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Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 2:46pm On Jun 29, 2016 |
Do You Still Make This Mistake With Women? by
xxxtedyxxx Do girls flake on You? Do you always wonder why she doesn't return your calls? Or why she doesn't create time and space for you to be with her? Perhaps you don't just understand how her weird emotions can sometimes be a tool against our romantic journey with her. •••• For the most part, we guys are action oriented. We think in terms of what we want to do and how we want others to act. Therefore, when it comes to the dating scene or any other social interaction we always ask questions like : How can I make her say yes to me? ...How can I approach her and make her give out her number? ... How can I make her kiss me? ...and so on. This goal oriented state of mind is addictive and it can make us begin to over-analyze subtle things that dont even matter - which is the mistake most of us make. •••• All hope is not lost. With process orientation we can leverage the whole situation in our favour. Being process oriented helps you to think from the end. So instead of asking... How can I make ber kiss me? ..You should ask: What state of Mind can I get her into to make her kiss me easily? What state of mind can I put her to make her feel free with me.? What state of mind can I get her into to make her more invested in our relationship? •••• Armed with this knowledge there are lots of emotional states we can consider to get the girls to do or behave the way we want. You can make a girl feel CURIOUSITY, LUST, FUN, ATTRACTION, A SENSE of BELONGING, ROMANCE and so on. These are all good emotions, but always try to balance them out with emotions of TRUST, CONNECTION, SAFETY, COMFORT. The feelings/emotional states a girl experiences when she feels free and totally connected to you is what I tag as TRUST/CONNECTION/SAFETY/ COMFORT. This emotional state is important if she is gonna date YOU. CURIOUSITY, LUST, FUN, ATTRACTION, A SENSE of BELONGING, ROMANCE are emotional states some girls require but we still need a balance of both sets of emotions. Some guys are good at creating the CONNECTION/ TRUST and safety emotions easily. They are so good at it that they don't include the second range of emotions. This is the sole reason why 90 percent of guys get friendzoned. . That moment when you here: " Emeka let's just be friends please" If you don't show her the qualities of a boyfriend, you are invariably putting yourself in a position to get friendzoned. Some guys are fantastic at creating emotions of CURIOUSITY/LUST/FUN/ATTRACTION/A SENSE of BELONGING/ROMANCE but there sometimes get turned down at the last minute. You also need a little dose of CONNECTION to get her to feel some sense of trust. That way she won't flake at the last minute or put up resistance. All in all, its important to give her feelings of attraction and positive feelings of emotional,safety and rapport to get her to do what you want. Apply this to YOUR GAME today...and see the Difference. Cheers. Xxxteddy 1 Like |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by xxxtedyxxx(m): 2:49pm On Jun 29, 2016 |
Do You Still Make This Mistake With Women? by
xxxtedyxxx Do girls flake on You? Do you always wonder why she doesn't return your calls? Or why she doesn't create time and space for you to be with her? Perhaps you don't just understand how her weird emotions can sometimes be a tool against our romantic journey with her. •••• For the most part, we guys are action oriented. We think in terms of what we want to do and how we want others to act. Therefore, when it comes to the dating scene or any other social interaction we always ask questions like : How can I make her say yes to me? ...How can I approach her and make her give out her number? ... How can I make her kiss me? ...and so on. This goal oriented state of mind is addictive and it can make us begin to over-analyze subtle things that dont even matter - which is the mistake most of us make. •••• All hope is not lost. With process orientation we can leverage the whole situation in our favour. Being process oriented helps you to think from the end. So instead of asking... How can I make ber kiss me? ..You should ask: What state of Mind can I get her into to make her kiss me easily? What state of mind can I put her to make her feel free with me.? What state of mind can I get her into to make her more invested in our relationship? •••• Armed with this knowledge there are lots of emotional states we can consider to get the girls to do or behave the way we want. You can make a girl feel CURIOUSITY, LUST, FUN, ATTRACTION, A SENSE of BELONGING, ROMANCE and so on. These are all good emotions, but always try to balance them out with emotions of TRUST, CONNECTION, SAFETY, COMFORT. The feelings/emotional states a girl experiences when she feels free and totally connected to you is what I tag as TRUST/CONNECTION/SAFETY/ COMFORT. This emotional state is important if she is gonna date YOU. CURIOUSITY, LUST, FUN, ATTRACTION, A SENSE of