TV01:


Family are fine thanks for asking - I'm busy sacrificing for them !


TV

Forget them, they simply can't show face. Hopefully they are all getting, or have had the same stern warnings from their husbands - the ones that have of course .

LuveU2:
Dream of me

baeboo:
@Op something triggerred your wife to
act this way. what did you do to her?
abi you dey patronise Edible Catering?
How can a good woman turn to a jezebel
overnight? Tell us the part you played biko.
Am not in support of her actions ooo.

But bia ooo esi no kporo gi Half man
nwanyi bu Adanjor



enjoy ya sef baeboo

bellong:
@Op,

Do you have a copy of the recordings?

Keep your calm for now, let your head be cleared first and don't do anything stupid as you may spoil a good case.

Your wife is naive and foolish like a lamb taken to the slaughter's slab. Her sisters are obviously jealous of her marriage and are pretending to help her conquer you with a view to destroying her marriage.

I want to believe her sisters' marriage are not in order internally and they are jealous of your mum's relationship with her. Your wife trusted them too much for being siblings not to mislead her but not knowing they have a different plan. Your wife lacks knowledge, discernment and good judgement.

The point she said this is what I am waiting for when you pushed her away is a giveaway that she was acting a foolish script she doesn't know the end.

Many will want you to send her packing but I don't think it is the right thing to do. Prior to this event, you have not found any bad behaviour in and with her. Take this as a first offense.

Does it mean you shouldn't address it, by all means do.

Don't change your attitude or behaviour to her, don't give her any idea to suspect anything till weekend. During the weekend, play the recordings for her and walk away. Prior to this, book an appointment with her parents alone. Then take the recordings to them for them to listen. Don't say anything, let them do the talking afterwards. Please don't involve your parents as it will crush them..

Your wife is not a lost cause, her sisters are. She needs wisdom.

May God grant you wisdom to pull through this

trishapal:


People like baeboo won't stop re-iterating it that common sense is not common. If ur message was for the op (who claimed to be a Yoruba man), why talk to him in a strange language. besides, I'm sure you've never read the story. SMH

On another note, mods should take this to FP: lalasticlala

GoldenJAT:
call a family meeting sharply....giv them no room 2 suspect that you are up2 something,do make sure every1 of her siblings are there ...as well as urs.. play those records for them... and divorce her.. the marriage is over already... Just tell urself d hard truth.... u married a wolf in sheep clothing... that family is a cult,prepare 2c and hear more than u can take.... ur time start's now.. I personally be following you up.. don't mind having ur number... stories like these one.. is what makes men treat even d good women with disdain. ...it breaks my heart 2 know that those that can clean ur tears are actually d ones that will make u cry blood.. u will come out stronger. the Lord is ur strength!

bakynes:
Here is my own advice.
Transfer the recordings to your phone, like many has advised on this thread call a family meeting with both of em wife's sisters and their husbands, your wife's parent and your own parent.

Play the recordings to them and watch as they all begin to beg you on their knees.

Give your wife's family two conditions
1. You file for a divorce or
2. Tell your wife's parent and her sisters husbands to warn them sisters to keep away from your family.

Ujoan:
So she installed a software and recorded her own calls? ?? Makes no sense.

I think you are not telling the whole story @ OP.

Looks like you (as per techie ) installed the app in her phone to monitor her calls without her knowledge. Makes me wonder what you are really about! !

baeboo:
@Op something triggerred your wife to
act this way. what did you do to her?
abi you dey patronise Edible Catering?
How can a good woman turn to a jezebel
overnight? Tell us the part you played biko.
Am not in support of her actions ooo.

But bia ooo esi no kporo gi Half man
nwanyi bu Adanjor



enjoy ya sef baeboo

Donemmy:

U spoke my mind Broda, @op ur wife is a good woman bt she is bn seriously brain washed & left wit no option than to play d script. keep ur evidence tight. Make sure ur wife is not aware of the evidence in ur possession. Quickly call a family meeting & make sure the sisters in questions r in attendence. Play cool without resentment to avoid suspcision frm ur wife. Trick them d meeting is to enable u appreciate their intervention. On d meeting day, pls comport urself, welcome everybody & thereafter play d evidence to d hearing of everybody & watch out for their reactions.

GoldenJAT:
it pains me that some1 who claims 2 love you, can go 2 such length 2mk u so emotionally wretched ....its really painful... still waiting for the Man in question 2 give us feedback

bellong:
@Op,

Do you have a copy of the recordings?

