So yesterday was dull with the constant rain and cold weather, i went with my bro to my god mother's wake keep, and my bro left to find my mum and sibblings, because the crowd was much and i wasn't feeling fine i decided to wait for him where we parked the car,

And minutes later they came with my elder bro dragging my ex along and they just left us staring at each other, my mum has this coy smile plastered on her face because they are all fond of her,

Then she started apologizing seriously for everything and how much she missed me, in minutes i started Smiling like a dead goat, its obvious i have a weak spot for her, and after all the talks which i quietly listened to, she started dragging me around showing me to her groupies and introducing, fond,ling with my hair, acting all mushy like we are still dating when i was leaving she collected my number.

I returned to meet everyone asking me how did it go with excitement in thier eyes. Please people i need your advice am in a relationship with someone who really loves me for me now. I can't control myself around this girl, how do i evade this impending danger shes trying to invade my life again and destroy my new found peace.

Stay away from her. Think of how empty you felt when she left you initially. Do you want a repeat of that? Cos she's capable of doing it again. Was there a recent upgrade in your status? Financial or otherwise? Think about it man. Sometimes, the people we love are not the best for us.

No contact. Its the only way.

Martinkev:
Stay away from her. Think of how empty you felt when she left you initially. Do you want a repeat of that? Cos she's capable of doing it again. Was there a recent upgrade in your status? Financial or otherwise? Think about it man. Sometimes, the people we love are not the best for us.

no upgrade men just the usual me, just that i look different now, catchy happy and no longer depressed with that i dont care aura around me.

We all know that once you are in a relationship regardless whether its short or long term ,you have to risk everything. Its like playing Russian roulette

ok

Maybe tell your family to butt out of your relationship too. Is not their business. If they know how she destroyed you, then why would they want that to happen again to you?

Tell them no. Tell her no. Then do the no contact rule.

ForeverYoung197:
We all know that once you are in a relationship regardless whether its short or long term ,you have to risk everything. Its like playing Russian roulette

huh? are you encouraging me to play the game?

foolinlove:
Maybe tell your family to butt out of your relationship too. Is not their business. If they know how she destroyed you, then why would they want that to happen again to you?

Tell them no. Tell her no. Then do the no contact rule.

its not thier fault shes a likeable girl, but whats up with the no contact rule

Are you okay?...you have a working relationship and an ex comes smiling to your face and all you do is smile?....kwontinue...you will see!!!

dauntless15:
no upgrade men just the usual me, just that i look different now, catchy happy and no longer depressed with that i dont care aura around me.

Then this is a classical case of "they'd come running back to you if they cannot replace you". But one thing is certain, going back to an ex is like trying to water a dead flower.

Martinkev:


Then this is a classical case of "they'd come running back to you if they cannot replace you". But one thing is certain, going back to an ex is like trying to water a dead flower.

lol, seems you've been there before, i sensed her relationship failed too, because she was talking on phone with a guy all night, it looks like a fight though

dauntless15:
its not thier fault shes a likeable girl, but whats up with the no contact rule

I wrote a post about it. It helps a lot.

Just because your family like her dosnt mean u have to as well. Explain to them how you feel and get them to respect your feelings on the matter.

dauntless15:
huh? are you encouraging me to play the game?

Its your call always boo. At least you're in a relationship back again

ForeverYoung197:


Its your call always boo. At least you're in a relationship back again

lol badt girl, so you'll be happy with a cheating guy

foolinlove:


I wrote a post about it. It helps a lot.

Just because your family like her dosnt mean u have to as well. Explain to them how you feel and get them to respect your feelings on the matter.

ya just saw it lemme go and read, but the explaining to my family is useless I've done that couple of times anytime they raised her issue. to prove my point is what they did last night.

dauntless15:
ya just saw it lemme go and read, but the explaining to my family is useless I've done that couple of times anytime they raised her issue. to prove my point is what they did last night.