BELONGING, ROMANCE are emotional states some girls require but we still need a balance of both sets of emotions. Some guys are good at creating the CONNECTION/ TRUST and safety emotions easily. They are so good at it that they don't include the second range of emotions. This is the sole reason why 90 percent of guys get friendzoned. . That moment when you here: " Emeka let's just be friends please" If you don't show her the qualities of a boyfriend, you are invariably putting yourself in a position to get friendzoned. Some guys are fantastic at creating emotions of CURIOUSITY/LUST/FUN/ATTRACTION/A SENSE of BELONGING/ROMANCE but there sometimes get turned down at the last minute. You also need a little dose of CONNECTION to get her to feel some sense of trust. That way she won't flake at the last minute or put up resistance. All in all, its important to give her feelings of attraction and positive feelings of emotional,safety and rapport to get her to do what you want. Apply this to YOUR GAME today...and see the Difference. Cheers. Xxxteddy |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by heryurh(m): 9:40pm On Jun 29, 2016 |
bojbest: [Stop Fvcking Chatting! Maybe you didn't get that well I said Stop Fvcking Chatting! !! I hope that got stuck in your head... Dude what is wrong with you? Chatting kills your Status! Go out there & fvcking have fun , be carefree.. Show the World how Fvcking Amazing you are! But if you insist kn Chatting on Social Media, I'd give you something to Spark up your Conversation s once again I should talk about how Devastating this thread is becoming but I'd just overlook USE THIS NOW! Text this to a Girl ; ""Can you keep a Secret ?"" and DO NOT REPLY... P.S-NEVER TELL HER THE SECRET! !! From there Tease Her Challenge Her P.P.S- I STRONGLY ADVICE YOU GO OUT THERE & FVCK THE WORLD! -H.E |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by NLjona(m): 3:41pm On Jun 30, 2016 |
Boss please reply me boss.. sometin happend oo. one guy was chatting me up and told me he's one of my chick's bf.. and I didn't out any info to him cos it might be someone playing me to know something.... but if its true.. what should I do.. to her, not the guy. I dont wanna tell her cos I don't wanna sound asif I gat sumtin for her.. I plan is to make her go head over heels not to loose me due to d fact that I've known she has a guy... cos this girl gbadu me die.. and we've been running tins since thanks in advance |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by adewumiopeyemi(m): 4:34pm On Jun 30, 2016 |
guys am contesting fro mr nairaland 2016... i need ur support... all u need is to post this link in the normination and verification thread.. i need ur support guys cc teddy I nominate www.nairaland.com/adewumiopeyemi CC: Dygeasy |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by adewumiopeyemi(m): 4:35pm On Jun 30, 2016 |
teddy i need ur support am contesting for mr nairaland.. pls help me convere more people.... pls drop ur mnormination in that thread... abeg xxxtedyxxx: |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by Eleniyan15: 8:38pm On Jun 30, 2016 |
bro in the house new chick around!!!!! Am falling for a girl again ooo she's 65% cute tall straight,scholar emmm e.t.c yea we don't talk cause she's in other department and I got 2 female frnds in her dpt,now have been trying too get close to her whenever we got a large class but she's always @d front and me nah back I dey Alwyn sit base on say i no dey quick go sch...cos who klass EPP have been making this kinda eye contact with her for now nothing more and I don't want too be too needy base on the o.t cause it does not make sense to just walk up to a lady been a stranger and ask her out direct...I just need to get this green light from her,wah currently on my mind is WHENEVER IS SEE HER I SHOULD ALWAYS SAY HI then as time goes on will start entering her klass try bringing talking too her base on frnd package and academic issh just for the first day only after that the normal flattering and chyking stuff or wetin una think cause she's currently single base on my info for the dpt and she's jovial like me but have only a frnd. Abeg how una see the package xxxtedyxxx ,djboosting and co walahi I knw say una go answer me since when this thread dey here have been fallowing oya make una drop o.t for me cos o.t no dey full basket OR MAKE I USE ONE OF MY frequent INTRO WITH GIRLS I HAVENT MET BEFORE I.E hello bae have you been told today....*den she will get this kinda weird look that was he trying too say then I drop dah shit YOU LOOKING CUTE #Smiles it has never failed me how una see am I wan keep this one ooo no be chop and clean mouth ooo |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by fabulous2000(m): 9:50pm On Jun 30, 2016 |
Eleniyan15: |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by fabulous2000(m): 9:52pm On Jun 30, 2016 |
