Stats: 3,189,653 members, 7,937,948 topics. Date: Monday, 02 September 2024 at 02:35 PM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank (44344 Views)
Woman Loses Husband, 3 Kids And 5 Relatives In Boat Accident In US. Pics / I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House / Man Curses Out Families Who Squander Money Sent Home By Relatives Living Abroad (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by MarryMeee: 4:29pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
Coldfeet:the tank cover is made of cast iron. So she lifted it and threw it on the toilet and a third of it broke. She said that she moved the lid so that she could see what was inside. She likes watching tv and dressing up, well thats really about it. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by MarryMeee: 4:33pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
Valprof:since i am stingy and wicked, maybe your good soul can do us a favour by giving me your address so i could leave her at your house for a week, you sound like you could do a better job now wouldn't you? ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by MarryMeee: 4:36pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
slizylindy:lol im looking for solutions not drama, let those with misplaced anger go and take it out elsewhere 4 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by mamajaz(f): 5:01pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
MarryMeee:I love and salute your spirit of determination. Some foolish virgins abusing and accusing you here can't bear a tenth of what you have gone through. I pray God will guide you in making the right decision as per the whole issue 2 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by giles14(m): 5:22pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
MarryMeee:u don't know how to ask dem? OK kip on delaying urslf very soon it will be "had u known u couldn't take care of our child atleast u ought to have returned her" by den it would be had I known. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by armadeo(m): 6:44pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
SamMilla1: This is a very myopic view.. give her the benefit of doubt. Apparently you have never hd peeps atyach to you like a leech as if they are also producing the blood with You. I have seen this and more. There's a reason she's here complaing and why she is hesitant to send the girl back. African society would immediately place the blame on her even if it's her husband that insists the child goes back. That's the real world. However giving you the benefit of doubt there's always two sides to a story. She also could be making up excuses. All in all op do your best and treat her like your own. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Valprof: 7:05pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
MarryMeee:look me in the eye and say u cant handle that lad......baby woju! |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by GoodBoi1(m): 7:13pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
Women and their territorial behaviour. The moment they marry a man they expect everything to take the back seat in his life.Free the girl jaree,,she's exploring the world, and when you explore things get broken. It seems she has a flair for engineering. 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by SamMilla1(m): 7:26pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
MarryMeee: Mrs Aristotle, I didn't know you are this clever to post a quote. Are you just seeing my posts? When next you need advice, look around your house, you can get everything you need there. You don't come to condemn a living little girl and want us to approve whatever evil plan you wish to dish out on her. I wonder what you would tell any man who wishes to marry this girl in future. We hear and see women bathing young house helps with hot water and and all that. We have heard of one who cut off a young boy's manhood. What evil can you people not dish out? Before you make that looming mistake, ask your self what you would do if this evil girl is your younger sister. If you would have did all you could to help her, then extend the same to this girl. If you would have poured hot water on your sister, do the same to this girl. If you would have sent your sister back to wherever she came from, please do the same thing to this evil girl. But if you would have given your sister time and small punishments to change her ways, do the same to this one. You first of all, have to withdraw this raging anger inside you, otherwise you are going to make a mistake you will regret. It's just a matter of few years before you get old and rinkled while she glows and shines like you think you do at this moment. You may eventually need her help someday. That's how this world works. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by SamMilla1(m): 7:28pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
GoodBoi1: Very well. Reasonable people are talking now. I have dished it out to her already. She is the evil woman here, just that she doesn't know it yet. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Nobody: 7:43pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
cococandy: Is dt ur baby in d profile? She is so cute. Am sure u must be cute too. So waz ur number? |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by SamMilla1(m): 8:27pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
cococandy: Who would blame you evil thing. You are probably having a very bad marriage, that's if you are married. I pity the unlucky coward that lives with you. One thing you blackheads should always understand is that it's pretty much easier to find a woman to marry than to find a man who will marry you. So before you give those ultimatum in a man's house, especially against his relatives whom you don't know the relationship between them, know that it's easy to send you packing. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by cococandy(f): 9:41pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
Man's house indeed. Because the wife is a tenant in it. You're obviously a retard. I need a knock or two for engaging you in the first place. SamMilla1: 6 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by cococandy(f): 9:51pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
Lol. I thought I was the only one who's thought about this. A 45 yr old single man will have no relation clamoring to move in with him. Once he's married, all his family will remember that they have a brother. Almost as if there's this unspoken desire to frustrate the wife aka 'the stranger that came into the family' out of the man's life. I can't think of any other explanation. Why the sudden desire? teenagetalks: 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by MarryMeee: 10:19pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
