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Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by Taryur3(m): 6:45am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Eaugusta:Hnmmm....the reporter...dey deceive yourself...u hear? |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by legalgoon: 6:47am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Florblu: too funny but kinda the truth |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by telemapreye1(f): 6:47am On Jul 02, 2016 |
illuminada:I passed the interview and got the job but after sometimes he wanted sex...But I refused so we started having issues,so i quit. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by Seeeeeeee: 6:47am On Jul 02, 2016 |
telemapreye1:we men act depending on the behaviour of a lady, if you look like someone that can offer se.x we place demand. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by mccoy47(m): 6:48am On Jul 02, 2016 |
BiafraBushBoy:A typical biafran reasoning 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by illuminada: 6:50am On Jul 02, 2016 |
telemapreye1: Maybe I see things differently because I'm a guy...but, did you do anything that aroused his desire for sex? |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by telemapreye1(f): 6:51am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Seeeeeeee:Just hold your lips there...some men are agent of darkness. No matter what you wear they will still come after you. I have once been in her shoes. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by Taryur3(m): 6:51am On Jul 02, 2016 |
oluala881:Lols...Mr Adviser....I guess you looking for your own way to get in contact with the OP....My God will expose you... |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by SmithHumble50: 6:52am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Estherfaith: Since he is the owner just keep Dustin ur table as u will soon be leaving that place bcuz either ways it won't be good for u.. Bcuz if u slap him.. U will be definitely be sacked.. If u decide he eats ur "cookie" that will be it.. He will turn u to his sex machine and if he gets tired of u.. Another fresh pussey will replace u.. It's a lose lose situation for u either way! Act wisely! 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by Akjr(m): 6:55am On Jul 02, 2016 |
No man or guys wll do dah 2 u if u dressing decent. Am a guy. I knw wen guys or men feel dah urges to do somfin foolish.. Might b d way u laf, dress or behave... Dnt loose ya job ooo. Oda whil u wll stil gv it 2 a g! Dah does nt mattr. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by afanide: 6:55am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Your appearance in Important here... How do you Appear before your Boss A=Descent B=Half Naked C=Tight/revealling Clothes D=Sexy |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by Eaugusta(f): 6:55am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Taryur3: Tnx, I only pray for people like you. It takes grace to knw what God can do in your life. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by telemapreye1(f): 6:57am On Jul 02, 2016 |
illuminada:I never did cos I wear only skirt and gown to work...Although am this slim girl so anything I put on fits me well but that doesn't warrant his attitude..He is just a womaniser and he told me I was the first girl to turn down his offer so that why he was so desperate to get me but b4 he could I already quit. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by ojuu4u(m): 6:57am On Jul 02, 2016 |
[quote author=Estherfaith post=46981935]I usually don't do this, but right now I am so angry I want to resign. I started working here almost 2 years ago, and sincerely at a point, I wanted to resign because my boss was very difficult, I never did anything right in his sight. Am very sure when you started d job, newly, u had been playing him or male co-workers in ur ofice un-controllbly. This made him bilvd you are a "flirt" a man can neva & ever touch ur private parts if you havent gone beyond ur bondaries before, ie, playing excessevly wt him, asking him to pay ur bills, giving him facial expresions, mode of dresings etc. U were nt acting maturely as you claimed o, but acting weakly. (d way u acted to him sugested u may sucumb if he puts more presure as some ladies do) Solutions, since u stil need his job, I tink facia expresions wil do d job. 1.DNT GV HIM FACE AGAIN. 2.UR MODE OF DRESIN ADJUST IT. 3. TELL HIM THAT HE CLAIMS TO BE BORN AGAIN (ds wil touch him) |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by Seeeeeeee: 6:58am On Jul 02, 2016 |
telemapreye1:You will not understand. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by Taryur3(m): 7:03am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Eaugusta:Lols...Pastor Mrs...dnt stop praying for me o please...I just smells lies in your post...pls forgive me...if u mad at that .. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by ofemigeorge(m): 7:05am On Jul 02, 2016 |
telemapreye1:OK OK I heard you. But am just pointing out to you the way men think. So take it easy. There is no lie in all I said. Hmmmm.. .well use the word of your mouth pray to God and tell that man your stand is strictly business or work. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by Eaugusta(f): 7:06am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Taryur3:I never posted for u to believe, ur thoughts! Ur business bro |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by illuminada: 7:07am On Jul 02, 2016 |
telemapreye1: Hmmm....may really have nothing to do with clothing. He may have taken a cue from the things you say or your general disposition at the office. You did a good thing by sticking to your guns though |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by tottinova: 7:08am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Estherfaith: Just leave that place biko |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by Taryur3(m): 7:10am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Eaugusta:Lols... |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by LikeJesus: 7:12am On Jul 02, 2016 |