You need to be firmer with them. Tell them is a metter of respect. Do they respect you or repsect her more? Who do they put first - you or her? They have to make choice to let you be happy with your own experiences and not force something on you. They will see in the long run that you can make good choices for yourself.

she go soon comot that smile from your face again

dauntless15:
So yesterday was dull with the constant rain and cold weather, i went with my bro to my god mother's wake keep, and my bro left to find my mum and sibblings, because the crowd was much and i wasn't feeling fine i decided to wait for him where we parked the car,

And minutes later they came with my elder bro dragging my ex along and they just left us staring at each other, my mum has this coy smile plastered on her face because they are all fond of her,

Then she started apologizing seriously for everything and how much she missed me, in minutes i started Smiling like a dead goat, its obvious i have a weak spot for her, and after all the talks which i quietly listened to, she started dragging me around showing me to her groupies and introducing, fond,ling with my hair, acting all mushy like we are still dating when i was leaving she collected my number.

I returned to meet everyone asking me how did it go with excitement in thier eyes. Please people i need your advice am in a relationship with someone who really loves me for me now. I can't control myself around this girl, how do i evade this impending danger shes trying to invade my life again and destroy my new found peace.

who broke up with who?

Keep bleeping her punny anyhow u like...bleep her at any moment and opportunity your with her...treat her like a bitch and always make her realise that ur seeing someone else better...and dnt forget to tell ur new babe bout the stunts ur pulling to test her faith in you....

schumastic:



who broke up with who?

its not working and i called her and when we met she told me things i do that she doesn't like and i did the same, and we both decided amicably to give ourselves space, that was February, we stopped talking on whatsapp but yesterday she claimed it was because she lost her phone and she got a new line as for me i deleted her number and blocked her on whatsapp

dauntless15:
its not working and i called her and when we met she told me things i do that she doesn't like and i did the same, and we both decided amicably to give ourselves space, that was February, we stopped talking on whatsapp but yesterday she claimed it was because she lost her phone and she got a new line as for me i deleted her number and blocked her on whatsapp

Good for you. Regain your peace. Well done!

foolinlove:


You need to be firmer with them. Tell them is a metter of respect. Do they respect you or repsect her more? Who do they put first - you or her? They have to make choice to let you be happy with your own experiences and not force something on you. They will see in the long run that you can make good choices for yourself.

your no contact rule was exactly what happened we didn't meet or talk or chat for almost five months, how she miraculously located my mum yesterday was amazing

babyfaceafrica:
Are you okay?...you have a working relationship and an ex comes smiling to your face and all you do is smile?....kwontinue...you will see!!!

lol i just feel that way around her i dont know why though

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cruzita:
she go soon comot that smile from your face again

shes excited around me as well, you know that feeling you have for someone you naturally connect with? I must admit the girl am in a relationship with loves me more than i actually love her, its strange but intresting

dauntless15:
your no contact rule was exactly what happened we didn't meet or talk or chat for almost five months, how she miraculously located my mum yesterday was amazing

Maybe she is serious then. You two need to have some serious talking. About your future together. If you don't want her, tell her. Then no contact again.

But if u want her, serious talking. If she say no to serious talking then she is just playing games.

As much as she may want, things can never go back to how they were. But with serious talking maybe the two of you cam be stronger.

baranzy:
Keep bleeping her punny anyhow u like...bleep her at any moment and opportunity your with her...treat her like a bitch and always make her realise that ur seeing someone else better...and dnt forget to tell ur new babe bout the stunts ur pulling to test her faith in you....

huh? I might end up loosing the two of them am not good with lies she will know before i even start double dating

dauntless15:
shes excited around me as well, you know that feeling you have for someone you naturally connect with? I must admit the girl am in a relationship with loves me more than i actually love her, its strange but intresting

You need to tell her you don't want her then. Respect that she can find someone else that will love her as much as she needs.

Don't double date, it's wrong. Especially when you know you are wasting her time.

foolinlove:


Maybe she is serious then. You two need to have some serious talking. About your future together. If you don't want her, tell her. Then no contact again.

But if u want her, serious talking. If she say no to serious talking then she is just playing games.

As much as she may want, things can never go back to how they were. But with serious talking maybe the two of you cam be stronger.

shes never serious thats a problem, you might be dying and she'll be laughing at something funny she saw thats why i just like her she's too carefree

dauntless15:
shes never serious thats a problem, you might be dying and she'll be laughing at something funny she saw thats why i just like her she's too carefree

So tell her that, end the relationship for good and move on. Give her closure. Then she can move on too.