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By My Family by MmmS(f): 6:54pm On Jul 02, 2016 |
I really need help dealing with this from people that have ever been in a similar situation. 1 Like |
Re: By My Family by Artistree: 7:04pm On Jul 02, 2016 |
Stand your ground when summoned and apologize if coerced. Some relatives never see anything good in anyone except themselves but if you tell them one obvious truth, they feel insulted and be forming senior...mtchewwwww! 2 Likes |
Re: By My Family by donbenedict(m): 7:11pm On Jul 02, 2016 |
Listen to the first commenter |
Re: By My Family by Ishilove: 7:47pm On Jul 02, 2016 |
MmmS, While I understand where you're coming from, you are wrong to have spoken to her the way you did. She might be very annoying but she is still an elder. In Africa we respect our elders whether they deserve it or not. There are ways you handle such elders. When they start their negativity you walk away. She was mocking you that you aren't married? You should have told her that it is your choice to remain single and that you will rather be single than ''some people who go to hospitals for HIV tests monthly because of their generous husbands''. (emphasise the quoted part. It will bite her ![]() ![]() After this you tactfully walk away. Or smile and tell her to give you a husband so that you can be 'happy' like her. There are several ways to deal with people like her but the way you chose is wrong and has delivered you into her hands for her to further badmouth. Sure she deserves it but tact and wisdom is required. You're wrong sis and you will have to apologise because although she is a busybody, she is still an elder. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: By My Family by mizzochocinco: 8:16pm On Jul 02, 2016 |
Tell your aunty to do HIV test in front of everyone if she is negative apologise and if she is positive slap her! |
Re: By My Family by maxti: 8:19pm On Jul 02, 2016 |
The first two posters have said well. Speak to your parents n siblings explain the genesis of the situation. You will be fine. |
Re: By My Family by Nobody: 8:55pm On Jul 02, 2016 |
You said it to her face, trust me that really hurt so just go ahead and apologize. Sorry won't change a thing ![]() ![]() |
Re: By My Family by MmmS(f): 3:09am On Jul 03, 2016 |
Ishilove:I admitted I acted out of anger, but I have not understood why people would call for an intervention for me. I have always been reserved and this was my first ever misunderstanding with a family member. Maybe I will apologise before everyone else imvolves themselves in such a small issue. |
Re: By My Family by MmmS(f): 3:10am On Jul 03, 2016 |
chiddyok:You are bad influence, but you are right. |
Re: By My Family by EfemenaXY: 8:44am On Jul 03, 2016 |
MmmS: Some Nigerian "elders" sef and their entitlement mentality. Respect is earned. For your aunt to shoot off her mouth like a loose canon speaks volumes about her level of intelligence. Where are your parents in all of this? They should have your back if you've levelled with them and explained the whole situation. Who funded your undergraduate studies and who will be funding your post graduate studies? Your parents or this aunt of yours? 2 Likes |
Re: By My Family by GoldenJAT(m): 2:46pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
don't budge.... repeat what you said...and put everyone in their place if they try 2 bully and blackmail u. Just make sure ur conscience is right with you |
Re: By My Family by byvan03: 4:10pm On Jul 03, 2016 |
Lol, you just acted like me. Just say the half assed sorry that you don't mean and move on. Trust me she won't take on you anymore. It's good you reminded her , I would have done the same ![]() 1 Like |
Re: By My Family by BumbleBee2ice(f): 11:35pm On Jul 04, 2016 |
There r subtle ways of replying pple witout sounding outrightly insultive. Btw, I quite understand ur response was born out of bottled up anger nd resentment which u av 4 her bt still u shldnt av let it come out dat way. All d same its good an intervention is in d works, jst apologise to her nd make it look real even if u dnt mean it deep down bcs all dis elders, hmmm |
Re: By My Family by Winneygirl(f): 3:45am On Jul 05, 2016 |
Just apologize this time. In the future, stay away from all those extended family meetings where all the uncles and aunties all over the world are required to be present. Such meetings are rarely about you but become about you when they see you. If your parents are in attendance, that's all. I no dey for all these uncles and aunties matter abeg. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: By My Family by MmmS(f): 6:39am On Jul 05, 2016 |
EfemenaXY:My parents have always taken care of me. Before i was born, she was even living with my parents before she got pregnant and ran off to live with her husband (who was just a boyfriend then) |
Re: By My Family by MmmS(f): 6:42am On Jul 05, 2016 |
Winneygirl:I hardly attend family gatherings i only atteneded this one because i felt like i had missed too many of them in the past and I do not want to appear as stuck up. I think I will just stop attending unless its a wedding or funeral. |
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