Eleniyan15: Bro if u ar damn in need of dis girl ....u need 2 approach her....approach her by breaking the silence...just walk up 2 her and open within 2 minute and leave.....within these 2 minute u need 2 create attraction by demonstrating higher value of urself...target her when she is in d midst of her friends..u walk up 2 dem and u'll be like '" hi ladies...can I get ur opinion on something or a survey...then u throw a question that comes 2 ur mind ...mind u,ur focus should be on her friends..when she wants 2 interupt u cut her off tell her one after the other..then u continue with her frnds....u give them the impression dat u gats go in 60secs...within 2 minutes u av created attraction here...when u see her d next day u go 4 her numba |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by Eleniyan15: 10:04pm On Jun 30, 2016 |
fabulous2000: Choi so make I NEG I think I likely going to work buh shey I go come go dey tame am for dpt naw ni shuu |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by JohnnyBling(m): 9:03am On Jul 10, 2016 |
So there's this Bae I met like 2months back, we met at the bank, her backside was wow..as a sharp guy, I didn't hesitate in striking up a convo.. Left the bank with her holding hands together.. Got her contact and we got talking on fone like on a daily basis..she do the calling most time and I swear she was feeling me back then..straight up I asked if she could come over to my house she agreed,but I declined late on cos my house at that time was super occupied,,family issues... So like last week she started coming online WhatsApp I felt excited cos I always wanted her to be online.. Few days back I asked her out and she declined.. I feel like I didn't close the babe on time.. Ion really like the face,just the yan.sh aspect.. Wah do I do to get this Bae Cc: xxxteddyxxx 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by Mikocake(m): 8:52pm On Jul 14, 2016 |
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Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by diggy4real: 11:51pm On Jul 16, 2016 |
House....tried this tricks.....seeems the girls am trying it with are local chicks or are after something else.....how Long will a chick visit one...b4 one attempts to Bleep her?....every chick DT visit me on d first day always wants to visit n probably get money n go..each time I try smth....dey leave d house never to come back or see me again..... Am tired of this lectures.....seems it iznt working or am meeting d wrong girls. |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by Badex10(m): 12:38pm On Jul 17, 2016 |
xxxtedyxxx:BOss Thanks 4All ur good works. Please my problem is conversation..... After greeting her +Asking about normal things, Will I just Jump 2Topics About Her? Or I Do I need 2follow A procedure? |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by diggy4real: 10:59pm On Jul 17, 2016 |
diggy4real: Girls possess me off easily..... The way..,.dey act.....I get really angry.... Deleted virtually all girls off my list.....cos they seem to feel they are smarter.... Some even hang up on you wen u call....I can't be taking DT all in the name of gaming. 1 Like |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by diggy4real: 11:01pm On Jul 17, 2016 |
diggy4real: Girls pisses me off easily..... The way..,.dey act.....I get really angry.... Deleted virtually all girls off my list.....cos they seem to feel they are smarter.... Some even hang up on you wen u call....I can't be taking DT all in the name of gaming.....I think I will just be carrying oloshos and pay them than diz gaming shit. 1 Like |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by Nobody: 11:07pm On Jul 17, 2016 |
diggy4real:Lmao |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by diggy4real: 1:02am On Jul 18, 2016 |
Chepy1: Yes oooo.....bros I don tire......I was kinda average on it before I got to know of this thread.....the thread seems not a blessing to me# ambetterofwithoutthispoo# |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by brandnew54: 1:22am On Jul 18, 2016 |
Bosses in the house help a broda, There is this am so much in love with and she knows through my actions.She even confessed to her roomie that I can catch a grenade for her. Here is the problem , she ditched me like a month ago .she stopped picking my calls for like month , Luckily my company sent me to Ph for an assignment for 2 days .After which I sent sms to her am in PH to meet with her in order to unrivaled reasons she has been blanking me.It took the intervention of my friend and her roomie to convince her she should give me a chance. When she did , should told me that the pastor had informed her that I am going to be a cheating type ,therefore she should discontinue our relationship(we are suppose to get married).We reconciled and got back together. I over heard a discussion between her an a friend concerning not been paid allawee ,so I felt that it was an opportunity to prove that i can be that guy she can rely on.I gave her 20k in the process while she waits for allawee. On the last day visit before travelling back to lagos , I went through her phone while she was having her bath , found out chat with a particular guy she had sex with the previous day. I drilled her so hard till confessed to me.At this point , I gave a liberty to chose of whom to stay with either with me or the oda guy that bleeped her since she claimed the guy got plenty money but rude.She confessed it me she want and promise to turn a new leaf. I forgave her and left bk to lagos. Now she started acting funny again , throughtout todat sunday am calling her she is not picking my calls and not returning myh calls either .How do I start treating this girl cos I do really love her . |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by callydon(m): 11:03am On Jul 18, 2016 |
