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Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Ugosample(m): 10:58pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
Jobia:Exactly what I wanted to ask before, but I restrained myself 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by iPopAlomo(m): 11:03pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
see them... see them... Karashika women everywhere... 2 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by wiloy2k8(m): 11:03pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
SamMilla1: wanted to say this ... thanks for saying my mind ... 3 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by sweetilicious(f): 11:05pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
[quote author=Nyceguy92 post=46825444][/quote]She can help stop her bedwetting by making sure she does not take any water after having dinner. Wake her up every hour to go and ease herself, put mackintosh on her bed incase she wets again. Wake her up to clean up. Maybe,she will change in no time. Op do it for the young lady. Just mellow down and help her become a better person. 7 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Valprof: 11:10pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
palsenator:dis woman can lie....that the gal father dont leave unless you give him groceries ....i smell hatred in her writing..nna ehh i dyvex 6 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Nobody: 11:14pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
I wanted to comment but I'm not commenting again 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Nobody: 11:18pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
When will many Nigerians start thinking for and by themselves? 2 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Valprof: 11:19pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
AfroKnight:u r weak then 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by VictorRomanov: 11:23pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
The girl papa bible no get 1 Timothy 5:8.? The girl no be member of him house hold? |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Valprof: 11:24pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
megastu:so her husband will die because of groceries they gv once in a blue moon....... 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Valprof: 11:25pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
megastu:so her husband will die because of groceries they gv once in a blue moon...... 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Valprof: 11:27pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
GoodBoi1:ask d fool wenvdhe stopped bedettn 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Valprof: 11:27pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
GoodBoi1:ask d fool wen she stopped bedettn 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by kinibd(m): 11:27pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
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Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Valprof: 11:27pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
GoodBoi1:ask d fool wen she stopped bedwettn 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by dfrost: 11:35pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
:-Xl[quote author=MarryMeee post=46778066][/quote] First of all let me commend you for the work you've done so far. It's not easy taking care of a little one especially when the person is not not your direct blood. Exercise patience and help the girl. She needs your love more than ever before. Sometimes turn a blind eye on the things little ones do. Let me paint a scenario for you that you can readily relate to. Humans invent weapons of mass destruction time without numbers yet God gives them a chance to repent and turn to Him. The pilots that dropped the atomic bombs on Nagasaki and Hiroshima are still alive (from my last check). Why all this epistle? Give her a chance just like God gives us a chance to change from our wrong doings. You never know what the future will bring. May God give you the grace to train her up. Ciao. 2 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by plendil: 11:38pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
All those harping "if it was your child" should, most respectfully, put a sock in it!! Fact is, she is not OPs child. Were she an orphan, then its probably different. But her parents are still alive!! I have extremely low tolerance for irresponsible parents whose only job is to bleep and bleep, without protection, and bring unneeded children into the world. That I only have two children is not because I dont like to bleep my wife raw. I'm fully aware there are consequences to such action. Abeg OP, do the needful and send the child back. 10 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Valprof: 11:41pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
dfrost:may God answer ur call ....3hr |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by dfrost: 11:44pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
sweetilicious: God bless you for this post. Wish I could give you a hug and a glass of chilled smoothie for this comment. OP just help her please. A lot of people especially young ones need love and attention nowadays. Don't worry about her folks attitude and don't be sentimental about raising her. Just pray to God for the needed strength unless you never wanted our advice in the first place. Ciao. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by pippimp(m): 11:45pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
