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Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by sweatlana: 11:46pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
GoldenJAT:Good bless you, pls be your brothers keeper. This guys really needs help.... OMG |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by Tunechi1(m): 11:47pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
You can reveal the recordings to your dad if you are sure he will not overreact |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by Time2Smile(m): 11:47pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
bukatyne:I might actually agree with you on this (Never thought I would say that). DevGuru is avoiding the root of the issue. 1.Why did his wife change overnight.? 2. What was her complaints to her sisters that elicited those advices.? 3.What is the ultimate goal she want to achieve? Like you mentioned she is planning for a parallel life, while the Op seemed to be blind to that fact and is just interested in saving his marriage. From the update His Wife is not even remorseful that She betrayed him. I am not even sure the woman is still interested in the marriage. Crying because she was caught not because of what she did. So many questions need answers. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by freecocoa(f): 11:48pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
pharmagba:You don't know my level of English? Allow me to show you. You alluded that women tend to be F00lish and you are talking about figuratively, does that change what you were driving at? See the nonsense analogy you even came up with, so this is just something to overlook because it's a woman, therefore she's not smart enough to see the evil in her actions/inactions? And somehow I'm the example of the classical folly you talk about? You are a m0ron. |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by ohynedar(f): 11:48pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
its a very sensitive ish mister, your wife is only a kid and she allowed her siblings totalk her into blivin that dia is nothing like real hapiness in the world. its so bad u r d victim here but here are the things i thibk you can do; give the marriage a break pray to God for directions search through your heart very well cos ur wifes deeds cud be a nemesis for what u av done to someone else in the past, if she is ur nemesis, even if u marry a woman wt no siblng at all, she will stil do the same tin or worse to u. if u still love here nd u still beliv in d survival of ur union wt her, dnt expose her yet, u can confide in ur dad or anybody else but kip d mata off ur moms knowledge for now, dat is if u still love ur wife. this is because dey may neva be frnds again nd dis wud affect the marriage negatively nd ur wife wnt be hapi nd free anymore as ur wife, cos she is gonna spend the better years in that marriage trying to right her wrongs... that said, a think a word is enof for u in dis situation no one is in dis but u, u know beta dan everyone but i bliv dia is notin God cannot do, maybe its ur call to save ur marriage dis time, pls do nd dnt forget God,He only knows all... The Lord will help you nd giv u rest, Amen |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by oyetpel(m): 11:48pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
pharmagba:@op, this person sound like one of your wife's elder sisters. 16 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by borngeologist(m): 11:48pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
Bro your story is really pathetic,but divorce will do a lot of harm than good bro, one you she will lie against you.and say all sought of nonsense that you dint do.secondly, they say if two elephant fight it the grass that will suffer it.now what will happen to that beautiful little kid that you have. You might even loose your daughter due to the step you want to take.and they do say the devil you know is better than. And if you are going to remarry,who told you that the lady you are going to marry will not do worst than what your wife is doing. Please my little advice to you is to be prayerful, and you a man. You are in charge of your home, and the devil is just trying to destroy your marriage, but you won't allow it cause you are the head and the lord will never let you be the tail. And please go and meet a Good fearing woman marriage counsellor that you can confide in to help tallk to your wife.so as not to go astray.and I pray the good lord will help you overcome the trouble in marriage. |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by SpecialStar(m): 11:49pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
@DevGuru There's a question I want to ask. Why is she recording the phone conversation?. You need to still think deep on this matter Bro. Pls firstly share this with your parents only and am sure they will give you the best advice and take necessary step on this. All you need now is prayer. @DevGuru 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by Exlusive(m): 11:49pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
From all I haVe heard this is what I would like to believe.. I would like to believe deep down in your wife's heart she still loves you the probelm is that she is being influence by some folks in her family, I would suggest you have a long discussion with d gals father( supposing his is the captain of his family) play him the evidence you have and ask him to help you deal with the TERRORISTS from his camp go to your dad play him the evidence and ask for guidance then haVe your long well planned discussion with your wife reminding her of how you both started and how its is in both of your interest and your daughters interest that you stay together..do forget to pray for her and your also because this is an attack on your family and existence...divorce is not an option yet remember that those who are talKing in her ears do not really matter in your family of 3.may God help you find wisdom and strength in this time..this is my little wisdom.. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by pharmagba: 11:51pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
vicchi12:Divorce and come and marry you? Divorce and you will take care of his children? Do you take divorce as a one day walk? Please reason with your head. It is marriage we are talking about. |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by vicchi12(f): 11:53pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
Exlusive: Please, God created the brain for a reason. This woman no longer loves him. Op is in denial! Things will get worse! Can't you all see it? |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by TrollTrap: 11:53pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
