black goat wen there is time cos u cant find it wen is dark'' |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by sunkyshow(m): 9:59am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Op, The situation you are in is not as easy as many people may think. First of all, If I have to put myself in your shoes, I will probably work away. Let me give you 2 solid reason to walk away even though I have considered other options. HIV/AIDS is not a child's play and cannot be overlooked! TWO REASONS TO WORK AWAY FROM THE RELATIONSHIP. 1. SHe kept a serious health issue away from you for a "very long time " made u commited to the relationship. For her to be taking ARVD , I believe she must have been counselled and she fully knows what she was doing. 2. Having known what she is carrying , she had a protected sexual intercourse without "your full consent of her HIV status". I also believe shes no kid and she knows that in the "act" of having a protected condoms could fail (it cld get torn, or u could decide to take it of u yo have it raw while in the act). Brov, You life is in your hand., make the right decision ! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by aboveu(m): 10:19am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Thank God you know now before you marry her. If you go on marry her love might not be able to hold the home because of what you already carrying in your mind. Think of the kids in future your love for them! I know of someone that is passing the same now, his own he did't know before until child comes in. Thank God test shows the guy still negative. Think Guy don't let love blind you. Thank God you know now!!! |
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