MarryMeee: It is too simple. You need to set boundaries and have a plan for corrective action. I think you have given up because she is not your daughter. Ask yourself, if she were your daughter how would you handle the girl? Every infraction must be met with some sort of punishment and the punishment must fit the crime. E.g beating her for not maintaining her shoes does not solve the problem. Just keep patching the shoes until her feet starts protruding from the shoes and let her understand that the reason you are not going to buy a new one for her is because she does not know how to maintain one. Problem solving is a skill that needs to be learnt for parenting. Also, because she is not your daughter, you need to be careful. Document her infractions as proof so that one day when she cries and says you have been maltreating her, you have something to fall back on. Only mentally lazy people result to beating. Don't be one of them. As for the uncle, you husband needs to man up and draw the line too. 3 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by dfrost: 11:47pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
Valprof: Thanks brotherly |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by olushowunm(m): 11:50pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
MarryMeee:To solve all the issues... Take her to boarding school and you can bear responsible her fees and others. Then they will handle her with the iron hand she requires... Maybe a public school will do the magic. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by olawonder(m): 11:50pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
nnamdibig:stupid advice, why they hv to concentrate on making d girl's life and leave theirs in peril? I'd say kick her d Bleep out! Ppl don't change that easily... d headache will get worse! |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by pippimp(m): 11:55pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
olawonder: Smh. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by lastpage: 11:59pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
cococandy: This is the "standard response" of very selfish, devlish women.... and I am 100% sure that you have marital problems (single mother), in real life! While l dont support the girl misbehaving but in all honesty, l cant buy all the EVIL REVELATION she narrated about the girl! 11 year old girl for that matter! Plane and simple, She does NOT want the girl in their household...... and would say ANYTHING to get her out. But like others have pointed out, will she have the same attitude, if the girl where to be her own sibling (from her own side)? Why is it that Women generally hate to see the siblings of their Husband yet, they crowd the whole house with their own siblings? Women should try to be a lil'bit more tolerant of their husband's relative because who knows, maybe these are the people that made your husband into what he is today, for you to want to marry him. Everything still boils down to the man. He has to know where to draw the line If the wifey wants to destroy the marriage because of that little girl, then so be it..... meaning "it was never meant to be in the first place". Lastpage! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by nairalandankrah: 12:00am On Jun 28, 2016 |
!!DISCIPLINE!! is key here... you need not do the same thing others did as it may not work in your case. find the best form of discipline to employ and enforce it. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by PHIPEX(m): 12:04am On Jun 28, 2016 |
My question is what were you expecting when you took the child in the first place, a well behaved matured and intelligent child? Am not in a hurry to swallow all you said because you sounded like one whose heart is made up on what to do but seeks validation. There is a cost that comes with training a child. It's either you are ready to bear the cost and reap the benefit in future or you send her home which is what you already want to do but stop giving the child an unnecessary bad publicity. How come you couldn't mention even one thing the child and her family does right? Are they entirely evil? A lot of great people today had a difficult childhood (maybe including your husband), but people like you believed in them and gave them chance to survive. You have started a process and terminating it now may not end well especially if you send her home. That's because she has tasted a "good" life, she can't fit in anymore to her parent's standard of living meaning she'll revolt and end up worse-off. 4 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by RichYoungNigger(m): 12:13am On Jun 28, 2016 |
bebe2: We don't fuccking care about you and your husband. You want everyone to know you live abroad ?? Well 85% of Nairaland members Lives in the USA, we're not moved by the mention of dollars or abroad. 2 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by mamajaz(f): 12:20am On Jun 28, 2016 |
olushowunm:Thank you, this is epic. Let any of those calling the woman bad have cases like this to attend to IJN, amen |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by chillbabe(f): 12:20am On Jun 28, 2016 |
SamMilla1:Ow please shut it 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by fortune1968: 12:25am On Jun 28, 2016 |
Dyt:u are somewhat wrong. if the girl had been her child,she would have mentored her d way she would like her to behave since childhood.incidentally,it is more difficult to discipline a child dts not yours cause u dont know how the parents will take it.Pls take d child to her parents now ,hence d parents and d family turn back to blame u ,and u become enemies. 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by psalm32: 12:31am On Jun 28, 2016 |
First help the kid its not her fault but instead send her to a bordering house for school and for the uncle next time wen he come invite along to a 3 days Christian meeting of any kind e.g fasting ,prayer meetings infact occupied with sthg he hate doing.u and ur husband are too predictable |
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