Your wife fvcked up my mood fam ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by saasala(m): 11:53pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
pharmagba: DevGuru, please dont follow this advice. She could kill you so as to keep the secret and take all your money 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by Time2Smile(m): 11:54pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
@Devguru Why is She is doing this? The answer to the question will inform your decision going forward and determine if your Life is Save presently. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by Badbo(f): 11:54pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
pharmagba: |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by Fkforyou(m): 11:57pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
fem29: Thank You 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by pharmagba: 11:57pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
oyetpel: Can you state categorically, the offence the wife committed? The most mortal sin that give room for divorce is adultery, she didn't do such. Give this marriage an opportunity to come out stronger than it has ever been |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by Mskrisx(f): 11:57pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
[quote author=DevGuru post=47211430]NOTICE: Please, my story is still very long despite that I tried very hard to remove some unnecessary portions. But if you can be patient to read it to the end, then you are ready to give a mature opinion. I am a Yoruba guy married to another Yoruba lady who happened to be the last of seven children. We met at the University and had a long courtship before we got married in 2014. I loved her so much and I believe she loved me too. We were each other's best friends. Shortly before we began to plan the wedding, on one faithful afternoon, I was watching the TV in my living room when I began to feel a slight pain in my lower abdomen. It got more intense within few hours and I had to go to a nearby hospital and by that time, the pain was inside my scrotum. The young doctor there didn't understand what was wrong and started injecting me with pain killers. I was kept there till midnight. The next morning, I noticed that one of my testicle was swelling up. I hen went to a teaching hospital where Orchitis was first diagnosed. After a week of antibiotics with no improvement, a consultant examined me and said it was torsion which should have been surgically corrected within few hours from the onset of the pain. As at that time, the testicle was dead. I had to go for surgery to have the dead one removed. My wife (then my fiancé) was with me in the hospital. She assured me that everything would be fine and that we could have as many kids as we wanted with just one left. I loved her the more. Now we have a very beautiful daughter who obviously has my genes and delights everyone around her with her alluring beauty. We nearly lost her to a strange illness some months back but for God who used my mum to restore our daughter. That's another long story but not for this thread. My mum loves my family so much that even my wife knows that she can lay down her life for us to be fine. Since we got married, my wife hasn't worked owing partly to our daughter's health which is now very perfect. It's not been easy for me working day and night to feed the family and paying bills in a 3-bedroom apartment in Lagos but God has been helping us. My wife was so much loved in my family that people around thought she was my mum's daughter. Very hardworking and homely. A little into her own family setup too... She has 4 female and 2 male siblings. All her siblings are married but very close to the parents. Because my wife and I were very close, I was aware of most of the happenings in their family, but I never even gave any thought to them on how they might affect my own marriage.... long story... Last month, I repeatedly got home late due to an official event which I told my wife and I was talking to her on phone. One morning, she gave me a wild look and warned me never to come late again. I quickly noticed the strangeness in her actions and I comported myself by saying "I'm sorry, it won't happen again". We ate together and I left for work. I returned much earlier and was with her and my daughter for a couple of hours before went to bed after I told her I had a meeting the next morning. When I woke up, I checked the time and realised I was running late. I greeted her and rushed out of the bed only for her to jump up too and say "We need to talk". Go on, I replied... Then she claimed she observed that I've been cold towards her since she tried to correct me the previous day. I denied it but she insisted, so I told her I would adjust and that I had nothing against her. She suddenly jumped at me and said I was going nowhere. I was very surprised as I asked her what was wrong with her. I begged her to let me go and if we had to discuss anything further, it could be later in the day after work. She grew wilder and began to abuse me verbally. I drew her out of my way so I could go have my bath and she grabbed my singlet and tore it down. I was shocked! I then grabbed her two hands and pushed her to sit on the bed. She just jumped up and said "this is what I've been waiting for". She rushed to her phone and called my dad. Immediately my dad answered the call, she suddenly began to cry saying "your son has been beating me since we woke up today"... It was like I was watching a nollywood movie. I looked like a poor citizen who had no money to eat but just got an allegation that EFCC had traced N1.4b to his account. My Dad called me immediately and ordered me to leave the house first before anything. Immediately, she called my mum too and said the same thing. My mum called me and began to cry that she never expected I would disgrace the family in such manner. I was sad and even had to shout at her cos she wouldn't let me say anything on phone. She didn't even give me time to explain what happened. My wife immediately called her eldest sister too and said the same thing. The sister called me and asked for what happened. I explained to her and she advised me never to raise my hand against her again, while she stylishly insulted me, but I disregarded that. I felt like Pastor Ken in the movie, 'The Price' who had to pay for what he did not do. I had already missed my meeting but I had to go to work. That was the most horrible day for me at work because I couldn't even use my brain to do anything. I felt cheated and sincerely felt like doing what I had already suffered for. Then I felt the urge to use a bit of my power... I transferred some money to her account and then forwarded an SMS to her giving her 24hours to make up her mind on where she would love to go, either my family home or hers because I needed a break. Fee minutes later, her