Good morning nairalanders. Plssss guys am troubled since yesterday. My instincts is what I believe have never lied to me... My gurl yesterday as I left for work sent me a message via whatsapp. That she wants to hang out with one of her friends and he is a guy. And am the kinda guy who doesn't restrickt women from doing what they want to do. Especially when am dating someone, believe since I am not married to them. So I don't have the full right to control her.



I said okay to her request. Told her if she wants to go she is free. I didn't taught any bad thing would happen buh what made me think she had sex with the guy is that her attitude changed after abt Four hours later. She called me and became so romantic unlike her before.. Asking me if I have had somtin to eat at work and I should make sure I eat cus I am her baby puting up an unusual attitude I have not seen in a while. Even after the call she said I love you which she haven't done in two to three weeks now. I was like in my mind is she for real. Unlike her. I said okay? Later in that same day. She came up with a question wether I have cheated or slept with another girl since I met her. And to me all this new attitude she brought might be that she have had sex with the guy and she is feeling guilt. Becos when someone had sex she becomes more happier dan usual according to research

Plssssssss friends. From her attitude did she had sex with him. Cus my instincts keep telling me that she did. Sorry for the long write up and grammer that is not good. Advice plssss

She definitely cheated. Or she's seriously considering it.

The guilt makes her be overly nice. She asked you if youve cheated before because she wants a reason to justify her cheating to herself.

You need to drop her and not contact her ever again.

I no go talk wetin I no know .op make your eye watch well ,u must see evidence if na true

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OR

It can also mean that she saw some horrible characters that made her appreciate more, what she had in you. And probably, it's the devil trying to sow problems now that she has seen the light.

I'm not deciding for you o. Just making sure you don't look in only one direction

U are still asking us,
Bleep her and drop her thats the best advice i can give u

this is one of the main reason why i avoid all this relationships until am ready for marriage. girls are just like that.

Those hoes aren't loyal

Your instincts were right.

For every reaction there must have been an action... That's all I have to say.
Meanwhile, kudos bro, your bro, for her to be gushing love and care for you, it means your performance on sack has outweighed other dude.

Hmmm...if you ask me...?

foolinlove:
She definitely cheated. Or she's seriously considering it.

The guilt makes her be overly nice. She asked you if youve cheated before because she wants a reason to justify her cheating to herself.

You need to drop her and not contact her ever again.

really? if we apply this logic . guys will be changing gf like boxers.

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falconey:


really? if we apply this logic . guys will be changing gf like boxers.

It's not the behaviour it's the *change* in behaviour that is important... and *when* the behaviour changed.

LOL, this is kind of hilarious to me for some reason.

OP, don't be too hasty & reach the wrong conclusion without solid proof. Just keep watch.

Her change of attitude could mean different things. It could be the fact that you showed you trusted her. You didn't give her the 3rd degree or blew up her phone. So maybe she's being appreciative for having such an understanding guy or whatever. But like I said, keep your eyes wide open, in case this is an attempt to butter
you up to ease her guilt over something she's done or thinking of doing. Keep tabs on this "friendship" without raising her alarm or appearing like an insecure headcase. The truth will come out eventually.

Date more girls mate. You wont have b ullshit thoughts like this if you do.

foolinlove:


It's not the behaviour it's the *change* in behaviour that is important... and *when* the behaviour changed.

yeah you are right and it is most likely to change .

She did something it may not be sex but something happened.

Did she had? Niga shoot yursef

Itz eida shez stupid or shez intellijent.
Shez stupid if she aktually went out wit the said guy.
Shez intellijent if she said dat to play with yUr emoshon

foolinlove:
She definitely cheated. Or she's seriously considering it.

The guilt makes her be overly nice. She asked you if youve cheated before because she wants a reason to justify her cheating to herself.

You need to drop her and not contact her ever again.

You a sadist? every relationship thread I've come across, your comment is always drop, dump, forget... Ahn ahn I dry suspect you oo

OP, I don't know what your problem is, what is it, that is always giving you people the notion that you can get good advice on here.

Yes maybe we have a couple of good heads but honestly majority of NLders especially the romance section are just a bunch of kids, having fun online thinking of themselves as adults. Some of them never understand their body anatomy finish not to talk of being in ina relationship.

Beware of the ones wey dey carry that pink (f) na Telemundo full their head, most of em.

You can't be sure she had sex with the guy. Dont destroy your relationship on an assumption. Maybe she decided to spice up your relationship hence the change in her attitude.

wizard007:



You a sadist? every relationship thread I've come across, your comment is always drop, dump, forget... Ahn ahn I dry suspect you oo

OP, I don't know what your problem is, what is it, that is always giving you people the notion that you can get good advice on here.

Yes maybe we have a couple of good heads but honestly majority of NLders especially the romance section are just a bunch of kids, having fun online thinking of themselves as adults. Some of them never understand their body anatomy finish not to talk of being in ina relationship.

Beware of the ones wey dey carry that pink (f) na Telemundo full their head, most of em.

I say drop, never talk again, because if you come online looking for help in a relationship you've basically gone down hill too far - nothing can help you anymore. It's the last resort of a desperate person. People who are in functional relationships are communicating with their partners, not posting stuff online.

People here aren't looking for advice, they're looking for sympathy. To talk out their feelings and justify their actions, confirm what they already know. Which in the most part (see above) is END THINGS.

I no go talk wetin I no know .op make your eye watch well ,u must see evidence if na true

D guy most have given her a romantic lessons of her life

Mediator97:
this is one of the main reason why i avoid all this relationships until am ready for marriage. girls are just like that.

Make Hay while the sun shines dude. you can only know a real woman right now when you are not ready, "Now" is when u can open your eyes and look into your Future House from its foundation. by the time u start looking when u are ready, u ll find out you are in a rush hour.

Don't get urslf in obsession bro,,,,,, for her to request for permission to go out on a date means she loves u...... That friend of hers might be the one that instilled the behaviour in her positively towards u. If I were u, I will ask her straight nd direct the happening.

Yeah i think d op should ask her directly..but just because she took permission to go out with another guy alone doesnt mean she didnt do it tho. Some chics r very crafty n btw why would she want to hang out with another guy "alone"...beats me tho. Op u should watch her closely

kenkenny55:
Good morning nairalanders. Plssss guys am troubled since yesterday. My instincts is what I believe have never lied to me... My gurl yesterday as I left for work sent me a message via whatsapp. That she wants to hang out with one of her friends and he is a guy. And am the kinda guy who doesn't restrickt women from doing what they want to do. Especially when am dating someone, believe since I am not married to them. So I don't have the full right to control her.



I said okay to her request. Told her if she wants to go she is free. I didn't taught any bad thing would happen buh what made me think she had sex with the guy is that her attitude changed after abt Four hours later. She called me and became so romantic unlike her before.. Asking me if I have had somtin to eat at work and I should make sure I eat cus I am her baby puting up an unusual attitude I have not seen in a while. Even after the call she said I love you which she haven't done in two to three weeks now. I was like in my mind is she for real. Unlike her. I said okay? Later in that same day. She came up with a question wether I have cheated or slept with another girl since I met her. And to me all this new attitude she brought might be that she have had sex with the guy and she is feeling guilt. Becos when someone had sex she becomes more happier dan usual according to research

Plssssssss friends. From her attitude did she had sex with him. Cus my instincts keep telling me that she did. Sorry for the long write up and grammer that is not good. Advice plssss

my brother sorry to say this but SHE HAD SEX WITH THE GUY , is hard to swallow but she did..

play some mind games on her and you will get your answer