brandnew54:I am NOT one of d gaming masters here, but I'll tell u to just DUMP d girl now. For d sake of ur peace of mind n ur money. CIAO!!! 1 Like |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by diggy4real: 12:21pm On Jul 18, 2016 |
brandnew54: She is about to suck u again......run for for your pocket.... |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by prodekul(f): 6:39pm On Jul 20, 2016 |
am new here, first time on nairaland |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by prodekul(f): 6:41pm On Jul 20, 2016 |
brandnew54:[b] brandnew54:[/b][quote author=brandnew54 post=47648310]Bosses in the house help a broda, There is this am so much in love with and she knows through my actions.She even confessed to her roomie that I can catch a grenade for her. Here is the problem , she ditched me like a month ago .she stopped picking my calls for like month , Luckily my company sent me to Ph for an assignment for 2 days .After which I sent sms to her am in PH to meet with her in order to unrivaled reasons she has been blanking me.It took the intervention of my friend and her roomie to convince her she should give me a cha to turn a new leaf. I forgave her and left bk to lagos. Now she started acting funny again , throughtout todat sunday am calling her she is not picking my calls and not returning myh calls either .How do I start treating this girl cos I d |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by Eleniyan15: 8:29pm On Jul 20, 2016 |
fabulous2000 xxxtedyxxx djboosting heryurh Over to my previous post about the girl I broke the silence last week Tuesday by sitting with for a general class ,choi cos of woman we can do anything ooo I gat quick wake up run go class make I sit for front,buh on Thursday we started chatting fully..up till dis moment!!! now she knows what I want from her buh I haven't told her official buh anytym she's around me and a frnd of my is around I tend to tease her by referring to her as my Olori she just act somehow..nt really negative though.so yesterday wanted to tell her my mind buh I was carried away with something,so I buzz her that same yesterday in the nyt..dah I wanted to tell her something buh she wasn't around that can we talk about it ONLINE!!!! The next thing she said was Let me tell her in Person *crying naxo fear hold me..mmy silly trick no wrk for this shima.So wanted to tell her this evening bfor we leave campus buh we where unable to talk,maybe cos I lost interest whn she kept me waiting for 5-6min we both sat today again she called me to come sit with her,and she was like Thanks for the morning text message dah she LikEs it Now I got to know she has a bfrnd though buh she never said something related to that too me since when we started talking on Thursday @least in a day we spend 2hrs together with my goons,cousin(she knws I like her). Should I still go on with this package cos she likes me no doubt abt dah very obvious..*alwaysSmiling sha base on say I dey form loverBoy*** bosses over to you response needed asap |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by Lordsarmie92: 8:22am On Jul 21, 2016 |
you be boss ooo, I try every clue u dropped here and it work like magic.g The chick am into now is fond of me and can't but talk to me either thru calls or msgs ,she thought am jovial but presently I have no clue on how to continue the chat |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by Lordsarmie92: 11:21am On Jul 21, 2016 |
Lordsarmie92: |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by angiography(m): 11:45am On Jul 21, 2016 |
xxxtedyxxx: Boss, I give it to you. It worked like magic. Chai... The blush was very apparent 1 Like |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by Nobody: 3:33pm On Jul 21, 2016 |
ave been trying to chike a gurl for mre dan 6months she still saying no dunno wah tu say again |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by Lordsarmie92: 11:02pm On Jul 21, 2016 |
no one is answering me here, bosses I need u response |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by happyday: 5:01pm On Jul 22, 2016 |
OkeEsibe:No offense meant, but what do you do for a living? 2 Likes |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by Nobody: 11:32pm On Jul 22, 2016 |
happyday:i dunno |
Re: Improve Your Dating Game Here.! See Inside. by Impulse80(m): 7:12am On Jul 26, 2016 |
Is this guy for real? Oga are you a virgin? Because your attitude is like that of someone not accustomed to women. brandnew54: |
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