eldest sister called me to say my wife forwarded my SMS to her and that she was highly disappointed in me upon what she told me in the morning. I told her that I got more infuriated and betrayed seeing my wife ruin my reputation like that. She advised again and told me to go home and hug my wife. When I got home, my wife knelt down at the door and began to apologize that it was the devil. At that time, my elder sister called me and I narrated everything to her while my wife listened to me. The next morning, my wife continued to beg me. I saw the remorse and hugged her. We became happy again. The next day, I called her sister to thank her for her intervention. My Dad came a few days later to confirm that we had settled everything. Unfortunately, I wasn't around when he arrived, so he called me on phone and I told him I would be around in about 1 hour. Before my arrival, she spoke at length with my Dad but begged him not to allow us revisit the issue on my arrival so as not to raise dusts again. On my arrival, my Dad just advised me and said he was glad we had already settled it. Since then, I've tried to get my home together again. I started leaving my office earlier than usual even when I had unfinished tasks. This morning, I was flipping through the apps on my wife's phone and saw Call Recorder. I opened it but discovered it had a password. As a techie, I traced the file that stores all the voice calls and began to play one of my wife's recent conversations. It was with her eldest sister who intervened into our matter then. I nearly fainted!!! The sister hailed her for acting as planned and they both laughed with satisfaction. My wife said she was happy that she successfully ruined my image in my family and they both laughed again. They said they were happy that my mum who always thought she had raised good children was made to realize that I was a beast who beats his wife and so on. But the most infuriating part was when her sister said she wanted to give her tips that would help my wife succeed in marriage. She advised my wife never to be open-minded with me and that she should begin to live a separate life while pretending to be a wife in my house. She said my wife should also open a secret account for herself so that family members can occasionally drop some token into it for her upkeep because men are unreliable and my wife agreed with all what her sister said. Marrying that lady is and will be the worst thing that could ever happen to you. Divorce her or go six feet...how o wish my mum is a live to read this and see why her baby girl is running away at the mention of the word MARRIAGE! Bad blooded evil creatures! Chaiiiii ![]() |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by vicchi12(f): 11:59pm On Jul 05, 2016 |
pharmagba: Please abstain from insulting me! I can give it to you real straight if you want. Maybe just very intelligent for you to handle. Divorce is not a good thing. However, life is too beautiful to force a woman or a man who is not truly iin love with you, to love you. It breeds resentment and not healthy for the children. It's even worse than divorce. It's not healthy. The woman obviously no longer loves him, but how of guilt is with him. And staying with him out of pity. She feels like she has no choice but to be with him, but is using her siblings to do encourage her with the things that she has in her heart. She needs an excuse to execute her plans, to give her a reason to continue to do this man what she's doing. The man on the other hand is clearly in denial. Deep down in his heart, he knows the truth, but really loves her. And hello! I'm in the psychology field for a reason. Okay? So best believe I know what I'm saying! 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by saasala(m): 12:02am On Jul 06, 2016 |
DevGuru: What do I think?....It is the worst decision of your life and I can guarantee that you are a dead man walking. She will finally tell everything to her sisters and you will die, they will kill you...DIVORCE her now or you die. |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by oyetpel(m): 12:05am On Jul 06, 2016 |
pharmagba:If we really want to know the truth and the op actually need genuine comments, we need his long story that he has cut short. Like some people are asking, why will the b!tch change overnight? Someone you dated for many years. What is the op not telling us?.Fu¢k you NL. I wrote b!tch not dam. Bro send that b!tch away. |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by keke87(m): 12:05am On Jul 06, 2016 |
What a critical situation. Try to get the recordings intact as your evidence. You are living with a monster and you must get rid of her quickly or you risk losing your life @any given time. Please act fast to save your life in particular. She's burst your bubbles in all ramification. You're very lucky u found out about the real girl you called ur lovely wife. I just wish I was one of your siblings so that I could be the lead actor in deleting her out of your life forever our family. This your post has spoiled my 9t. Please act fast to save yourself & your tomorrow. |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by vicchi12(f): 12:06am On Jul 06, 2016 |
saasala: Like.... I feel so pitiful towards him. Like I'm very worried for him. |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by binarykid(m): 12:07am On Jul 06, 2016 |
audio clip plss or I don't belivit ![]() |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by Nobody: 12:08am On Jul 06, 2016 |
Divorce her. Face d reality, d marriage is over already. Medically, you're good to go with one testis. So, don't let anyone intimidate you with that. You might be surprised the family already has another man for her. Even if u forgive her, she would do worse, and your life is at stake. I remember a friend of mine, who met a corper and married her as a medical student. Along the line, the family started putting her under pressure to divorce the medical student and marry a richer guy. Funny enough, the medical student was able to manage the home because he's scholarship worth about #400k per session. This lady began to cheat, and the guy caught her red-handed many times. But for the love he had for her and their only son, the guy forgave her. This lady began to plot with her sisters on how to get another man. The guy got to know, and felt the marriage was over. They went their separate ways. Up till now the lady lives in regrets. All those men promising marriage only used her and dumped her. It was the same lady who wrote a proposal letter to the musician, BankyW , claiming God revealed to her thrice that God said he's her husband. In fact, she takes the name of any man who approaches her now to pastors and diviners. She's so desperate now. Don't waste your energy on her. Let her go. She would live to regret her actions!