Dyt:Can you babysit for me, since what I can do is not enough, because I work 14hrs and sometimes 16hrs a day. Since I am doing a lousy job to make sure she goes to a decent school, she wears decent clothes and she eats decent food and making sure she has her homework done, despite coming back home exhausted, maybe you could show me how its done properly. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by MarryMeee: 10:24pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
jhyde101:Thank you for that, we have discussed this this evening and we are considering decent schools in a town closer to her parents. The initial plan was to take her to her parents but after suggesting boarding school, my husband is for the idea. 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Dyt(f): 10:37pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
MarryMeee: Are you saying you will not have time for your kids when they start coming? Sorry oo Mrs I honestly don't see or mean it that way Pls take her back so you can have peace |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Nobody: 11:14pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
MarryMeee, since you and your husband are in agreement, you should announce your decision to the family and stick to it until they have practical solutions and assistance to offer. If they are not able to take care of the child or at least help take care of her, why would they expect you to do it alone? It is not easy to raise a child and much less a little troubled soul like her. I respect that you tried and I respect you even more for not being ashamed to say that it has become too much. 4 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Nyceguy92: 11:16pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
sweetilicious: Huhmnn, you are really Sweetilicious. Those are really very practical things to do. Everybody was busy saying "Send her home," "No, let her stay," and we forgot the most basic steps that do not cost a kobo. I see these yielding good results, especially combined with the necessary medical inquiries. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Nobody: 11:19pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
SamMilla1: Since you are sure that she is evil, you should be the first to encourage her to take the child back. 3 Likes |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Nobody: 11:22pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
sweetilicious: I love it when people offer practical solutions instead of pushing someone to do something they feel helpless about. 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by armyofone(m): 1:25am On Jun 29, 2016 |
Waking her up every hour to go pee like some one said is not possible. She is a working lady by the way. So she should not sleep ?? OP, please you guys should send the girl back to her family with monthly allowance for her education. Don't make any one force you to do what's not in your heart. 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by SamMilla1(m): 4:17am On Jun 29, 2016 |
Mindfulness: I was going to do that, but I got pissed off the way she totally condemned this girl online. No single good word for this girl, just total condemnation like a common criminal. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by SamMilla1(m): 4:34am On Jun 29, 2016 |
cococandy: I don't blame you, it's this white garment and ring that confuses some of you to think that after marriage, you can get away with everything you do. You think Nigeria is in America. We will judge things based on what is obtained in the society we live. When we become like those countries where women have that 50/50 rights with their husbands, we will adjust our judgements and advices. In a society where 90% of the wives depend on their husband, you seriously think equal rights can work. No sister, it's not my doing but as long as the husband provides nearly everything in the house, you will remain a half tenant there. It simply means you can be thrown out if you cross some red lines. Tell me you don't see such things everyday. But you, you can't throw a man out from his house in Nigeria, can you? Especially if the house is in his ancestral home. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by sweetilicious(f): 5:45am On Jun 29, 2016 |
Nyceguy92:Thanks. The reasons she wish to send the little girl away is not acceptable to common sense. Everyone at a time in their life bedwets. She will still clean up her own children if the are the ones going through this phase of life. Will she disown her child? Solution is the best. 1 Like |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Nobody: 8:58am On Jun 29, 2016 |
plendil: Thank you thank you thank you sooo much. Exactly what I was going to say. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Nobody: 9:16am On Jun 29, 2016 |
SamMilla1: Good thing cococandy doesn't live in Nigeria then. stop ranting up and down. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by SamMilla1(m): 10:00am On Jun 29, 2016 |
fem29: Is this topic about Cococandy? It will take her 300 years to visit the countries I have lived. Ask questions. ... Let me just edit this post because I don't think you did anything to me. But I don't like the word 'Ranting' |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by allycat: 11:05am On Jun 29, 2016 |
Send her back toher parents but continue to pay her school fees. In my own case the child involved was my own niece but it had gotten to a stage where I was afraid of what I would do to her if she performed one of her stunts again. She was turning me into someone I didn't recognise. She still comes over for occasional holidays and seems a bit sober. When I suggested bringing her back even her dad's own sister ( the Father is late)warned me against that. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by enygmababe: 12:26pm On Jun 29, 2016 |
sweetilicious: Sweetilicious, those are nice and practical suggestions I agree but have you ever really tried to effect them? Particularly the wake her up every hour to go and ease herself? Op says she works. My sister, it is one thing to say oh but another thing to do. Before you castigate me take note that I have not said to send the child home. Until you have walked this talk believe me you will not know that it is not so easy. |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by HaneefahRN(f): 3:18pm On Jun 29, 2016 |
sweetilicious: So she should not sleep well all night cos of a child whose mother might be in bed enjoying her sleep? The mackintosh seems more practical, and waking at least twice in the night and ensuring she pees before going to bed. The best thing is for the girl to be raised by her parents whatever help OP and her husband want to render should be extended to them |
Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by HaneefahRN(f): 3:22pm On Jun 29, 2016 |
SamMilla1: Good man. How many orphans or relative's children have you taken in as a bachelor? You seem to know alot about how to take care of children, it isn't rocket science after all. 2 Likes |
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (Reply)
They Live In A Face Me I Face You Compound / I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage / Husband Chats With Many Ladies On Facebook And Whatsapp
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 89 |