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What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 2:56pm On Jun 12, 2016
WHAT IS A MELANCHOLIC?
The melancholic temperament is usually associated with the element of earth. People with this temperament may appear serious, introverted, cautious or even suspicious. They can become preoccupied with the tragedy and cruelty in the world and are susceptible to depression and moodiness.

They may be focused and conscientious. They often prefer to do things themselves, both to meet thier own standards and because they are not inherent sociable.

WHAT TO DO IF YOU ARE MARRIED TO A MELANCHOLIC HUSBAND OR WIFE.

1. Give them stability: Melancholics often have a passion for organisation and schedules. They want to see things done in a certain way at a certain time everyday. For them that creates stability.

2. Give them space: Melancholics need some space that is exclusively thiers and not for thier spouses or children.

3. Give them silence: Give them some quiet moment, like times where there is no TV on; no screaming kids, no phone calls, and no continual chatting. Do this at least once a week.

4. Be sensitive to the things that concern them, at least try.

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Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by Nobody: 9:26am On Jul 06, 2016
chriskosherbal:
WHAT IS A MELANCHOLIC?
The melancholic temperament is usually associated with the element of earth. People with this temperament may appear serious, introverted, cautious or even suspicious. They can become preoccupied with the tragedy and cruelty in the world and are susceptible to depression and moodiness.

They may be focused and conscientious. They often prefer to do things themselves, both to meet thier own standards and because they are not inherent sociable.

WHAT TO DO IF YOU ARE MARRIED TO A MELANCHOLIC HUSBAND OR WIFE.

1. Give them stability: Melancholics often have a passion for organisation and schedules. They want to see things done in a certain way at a certain time everyday. For them that creates stability.

2. Give them space: Melancholics need some space that is exclusively thiers and not for thier spouses or children.

3. Give them silence: Give them some quiet moment, like times where there is no TV on; no screaming kids, no phone calls, and no continual chatting. Do this at least once a week.

4. Be sensitive to the things that concern them, at least try.

I think this describes me to an extent, but can one possess two different traits?, just the way some people are ambiverted.... Btw, will love you to vote for VIZKIZ in the upcoming Mr NL contest, looking forward to your reply smiley
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 9:42am On Jul 06, 2016
GloryIsaac:


I think this describes me to an extent, but can one possess two different traits?, just the way some people are ambiverted.... Btw, will love you to vote for VIZKIZ in the upcoming Mr NL contest, looking forward to your reply smiley
yes of course, one can be ambiverted, but one of the trait must be dominant, I mean the percentage can never be equal between the two traits.
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by Nobody: 11:47am On Jul 06, 2016
chriskosherbal:
yes of course, one can be ambiverted, but one of the trait must be dominant, I mean the percentage can never be equal between the two traits.

Exactly, i asked because i know fully well that i have traits of both the melancholic and plegmatic type though it kind of affects my interaction with people sad .... And please dont forget that Vizkiz needs your vote bro..
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by Nobody: 12:26pm On Jul 06, 2016
Had a very short friendship with a guy like that.. It's scary.. He loves listening to sad soulful songs, so quiet with blank expression in his eyes..
Mehn the worst ever.. Can't never date such and never marry such type.. Very scary and cold..
Such guys and ladies, I wish una best of luck oo
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by Project400: 2:00pm On Jul 06, 2016



Much of their introversion comes from their perfectionism. They are picky about the sorts of people that they associate with; people who meet their standards and share their outlook.

People that don't will make them uncomfortable; they do not wish to talk to 'anyone and everyone'.

Their self-deprecation also makes them think that they might not be very interesting anyway, that they aren't really worth spending time with, even if they know in the depths of their minds that they are very interesting indeed.

Once they have someone to talk to in a quiet and relaxed environment, they can talk a lot and will enjoy sharing thoughts and ideas.

They are very wary of making friends. Unlike sanguines, it can take them a very long time for them to consider someone they're familiar with a 'friend', but once they've reached this point, they will likely stick with that person loyally. They prefer having a few close friends to many acquaintances.



In current society, they often tend towards analytical roles such as scientists, analysts, programmers, logicians, and so on. In fantasy settings, they may be wizards or sages.


http://www.temperaments.fighunter.com/?page=melancholic



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I think this description is interesting.
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 8:13pm On Jul 06, 2016
GloryIsaac:


Exactly, i asked because i know fully well that i have traits of both the melancholic and plegmatic type though it kind of affects my interaction with people sad .... And please dont forget that Vizkiz needs your vote bro..
ok
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 8:15pm On Jul 06, 2016
Amelian:
Had a very short friendship with a guy like that.. It's scary.. He loves listening to sad soulful songs, so quiet with blank expression in his eyes..
Mehn the worst ever.. Can't never date such and never marry such type.. Very scary and cold..
Such guys and ladies, I wish una best of luck oo
hahaha really!
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by Nobody: 11:06pm On Jul 06, 2016
You see what i'm talking about Why do they dislike our lifestyle embarassed Cc Chriskosherbal
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 2:51am On Jul 07, 2016
GloryIsaac:
You see what i'm talking about Why do they dislike our lifestyle embarassed Cc Chriskosherbal
I don't think everybody does, it's just some certain individuals who are not willing to understand that there are different temperament, and must learn how to embrace and accommodate different types of individual lifestyle.
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by KanwuliaExtra: 2:56am On Jul 07, 2016
Dia we go ah-gain!
Dry marriages efrywhia! grin

The main reason why PSYCHOS should not get married to breed more MELANCHOLICS AND ALCOHOLICS!!!! grin

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Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by Nobody: 3:07am On Jul 07, 2016
chriskosherbal:
hahaha really!




Yeah, really!

But wait o, are u one of them lipsrsealed
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 7:28am On Jul 07, 2016
KanwuliaExtra:
Dia we go ah-gain!
Dry marriages efrywhia! grin

The main reason why PSYCHOS should not get married to breed more MELANCHOLICS AND ALCOHOLICS!!!! grin
really!!!! C'mon you are kidding right.
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by Nobody: 7:32am On Jul 07, 2016
chriskosherbal:
really!!!! C'mon you are kidding right.

It definitely cant get worse sad just kuku kill me but dont forget to vote for Vizkiz in the Mr NL contest
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 7:58am On Jul 07, 2016
GloryIsaac:


It definitely cant get worse sad just kuku kill me but dont forget to vote for Vizkiz in the Mr NL contest
I won't.
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by Nobody: 8:15am On Jul 07, 2016
chriskosherbal:
I won't.
See how negative their reactions are sad
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 8:44am On Jul 07, 2016
GloryIsaac:


See how negative their reactions are sad
I mean I won't forget to vote him.
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by Nobody: 9:18am On Jul 07, 2016
chriskosherbal:
I mean I won't forget to vote him.

Thanks smiley, but i'm talking about the other replies on this thread concerning my trait and others who possess similar traits, well, we'll just keep moving, there are people out there who would understand us better
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Melancholic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 10:46am On Jul 07, 2016
GloryIsaac:


Thanks smiley, but i'm talking about the other replies on this thread concerning my trait and others who possess similar traits, well, we'll just keep moving, there are people out there who would understand us better
of course, do not follow popular opinion, follow your own opinion, knowing fully well that you are doing the right thing. That's what matter.

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