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Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by freecocoa(f): 12:08am On Jul 06, 2016 |
pharmagba:It's either you are related to the wife or there's something seriously wrong with your brain, so which is it? 8 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by Fawklicant: 12:08am On Jul 06, 2016 |
crackhaus: Best advice. I cannot live with a woman who plans with her sisters to live a separate life and build something for herself away from the husband. I cannot live with a woman who shows remorse not for her actions but because she knows her sisters' complicity in the plot has been exposed. I cannot stand a woman who displays such disdain for her life's mate and colludes with her sisters to make mockery of her husband and her family I cannot stand with a woman who could poison or assassinate her husband over petty and mundane ish Her sisters did not influence her, she ran to them for support. She already had ish mapped out from day 1. Play the damn tape for everyone, and I mean everyone to hear because that marriage ended as soon as it began. If my christian folks advice against divorce, my you are a Yoruba man, marry a second wife. I would under these circumstances and the moment I do, she gone bro! Either ways, she gots to go. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by vicchi12(f): 12:08am On Jul 06, 2016 |
oyetpel: Don't be surprised, some people are that conceited. Humans are capable of a lot. Think about those who die in the hands of their spouses, think they all expected it? |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by Nobody: 12:09am On Jul 06, 2016 |
Wow! A lady can do this to her hubby for real? It makes no sense and I wonder what she will profit from this. For those saying he shouldn't divorce her, would you stay if you were in his shoes? Wouldn't you feel insecured around her? Pls sir, find peace and live long by separating yourself from her. She sold you out and your secrets are no longer safe. She is not your friend! |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by oyetpel(m): 12:09am On Jul 06, 2016 |
saasala:Kilode? |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by vicchi12(f): 12:10am On Jul 06, 2016 |
Exactly what I was saying. And some idiot had the audacity to insult me. Fawklicant: |
Re: My Wife's Siblings Are Breaking Us Apart And I'm Mad Right Now by Totfulguy: 12:11am On Jul 06, 2016 |
pharmagba: Sir I am not asking the OP to keep listening to the messages. I am saying that the messages are his weapon. Here are my reasons. (1) His wife and the siblings are very close and she is not detached from her family. So she confides in them in an apparent need to for "approval". (2) She does not have the same level of commitment or understanding of what being married implies as the OP does (she is probably young) (3) Her family (the wife's sisters) do not respect/regard the OP and so will continue to incite her against her husband. They will likely be telling her stuff that will breakup their marriage. (I get the feeling the sister are not happily married) She has to choose where she belongs and the time is now. Treachery is not an art, its a trait. And you do not need it in marriage. A time will come if it has not, that they will be telling her stuff about the OP that are derogatory, God forbid, if the OP runs into tough times, it will be terrible. Because they will be the reason she leaves the house. He needs to define the relationship between him and his wife and the relationship between his wife her people in the context of their being married. (4) The action of the OP's wife was not warranted by ANYTHING he did, his wife ON HER OWN SOUGHT counsel from her sisters and they incited her against him. If she did that out of ignorance or out of an evil intent, it is not clear. It is safer for the OP to assess the situation from the worst case scenario. The OP is a mature family guy (which is a rarity) and will not do anything to hurt his wife as he has clearly shown. BUT if the wife and her family are as vile as they seem to show, deleting the messages is not to the OP's advantage. THEY WILL DENY IT! BUT IF THEY KNOW that he is aware and has evidence, then they will either repent or atleast back off give him space to live with his wife. And the wife will now call herself to order if she acted in ignorance and she means to stay married. I would have advised him to call a meeting and in the presence of all or if not possible tell a few responsible people who will not advise him (like the NL Wailing Wailers Association ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
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