The poster above made a valid point without God's intervention you are already on your way out of the company. if you give in to his advances, you will end up used and dumped . If you don't cooperate, he likely will replace you with a more willing lady. But with God, you can keep your job until you are ready to quit. After praying, work up to him in private and respectfully give him reasons why you can't give in to his advances. I sincerely hope your reasons are based on your fear of God. But to be proactive, buy one of those spy cameras camouflaged as watches, pens, pendants etc. Get some videos and audio recording of his escapades and keep it as a last resort. If you must show him the videos, make sure you made copies and given to a trusted sympathetic friend. And make it clear to your boss that if anything should happen to you, the videos would be shown to the police and the public. But be careful with blackmail oooo. It's too dangerous in a place like Nigeria. Just use them if need be to buy time. Because after that you can never be comfortable with him around. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by XX01(f): 7:13am On Jul 02, 2016 |
The truth is, if you keep refusing him, he will fire you when he gets tired of running after you. He probably wants someone who will do the work and also warm him bed. Get strong evidence against him such as a video or voice recording and use that to keep him at abeyance. Make copies and keep. Don't blackmail him because that would be illegal. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by ofemigeorge(m): 7:13am On Jul 02, 2016 |
telemapreye1:Then if that man is an agent of darkness use prayer to fight him off. And if he is not ...politely let him know you ready more concerned abt company growth, your work and you are strictly against office relationship. You only need to show yourself very relevant inbthe company, hardworking, that he will not have any thing to hold against you. In the university days I have never seen the very intelligent fist class female student sexually harassed by lectureres. It's only those that don't know anything that are victim. Do your work very well. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by babayega(m): 7:15am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Get video evidence. Get a cheap spy pen (3500-5000) attach it to your bag or cloth whenever he summons you to the places these "harassment" happens. After getting the evidence...the next time it happens, tell him you are considering reporting to the police. If it continues, report to police. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by Jfactor(m): 7:20am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Very easy, buy a small phone that can video. Buy a memory card of 32gig. Put the phone in aircraft mode (u will see the symbol of a plane). Then adjust the volume to the loudest. When he calls for you anytime. Press recording and place the phone on your waistline facing forward, start recording as you lev ur table. When you enter the office, repeatedly say 'Goodday Sir, you called for me' , do not sit, because he may come behind you and grab your waist. When he trys anything, make sure he 'touches you probably on your boobs' and then you say 'Mr so and so, I am warning you to please stop these harassments, this is X number of times, you are Sexually Harrasing me. You keep touching my buttocks, waist and even pressing or rubbing your p E n I s when you pass by my ass'. Pls before you record and place the phone on your hips, try it at home and see if it will record as you are walking around in your closet. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by 2sexycom(m): 7:21am On Jul 02, 2016 |
aaronson:spy pen will more damage or dent to his image than just phone recording. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by Nobody: 7:25am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Estherfaith:if he iindeed the owner of the company. There is realky nothing you can do except he rapes or molest then you call the cops or you slap him before he does something nasty then you get fired. Sorry..this is happening to you in a lawless country. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by Nobody: 7:28am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Seeeeeeee: |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by ofemigeorge(m): 7:29am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Most ladies make the mistake of saying.. .am dressing for my own comfort, am not doing it to get attracted. And they dress seductively. Or they defend their dressing and say it's decent am covered up na. Or they use the silent (I don't want to hurt him or make him think am weird)syndrome,in fighting off male predators. Well am sorry for them. |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by Nobody: 7:33am On Jul 02, 2016 |
@OP You watched him start by holding your hand inappropriately and you kept mute ? Or in your own words acted maturely? Lol You made yourself appear cheap hence your boss is just acting as he would to any cheap girl. The In the words of the great chapel If a woman says because I'm dressed or act a certain way does not make me a wh0re!" Which is true,. Just because a woman dresses or acts a certain way doesn't mean they are a certain way. Don't even forget it. But ladies, you must understand that is bloody confusing. It just is. Now that would be like me, walking down the street in a policeman's uniform. Somebody might run up on me saying, "Oh, thank God. Officer, help us! Theives are there. Help us!" " imagine me saying Just because I'm dressed this way does not make me a police officer!" See what I mean? All right? You are not a wh0re. But your attitude and dressing are the markings of a wh0re's uniform, you get the point? So while you blame your boss here remember you caused this |
Re: How Do I Handle Work Place Sexual Harassment. HELP! by ThrillmeatRep(f): 7:33am On Jul 02, 2016 |
Threats and shouts dont work Start job hunting asap Estherfaith: |
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