Keep your calm for now, let your head be cleared first and don't do anything stupid as you may spoil a good case.

Your wife is naive and foolish like a lamb taken to the slaughter's slab. Her sisters are obviously jealous of her marriage and are pretending to help her conquer you with a view to destroying her marriage.

I want to believe her sisters' marriage are not in order internally and they are jealous of your mum's relationship with her. Your wife trusted them too much for being siblings not to mislead her but not knowing they have a different plan. Your wife lacks knowledge, discernment and good judgement.

The point she said this is what I am waiting for when you pushed her away is a giveaway that she was acting a foolish script she doesn't know the end.

Many will want you to send her packing but I don't think it is the right thing to do. Prior to this event, you have not found any bad behaviour in and with her. Take this as a first offense.

Does it mean you shouldn't address it, by all means do.

Don't change your attitude or behaviour to her, don't give her any idea to suspect anything till weekend. During the weekend, play the recordings for her and walk away. Prior to this, book an appointment with her parents alone. Then take the recordings to them for them to listen. Don't say anything, let them do the talking afterwards. Please don't involve your parents as it will crush them..

Your wife is not a lost cause, her sisters are. She needs wisdom.

May God grant you wisdom to pull through this

fem29:
. This one don pass be careful. Water don pass garri. Tearoses if you haven't already commented. ,plix you are needed here. Mindfulness, EfemenaXY, cococandy, bukatyne, ewuro4

sumborri:
I may not be in the best mind to give advice now, but its clear everything is all a plan. My cuurent EX is like your wife, many don't have minds of themselves and thus easily influenced. She might be listening to the scripts of her siblings without realising their bad intentions towards her marriage. Its a family affair and introducing the family to what you have seen will be a revelation wwith no going back. Serious consequences. Thus I believe you have one on her and should utilize it to be a step ahead of them.

Keep monitoring your wife, reveal what you have leant to your dad, don't tell ur mum cos she will get protective aand destroy those women. Let some people on ur part be aware of these evil schemes andd watch matters unfold. Counter a lot of her moves. Let her keep coming up with more and let's see her end game. This would tell you all you need to know about her and your next move.

No point calling a meeting for a settlement. This matter is one that could involve murder and deciet. Thus its a do or die affair

andromida:
Why the sisters come sound like witches in a coven?

But seriously why are you blaming the sisters? i am curious what did your wife tell them before they gave her that type of warpath advice?

Don't be naive, look at your wife be careful in pointing fingers.

Your wife may have been feeling a need for counsel when she couldn't understand something about you so she took it to them and they helped as best they could which means you and your wife are not as tight as you thought so here is an opportunity to know her better not paint her as you want her to be in your mind - perfect naive woman being corrupted by jealous sisters otherwise you may never truly get to know her. Did you know this part of her before? well now you know her some more and what she is capable of when she is anxious or scared of whatever.

I hope you get the wisdom to sort things right.

crackhaus:

Maybe she was never really a good woman you know?

How can we be sure she did not even tell her sisters about the thing with his testicles right when it happened...

baeboo:
A woman cannot start
acting abnormal all of a sudden. something
is wrong somewhere biko. The man might
have done something,that made her to change

baeboo:
A woman cannot start
acting abnormal all of a sudden. something
is wrong somewhere biko. The man might
have done something,that made her to change

trishapal:
I'm praying that she hasn't poisoned him...

fem29:


I agree. There must be an issue that she must have brought up many times which he may have brushed aside.

I am in no way condoning actions though. Just horrible.

pharmagba:
I feel very sorry for you, but a man got to be a man
Firstly I don't know the real sickness and precise age of your daughter but one thing you must know is it is not good for a wife to have too much free time as it is a veritable devils workshop you ought to ensure she is working; open a shop for her or impregnate her so she continue baby nursing,

Now to your findings first of all copy it somewhere else like your phone and then confront her with it, play everything to her hearing, pause at intervals to ask her what you've done wrong, please don't be aggressive or angry; control your emotions. Ask her what she has to say.

Let her know it is betrayal, threaten her you will summon a family meeting of both family and see her reaction.
If or not she apologies don't tell anybody either your family or her. NEVER.. It must not come from your mouth.
But make a stand none of her family members should have your respect. They must never come to your house. Don't give reasons, don't pick or answer their calls until you see full repentance in her. which must be after like a year. .it is her family that must bear the brunt and punishment Nothing more

Don't divorce her she is your wife, folly is in the mind of a woman. I know it will definitely leave a scar in your relationship, forgive her still and try to let go, call her from work and be a good father and husband.